sometimes timing is not ideal

anonymous asked:

Can you explain why you think Jake Peralta has ADHD?

I’m actually really glad you asked because oooh boy, let met tell you, Jake Peralta, in my humble opinion as a fellow sufferer, is currently the single most obvious but sadly non confirmed (yet… one can still hope) fictional character with (most likely) undiagnosed ADHD out there. His strengths as well as his flaws all point towards him having the disorder.


So let me start with the good things:

- He’s a quick thinker! He thinks in unconventional ways with his mind taking leaps and turns whenever it feels like it. Often allowing him to solve cases in creative ways. … It also makes for interesting conversations most of the time.

- Using his impulsivity in a good way! When he figures something out, he’s usually the first one to get up AND DO SOMETHING. 

- Excitability! Have you seen how his eyes lights up when he feels like he’s doing what he thinks is right? He becomes like a little hyperactive child again. Usually, adults with the disorder, aren’t as much outwardly hyperactive anymore as children are. Instead, this tends to turn into feelings of restlessness and gets internalized. But of course, in a show like this, it makes sense to show him like this.

- Hyperfocus! Die Hard, anyone?! That guy has had the same hyperfixation for years!!! And I bet, he frequently uses his hyperfocus capability to get things done, too. That is, if he’s interested enough, of course.

- His energetic personality! Brings some energy and passion into the work place, don’t you think? And also it’s how many adults with ADHD are perceived if they feel well-integrated and at ease with their surroundings. Always the one coming up with new ideas? That’s us!

Now onto the not so good stuff when you’re the one struggling with it:

- Again, impulsivity. Saying the first thing that comes to your mind, talking… A Lot, acting without thinking and without regard for consequences. As seen on the show, it has not always been the best “decision” for him.

- Mood swings! Unfortunately, many are not aware of this fact but in many cases, ADHD actually comes with fast and frequent mood swings. The smallest things can trigger intense emotional responses. Jake definitely has that as he tends to jump from “Life is meaningless!” to “I’m the greatest!” without a problem. Just solved a case? I’M SO HAPPY!!! Oh no, they got away with it? Why bother anymore…… Yeah, that…

- You know the episodes where he and Captain Holt are undercover as part of the Witness Protection Program and Holt points out how Jake seems depressed lately? Yeah, people with ADHD can way too easily fall into this mindset (mood swings, anyone?). With the absence of regular work to keep his fast-pacing mind occupied, it’s not a surprise that he starts feeling this way.

- Not able to handle boredom! He has always something going. Games, ideas, looking for new cases. He never slows down and seems to keep himself occupied at all times. Classic ADHD!

- The way he handles words and numbers, anyone? How he never reads books? Oh, and then his troubles with finances? His locker and desk looking… like that? Classic signs of troubles with organisation and attention to me.

- Easily discouraged! It can’t be denied that he hasn’t had an easy childhood. Together with the troubles with his father, ADHD could be a way to explain why he now is the way he is. 

- Problems with low self-esteem (*cough* and definitely Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria)! Either he feels like THE BEST COP OUT THERE or he falls into this thinking pattern where you have trouble believing that people actually care about you. Probably something he should talk about in therapy, as he puts it himself.

Together with his tendency to procrastinate when it comes to boring stuff, his inability to express and cope with his feelings sometimes, his forgetfulness and not so ideal time management (for example, being late to work all the time),  I strongly believe that Jake Peralta has ADHD and should be written and confirmed as such (hey, it’s never too late!).
An episode focusing on him suspecting he has the condition and eventually seeing a specialist? I’d cry. Honestly.



Plus:
The fact that so many real people with the disorder relate to him??? Okay, that’s not actually relevant here but definitely something the writers should take into consideration. BUT, don’t feel bad if you don’t! Not everyone’s ADHD is the same! :)

Psst, you won’t believe how many times I sit there thinking “that’s so me!” while watching the episodes. There’s even more “evidence” sprinkled throughout the show. All the small details not listed aboved. It’s marvelous and oh-so-relatable.

