sometimes i get push feels

you know what’s cool about my friend who has major social anxiety? she doesn’t use it to put herself down. she doesn’t use it to call herself weak, or lesser of a person. if i’m going out and i invite her out, all she has to say is can’t, anxiety. and i get it. and i go out with other friends and i see her on her time when she can socialize and not feel like the weight of the world is crushing down on her. when i tell her i’m hanging out in the living room and she lets me know, can’t, anxiety, i’m staying in my bedroom. i get it. and i don’t push her, and i don’t pity her. i understand her. 

all i’m trying to say i guess, is that when things get hard mentally, and someone calls themselves weak, it upsets me. knowing your limits isn’t a weakness. being able to openly say “yeah, i didn’t go to that last week, because you know, anxiety.” isn’t something i’m going to pity a person for, and it certainly doesn’t mean i’m thinking less of you. and it bothers me to see people who have severe anxiety, and other things, equating it to a weakness. being able to openly talk about your anxiety and your depression and your inability to function as what you or society sees as common isn’t a fault. hell, it’s a strength to be able to say, “can’t, anxiety.” and i think it’s an even bigger strength of the person you’re saying it to, to be able to understand that, even if they don’t feel the same way. strength and empathy. that’s all i guess. 

xntp-whoa  asked:

What are some good questions to ask yourself in figuring out your own type?

What am I most comfortable doing [in a dominant position]?

a) centering myself and following my ethical beliefs without fear of censorship from or offending others (Fi; IXFP)

b) detached analysis and system building my perception of the outer world (Ti; IXTP)

c) predicting future patterns, inventing personal symbolism, and having faith in my greater over-reaching vision (Ni; INXJ)

d) recalling past events with clarity and trusting that my personal experience will help me succeed through careful exploration of new concepts (Si; ISXJ)

e) getting people to work together for the greater good, sharing my feelings in ways that confront the problem or resolve issues and asserting my opinion (Fe; EXFJ)

f) taking charge in a situation as a leader when required, sharing my facts and organizing the environment to accomplish a swift resolution or goal (Te; EXTJ)

g) trusting my natural ability to innovate without warning, change my mind mid-stream, or come up with creative new interpretations of patterns and data, because I see beyond the object to what it could be (Ne; ENXP)

h) free and easy engagement with the environment, in order to challenge myself and others to better enjoy the moment and take part in affecting immediate change, without needing time to adjust to a new environment (Se; ESXP)

How do I tend to communicate my feelings?

a) as they happen and with confidence because I know both how to express myself and comfort other people (high Fe; FJ)

b) as they happen but I cannot always control it and struggle to know what to say to comfort other people (low Fe; TP)

c) sometimes through bluntness, sarcasm or by telling people off; I often have to go be alone to sort out my true feelings, before I can even start to talk about them with the few people I trust with them (high Fi; FP)

d) almost always after the fact, and I may not be sure how I feel sometimes, so I might push aside my feelings to ‘get the job done’ and have a private breakdown later where no one else can see (low Fi; TJ)

What is my worst weakness?

a) remembering details or having a solid perception of other people, and especially myself (inferior Si; ENXP)

b) interacting with the physical environment in ways that do no harm to myself or others and/or extreme laziness / lack of motivation to act (inferior Se; INXJ)

c) developing a singular worst case scenario vision for the future, and feeling trapped by it so that I cease healthy interaction with the present (inferior Ni; ESXP)

d) being afraid to let go of ‘what I know / was taught’ in favor of new ideas, and/or creating a thousand ways this will go terribly under stress (inferior Ne; ISXJ)

e) not understanding the strength of my own feelings and ethics, and becoming highly emotional and passive-aggressive under stress (inferior Fi; EXTJ)

f) throwing tantrums and losing my temper and/or wanting people to like me, even though I feel totally at a loss as to how to interact with their feelings (inferior Fe; IXTP)

g) complaining that other people are ‘irrational’ while being unable to detach from my strong feelings in order to question my own perceptions and judgments; a tendency to either over-analyze useless things or dismiss the need to understand other people in favor of judging them (inferior Ti; EXFJ)

h) becoming a drill sergeant under stress, with outbursts of bossiness, criticism, and bluntly shared truths directed at other people to shame them (inferior Te; IXFP)

I recommend focusing both on your strengths (dom) and weaknesses, as well as how you communicate with others.

- ENFP Mod

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724 // I and the other part of my universe

I went home a couple of nights ago thinking that i’ll have time to maybe list down some new goals and plans for the near future—at least to figure out how to straighten out some kinks in the general muddle that is my everyday playground.

It turned out i was always too tired to even think a single thought that i fell asleep as soon as my back touched my bed after i showered, which is odd because i normally feel pump after i shower. It’s distressing and disappointing, to not have the focus you so want to achieve. Sometimes i feel like i’m letting myself get pushed into more directions than i can handle although i’m enjoying keeping busy and having plenty of stuff to pour some mental input into, the downside is that… i’m missing out on finding the joy of nurturing and seeing something grow, be it some personal self-improvement project, or keeping a pet alive, or maybe even planting a tree or something. Although i think i’m a little too restless to have focus and concentration, i think it’s rather important and i’m striving to find that.

I’m thinking about wanting and possibly settle outside the country if given a chance and after several years of pondering on that very thought, i still don’t know where to start. Well, if i have options lying beneath my feet, that would make things a whole lot easier, and i hope finding ways isn’t really that complicated, but when you have none you just have to look for them again and again. Or maybe i didn’t tried so hard this year. After all, if your heart’s really into it things would have been straightened out smoothly even before.

But i guess for now, i think i’ll focus on making sure that mine is firmly in the right place. Still.

In response to: kevin im in a wheelchair i have MOTOR FUNCTIONAL DISORDER and you have really opened peoples eyes to disabled people. I sometims feel when out getting pushed in my chair that you are made to feel nothing, its horrble over in uk disabled are made to feel seco secind class citizens. We dont get help and my husband gets 61.95 a week to care for me. Im not able to work i did work but unabl now you really are making a difference. Im older but still face everything a disabled person does. I live watching glee and all issues keep doing it kevin maybe then people government will not treat us like notning. Thanks for opening peoples eyes xxx issues keep doing it kevin maybe then people government will not treat us like notning. Thanks for opening peoples eyes xxx live hugs dawn xxx uk yorkshire x