something-rather-than-nothing

Every atom in your body came from a star that exploded. And, the atoms in your left hand probably came from a different star than your right hand. It really is the most poetic thing I know about physics: You are all stardust. You couldn’t be here if stars hadn’t exploded, because the elements - the carbon, nitrogen, oxygen, iron, all the things that matter for evolution and for life - weren’t created at the beginning of time. They were created in the nuclear furnaces of stars, and the only way for them to get into your body is if those stars were kind enough to explode. So, forget Jesus. The stars died so that you could be here today.
—  Lawrence M. Krauss, A Universe from Nothing: Why There Is Something Rather Than Nothing

Pairing: bokuaka         Words: 1,932

The television volume was set low and static sound filled the room as Koutarou leaned back against the sofa. Keiji was seated with his legs on his lap, his attention to a book. Koutarou would lightly massage his feet while he waited for the drama to return from the commercial break.

It was a slow Sunday for both of them. They both had gotten up late, opting to stay in bed for the most part of the morning. Koutarou had talked about his volleyball training excursion for which he had been away for the week. Keiji had asked a few questions but had allowed Koutarou to take reign of the conversation. They hadn’t talked much over the week except for the goodnight messages and the occasional ‘I miss you.’

He was glad to be back home. The thought made his heart flutter. He was home to Keiji. Their lives had become so busy; with him mostly practicing after being scouted for the Japanese Volleyball team and Keiji working on his final photography portfolio. Only their mornings were a rush of greetings, a swift kiss and goodbyes. Rarely they would meet by the commercial area to have lunch together. Dinner together was more often, but even though Koutarou brimmed with stories to tell, they both would be tired to actually be engaged.

Only last evening on his return had they talked about the rainy weather and Keiji moving the positions of the furniture. A nice dinner of hamburger steak and cake for dessert. A movie that played in the background as their small nudges and touches turned to passionate kissing. Koutarou blushed slightly at the recollection of last night.

He was home.

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I don’t know why we hold onto something we know we’re better off letting go of. It’s like we’re scared to lose what we don’t even really have. Some of us say we’d rather have something than absolutely nothing, but the truth is, to have it halfway is harder than not having it at all.
—  Meredith Grey, 4/17/19

“Why are you hanging onto him? Why are you choosing to stay with someone you know you’re better off without?” He asked her.

“Because,” she paused, “I don’t know. I’d rather be hurt by his presence than probably killed by his absence.”

“But why?” He continued to argue with her,
“It’s like you’re scared of losing something you don’t even really have. You say you’d rather have something than nothing at all, but isn’t it harder to have half of it than not have it at all?”

—  Days passed and seasons changed but her feelings remained the same //
Excerpt of a book I’ll never write
20 Life Hacks To Get You Through Your 20s

We live through experiences that help shape our lives, but occasionally, seeing other people’s experiences helps us most. Being a 20-something can be hard; we all need a little bit of help sometimes in the crazy world.

Check out this list of 20 simple life tips to help you through the decade:

1. If someone holds absolutely no purpose and or positive placement in your life, then you should remove him or her immediately. For instance, the guy who would only text me (and never see me) had to go.

2. Be friends with people who know which songs to talk over and which songs to be quiet during. These are also the people with whom you dance on that spontaneous Wednesday night out — these are the friends in your life.

3. If you’re missing someone, it is okay to write him or her a simple a text — even when it’s been too long. Sometimes, relationships fizzle, but can easily be repaired by someone making the first move and saying hello.

4. Elderly people are like cheat codes to happiness. They are single handedly able to assist in any problem you’re having, either by providing you with amazing advice or baking you a platter of cookies. Either way, you leave their presence smiling.

5. Friends are supposed to make you feel good about yourself. Don’t ever forget that.

6. It’s okay to feel unmotivated about something you are supposed to be doing. Sometimes, focusing too hard on one thing can bar you from completing the task. Sometimes, you need to take a break or a walk, listen to some good music and then revisit the task.

7. Never let something or someone cloud your feelings about something you want. Anyone who tells you that you cannot achieve something deserves to get the finger and see just how much you can do.

8. Traveling is probably the best thing you can do for yourself in your 20s. It doesn’t need to be an extremely long trip; it can be spontaneously getting in your car and driving through as many states as you can. If you can do it, you should. There is too much out there to experience and so little time. Oh, and if you can take the long trip, do it in a heartbeat.

9. Date someone who has similar musical taste as you. One of the more beautiful things about life is music and the effect it has on us, and if you can find someone who has similar feelings about the same songs as you, then what is better than that? If you feel strongly about something other than music — like movies, books, volunteering, etc., — find someone who shares that interest with you and never let them go.

10. My father always said to write checks to myself to take a part of my earnings, pay myself and save. It’s always better to have something rather than nothing — you never know what could happen.