And just imagine the many excited faces watching the show when a main character on a immensely popular show like this would be confirmed as being one of them! Just thinking of the tiny, tiny, TINY possibility puts me into happy stimming mode!!! It would also help increase awareness in those who may not know anything about it and help reduce prejudices ‘cause ding dong, ADHD is not a fake disorder and adults can have it, too. Surprise!

(P.S. Please also check out this awesome post!)

1 for sorrow
2 for joy
3 for a girl
4 for a boy
5 for silver
6 for gold
7 for a secret never to be told

Guess who almost always ends up seeing one…. -_-

I had to repost this from another account so it would show up in tags.

I’m sure that many of you reading this tag know about GlitchedPuppet’s NSFW comic Something Greater, located on ForbiddenFlora.  Something Greater is a comic describing how Amdusias and Orobas’s relationship came to be.

However, many people reading the comic became uncomfortable.  Throughout the comic, Amdusias looks extremely upset, terrified, and displeased with the things that are happening to her.  Not once in the comic does Amdusias look pleased, happy, or even neutral, really; however, Orobas ignores this.  There is even a scene during which Amdusias grits her teeth and asks Orobas to pull out of hertwice, and Orobas remains inside Amdusias anyway.

GlitchedPuppet and Eevee responded to this with the fact that Amdusias always looks uncomfortable no matter what she’s doing, and that sometimes, someone’s first time isn’t ideal.  Okay, fair enough.  But there is something even more important about Something Greater, and even more disturbing:

Amdusias has no idea what sex is, how it works, or why people would do it.

Amdusias, in the beginning of the comic, is extremely uncomfortable at the idea of sex, but agrees to do it anyway.  This can be explained by nervousness of trying a new thing… but when Orobas shows Amdusias her penis, Amdusias truly has no idea what it is.  She has no idea what it’s for, what it does, or what to do with it.

When Orobas finally does penetrate Amdusias, Amdusias says things like “are we having sex?  Is this it?” and even asks why they are doing it.  This is not someone who has had any type of sexual education at all.  This is not someone who knows what sex is.

Orobas seems to know this.  Rather than giving Amdusias information about sex, however, she “teaches” her about it by having sex with her.  Someone who has literally no knowledge of sex - can they truly consent to sex?  Would you teach someone about sex by having sex with them?  Is that what sex education should be?  At the beginning of the comic, Amdusias has the sexual knowledge of a child - that is to say, none.

When I decided to point this out, I saw that I had been blocked by ForbiddenFlora from commenting:

In addition, all of my comments had been removed.

Glip, if you are going to silence me on your comic pages, then I am going to speak out elsewhere.  Because I do not think that this is a healthy example of sex,and just because you either cannot or do not want to refute my points doesn’t mean that my points are invalid.  Amdusias had no knowledge of sex, was asking why they were doing as they were doing it, and looked extremely uncomfortable and upset the entire time.  The fact that this makes people uncomfortable isn’t a bad thing.

This is ignoring the last part of the comic, where Orobas is chastising Amdusias for assuming they were in a relationship after having sex.  I wonder why Amdusias might assume that?  Perhaps because she doesn’t know anything about sex or its connotations?  Perhaps because she assumed that Orobas wanted to have sex with her for an emotional reason, rather than just a one night stand?

I am not attacking or accusing Glip in any of the above.  I simply wanted to facilitate conversation about consent and safe sex, and explain why some felt the way that they do.  Apparently, according to you, this means that “people suck”.

It does not.  Wanting to discuss this does not make people suck.  What makes people suck is silencing them and ignoring what they have to say, rather than saying “we have a different viewpoint on this” or even “I don’t wish to discuss this, and I don’t see your point”.  

Never did I antagonize.  Never was I rude or inappropriate.  I only wished to communicate my point and see what Glip had to say about it - maybe I was wrong, after all, and maybe they did have something to refute the above.  But banning me from commenting, and deleting all of my previous comments, really does just affirm what I already believed.

