I love your art but one thing that's really distinctive and amazing abt u is that whenever I send an ask I know you'll answer it even if its a dumb q about pasta or something. Its great to see a talented artist still talking & interacting with fans on the regular, its so nice! Love that
That is sooo nice I didn’t even notice but uh I love getting asks and I love attention and validation so widjcjjsjsjd. Also u guys ask me weird shit tht I have a good laugh at usually. Anyways i answer every single ask I get usually unless it’s idk racist or something lol
we don’t rlly talk enough abt how damaging friendships with white people can be for poc or the warning signs that it’s going to be shitty so!!! for any kids of color who don’t know where to draw the line with your white friends and their racism, these are some pretty damning warning signs.
they only come to you to talk abt racism when they wanna be assured they aren’t racist
they don’t ask you if you’re cool w explaining racism first cuz they feel entitled to your emotional labor
they don’t acknowledge tht they as a white person are inherently racist
they refer to themself as a “good” white person
they make white people jokes
they think the extent of racism is using slurs
they get uncomfortable when you talk abt race
you’re their only/one of their only nonwhite friends
they don’t ever share/reblog/rt/etc. posts abt racism
they don’t make any efforts to actually learn abt/understand racism beyond “poc are oppressed for not being white”
their reaction to you telling them something they did was racist is anything other than apologizing and working to never do it again
they’ve never had a crush on any poc
they’ve only ever had crushes on poc
they try to join in when you’re discussing nonwhite experiences bc they can somehow relate
they’re afraid of ethnic foods
they come to you when they’re distressed expecting support but don’t return the favor
they think a poc confronting someone or standing up for themselves is “aggressive” or any of that other coded bullshit
they victimize themself when you tell them something they did was racist, ESPECIALLY if they cry
they call a woc a bitch idgaf what she did, white people calling woc dogs is bad news
you don’t feel like you would be safe to call them out on their racism, even if it was super undeniably blatant racism
they antagonize the majority of their nonwhite ex friends
I’ve seen several posts circulating today about racism in multiple fandoms. The arguments and counterpoints I’ve seen are not unexpected. For background: I am writing instructor and I devote a significant portion of my classes to discussions of media representation. Why? Because I realized I was doing everything that these posts talk about: Ignoring characters of color, sidelining them for white villains or sidekicks with far less screen time, ignoring women of color entirely, etc. And all the while, like so many of you, I said, “I’m not racist.” I had in-universe explanations for why I liked this ‘ship over that one, this character more than that. I could defend and explain everything.
Racism is not who you are. It is what you do. And here’s a fact: All white people do racist things. We’ve been trained to, taught to. It’s in our culture, all around us. If you’re white, our culture has allowed most racism to be entirely invisible to us. Racism isn’t just yelled slurs and burning crosses. Often, racism is simply *not caring* about people who aren’t white. Racism is an inability to empathize with or care about the story of someone who is not white.
IF YOU’RE FEELING DEFENSIVE, PLEASE KEEP READING. I beg you. That’s exactly the feeling we have to push through. I’m going to give you a brief list of actions we can take. And I know these are important because I have to do them, all the time. Because the poison is in me, too.
If you truly believe in equality and want to be a better person, then here’s what we, as white fans, have to do:
1. BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE. It absolutely sucks to realize you may have hurt someone, or that you might be wrong. Realizing you’ve done something racist is a stomach-churning reality check. Have the courage to face it. Don’t run from it.
2. INSTEAD OF LOOKING FOR WAYS YOU’RE NOT RACIST, LOOK FOR WAYS THAT YOU *ARE*. It’s comforting and tempting to itemize the ways in which we’re open-minded. See #1 again. Don’t let yourself be comfortable. Instead, look for what you do and ways you contribute to fandom racism. Maybe it’s reblogging or creating gif sets that leave out main characters of color. Maybe it’s forgetting to include them in your fanfiction, even when they would rightfully be there. Maybe it’s reducing them to stereotypes or caretakers for white characters. Maybe it’s ‘shipping the white leads with anyone but the POC around them. Maybe it’s accusing POC fans of “starting drama” when they discuss racism. Look at your actions and be honest with yourself.
3. PUT IN THE EFFORT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH POC CHARACTERS. Here’s the thing: It’s easy for us to fall in love with white male heroes and villains. It’s what we’ve been training for all our lives, with every movie, television show, and book we’ve ever enjoyed. Media *encourages* us to love white men. So yes, falling in love with a character of color will be harder, and it probably won’t “just happen.” So, truly look at Finn and Poe, at Cassian Andor and Bodhi. Truly look at Luke Garroway and Magnus Bane, at Luke Cage, at Iris West and James Olsen, at Michonne. Seek out ways to connect with their feelings and their stories. Look at them as full-hearted, three-dimensional human beings. Force yourself to become obsessed with them. If you do this, I would be absolutely shocked if you don’t fall in love with one of them.