11. Whatever you do, do not worry about what people think about you. As long as you are happy with the person who you are and the decisions that you make, then you shouldn’t stress about anyone else’s thoughts on the subject.

12. Learn to accept that you are where you are in life for a reason. Life happens in a weird and creepy way — everything happens for a reason, yet you probably find yourself questioning why. Sometimes, seemingly negative situations must transpire in order for something better to come along. It’s nothing to fear or be sad about, but instead, reassurance that something good is on its way.

13. For instant happiness, listen to this.

14. If something feels right, don’t overthink and create issues that don’t exist, that may potentially scare you from acting. Just let things flow and go where life takes you.

15. Take one day at a time. By trying to predict the future and planning life, you miss a lot of moments and probably create a lot of unnecessary stress.

16. Don’t be the person with his or her phone out during the entire concert. Disconnect from social media every once in a while. Be where you are when you are there; there’s no need to live tweet every moment of your day.

17. Read more books. Reading is probably one of the most relaxing activities out there and creates so much peace to escape the world in which you find yourself.

18. Exit situations that do not make you happy. Whether this is a job or a relationship or something else entirely, if you don’t look forward to it, it probably isn’t the right place for you.

19. Keep a journal, a blog or anything else that will help you organize and keep your thoughts in one place. For me, writing has always provided for a learning process because I record my thoughts and need to read and reflect on them. You can easily read about the past occurrences that you have navigated, which will ultimately help you grow as a person.

20. Always remember that you are your first priority.

SMILE!! ^__^

(Originally posted @Elitedaily Samantha Metzger)

Daily Gabriel Reyes #9

Having turned to the dark side, Gabe decided he was now going to be known as Reaper, the bringer of death. Edgy; he liked it. 

Today’s Gabe is a rushed Reaper! I would have loved to have spent longer on this or just to have more time to draw in general, but I have so much to do tonight that this is all I could throw together. I know certain bits aren’t fully colour and everything, but I’d rather get something out than nothing. 


Decided to start drawing a Gabe every day! Some will be sketches and doodles, and some will be full pieces of art. Some will be classic Gabe, some will be Reaper and some will be AU Gabes. You will never really know!

[Previous Gabe]

You're Good

You’re good. You’re good.
Lulu my love you’re good
Sometimes I think I’m trash
And I’ll never make cash
Sometimes you think you’ll fail
For every time you just have to wail
And I’m scared
That as we make our hearts bared
You’ll start to resent what you see
And I know you worry the same of me
And I don’t know how to fix it
To make sure that line? We miss it
I don’t know how to make things right
Or maybe so we never fight
I think I’m garbage
But I think you’re good
You think you’re hostage
But you think I’m…

Something

And maybe that’s all we are

Something

But I’d rather be something than nothing
And you’re such a something
You make me want to hold on
And never let go
As long as time
Still makes us grow

perception of time
  • How much time passes between looking at a clock and seeing the time?
  • Feeling of time passing
  • Whether time passes slower or faster = purely psychological  
  • Everything we see is a perception of the past (e.g. stars & the time it takes for light to travel)
  • Reality happens in the mind
  • When you count to 10, you don’t think of 3 & 23 as not existing- they’re there, just not what you’re focusing on
  • Why is their something rather than nothing?

imjustsayingitsallfine  asked:

What exactly is the point of this bully blog? I'm not sure you get it but some people spend hours drawing our fave characters underpaid for someone like you to criticize their work on tumblr? You don't like the new series, fine, but don't speak for all fans. It's because of people like you that we may stop seeing new adaptations of our favorite shows altogether. There are imperfections in every anime, in the original series as well. Please go watch more Pixar with their perfectly shaped 3D.

My point:

That me -_-.

But seriously:

  1. I never claimed I speak for the entire fandom.
  2. The idea that the animators are in some kind of slavery animating is old and a lie.
  3. The latest adaptions are shit so you should be mad at that and not at the fact that I’m complaining; the reason I’m complaining is because they’re treating the show and the fans as a joke. They’re not respecting the franchise or the fans and that’s really awful and if we stay silent and do not voice our disagreement everything will remain the same (a shit).

So sorry for trying to have a better show that at least can live up to the fans expectations, it is definitely better than staying silent and swallow whatever crap they might want to serve just because you’re too afraid of saying anything just because that’d mean that they’ll finish with the thing.

Let me tell you something, I’d rather have nothing than having my childhood memories ruined because of shameless greed.