If I was being exceptionally rude, “antagonistic”, or inappropriate any more so than you were, Glip - please, show what I said that was so awful.  I stand by my belief that I was respectful and thought out my comments before I posted them.    If anyone has a logical, truthful refute to the above - please, point it out!  As I said, I would like to discuss this.  If I’m wrong, then I’m wrong - but if I do have a point, and other people’s feelings are valid (and feelings are valid in the first place), then I won’t be insulted or silenced.

Miracles, Magic and Medals

Since I don’t often blog about my magic here, I figured I’d share something I posted on a forum related to Christian and Catholic magical practices, particularly one item that has been a part of my life since I was born. The Medal of Saint Benedict.



The Background

Benedict of Nursia (c. 480 – 543 or 547) is a Christian saint that is sometimes overlooked by modern magical practitioners and is honored by the Catholic Church, some Orthodox and the Anglican Churches, as the patron saint of Western monasticism but also has a number of other patronages ranging from scholasticism, deliverance from temptation, and inflammatory diseases in addition to being invoked against witchcraft, poison and sorcery.

The most famous and recognizable emblem of Saint Benedict today is the so-called Jubilee Medal. According to the Catholic Encyclopedia:

It is doubtful when the Medal of St. Benedict originated. During a trial for witchcraft at Natternberg near the Abbey of Metten in Bavaria in the year 1647, the accused women testified that they had no power over Metten, which was under the protection of the cross. Upon investigation, a number of painted crosses, surrounded by the letters which are now found on Benedictine medals, were found on the walls of the abbey, but their meaning had been forgotten. Finally, in an old manuscript, written in 1415, was found a picture representing St. Benedict holding in one hand a staff which ends in a cross, and a scroll in the other. On the staff and scroll were written in full the words of which the mysterious letters were the initials. Medals bearing the image of St. Benedict, a cross, and these letters began now to be struck in Germany, and soon spread over Europe. They were first approved by Benedict XIV in his briefs of 23 December, 1741, and 12 March, 1742. The Jubilee Medal below was first struck in 1880 to commemorate the 14th centennary of St. Benedict’s birth.

Having gone to a Benedictine university and my family having a close relationship with the Benedictine community there, I learned from the monks a lot of clever traditions surrounding the Medal of Saint Benedict ranging from burying blessed medals in the foundations of buildings to protect them from evil, to hanging large bronze copies over the doors of houses and barns to protect inhabitants as well as one famous example where a monk hid them in the corner of a classroom where students were known to have sex on campus after hours which stopped them from ever doing it in the classrooms again.

The Medal



The front of the medal typically depicts St. Benedict holding his Rule; next to him, on a pedestal, is the cup that once held poison, shattered after he made the Sign of the Cross over it. The other pedestal is topped by the raven, who is about to carry away the poisoned bread. In very small print above these pedestals are the words: Crux s. patris Benedicti (The Cross of our Holy Father Benedict).

Underneath St. Benedict are the words: ex SM Casino MDCCCLXXX (from holy Monte Cassino, 1880).

Surrounding the entire face of the medal are the words: Eius in obitu nostro praesentia muniamur (May we at our death be fortified by his presence.)

On the obverse of the medal there is a cross with the initials C S S M L - N D S M D, which stand for the rhyme:

Latin:

Crux sacra sit mihi lux!
Nunquam draco sit mihi dux!

English:

The Holy Cross be my light;
Let not the dragon be my guide.

In the corners of the Cross are C S P D, which stand for the same words found on the front over the pedestals: Crux s. patris Benedicti (The Cross of our Holy Father Benedict).

Above the Cross is the word “Pax” (Peace), one of the handfulls of Benedictine mottoes.

Surrounding the entire back of the medal are the initials to the words of the exorcism: V R S N S M V - S M Q L I V B, which stand for the rhyme:

Latin:

Vade retro Satana!
Nunquam suade mihi vana!
Sunt mala quae libas.
Ipse venena bibas!

