Why don't you ship jonsa? You seem to understand the basic appeal of why they're good together but leave it at that? I really feel like the two of them being together makes sense and is beautiful. If it doesn't happen in the show I feel like the books will hint at it at least
This is a question I don’t think I can really give a clear answer to, but there is something you need to understand about me. I’m not a huge shipper in general. My interest in romance is rather moderate. Like, people watched Star Wars and being huge Han x Leia shippers, and I was like… ‘okay’. Same with Harry Potter, I didn’t have any ships there. I’m ~interested~ in dynamics (like Bill x Fleur, for instance) enough to reblog content and find it sweet, but saying I actively ship it seems to be misreading how I interpret and enjoy fiction. Shipping, I interpret it as rooting for characters to be together. Usually my dream ‘endgames’ for characters, romance is just a side thing. I’m not a romantic.
So my 'endgame’ for Sansa, is that she is happy and safe in Winterfell as well as in a leadership position.
I can count all my 'OTPs’ on one hand, and even then I’m not truly convinced I will ship them in the next decade or so. For me to ship a pairing, it takes time to 'grow’ on me. The first time I watched Buffy The Vampire Slayer, I had no feelings on Xander x Anya. It was only until a couple of rewatches that I started to like it and root for them to be together. Same goes for Tara x Willow. For me to like a ship instantly- like, Kaylee x Simon from Firefly is quite rare.
I’m also kind of cynical? I think shipping can sometimes make me feel vulnerable, and that can be taken advantage of by showrunners and authors. We joke about how the GRRMs and Joss Whedons of the world are 'cruel’- and it’s bad enough characters die, seeing relationships die adds even more pain (GRRM- still sobbing for taking Jon x Ygritte away from me). I haven’t ruled out shipping Jonsa- but my thoughts on it are quite complex and still developing. I need more content!
When I praise Jonsa, I’m not doing it as a shipper, but as someone who is being rather detached and trying to look at it from an outsider perspective. The thing is, I could ship Jonsa. It could continue to grow on me, but so far I like it. It’s a ship I get defensive over, because I can’t stand how Jonsa shippers are treated on this site. I originally had no stance on Jonsa, but I saw how they were being treated and that made me angry. They also wanted the best for Sansa and actually helped me alot when I had issues with other people in fandom. They didn’t have to, but they did anyway. So Jonsa having a safe community means something to me. Shoutout to @bluecichlid ; @themiddleliddle ; @goodqueenalys and @him-e for having my back during last year as well as the many other shippers.
So maybe after this season, my feelings on Jonsa will become more 'warm’. I’m just a very cynical person when it comes to romance in fiction, and not that big of a shipper. I know that this isn’t really the most satisfying of answers, but Jonsa is one of the very, very few ships in ASOIAF where I don’t feel as if I’m getting scorn or being attacked by the shippers. As for the ship itself, I think the story of Jon and Sansa hasn’t finished. It has only just begun.