Im gonna rant a bit about skinny girl ignorance.
It is quite obvious upon seeing me that im not skinny, i am a curvy girl and i love every part of me even if they sometimes make me sad when i encounter the fat shaming culture of society or when i think about my PCOS.
Im also beautiful and i unapologetically embrace that, my friends and family will tell me what beautiful facial features i have but not once have i received a compliment saying that I am, as a whole, beautiful. I ignore this because i know why they wont say im beautiful.
Though i want to be completely and utterly happy with myself and comfortable theres always little things that make me feel so god damn isolated from my skinny friends.
They take me with them to shop at stores where they only sell small clothing with maybe one or two large sized things that are still tight. Ill cry in the changing room because my friends will have a nice dress on thats comfortable for them while i have to lie and say “I didnt like the texture/color” because im humiliated that i cannot fit this stores idea of beauty
Tank tops are a no, small dresses are a no, cute swimsuits dont exist for me, i dont get to have those “cute!” little bralettes with no support , no tank tops, i cant just trade or borrow clothes with my friends, all of those things are sold with the intention of having skinny girls wear them.
If i go out to eat with anyone I have to hear that old annoying phrase
“i feel so fat!”
Well you may feel it, but i live it.
I dont get to just have one large meal and feel full then in the next hour go back to feeling skinny like you do. I get to feel terrible about myself for eating anything.
If my friends are trying to insult some other girl or talk badly about them theyll say how fat the girl is, they use fat as the ultimate insult because to them that means unlovable.
I know they arent insulting me directly, in fact the thought doesnt even process with them that what they said hurts me. But it, without fail, always does because it reminds me that i am not like them and i probably never will be.
If im not dressed femininely and nicely with nice makeup then im seen as a slob. The skinny girls messy bun and sweatpant combo is endearing and cutesy but what am i doing with my life if i even attempt such a thing?
So, skinny girls, id like you to notice that if you have a friend thats not so skinny, they arent going to want to swim with you, shop with you, eat with you or talk with you if you assume that everything thats good for you is also good for them. the fat girls are beautiful, they are cute, they are desirable and lovable just like you but sometimes you can be the one that makes them feel like they arent all that great.