Exclusionists are prescriptivists not descriptivists; and that matters
I just came from a conference for LGBTQ+ folks and there was widespread support for aro/ace people. There were entire panels centered around being ace/aro. There were ace/aro flags being sold alongside other LGBTQ+ flags. The language used was inclusive to a spec folks. In the panel on lateral oppression, there was no mention of exclusionist or TERF ideologies (rightfully so). Panelists who were specifically invited to speak spoke freely about them being a spec or about how great they thought the split attraction model was.
If you’re a spec and reading this, just know the exclusionists are not the majority in LGBTQ+ spaces. This is the space that actually exists, not the exclusionary space they misguidedly advocate for.