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TSOCG presents day two of Black History Month 2014: “The Divine Nine”

These are the nine historically Black Greek Letter Organizations (BGLOs) that together comprise the National Pan-Hellenic Council (NPHC). The NPHC was created in an era when racial segregation and disenfranchisement plagued African Americans. The establishment of each of these organizations bore witness to the fact that despite hardships African Americans refused to accept a status of inferiority.

The organization’s stated purpose and mission in 1930:

“Unanimity of thought and action as far as possible in the conduct of Greek letter collegiate fraternities and sororities, and to consider problems of mutual interest to its member organizations.”

Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc.: Founded December 4, 1906 at Cornell University in Ithaca, New York. Its founders are known as the “Seven Jewels” and its principles are “manly deeds, scholarship, and love for all mankind.” Its motto is First of All, Servants of All, We Shall Transcend All.

Alpha Phi Alpha evolved into a primarily service-oriented organization and provided leadership and service during the Great Depression, both World Wars, and during the Civil Rights Movement. The organization addressed (and still addresses) social issues such as apartheid, AIDS, urban housing, and other economic, cultural, and political issues of interest to people of color. The Martin Luther King, Jr. National Memorial and World Policy Council are programs of Alpha Phi Alpha. It also conducts philanthropic programming initiatives with March of Dimes, Head Start, Boy Scouts of America, and Big Brothers Big Sisters of America.

Notable members of Alpha Phi Alpha: Jamaican Prime Minister Norman Manley, Nobel Prize winner Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Olympian Jesse Owens, Justice Thurgood Marshall, United Nations Ambassador Andrew Young, singer Lionel Richie and Atlanta mayor Maynard Jackson.

Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.:Founded January 15, 1908 at Howard University in Washington, D.C. by a group of twenty students, led by Ethel Hedgeman Lyle.  Alpha Kappa Alpha was incorporated on January 29, 1913.

After the organization’s establishment over a century ago, Alpha Kappa Alpha has helped to improve social and economic conditions through community service programs. Members have improved education through independent initiatives, contributed to community-building by creating programs and associations, such as the Mississippi Health Clinic, and influenced federal legislation by Congressional lobbying through the National Non-Partisan Lobby on Civil and Democratic Rights. The sorority works with communities through service initiatives and progressive programs relating to education, family, health, and business.

Notable members of Alpha Kappa Alpha: actress Loretta Devine, actress Phylicia Rashad, author Toni Morrison,  and vocalist Cassandra Wilson.

Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc.: Founded as Kappa Alpha Nu on the night of January 5, 1911 by ten African-American college students at Indiana University Bloomington.

The motto of the fraternity is, “Achievement in every field of human endeavor”. During this time there were very few African-American students at the majority white campus at Bloomington, Indiana and they were a small minority due to the era of the Jim Crow laws. Many African-American students rarely saw each other on campus and were discouraged or prohibited from attending student functions and extracurricular activities by white college administrators and fellow students. African-American students were denied membership on athletic teams with the exception of track and field. The racial prejudice and discrimination encountered by the founders strengthened their bond of friendship and growing interest in starting a social group.

Some believe the Greek letters Kappa Alpha Nu were chosen as a tribute to Alpha Kappa Nu, but the name became an ethnic slur among racist factions. Founder Elder Watson Diggs, while observing a young initiate compete in a track meet, overheard fans referring to the member as a “kappa alpha nig”, and a campaign to rename the fraternity ensued. The resolution to rename the group was adopted in December 1914, and the fraternity states, “the name acquired a distinctive Greek letter symbol and KAPPA ALPHA PSI thereby became a Greek letter fraternity in every sense of the designation.” Kappa Alpha Psi has been the official name since April 15, 1915.

Notable Members of Kappa Alpha Psi: Gospel musician Byron Cage, comedian Cedric “The Entertainer” Kyles, and Civil Rights leader Ralph D. Abernathy.

Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc.:  Founded on November 17, 1911 by three Howard University juniors, Edgar Amos Love, Oscar James Cooper and Frank Coleman, and their faculty adviser, Dr. Ernest Everett Just. Omega Psi Phi is the first predominantly African-American fraternity to be founded at a historically black university.

Since its founding, Omega Psi Phi’s stated purpose has been to attract and build a strong and effective force of men dedicated to its Cardinal Principles of manhood, scholarship, perseverance, and uplift.