English:

Begone, Satan,
Do not suggest to me thy vanities!
Evil are the things thou offerest,
Drink thou thy own poison!

There are many variations of the medal, as mentioned above; sometimes used as the centerpiece in rosaries, sometimes incorporated into a crucifix, other times. Ideally one would take these medals to a priest to have blessed, though for those who may have some problems with this, the following is the approved blessing of the Catholic Church:

Blessing of the Medal of St. Benedict

Priest: Our help is in the name of the Lord.

Response: Who made heaven and earth.

Priest: In the name of God the Father + Almighty, Who made heaven and earth, the sea and all that is in them, I exorcise these medals against the power and attacks of the evil one. May all who use these medals devoutly be blessed with health of soul and body. In the name of the Father + Almighty, of His Son + Jesus Christ our Lord, and of the Holy + Spirit the Paraclete, and in the love of the same Lord Jesus Christ Who will come on the last day to judge the living and the dead.

Response: Amen.

Priest: Let us pray. Almighty God, the boundless Source of all good things, we humbly ask that, through the intercession of St. Benedict, Thou pourest out Thy blessings + upon these medals. May those who use them devoutly and earnestly strive to perform goods works be blessed by Thee with health of soul and body, the grace of a holy death, and remission of temporal punishment due to sin. May they also, with the help of Thy merciful love, resist the temptations of the evil one and strive to exercise true charity and justice toward all, so that one day they may appear sinless and holy in Thy sight. This we ask through Christ our Lord.

Response: Amen.

The Miracles During his life and shortly after, many miracles were attributed to the holy Saint Benedict. The majority of them can be found in the encyclopedic Dialogues of Gregory the Great. Here are a few examples from book two:

“Benedict having now given over the school, with a resolute mind to lead his life in the wilderness: his nurse alone, which did tenderly love him, would not by any means give him over. Coming, therefore, to a place called Enside  and remaining there in the church of St. Peter, in the company of other virtuous men, which for charity lived in that place, it fell so out that his nurse borrowed of the neighbors a sieve to make clean wheat, which being left negligently upon the table, by chance it was broken in two pieces: whereupon she fell pitifully a-weeping, because she had borrowed it. The devout and religious youth Benedict, seeing his nurse so lamenting, moved with compassion, took away with him both the pieces of the sieve, and with tears fell to his prayers; and after he had done, rising up he found it so whole, that the place could not be seen where before it was broken; and coming straight to his nurse, and comforting her with good words, he delivered her the sieve safe and sound: which miracle was known to all the inhabitants thereabout, and so much admired, that the townsmen, for a perpetual memory, did hang it up at the church door, to the end that not only men then living, but also their posterity might understand, how greatly God’s grace did work with him upon his first renouncing of the world. The sieve continued there many years after, even to these very troubles of the Lombards, where it did hang over the church door.” Dialogues. Of the Life and Miracles of St. Benedict. C.1. “Having now taken upon him the charge of the Abbey, he took order that regular life should be observed, so that none of them could, as before they used, through unlawful acts decline from the path of holy conversation, either on the one side or on the other: which the monks perceiving, they fell into a great rage, accusing themselves that ever they desired him to be their Abbot, seeing their crooked conditions could not endure his virtuous kind of government: and therefore when they saw that under him they could not live in unlawful sort, and were loath to leave their former conversation, and found it hard to be enforced with old minds to meditate and think upon new things: and because the life of virtuous men is always grievous to those that be of wicked conditions, some of them began to devise, how they might rid him out of the way: and therefore, taking counsel together, they agreed to poison his wine: which being done, and the glass wherein that wine was, according to the custom, offered to the Abbot to bless, he, putting forth his hand, made the sign of the cross, and straightway the glass, that was holden far off, brake in pieces, as though the sign of the cross had been a stone thrown against it: upon which accident the man of God by and by perceived that the glass had in it the drink of death, which could not endure the sign of life: and therefore rising up, with a mild countenance and quiet mind, he called the monks together, and spake thus unto them: "Almighty God have mercy upon you, and forgive you: why have you used me in this manner? Did not I tell you before hand, that our manner of living could never agree together? Go your ways, and seek ye out some other father suitable to your own conditions, for I intend not now to stay any longer amongst you.” When he had thus discharged himself, he returned back to the wilderness which so much he loved, and dwelt alone with himself, in the sight of his Creator, who beholdeth the hearts of all men.“ Of the Life and Miracles of St. Benedict. C. III.

