sometimes people win

Life is so wicked

On one hand women are treated like garbage and men think that the universe owes them everything, and people see responsibility as something for stupid people who aren’t smart enough to find their way out of it

And sometimes cruel people win and good people are defrocked in front of the whole world as heretics because in the end its easier to assume that they are evil than asses the root of why we put so much faith in evil itself

But on the other hand we’re made of stardust and salt water, we’re born reaching for the stars or diving into oceans of life and its meaning and there is nothing more beautiful than self awareness and peace and family

I’m a mess. We’re all a mess. We waver through this life afraid to make mistakes or too stupid to see them coming, but deep down inside of us burns something insane, something frothing for competition and reverence and change, and that something makes us great

In my blood i can feel all my ancestors and the lives I’ve lived through them because sometimes i really can cook like an italian and fight like an irishman and I’m smooth like a New Yorker but sweet and generous like a southern girl, and i can bang em back like a Russian, feed em like the Turks, play music like a Spainiard, write like an English poet and mourn like a French lover because somewhere in me there’s a little piece of everyone I’ve ever met during my souls long stay on this planet

when i love someone they become a part of me. when i twirl in the kitchen my feet remember what it was like to be on stage; my heart is drawn equally to the endlessness of the cosmos and the music of language.

When i kiss a boy i have blessed him. When i tell you that i love you my heart breaks. And when I sing, i know that God can hear me.

I am not a girl. I’m not a human being. I’m a force of nature.

And thats so easy to forget.

I don’t know where I first heard this explained, I was probably a kid, but it has become central to my understanding of what good government strives to do.

It’s a simple analogy.

If someone comes across the bridge into town and robs you, you don’t burn down the bridge; because you still need a bridge and you don’t have one anymore. Then again. Don’t build a bridge because you want to get somewhere dangerous, easier one time; now that it’s built, anyone can use it.

Or, without the analogy.

Don’t create a system with powers you don’t ever want your opponents to use; because eventually they’ll be in control. 

If you set up the government so you can do exactly what you want, one day, you’ll hate that it exists. Because sometimes other people win. 

The system works or it doesn’t. If it doesn’t, work to improve it. Tearing apart the system to win a single fight on a single day is a short road to ruin. Good Government tries to make a system that is fair. If it’s hamstringing something you want to see done, take comfort in knowing that it would also hamstring something you hated. If your beloved leader can’t act unilaterally? good, it means that in 2, 4, or 8 years, your opponents won’t be able to either. 

It’s frustrating, especially when your party is in power, to remember this. 

It’s also important. It prevents retaliatory governance. It prevents political divisiveness. It makes sure that checks and balances remain in effect. It’s very, very annoying but it’s how you can tell a system is working.

No offense, but I really don’t understand why everyone (bbtwitter mostly) likes to say that Nicole hasn’t done anything. I know on a personal level, she has shown the not so nice side of her and has said numerous things that are borderline offensive and misogynistic so it’s natural to not want her to win… but game wise? She came in to the house being the #1 target for the vets, and has managed to make it to f5 without being nominated despite also being in a showmance. The person who deserves to be ridiculed for not doing a single thing, is Corey. He’s had to be coached by Nicole the whole season, and probably thinks he’s the one calling the shots when she controls his every move and he’s been basically playing her game the entire season. She also got Victor/Paul to get Natalie out so she could pull James in with her and Corey. I’m not saying she’s the greatest person or even female (obviously) to play the game, but give credit where credit is due. Despite being called out multiple times, she’s shifted the target off of herself. The fact that people think Victor/James/Corey should win over her is ugly, just saying!

What I learned from OITNB

I call myself an “aspiring writer”, not because I’m that kind of writer that writes a lot, but isn’t published yet. I don’t write that often anymore, but I do think about writing. After all, how can I not when I’m constantly watching what was once written on paper?

Every now and then, I pick up some things. From other writers, real ones or aspiring ones. But I’ve learned a lot from Orange Is The New Black. However, what I have learned is something that I haven’t succeeded in doing yet. And my fear is that I’ll never be able to.

Orange Is The New Black stands for diversity and representation - the recent Season 4 finale and the controversy on it aside. 

All though, let’s give credit to where credit is due, OITNB isn’t alone. There are other shows that represent women, races, sexuality and gender particulary well. Look at Grey’s Anatomy (here I go again with that damn show). Even from the start. While most of the interns were white, most of the attendings and residents were black, with the exception of Derek. And throughout the 12 seasons, we’ve seen numerous human stories about race, sexuality and gender.