She wasn’t beautiful–

Her hair was always messy and her smile was rather crooked. She had flowers along her ears and soil inside her brain. She had poison ivy growing across her lips and a serpents tongue. Her eyes were overgrown with weeds and her body was traced in leaves. She never made sense and I don’t think she was supposed to. She was art you see, designed to make you feel a whole lot of something rather than nothing. She wasn’t what you saw in those magazines,

Because she was a living masterpiece

tomatograffiti  asked:

Hi :) I was wondering if you had any tips for keeping motivated for self-study every day? I always seem to go on 'binges' and study a lot, then burn out and go months without doing anything with Japanese. Even when I try and make the effort to slow down I eventually do less and less. After years, I'm probably only around N4 level. I sincerely love the language and want to be able to understand/use it but this 'all or nothing' problem is getting ridiculous. Thanks for your time :)

Hi! Sorry for the delay in my response to this, I’ve been mulling it over for a few days now.

The answer is in the question for me ‘every day’. I do some Japanese study every single day no matter what, even if it’s 10m fighting with myself every second of the way. This means that studying is built into my routine now and I have an unbroken study streak of studying every single day since 3rd January now, which alone is enough to make me do at least something on the worst days.

Studying no matter what and being motivated to do so are two different things though. Here has what’s helped me this year:

-Use SMART targets,

SMART targets should be:
Specific- exactly what will you be able to do, in detail. Hold a 3m conversation using everyday Japanese? Read Harry Potter and understand >80% of it? Be able to order in a restaurant? Understand typical kanji on menus? Goals like ‘read and understand 80% of a book’ are not specific enough, you need to say which book, or reading level.

Measurable- The outcome needs to be one you can test and check to see if you’ve achieved it or not. Think about how you’ll know you’ve reached your desired level.

Attainable- You need to be able to reach your goal within your current means, so having a goal of getting an MA in Japanese when you have absolutely no means of going to university is unfortunately not a SMART target, getting your Japanese to a standard where you can consistently pass the entry test to a Japanese MA within the next 6 months, however, might be a SMART target for some people.

Realistic- I tend to have all or nothing thinking, and think along these lines ‘From this day forward, I will study a minimum of 6 hours a day, every day, forever!’. I am the queen of unrealistic learning goals…

Timely- Within what time frame do you plan to reach your goal? Many of my past goals have fallen to the wayside purely because I have decided ‘This time I’m gonna be tough!’ and then struggle with the brutal regime I’ve set for myself, quickly failing and quitting entirely. This is no good in the long term. Be kind to yourself, you’ll keep going longer and clock up more study time overall that way.

-Log everything, every last minute, keep a running total and set weekly goals. I went into a lot of detail about this in the 7 posts that you can find here.

-I like totalisers, probably because they were all over TV in the 80s, so I make little grids that I colour in as I get closer to any goal.

-I switch book/topic whenever I’m bored, typically I’ll finish the page or section before moving on, but if I’m really sick of something I’ll just put it down and try to keep studying but with a different book or technique. This isn’t the most efficient way to learn, but it does mean that I keep going when I would otherwise just stop entirely for that day. This has done much to remove the sense of dread I have about certain tasks. I still hate SRS and kanji drilling, but I’m more inclined to make an effort if I know that I can do what I can stand and stop, without any guilt or berating myself, then go on to a different topic. No, I don’t study kanji enough, but I have studied them a lot more than I would’ve done if I’d continued trying to just force myself to learn x number of characters a day, no matter how long it took.

-Don’t be soft on yourself, but don’t brutalise yourself either. Balance is key! For me logging helps me to get honest with how much I’m doing, when I’m tired or bored I ask myself ‘Can you do 5m more?’ and more often than not I can, I squeeze in extra study which all adds up to hours overall. On a good day I try to ‘build up’ extra hours off that week’s total, which then allow me to have an easy day should I need to later in the week. When I am dead tired I stop and rest, but I make sure I go back the next day and keep going. On a week that’s good, I’ll do more than double my minimum target study time. I have no perspective and totally black and white thinking, so only by seeing objective evidence written down can I gain some perspective on what my progress really looks like.

-My goals are x number of HOURS of active Japanese learning a week, this means I can meet the goal by just trying, even if my best is really not up to scratch that week, even if I just don’t want to drill flashcards any more or write another kanji. I can rack up hours doing something rather than nothing.

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For me what I am documenting is how hard I am trying to learn. I need recognition for my efforts, I love getting this from other people and am a total praise whore, but I also need it from myself. So anime counts, learning songs counts, going to karaoke and practising all Japanese songs for an hour counts. I don’t count conversations or messaging in Japanese on social media, or Tumblr, because then I’d slip into counting all my time with my BF as study time, when it really isn’t active learning.  I definitely don’t count having crunchyroll on in the background and not paying attention, I need to be actively listening to log it as study time. This article on Tofugu talks about quantity over quality and I’m trying to take that to heart.

- When possible study with others if this helps you, find a community online and take an active part, this helps me to know I’m not alone in hating transitive and intransitive verbs. It helps me see others who are role models and who I aspire to be like too.