"At the same time a certain clergyman, that served in the church of Aquinum, was possessed: whom the venerable man Constantius, Bishop of the same city, sent unto many places of holy martyrs for help: but God’s holy martyrs would not deliver him, to the end that the world might know what great grace was in the servant of God, Benedict: wherefore at length he was brought unto him,  who, praying for help to Jesus Christ our Lord, did forthwith cast the old enemy out of the possessed man’s body, giving him this charge: "Go your way, and hereafter abstain from eating of flesh, and presume not to enter into holy orders, for whensoever you shall attempt any such thing, the devil again will have power over you.” The man departed safe and sound, and because punishment fresh in memory useth to terrify the mind, he observed for a time what the man of God had given him in commandment. But after many years, when all his seniors were dead, and he saw his juniors preferred before him to holy orders, he neglected the words of the man of God, as though forgotten through length of time, and took upon him holy orders: whereupon straightways the devil that before had left him entered again, and never gave over to torment him, until he had separated his soul from his body.“ Of the Life and Miracles of St. Benedict. C. XVI. The Magic Traditionally, medals have been worn since the early times of the church for the protection and patronage of various holy men and holy women. Although magical practices have historically been forbidden, it wasn’t long before these medals and other jewelry would take the place of the ”diabolical“ amulets and talismans of the pagans. The Jubilee Medal of Saint Benedict is no different. The easiest method to employ the magical properties of the medal is through simply wearing the blessed item and perhaps reciting a prayer to Saint Benedict when you feel like you may be under spiritual assault or compulsion. Another, similar, employment would be to make the sign of the cross, and recite the Latin verse on the obverse side of the medal. This has been known for a long time to put to flight negative powers and temptations if recited with full faith.

For those who may practice New World forms of folk magic, one may incorporate the medal into a mojo or gris-gris bag.

Benedictine Mojo for Protection from Evil

Black flannel bag
Petition Paper
Angelica root
Three pieces Devil’s Shoestrings
Blessed Thisle
Frankincense
Blessed Salt
Saint Benedict Medal
Saint Benedict holy card

First, write the petition paper with your name written three, seven or nine times then, turning the paper clockwise write either, ’Vade retro Satana!‘or ’Begone, Satan!’ over your name the same number of times as you have written it.

On the obverse side of the petition paper, draw the cross as found on the medal and around it write your petition in a circle, in cursive, so that it forms a ring. Anoint the paper with a protection oil such as Run Devil Run, Fiery Wall of Protection, or Banishing oil on the four corners and in the center of the cross. Fold the paper toward you three times and place in front of the image of Saint Benedict then pray the following:

Glorious St. Benedict who taught us the way to religious perfection by the practice of self-conquest, mortification, humility, obedience, prayer, silence, retirement and detachment from the world, I kneel at your feet and humbly beg you to take my present need under your special protection (mention here). Vouchsafe to recommend it to the Blessed Virgin Mary, and lay it before the throne of Jesus. Cease not to intercede for me until my request is granted. Above all, obtain for me the grace to one day meet God face to face, and with you and Mary and all the angels and saints to praise Him through all eternity. O most powerful Saint Benedict, do not let me lose my soul, but obtain for me the grace of winning my way to heaven, there to worship and enjoy the most holy and adorable Trinity forever and ever. Amen.

Then pray one Our Father, one Hail Mary, and one Glory Be, then place the herbs and card in the mojo bag and close it, sewing the Jubilee Medal to the outside of the bag. Next, fumigate the mojo with frankincense incense and feed it with a dab of liquor such as rum or whiskey and anoint the medal with the protection oil. This should be repeated every day for at least a week while reciting each of the penitential psalms in order for even days, afterward it can be done once a week while omitting the psalms.

