My parents died so I was raised by my brothers, because of this I usually love to watch\read siblings relationships. But I agree Defan is a joke. Good point the age gap, people seems to forget Stefan was just a teenager while Damon is the adult but act like a spoiled brat. Paul joked at comicon he was already a stepfather to Damon but this is very true, ironic how Damon stans claim that Damon is the mature one. Stefan can only be happy if they free him of Damon, this would be a great ending.
I’m really sorry to hear about your parents. I agree, Damon is entirely immature for his vampire age and for his human age and it’s infuriating because the show doesn’t address the toxicity of Stefan having a pathological need to always be there for his brother, instead they make it seem like the “unshakeable” bond, they romanticize it and it’s like, omg, hell, even Sam and Dean had moments where they were like you know what, enough, I’m done.