URGENT, im soon going to be renting an apartment with a couple of friends, im pre everything and not out to any of them, is it possible to stay stealth in this situation? in terms of them seeing my legal name on any forms we might need?
It… might be possible, but honestly, it’s probably pretty unlikely that you can avoid all slip-ups. IMO, you’re probably better off letting them know your name beforehand, so they hear it from you and not from a random bill company. That way, you have complete control over the situation.
If you really want to try to stealth through this, though, talk to your landlord and see if there’s any way you can hide your legal name on the lease. I would probably ask either for an individual copy of the lease, or ask if they would be okay with putting your preferred name on the lease (this is pretty unlikely, though, because, while you are allowed to sign with your preferred name, they generally require that your legal name is at least printed somewhere on the lease). You would also probably want to talk to any bill companies you’ll be personally interacting with (like if you’re going to be responsible for paying for water, energy, etc) and ask about changing your name on letters or whatnot.
Like I said, it’s tricky, and there’s really no way to be absolutely certain you can keep it up, so that’s why I’d recommend coming out before anything happens. Still, it’s up to you. Either way, good luck with your apartment!