Blessing of Saint Maurus

Saint Maurus was the first disciple of St. Benedict of Nursia (512-584). He is mentioned in St. Gregory the Great’s biography of the latter as the first oblate; offered to the monastery by his noble Roman parents as a young boy to be brought up in the monastic life. Four stories involving Maurus recounted by Gregory formed a pattern for the ideal formation of a Benedictine monk. The following is a traditional blessing of the sick that can be done by anyone regardless of state of life.

Place above the sick bed a crucifix bearing the Saint Benedict Medal or, if impossible, the medal alone should suffice. The act of contrition should be said by both the person leading the blessing as well as by the sick, followed by the act of Faith, Hope and Charity, then the a prayer to Saint Benedict that the person be delivered, followed by three Our Fathers, Three Hail Marys and Three Glory Be’s in honor of the Holy Trinity.

The person leading the blessing approaches the sick and says,

V. Blessing and glory, and wisdom, and thanksgiving, honor and power and strength to our God forever and ever.
R. Amen.

V. My foot has stood in the direct way.
R. In the churches I will bless You, O Lord.

Through the invocation of the most holy name of the Lord may that faith, in which St. Maurus, by employing the words that follow, healed the sick, and in which I, though an unworthy sinner, utter the selfsame words, restore your health as you desire:

In the name of the most holy and undivided Trinity and supported by the merits of the most holy Father Benedict, I bid you, N., to rise, stand upon your feet and be cured, in the name of the Father and of the Son + and of the Holy Spirit.

R. Amen.

V. He that forgives the iniquities of his creatures.
R. May He heal your infirmities.

V. O Lord, hear my prayer.
R. And let my cry come to You.

V. The Lord be with you.
R. And with your spirit.

Let us pray

O God, the Creator, of all things, You ordained that Your only Son should take flesh of the Virgin Mary by the power of the Holy Spirit for the restoration of your people and You deigned to heal the wounds and infirmities of our souls by the redemption accomplished upon the sacred and glorious wood of the life-giving Cross: do You also vouchsafe through this powerful sign to restore health to Your servant N. Through the same Christ our Lord.
R. Amen.

Let us pray

Lord Jesus Christ, You conferred upon the master, blessed Benedict, the privilege of obtaining from You whatsoever he might ask in Your name: vouchsafe, through his intercession, to heal all the infirmities of this Your servant: in order that, being restored to health, he (she) may give thanks to Your holy name.

You live and reign with the Father and the Holy Spirit for ever and ever.
R. Amen.

The Blessing

Through the invocation of the Immaculate Mother of God and ever Virgin Mary, and the intercession of Saints Benedict and Maurus, may the Power + of God the Father, the Wisdom + of God the Son, and the Strength + of the Holy Spirit free you from your infirmities. Amen.

May God’s holy will be done, and may it be done to you as you wish and pray, for the praise and honor of the most holy Cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.

The person performing the blessing and the sick make upon themselves the sign of the cross with the relic of the Cross or the medal of St. Benedict saying:

May the blessing of Almighty God, of the Father and of the Son + and of the Holy Spirit descend upon us and abide with us forever.
R. Amen.

The sick person then kisses the cross or the medal of St. Benedict.
This blessing, if need be, may be repeated three times and the Rosary of the Blessed Virgin Mary are to be prayed according to the aforesaid intentions by the sick person, or by others in the person’s name.

And a final, if very simple method, can be used in lieu of holy water should there be non available or in case of sudden emergency.

Water of Saint Benedict

You will need:

A Ceramic Vessel

An image of Saint Benedict
A Jubilee Medal
A small amount of salt
A white cloth

Filling the vessel with water, place it on a white cloth in front of the image of Saint Benedict and a lit candle. Recite three Our Fathers, three Hail Marys, and three Glory Be’s in honor of the Holy Trinity. Next, take three pinches of salt and cast it into the water saying,

In the name of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Through the intercession of Saint Benedict, I cast out all evil from this water that it may be fruitful and healing to the benefit of man and put to flight all evil. Amen.