- Make learning fun. I respond well to fixed short term goals (like Tadoku). Case in point- 3 weeks ago I had 100 kanji flashcards to study, my BF said he’d buy me a bottle of iced tea if I could read all the kanji on the flashcards in 10m. This made me stupid motivated, I failed the first time by about 5 cards, he wanted to buy me the tea anyway but I said no. I tried again that evening and did the lot in 6m. If you too are insanely competitive then this kind of challenge might help you. That tea tasted like victory.

-Find things you are excited by or curious about. This has been hard for me as I’m not massively into J-pop, anime or manga. I really enjoyed doing the Tadoku contest in March and found reading to be relaxing and enjoyable as well as very beneficial. I’ve found some songs I love and try to translate and learn them. The reason I want to learn Japanese is to be more involved in daily life here, I still feel very much on the periphery, this can mean studying at home is difficult, as study materials don’t necessarily directly relate to my goal, or at least not in an exciting way.

-Celebrate and embrace milestones. It’s hard to see any improvement in my Japanese when conversing with Japanese native speakers, maybe I’ve gone up about 2-5% in proficiency this year, that is hard for anyone to notice, but I know that that the only way to get better is in increments. It’s one reason why I’m using the JLPT as an arbitrary milestone, because I know I was failing mock tests at the start of the year and I’m not now, that is measurable improvement and I find that really helps motivate me.

The intermediate plateau is well-documented and sucks, but you can definitely get through it and gain the rewards of being able to really read and understand with much more ease the Japanese which is evading you at the moment.

TL:DR Of all this advice I think doing what you can and keeping going, but switching task when bored has been the most beneficial. A kinder, effort based, approach has helped me become a much more motivated student in the last 6 months.

I don’t know why we all hang on to something we know we’re better off letting go of. It’s like we’re scared to lose what we don’t even really have. Some of us say we’d rather have something than absolutely nothing, but the truth is, to have it halfway is harder than not having it at all.
—  Meredith Grey
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For the life of me, I cannot ever write just cute fluff. Please accept this offering of Saturday afternoons, The Walking Dead, and a pinch of angst.

The two of them had opposing definitions for the word ‘weekend’.

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Things I'd say to my kid if I were married to one of BTS members

“You woke uncle Yoongi up?! How are you still alive?!”

“I don’t have food. Ask uncle Jin.”

“Why did you ask uncle Jimin if he has jams?!”
“It’s for my toast”
“Oh.”

“No, you may not go out on an alien hunt with uncle Tae it’s 3 in the morning, dammit!”

“Delete your Instagram post of you and uncle Jungkook with hashtag #MemeLords. Now.”

“WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED IN THIS HOUSE?!”
“Uncle Hoseok and I found a spider.”
“Oh.”

“No, I don’t know ‘why is there something rather than nothing’ and 'why anything should exist at all’. Stop hanging out with uncle Namjoon.”

The universe is big and old and, as a result, rare events happen all the time. Go out some night into the woods or desert where you can see stars and hold up your hand to the sky, making a tiny circle between your thumb and forefinger about the size of a dime. Hold it up to a dark patch of the sky where there are no visible stars. In that dark patch, with a large enough telescope of the type we now have in service today, you could discern perhaps 100,000 galaxies, each containing billions of stars. Since supernovae explode once per hundred years per, with 100,000 galaxies in view, you should expect to see, on average, about three stars explode on a given night.
—  Lawrence M. Krauss, A Universe from Nothing: Why There Is Something Rather than Nothing

I’m going to make it very clear that ’re-editing’ an artists work does not fall through as giving you the original rights to the artwork, give you ownership of your piece or give you any right to claim that work as your own. You should always ask the original artist for permission. Even so, it’s still correct to add a link to the original piece. It takes, what, 10 seconds to write a short message asking them; “Hey, this work is pretty neat, I have some ideas that I want to explore so can I play around with it, I’ll give credit, and I don’t plan on using it for anything other than for personal use”. Even if they say no (and this is entirely up to them to do so, especially if they are selling their work) you might just make their day. Not only because you made them happy that you’re liking their work, but because you asked.

I hate making these posts, I really do, but I’d rather say something than nothing. Why is it so much easier to commit these offences than it is to report, reduce or correct them..? This is not just a Tumblr thing either, usually my Tumblr requests are fairly quick (thanks for that Tumblr, you do support this stuff fairly well, unlike many other social apps and sites- which actually assume you want to take a simple accusation or case to court… As if we have time and money for that). I just figured i’d post it up here. 

This takes up more time, effort and stress than you would think it should. I’m not naming people (yet) so this is just a general post bringing attention to something that was never really explained to many people.

I’m also taking this time to thank those who do correctly source, support and communicate with other artists. I love you all and to meet and work with people like you is a genuine pleasure.