NO ONE ACTUALLY KNOWS ANAKIN AND PADME ARE MARRIED.
Yeah, but they ~know~. No. No they don’t. Because you know what? It’s impossible to know someone is married unless they tell you. If you wear a wedding ring, you are telling people. If you refer to your husband or wife, you are telling people. If you change your name. We invent cultural signifiers because otherwise NO ONE KNOWS.
And I know that it’s a joke or whatever in fandom, but it’s actually nails on the chalkboard to me because it misses the point so desperately about why Anakin is in trouble if he gets caught and why he gets away with it for so long. Everyone can know that he and Padme are hooking up. Everyone can suspect that he is in love. But the moment they know he is married, they know he has violated all of his vows to the Jedi Order in a deliberate and conscious way. He and Padme didn’t have to get married. They could have conducted a four year affair and been entirely above board as far as the Jedi Order is concerned. But the act of committing themselves to each other, promising a future that Anakin technically does not have to give, was too important to both of them.
And if everyone ~knows~, they being are unintentionally faithless dicks. I’m sorry, but they are. Obi-Wan loves Anakin enough that he can pretend that nothing untoward is going on, but when literally every other Jedi character ~knows~ it means they don’t give a shit about their own doctrine. Sure, they impose it on people and cause grief to everyone struggling with it, but you know. It doesn’t actually matter.
Again. I get that this is a joke. I just don’t like it. I will go back to having a sense of humor soon, I promise.