Then, place the medal in the water saying,

Admirable Saint and Doctor of Humility, you practiced what you taught, assiduously praying for God’s glory and lovingly fulfilling all work for God and the benefit of all human beings. You know the many physical dangers that surround us today often caused or occasioned by human inventions. Guard us against poisoning of the body as well as of mind and soul, and thus be truly a “Blessed” one for us. Amen.

Leave the medal in the water until the candle burns out, after which it can be used for exorcisms as well as sprinkled around one’s house or apartment for protection.

uh-oh, surprise

—the one in which Emma actually finds Killian and tells him she’s pregnant! Here’s a second part! I couldn’t let you hanging, I had to tell you how she tells Killian about the babe! Enjoy! <3     Part 1 - AO3


She has to tell him, that much Emma knows for sure. The quicker she does, the better to be honest. She feels as though the news is going to eat her alive if she doesn’t hurry up and finds that pirate of hers.

And yes, technically she still doesn’t have definite news to tell him, but the hell with complete certainty, she is almost sure she is pregnant, so that will have to be enough for Killian —it certainly is for herself.

The strangest part for Emma this time around, is how positively joyous she feels at the prospect. It is probably a lot due to maybe adrenaline pumping through her system right now, alongside maybe even hormones or what not, but she just feels so happy thinking about a brand new little pirate of their own in the few months. She is happy —so freaking happy that there isn’t even room for anxiety or nervousness yet.

She knows that will come —eventually, she is only human after all, but for now, when wiping the grin off her face feels almost impossible, she is going to relish in the feeling and choose to worry later.

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I have a low tolerance for people who don’t work for what they need. Things are not handed to you. 

Sometimes you have to sacrifice and make changes before you can get what you ultimately desire. If that means not going out for coffee everyday, then change that and brew your own instead. If that means not going out on adventures for a season, then dig into what you can do around the house and find enjoyment in the little things. 

If you can’t afford what you want in the amount of time that would be ideal to you, oh well - sometimes you have to suck it up and keep trudging on. I know it sucks, but sometimes you have to work harder for the things you really want. And yes, sometimes that means waiting longer to get what you really desire. But in the end, it’s worth it. 

Work hard and diligently. Expect nothing and appreciate everything. Sacrifice. 

anonymous asked:

How do you feel about people with bpd who use having bpd as an excuse to abuse and gaslight other individuals. To me, justifying it just makes them look like a bad person, mentally ill or not. I understand that some behaviors and reactions can be misconstrued as abusive, but they arent necessarily abusive, but I'm talking about people who ignore when someone says "what you did hurt me, it was abusive please stop" and insert how their illness allows or makes them act like this.

It’s never okay to use your illness as an excuse. They can use it to apologize, and an apology has to bring change with it. “I’m sorry that I hurt you, I sometimes get caught up and I need help realizing it sometimes” is ideally how it should happen. Every time I mistakenly hurt someone I keep it a priority to recognize that behavior and catch myself the next time. If this person doesn’t realize exactly what they’re doing, they need to be informed. If they’re using it as an excuse instead of an explanation, they’re using their illness as a weapon and the best thing to do is keep your distance. It’s gonna suck for them but you have to look out for yourself too. Sometimes it takes a while for someone with BPD to recognize that their behavior is wrong. It takes patience. I have trouble seeing right from wrong sometimes, when someone calls me out I try not to challenge them and I believe them to an extent then I have to evaluate and recognize it on my own. If someone hasn’t learned how to do this the situation you’ve explained happens. Again, it takes patience and understanding. Take care x

BTS, fandoms, and the infamous #BreakWings

Hello!

You all probably read about the breakwings “project” on YouTube, Instagram, Tumblr, twitter or any other social media app/website.