In 1924, at the urging of fraternity member Carter G. Woodson, the fraternity launched Negro History and Literature Week in an effort to publicize the growing body of scholarship on African-American history. Encouraged by public interest, the event was renamed “Negro Achievement Week” in 1925 and given an expanded national presence in 1926 by Woodson’s Association for the Study of Negro Life as “Negro History Week.” Expanded to the full month of February from 1976, this event continues today as Black History Month.

Since 1945, the fraternity has undertaken a National Social Action Program to meet the needs of African Americans in the areas of health, housing, civil rights, and education. Omega Psi Phi has been a patron of the United Negro College Fund (UNCF) since 1955, providing an annual gift of $350,000 to the program.

Notable members of Omega Psi Phi: poet Langston Hughes, comedians Rickey Smiley, Steve Harvey, and Bill Cosby.

Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.: Founded on January 13, 1913, by 22 collegiate women at Howard University. These women wanted to use their collective strength to promote academic excellence and to provide assistance to persons in need. The first public act of Delta Sigma Theta was the Women’s Suffrage March in Washington D.C., March 3, 1913. Delta Sigma Theta was incorporated as a perpetual body in 1930. Today, Delta Sigma Theta Sorority is the largest African-American Greek-lettered organization.

Since its founding, Delta Sigma Theta has been at the forefront of creating programming to improve political, education, and social and economic conditions. Delta Sigma Theta has been pivotal in assisting the African American and International communities through education, lobbying, and economic initiatives, including Delta Days at the State and Nation’s Capitol, Delta Days at the United Nations, Summits and various conferences which focus on pertinent issues of the day. In addition to establishing independent programming, The Sorority consistently collaborates with community and corporate organizations Such as Chase (bank), Habitat for Humanity, Coca-Cola, Wal-Mart, Lawry’s, and General Electric to further its programming goals.

Notable members of Delta Sigma Theta: actress Keshia Knight Pulliam, singers Natalie Cole and Roberta Flack, and athlete Wilma Rudolph.

Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. Founded at Howard University in Washington, D.C. on January 9, 1914, by three young African-American male students with nine other Howard students as charter members. The fraternity’s founders (A. Langston Taylor, Leonard F. Morse, and Charles I. Brown) wanted to organize a Greek letter fraternity that would exemplify the ideals of Brotherhood, Scholarship and Service while taking an inclusive perspective to serving the community as opposed to having an exclusive purpose.

The fraternity exceeded the prevailing models of Black Greek-Letter fraternal organizations by being the first to establish alumni chapters, youth mentoring clubs, a federal credit union, chapters in Africa, and a collegiate chapter outside of the United States, and is the only fraternity to hold a constitutional bond with a predominantly African-American sorority, Zeta Phi Beta (ΖΦΒ), which was founded on January 16, 1920, at Howard University in Washington, D.C., through the efforts of members of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity.

Notable members of Phi Beta Sigma: George Washington Carver, James Weldon Johnson, Kwame Nkrumah, and activist Hosea Williams.

Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc.:  Founded on January 16, 1920 by five collegiate women (Arizona Cleaver Stemmons, Myrtle Tyler Faithful, Viola Tyler Goings, Fannie Pettie Watts, and Pearl Anna Neal) at Howard University. The organization was founded “on the simple belief that sorority elitism and socializing should not overshadow the real mission for progressive organizations – to address societal mores, ills, prejudices, poverty, and health concerns of the day.”

In 1948, Zeta Phi Beta became the first Greek-letter organization to charter a chapter in Africa (in Monrovia, Liberia). It was also the first organization to establish adult and youth auxiliary groups and centralize its operations in a national headquarters. Today, there are also chapters in U.S. Virgin Islands, Jamaica, Bahamas, Japan, Korea, Barbados, and Haiti.

Zeta Phi Beta is the only NPHC sorority that is constitutionally bound to a fraternity, Phi Beta Sigma. The sorority also maintains connections to several organizations including the NPHC, American Diabetes Association, March of Dimes, American Cancer Society, American Red Cross, National Council of Negro Women, and the United Negro College Fund.

The sorority also holdsZeta Day on the Hill, which provides an opportunity for Zetas to exercise another level of civic responsibility by learning the protocols for interacting with and the knowledge needed to maximize engagement with congressional representatives. As members of a “Community Conscious-Action Oriented” organization, Zetas schedule meetings with their representative or their representative’s designee to discuss, during brief sessions, issues of interest to the local, state and national Zeta membership.

On January 25, 2001, Zeta Phi Beta was granted Non-Governmental Organization (NGO) status with the United Nations.

Notable members of Zeta Phi Beta: author Zora Neale Hurston, singer Sarah Vaughan, comedienne Sheryl Underwood, singers Minnie Riperton and Towanda Braxton.

Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc.:  Founded on November 12, 1922 at Butler University in Indianapolis, Indiana by seven young educators. It was incorporated within the state of Indiana in December 1922 and became a national collegiate sorority on December 30, 1929, when a charter was granted and the Alpha chapter was established.

The sorority is a non-profit whose aim is to enhance the quality of life within the community. Public service, leadership development and the education of youth are the hallmark of the organization’s programs and activities.

Founded in the midst of segregation, Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority, Inc. is the only sorority of the four historically African-American sororities in the NPHC that was established on a predominantly white campus.

Notable members of Sigma Gamma Rho: singer Kelly Price, rapper MC Lyte, and actress Victoria Rowell.

Iota Phi Theta Fraternity, Inc.: Founded on September 19, 1963 at Morgan State University (then Morgan State College) in Baltimore, Maryland. 

The fraternity was founded in the midst of the Civil Rights Movement even though there were already four other prominent historically Black fraternities at the time. Influences included organizations such as the Black Panthers, SNCC, and figures such as Malcolm X and Stokely Carmichael. The Iota founders were distinguished from their peers as they were all non-traditional students. Being anywhere from three to five years older than their peers, many had served in the military, worked full-time while attending classes full-time, and had families with small children. These elements gave the Founders a different perspective than the typical fraternity member.

A key appeal of Iota Phi Theta is that, as an organization, it refuses to have its members bind themselves to a defined fraternal image but celebrates the individuality of its members.

Notable members of Iota Phi Theta: actor T.C. Carson and athlete Calvin Murphy.

The importance of the “Divine Nine”: During the time in which the first BGLO was established, African Americans across the country were faced with the harsh realities of race-related discrimination. As a result of the various situations that stemmed from these discriminatory practices, various organizations established by the African American community began to surface and some of them were Black Greek Letter Organizations. Since 1906—the founding year of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc.—nine fraternities and sororities (affectionately known as the Divine Nine) have had the privilege of developing and establishing chapters throughout the United States and the world. The establishment of these brotherhoods and sisterhoods brought together men and women who were passionate about the goals and ideals of their organization and made a commitment to work together to make a difference in the world in which they lived.

More than this, they gave networking opportunities and all of the other benefits of being a member of a Greek-Letter Organization to people who were barred entry from the historically White Greek-Letter Organizations. The NPHC organizations stand apart from all others in that at their core stand scholarship and service to the community.

I am a proud and active member of an NPHC sorority myself, the lovely, alluring, remarkable, and oh SOOOOOO SWEET Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc. I love my organization, and I love my fellow black greeks…the history of all of our organizations shine brightly in all of our missions.

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🌻 sorority new member CLASS activity list! 🌻

Recently, several New Member Educators have asked about things to do with their pledge class during the new member period. Here are some activities and events to plan for the months between bid day and initiation day!