But let’s face it - OITNB does it a little better. Partially, because on Grey’s, most of the actors, whatever skin tone they have, are more likely to be models than doctors in real life. #JesseFuckingWilliams

Originally posted by jessehimself

But as a writer, you often analyze things differently. And sure, Grey’s Anatomy (actually, all Shonda Rhimes shows) has done a good job. But OITNB goes a little further. Why? Because it’s addressed. People actually talk about it.

When I watch Grey’s Anatomy and go back to the seasons when Callie and Arizona are a thing, I often wonder why everyone is okay with it. Imagine the world, right?! Where two educated women, who are in love with each other can practice medicine together and kiss each other on their own hospital floor witout stares, looks and judgement. From co-workers, probably from patients. I know, we’ve got a few episodes. Callie has a religious father. A neo-nazi patient didn’t want Bailey to operate on him. But OITNB? Orange Is The New Black is on the subject matter 24/7.
I can imagine a women’s prison being a more hostile environment than a hospital, but that’s not the only thing.

It’s also about the fact that no matter the race, all women are different. All women talk differently. Dress differently, wear different make-up. I know, they’re all in uniforms. But Nicky wears her uniform a lot differently than, say, Piper. Red, oh, she often wears sweats, if she’s not in her cooking uniform.

Let’s talk about Lorna, for example. She obviously has an Italian background. She’s married to an Italian guy. She values her roots. And when she’s talking, some of the girls wish they’d get subtitles sometimes. Heck, I’m lucky I have subtitles. You get the point and I’ve only talked about the white girls.

Not to mention the different backstories. Oh, do they have different backstories.

And it fascinates me. Because that is how real life is. And the writers have been able to capture real life for four seasons now, and they’ve wrapped it up nice, funny and entertaining blanket. Every inmate, every guard is unique. Just like life and it’s great. And not every episode ends with a happy ending. Callie reconcilled with her father and the neo-nazi had a big fat scar on his tattoo. But not in OITNB. The bad people sometimes win. Just like in real life, right?

The Stereotype trap

But it’s also a challenge. Why? The stereotype trap, for one. If I would’ve written Lorna’s backstory, who knows, maybe her father would’ve been Tony Soprano. Poussey wouldn’t be able to speak German, let alone have lived in Germany. My unexperienced version would probably also include lesbians, but they’d look more like Boo, less like Alex.

Am I exaggerating? I really hope so.

But writing Orange Is The New Black must be a really big task. Because every. single. character. is. their. own. And their background, their character development, it all fits like a fiddle.

The research that comes with writing that many characters the way they’re written… it takes time. Dedication. Accurate information.

Every dialogue, action or scene is a different page. And there are a lot of different stories to tell. A lot of different perspectives. And they’re telling them. The kind of writing in Orange Is The New Black goes beyond the careful exploration and representation of all kinds of races and sexualities.
And the most impressive part is the amount of characters this show has. The characters and their storylines, their intentions, their reservations and their thoughts.

Take Dayanara. That season finale did not end well for her. She’s about to pull the trigger. And we barely got any time with her this season. So what’s up Daya? Well, maybe, it’s because just a few months ago, her boyfriend had left her. She had to give away her baby. And now, her mother left her as well. She’s heartbroken, hormonal and had the sudden realization that she’s all alone. But who would’ve thought it would’ve been her to hold that gun? Not me. She wasn’t even on my mind.

It would’ve been easier for the writers to make Brook do it. Or Tastee do it. It’s Poussey that was carried away in the ambulance. Dayanara and Poussey weren’t even acquainted. But it’s Daya that held that gun. And all the pieces fell together for her character. And no one saw it coming. 

Bottomline is;

This show is flawed. As are all shows. But at least, I learn something from it. Mostly, humanity.

Originally posted by oitnb

There are no guarantees with finally being honest and coming clean with people. Sometimes you don’t win love back. Sometimes you lose the love you had. Sometimes you crush people that cared. Sometimes you break apart families. Sometimes you lose your career. Sometimes you lose your way of life. Sometimes you end up worse off than you were before. However, you walk away with a heart free from lies, regret and you have closure. Within time, you find yourself in a life that is far from the prison you once lived in. This type of freedom is the scariest road you will ever travel. However, it is the road God will never let you travel alone.
—  Shannon L. Alder

anonymous asked:

Can you explain your rationale for hating strategic voting, and LeadNow in particular? I've been considering volunteering with them in an attempt to get Harper out, so I'd love to hear your thoughts on them as an organization.