4. LISTEN TO POC FANS. Yes, even if they’re angry and call you names. For my research, I spend a lot of time on blogs that talk about hating white people, hating white fans, hating white feminists. The language is furious and vitriolic. So what? They have every right to be angry. Instead of judging their anger, LISTEN to it. Try to be better. Don’t say “not all white fans,” or “not all white people.” Instead, try to be a better white person. Be a better white fan. Be a white fan who is brave enough to look at themselves and truly be an ally. Do not silence POC fans. I promise you: Listen, and you’ll realize they’re not overreacting.
5. REMEMBER THAT “ALLY” IS A VERB. Our thoughts count for nothing. It’s our actions that speak for us. Maybe you’ve read all this and you still want to insist that you’re not racist. Okay. But your actions might be. Challenge the stereotypes that exist in your head, learn to identify them as stereotypes and be willing to hold yourself and other white fans accountable.
6. REPEAT STEPS 1-5 FOREVER. We cannot cure our internalized white supremacy in a weekend. This is a forever gig. But it’s one of the most worthwhile tasks you can ever give yourself. Want to feel like you’re changing the world? Here’s where it starts.
Inevitably there’s more to add to this list. I’m always learning, but I thought it might be useful to share a few of these steps I’ve learned along the way. I love fandom. I believe profoundly in the transformative power of fanfiction, fan creations, and the friendships forged through our shared love of media.
I believe we can become BETTER PEOPLE through fandom. But it will not happen without our willingness to be transformed.
TBH the idea that all lesbians are mean bitter assholes who bully people for fun is horribly lesbophobic and it’s so fucked up that so many people on this damn website honestly think this.
On the other hand though, there’s this huge problem with white lesbians who are WAAAY to laid back and forgiving to other white lesbians who perpetuate racism. Often victimizing themselves or crying homophobia to avoid criticism.
TBH I’m not gonna lie, as a black lesbian I think white lesbians do have this problem with being so damn stuck up and haughty about their racist behaviors. It gets almost childish that there’s so many grown women on this site crying about being abused and bullied when all they need to do is say “I did something racist and I’m sorry”.
Every white lesbian that behaves like this (and Jesus it’s almost appalling how many of y'all are like this) do have this faux nihilistic persona and assume they can get away with everything as long as they joke about every valid criticism that comes their way.
So like I get these posts about how it’s lesbophobic to see lesbians as a whole as bitter, nasty bullies. But I’m so damn tired of white lesbians acting like it’s the same way when qwoc feel like they can’t trust them.
I guess I’ve noticed a really big problem in the ARMY fandom recently with all the hate, fanwars, and even our opinions on the actions of the members and I’d just like to remind you that they are not American.
They weren’t raised in western culture
They weren’t raised with western ideals
As much as you want to ship them with members and say sexual things about them, just remember, you put their comfortableness at risk. Of course you can be attracted to them and ship them together (yoonseok for life) but just remember where the line is. They were raised in a society that doesn’t look too fondly upon homosexuals and the excessive shipping and sexual fanart and fanfiction can cause a strain on their relationships with each other. An argument might come up saying “well if they havent come out as gay or said theyre straight then we can do whatever” but id like to remind you again that Korea isn’t very open to gays just yet, doesn’t mean that theres anything wrong with gays and it doesn’t mean that nothing is changing, in fact korea is progressing pretty fast but it just isnt there yet.
Also when you get offended by something said by a certain member, lets say they said something racist. (Im a poc!!!) we have to remember that they weren’t raised with our ideals and with our perceptions on what is right or wrong to say. And i am no “oppa apologist” because some things can be said that are out of line, but we can implement western societal values and rules onto eastern cultures.
With all these fan wars and hate being spread around, I’d like to remind you of how heavily Korean culture revolves are respect. They respect groups older than them and they respect each other. So when we set off and start fighting with lets say EXO or Big Bang we are undermining their culture. Once the fanwar becomes bigger, they notice and it puts a strain on the relationships between both groups. It ruins the name of the younger group because they’re supposed to show respect towards the older group. Even if its a younger fandom that’s attacking BTS we shouldn’t stoop down to their level because respect plays a big role in their culture and we’re tarnishing BTS’s name by arguing with their peers.
Lastly, all this fighting amongst yourselves on which members are better or not. Id like to remind you that you are not a true army if you have even a small shred of hatred for a member. Wether you believe that the hyungs deserve better (and they do but I will believe in it while loving the maknae like equally) or the maknae line does. If you dislike even one member for the amount of lines he gets or the amount of stage time he gets then you are not a true ARMY.
Thank you for reading this, I just want people to understand these things so we can better ourselves as a whole.
ive seen a trend in white teenagers on this site. they say something stupid and racist, and instead of owning up to it and apologizing, they ignore it and go on a hiatus to avoid the consequences of their actions. or, even worse, they try to antagonize the poc who call them out. the biggest example of this is how whenever white people hear the word ‘racism’ their rebuttal is immediately 'ableism’. and when they do apologize, usually twice, the first one is half assed and the second one is insincere. white people need to learn how to handle their racism. learn from your peers and dont the make the same mistakes they have.