🌻 60+ New Member Class Activity Ideas: 🌻

  • Plan and complete a service project together. A beach clean-up, visiting the elderly, or a coat drive for needy children would be appropriate. 
  • Host a new member surprise party given by the actives. Or, a surprise party for the actives, hosted by the new members. 
  • Invite an educational speaker to address the class and have a discussion period afterwards. Or attend a speaking event at another location and gather back at the house to talk about the topic.
  • Offer a new member book club for those who are interested.
  • Schedule a new member retreat with lots of bonding activites.
  • Ask the class to choose a special nickname for their class and set 3 top goals to achieve before initiation. 
  • Invite a career planner or faculty member to meet with the class and discuss choosing a major and career opportunities. 
  • If someone has a connection to a professional musician (or other performer) ask them to surprise the pledge class with a pop up serenade. 
  • Invite different favorite fraternities to serenade the class during the semester.  
  • Offer a session on college history and greek life on campus led buy an expert. 
  • Plan a dressy dinner party at an alumnae’s house and invite an accomplished alum to speak to the group about her sorority and life experiences. 
  • Host a pool party, beach day, rice skating afternoon, or other “active” class party soon after bid day.
  • Schedule a craft evening to DIY donations for your philanthropy.
  • Invite someone from the panhellenic or greek life office to address the class on greek issues. 
  • Plan a themed slumber party and movie night.
  • Ask the class to plan one small fundraiser during the semester and decide what the funds should be used for. 
  • Offer one seminar or speaker on women’s health and wellness. 
  • Request that all new members belong to one other organization on campus outside of the chapter. Make time to share information about the new member’s additional clubs. 
  • Host a family weekend or tailgating party especially for new members. 
  • During class meetings, make sure to explain chapter history, the role of national, dues, sorority house policies, risk management, standards, membership expectations, etc…
  • As a new member class, attend all-greek events and other greek fundraisers and functions together. 
  • Create a brief questionnaire for the new members asking about topics they’re interested in. For example, would they be interested in learning more about healthy eating, depression, career planning, or personal motivation? From the poll results you can plan which guest speakers or faculty members would be most popular for an event. 
  • Plan a “secret sister” type program between members of the class. Small surprise treats can be given throughout the new member period, with a reveal party at the end of the semester. 
  • Host a “meet our new members” all-panhellenic, or all-greek, picnic - BBQ.
  • Plant a new member class tree.
  • Encourage new members to play on greek intramural sports teams and track their tournament play.
  • Attend a theatre event together as a class. 
  • Attend a sports game together as a class.
  • Offer several ways for new members to meet potential big sisters and help them through the big/little matching process.
  • Have the new members choose one sorority house improvement project to work on and complete. 
  • Co-host a party with another sorority’s new member class. 
  • Give awards throughout the semester. For example, give a $25 gift certificate to ~ the new member with the highest GPA, the girl with the best new recruitment idea, the best meeting attendance record, etc..
  • Invite the new members to submit their ideas and share their feelings via an anonymous “Suggestions” box.
  • Host an energetic work-put session, yoga class, or dance instruction for the class. 
  • Have lunch together once a week either at the house, in the dining hall, or outside. 
  • Take a class trip to your sorority’s national headquarters.
  • Write, rehearse and stage a class skit especially for the active sisters. 
  • Practice a collection of sorority songs and perform a concert for the chapter. 
  • After learning about chapter history, plan several Game Show style competitions to test new member knowledge.
  • Take some road trips to visit nearby chapters.
  • Schedule several candle-passes where new members share what they value most in the sorority. 
  • Have a “reverse” candle-pass where the girl holding the candle doesn’t speak and the other new members share their feelings about her. 
  • Assign alumnae mentors to the new members in small groups based on majors and career interest. 
  • Present a complete academic plan for the class. Require study hours, ask each pledge to set her own academic goals, give awards for A’s on tests, host a study skills workshop, etc…
  • Give the new members leadership training. Divide the class into small groups and pass out “case studies” of typical sorority problems. Ask each group to discuss how they would solve the issues if they were a chapter officer. 
  • Conduct a time management seminar. Encourage using agendas or electronic scheduling.
  • Ask the new members to host a “mock” recruitment with the active sisters posing as skeptical PNMs.
  • Attend a greek council meeting together as a class and discuss the procedures afterwards.
  • Assign sections of the chapter’s bylaws and campus greek  policies to individual girls and ask each one to present the facts to the class. 
  • Ask an etiquette expert to offer a session on good manners. 
  • Invite older members, or alums, of a respectable fraternity to discuss dating, relationships and co-ed behavior on campus. 
  • Request that the class work together and plan a dry sisterhood social for the sorority. 
  • Ask the new members to design a classy tee shirt that they can all wear to special events and on designated days. 
  • At every new member meeting play team building games and ‘get to know you’ ice breakers. 
  • Plan a new members only camping trip or spa weekend. 
  • Hold a new member sorority quiz bowl or trivia game night. 
  • Ask each new member to write a letter to herself during the first few days of pledging. In the letters each girl should express her hopes, dreams and expectations of joining the sorority. Read the letters following initiation and compare experiences. 
  • Sponsor a financial planner to speak with the group about managing money and credit while in college. 
  • Create a new member sports competition in an unusual sport such as croquette, lawn blowing, curling, badminton, or pink pong. 
  • Recognize a new member of the week for a special accomplishment. She gets to wear the “crown” or medallion for the week until another pledge is honored. 

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anonymous asked:

Female bettas are schooling fish and they need to be in groups of at least 3 at the minimum. With a 20 gallon tank, it's sad that they don't have more friends :-(

 Hi there! Betta Splendens are actually solitary fish. Though female bettas can (sometimes) live with one another, it’s a risky arrangement, as they’re prone to fighting (even killing) one another. There have been incidents where a (supposedly) peaceful sorority, that had been established for years, had gone south, and the fish started mauling one another. It’s actually pretty ironic that I got this message, as when I was readying for bed last night, my betta, Peaches got past her divider into the other side of the tank (where my Cupcake is), and beat the absolute stuffing out of her. She’s missing huge chunks of her lovely fins. Please don’t keep your betta splendens together, even the most experienced betta-keepers have had problems keeping sororities. It’s a hit or miss idea, and must be dealt with cautiously.

