3950) I'm a 20 year old transman in a rather odd situation. I live with my stepmom and dad, who both support me (after 2 years of my coming out). My dad is sort of odd however, as he doesn't use pronouns or proper name, but he will get me clothes that fit my gender and over all interact with me as his son, except for strictly male environments (i.e. my brother's stag night). My stepmom for the most part tries, and will try to correct herself. My sisters both support me as their brother, my twin does not. My Christian brother is on the fence, while my other brother is supportive. For the most part all my friends and family are supportive and making an effort. Now here's where we get to the thorny part. My Christian birth mother. My mother is taking my transition like her child is dying. She gets upset if it gets brought up in conversation, and loves to emphasize how much my father dreamed of getting a daughter exactly like me. She tries to guilt me as much as possible and disapproves of me being male and dating another male (I'm bisexual and my boyfriend is ftm as well) and gets upset at me for having images of us on my Facebook. I just don't know what to do anymore to try to explain to her that I'm not dying. It's simply like I'm a cake, and I'm removing the wrong frosting, and putting on the correct frosting. It's just hard because I'm trying hard to be stealth while pre-t in college with all the bs going on and nobody to share it with.