The types of ship-haters you will encounter in any fandom:
Chooses to ignore the romantic tension and will classify the relationship as “brother-sister”. May not actually have a sibling if they are this type.
Disapproves of the white, female character getting together with the man of color, no matter how decent of a person they are. Doesn't like being called racist but may intentionally or unintentionally say something racist to make their point.
also works in reverse. However, the people who don't like women of color getting together with the lead white guy are much more vocal than the typical type-2 people.
Will argue that straight pairings suck and will make arguments that (insert female character x insert female character) or (insert male character x insert male character) have better chemistry.
shipped one of the less popular ships on the show. They are typically nice people since even though their ship isn't happening, they knew what they were getting into.
"Did the writers have to put the (insert female character) in a relationship? Why couldn't she be a strong, independent woman?"
"This ship is TOXIC AF. Here, read my dissertation on why this character and this character should not be together".
Will argue that the chemistry and romance are forced and the writers suck for forcing this upon us.
Will argue that one of the characters in the ship is boring. This usually means the character is decent, is not a complete mess, and is actually a good fit for the other person in the ship. Will also argue that the angsty, unstable, dangerous character is "exciting" and "fun".
Will ignore the canon ship because for some fucking reason, they think the main villain has better chemistry with the lead female / male character. Even if they're presented with facts that the lead character HATES the villain, they will still dismiss the canon ship in favor of their bizarre crackship. Will also make excuses for the villain's behavior.
To add to the previous point, it doesn't have to be the villain. As long as they're unstable and dangerous...and a cis, straight white male.
"I don't care if it's based on a comic book / book / video game / insert other medium, I still don't like it and I think the adaptation should make some changes."
Will argue about the age difference, which is typically not a problem unless it's like a 20-year gap.
Will voice their displeasure through memes.
Will voice their displeasure through gifsets / photos / fanarts / manips
Will voice their displeasure through really aggressive fanfics.
The Newcomer ("Hey, I'm new to this fandom but I really hope this character and this character don't end up together. Maybe my opinion might change in the next few episodes / chapters"). By default, these people either turn into shippers or remain as haters.
Let me just say this. Y'all love to excuse racism and anti blackness every single fucking time it happens. Every. Single. Fucking. Time. How much longer until y'all finally admit you don’t care about black people and actually love it when racist/anti black things happen? This isn’t just about jiwoo and jseph, this is about all idols who have been caught on camera which audio saying something colorist/racist/ab and y'all go the extra mile to jump through hoops trying to defend it. Trying to make up stories about what they “actually” said (fake) or how they didn’t realize they were doing anything wrong (fake) or how the American members who grew up speaking English still don’t know what’s wrong and right (fake). Maybe if you try to educate yourself on these issues you’ll be able to see the problem and will want your faves to understand as well. Right now y'all just sound like a bunch of ignorant clowns.
On Tuesday, constituents from King’s district traveled to his Washington, D.C., office for an afternoon meeting with his legislative director Jared Culver. According to the Huffington Post, the group waited about 25 minutes for Culver before deciding to leave.
Vanessa Marcano-Kelly tweeted about the experience.
Minutes later, King responded to 32-year-old Marcano-Kelly, who is an immigrant from Venezuela.“Do you always lie in English?” King said.
Marcano-Kelly is a Spanish-speaking translator and interpreter. Some of her tweets on her Twitter account are written in Spanish when she attended a conference in Venezuela. But King decided to use her bilingual skills and talents against her. Read more (4/27/17 11 AM)
If I had to pick a character who was the most difficult to talk about in this series, it would probably be Daenerys Targaryen. The intersection of every single conflict and perspective–in world and modern–about her is one that is almost impossible to address without sidelining one element of it.
That her arc relies intensely white saviorism; depictions of the Dothraki are laden with racist tropes; her experience in Slaver’s Bay harkens to (but does not perfectly mirror) white conquest in the 19th century. This pairs uncomfortably with the fact that she is 13-16 years old (I’m focusing predominantly on book!Daenerys in this–if you are here for show!Daenerys proceed with that in mind), a child sold into sex slavery, a rape victim, and someone who believes firmly and acts upon the belief that any society that relies upon slavery is not society. As a woman in Martin’s historically inaccurate misogynistic world, she confronts challenges that are designed by the creator of the series to confront her womanhood; as a Targaryen/Valyrian/Westerosi far from her home and without the resources of that home, she is left with little choice but to look forward.
Before even touching on the content of A Song of Ice and Fire, a point that causes trouble, right out of the gate, is where do “problems” with Daenerys arise? When, for example, does responsibility lie with a character, and when with the architect of her story? Add into that–when does the responsibility lie with neither character, nor creator, but with instead the fans who are discussing the media in question?
All this is not to absolve Daenerys of whatever sins exist within her storyline. There are choices that the character makes that are reprehensible and for which the ultimate responsibility does lie with her; however it is also to say that many of the things that Daenerys is loathed for are decisions that lie instead at Martin’s feet.