Here’s a picture of my poor Cupcake:

🌸 rushtalk: just say NO to bid promising... 🌸

Q: I’m VP Recruitment for my college’s Panhellenic. One thing we’ve been working on is preventing bid promising. A few people have asked me to compile a list of phrases that are / are not ok to say during recruitment. PNMs and sisters alike tend to get confused, especially with what’s only ok to say during pref (we’re told that its ok during this round to tell a PNM she’s be a great asset to our chapter, etc). I have a few ideas but I was wondering if you had suggestions - thanks!

A: There is a fine live between being warm and friendly and slipping into things considered dirty rushing. Bid promising restrictions apply to all the rounds, including pref night. It’s a term that covers all types of “promises” given by a member to a PNM that may or may not come true. One sister cannot speak for the entire chapter before a vote. So any predictions, assurances, or guarantees that are said (or texted) by a sister prior or during rush week are bad news! If you remember the basic principle behind the rule, it helps you determine what would be off limits or not. Anything that assures a PNM of a unpredictable future outcome in a no-no. 

🌸   Bid Promising Phrases NOT to Use: 

  • “I enjoyed our conversation, see you tomorrow.” The PNM may not be invited back the next day and this gives her a potentially false assurance. Don’t refer to any future actions that you can’t predict. 
  • “See you later.”
  • “I’m sure we will see you tomorrow.”
  • “I look forward to talking with you again tomorrow.”
  • “You’re one of us now.”
  •  “I just know you’re going to be my future little.”
  • “You’re definitely in.”
  • “Don’t worry, you will get a bid from our chapter.”
  • “You are our #1 PNM.”
  • “Join our sorority and you will get ____.” Any kind of bribery or offering rewards/gifts is off limits. 
  • “We already see you as an XYZ.”
  • “It’s ok to suicide our sorority. No problem.”
  • “Since you’re already like a sister, come back later for a private party.”
  • “You’re better off in our sorority, since ABC hazes and they’re all sluts.”
  • “We love you so much, here’s a drink. Shhh don’t tell.” Serving alcohol during recruitment is forbidden. Offering PNMs drinks as enticement to join is not cool. 
  • “Our legacies always get a bid.”
  • “I can’t wait to party with you on bid day.”
  • “I’ll stop by your dorm later and we’ll talk about your bid.”
  • “Your Rho Gamma is our sister and she’s told us how great you are.”
  • “You are 100% XYZ sisterhood material. No doubt about it.”
  • “You will be sorry if you don’t join our chapter.” Threats are never a good idea.
  • “If formal recruitment doesn’t work out, we’ll pledge you during COB informal recruitment for sure.”
  • “We always pledge girls from your high school/town/state.”
  • “When you’re a sister of XYZ we’re going to have so much fun.”

🌸   Recruitment Phrases That Are Ok to Use:

  • “Have a good day.”
  • “It was so nice to meet you.”
  • “I enjoyed our talk. It was wonderful getting to know you.”
  • “Good night.”
  • “Wow, what a pleasure meeting you.”
  • “You have so many qualities that we look for in a sister.”
  • “You’re experiences and travels are so impressive.” 
  • “I’m so glad you’re here.”
  • “It’s so nice to see you again.” 
  • “You are a very special person.”
  • “I love talking to you. We have so much in common.” 
  • “Our preference night is very meaningful. I hope our ceremonies touch your heart.”
  • “I see so much of myself in you.”
  • “You would be a real asset to our sorority.”

As a sorority sister you can flatter a PNM, praise her, show interest and appreciation, just as long as you don’t make promises you can’t keep. Stick to general “good byes” without any mention of the next day. Don’t speak for the entire chapter in any way. Live in the moment of each conversation and speak about things in common, your sisterhood, her adventures and how wonderful it is to visit with her. Avoid breaking the NPC rules against bid promising during recruitment and everything should be fine. xoxo ;)

top 10 sorority girl summer problems:
  1. miss, miss, miss, miss my sisters.

     2.  summer job interferes with future lil crafting time.

     3.  stomach hurts from eating home cooked meals. 

     4.  real glassware is so heavy compared to a solo cup.

     5.  there’s never a reason to dress up in costume!

     6.  neighbors stop and stare at my greek letter tee shirts.

     7.  completely at loose ends without weekly meetings.

     8.  can’t relax without the sound of chanting & clapping.

     9.  suffering from a severe case of happiness withdrawal.

     10.  love my family, but love my sorority family just a little bit more right now!