The short answer to why i hate strategic voting: John Tory.

The long answer:

1. It’s highly inaccurate.

Polls are snapshots, riding level polls are often extremely wrong, and previous strategic voting campaigns have gotten predictions wrong or just plain not worked. The last election had plenty of different strategic voting campaigns, all designed to stop the Harper majority, all of which spectacularly failed. Many of 2011′s vote predictions were incredibly wrong and thus their recommendations counterproductive.

“In 2008, a number of strategic voting sites recommended the Liberal candidate in the Nova Scotia riding of South Shore-St. Margaret’s. The Liberal ended up third, while the NDP candidate almost defeated the Conservative incumbent.”

““I don’t like strategic voting. I don’t think it works,” she [Elizabeth May] said. When she ran against Conservative minister Gary Lunn in Saanich–Gulf Island, May said, she was told that she was going to split the vote and that the best choice was the Liberals. She won by 7,346 votes – in part because that Liberal vote collapsed and rallied round her.”

2. It takes the issues out of elections.

Strategize voting incentivizes politicians and parties not to emphasize issues, but instead to just prove to your their electability. As in, they deserve your vote not because of what they believe in or will do, but because of how many other people have supported them. Popular does not equal good. Leadnow claims that “We are doing something the parties can’t - putting the issues first” but that’s simply wrong. They’re putting strategy first, and the issues second. There is no conditions for LeadNow under which you should not support a Liberal, NDP, or Green candidate.

For me, if you care deeply about civil liberties and C-51, you shouldn’t vote Liberal.

If you care deeply about stopping the expansion of pipelines you shouldn’t vote NDP.

(please don’t take this as an endorsement of the greens, simply just that i can’t find a progressive issue at the moment that they are uniformly worse on than the liberals and ndp. their flaws, which are many, are pretty much the same as the other two.)

Encouraging strategic voting tells politicians that they can take whatever position they want so long as they can argue they are electable.

extremely unlikely that has ever worked, but rather has worked to cement main parties and diminsh alternatives. thus slows change and progress.

3. It means local candidates don’t matter.

There are liberals who support abortion restrictions and oppose marriage equality, ndp candidates who oppose gun control, greens who are sexist, candidates from every party who oppose palestinian rights, who are corrupt, who are racists, etc. Sometimes shitty people win party nominations. Strategic voting says you should vote for them anyways because their party is “progressive,” even if they are not.

4. It’s a waste of resources.

“Vancouver polling analyst Bryan Breguet suggested that in the 2011 federal election it would have taken as much as 60 per cent of Liberal and NDP voters to switch their choice in their riding to make strategic voting effective, something he called “completely unrealistic."”

This is my primary bone to pick with LeadNow. They are spending tens of thousands of dollars in donations and taking hundreds of volunteer hours on something that will have essentially no impact at best, and will likely misdirect voters and degrade electoral coverage and party focus. If it’s money you want to spend, there are millions better outlets for that. If it’s your time or support you want to give, there are so so many better causes or parties (though i wouldn’t personally recommend it) than trying to convince the rest of the people in your riding that they should vote against their principles and en masse according to whichever candidate some organization thinks is not the best, but the best poised to win.

tl;dr strategic voting (and LeadNow’s Vote Together) is ineffective and encourages political actors to emphasize electability rather than progressive policies

(ps sorry for how long this answer took. if you’ve asked us something, there’s a good chance we’re still getting to it, particularly if we think it deserves a long answer rather than a short thoughtless quip)  

Hi David Luiz,

My name is Analuz.

I saw all of the Brazil games in the World Cup and I liked it a lot watching you play.

I think that you don’t need to be sad because you played well and did the best you could. You were a great captain.

Life is like this, sometimes people lose and sometimes people win but people only need to be happy.

David Luiz, you are my champion.

Analuz Penna Reale. 

anonymous asked:

ok, so my "friends" always make fun of me and say rude stuff about me. Saying I'm to skinny and its gross, or my bones pop out and it looks deformed.... Which I don't think they do, Ya I'm small but I don't think it looks "gross". I'm starting to feel self-conscious about it. It really hurts my feelings and I don't know what to do because their like my only friends. I want to stick up for myself but I'm to scared to and I don't know how.

Ya know society is really fucked up. They say a certain look is “fat” and a certain look is “skinny” and nobody really wins. Sometimes people have a hard time gaining weight no matter how much they eat! Please don’t let your friends make you feel self-conscious. Tell them you can’t control your body, like they can’t control theirs.