I will start by saying that not in 1000 years I’d have thought about other lovers of KPOP doing these kind of things…

I am multifandom, and most of you are, right? You all love B.A.P, GOT7, BIGBANG, BEAST, EXO, Block B, Jay Park, Dean, Zion T., INFINITE, VIXX, TOPPDOGG, IKON, WINNER, BTS, and the list can continue because we all know all groups deserve love and recognition. Imagine only the amount of work they all put in. Dancing, singing, composing, attending so many concerts, fan signs, doing commercials, gifts for fans, traveling so much in such a short time span, tight schedules, sleepless nights, even starving sometimes to meet the ideal in criteria of looks.

As a whole, we, the KPOP lovers, should Stan talent. Yes, that includes every group. And if you don’t like one of them (maybe it’s not your style), we shouldn’t go and bash them and bring them down.

Come on, I think we can do better than that! We can support each other. Don’t we all strive for group interactions? Let’s not create unnecessary hate and uncomfortable and awkward situations between groups.

Again, I’m saying we should be mature about it. I know, I really do know, that fandoms have immature fans as well… but that’s the case with every fandom ever, in KPOP or not, heck, even with books and movies. Don’t give in to petty motives, be respectful and understanding, and always keep an open mind.

If someone responds with hate, don’t do the same. Kindly tell them you’re not looking for a fight… it’s unnecessary and tiresome. And most likely, it will lead nowhere (positive).

Going to the main thing, about the #breakwings project… BTS is also a group that works hard. Like others, they get injured, have tight schedules, endless trainings and frustrations for not achieving what they strive for… like any other group. I know that all of you know that, deep down there, in your hearts.

So why? Why should we do such a thing? Bringing others down so you make X or Y shine brighter? Nothing honorable about that, isn’t it?

The solution is simple. If you don’t like a certain group or fandom, don’t get too much involved. Don’t fight fire with fire. Keep your dignity and honor and be a decent human being.

Also, for the ones getting involved in such movements… They say any kind of publicity is good publicity. Thus, you can conclude that you give them a lot of attention, which can raise their popularity in return.

Again, to conclude. The KPOP fandom is one and should be united despite the others that bash us for liking it. We are all in this together and we should cherish every group, male or female, and solo artists. They all contribute to this world we all belong to.

And for the people that understood my message, don’t use the hashtag on twitter, even if you use it to fight against the antis. Just go and spread positive messages, okay? :) Also reblog if you want to help and spread this!

Be respectful, people! Be decent!

You can’t wait until the “ideal” circumstance or time. Sometimes, you have to go for it. Stop waiting. It’s unlikely the perfect conditions you want will ever came. You have to go after what is put in your heart to do. You have this life now to live. You can accomplish a lot -regardless of what isn’t the way you’d wish- you are able and depending on things outside your control won’t get you anywhere. You take steps. You move forward. You, go and get after life. Seize the day. Today. 

Practice (Tentoo/Rose)

Rose woke up alone, and glanced over at the clock. 2am. She could see the light on in the living room through the crack under the door, and groaned a bit as shethrew the covers off and climbed out of bed. What on earth could have made the Doctor get up and not come back by now….oh, of course.

Squinting at the light once she opened the door, she found the Doctor curled up on the sofa, specs on, reading Harry Potter. The Doctor had bought a box set almost immediately after she mentioned that there were differences in the series here in Pete’s World; there was even an extra book that, in her opinion, did the characters she loved more justice than the original epilogue.

He looked up when the door open, and grinned sheepishly at her.

“Sorry, I couldn’t help but keep reading.”

“S’alright,” Rose murmured, curling up next to him and resting her head on his shoulder. She smiled as she felt his cheek press against the top of her head.

They were both quiet for a while. Rose glanced at the page he was on, and when she read the word “Crookshanks”, she bit her lip and closed her eyes. The Doctor finished the chapter a few minutes later and bookmarked the page before closing it.

“I can hear you thinking,” he teased, “What’s on your mind?”

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