somebody-make-me-stop-doing-things-like-this

anonymous asked:

I need an advice, and since you are such a sweet gal, I thought I'll ask you. There is a boy here who talks to me a lot, reblogs my stuff etc. He's not rude or anything, quite the opposite, he's very nice. But there is something that makes me uncomfortable about this, that he comments all my posts etc. I feel like somebody was watching me. Like I want to post more personal stuff but then I think I wouldn't like him to see this. I think about ignoring him, but I don't want him to feel bad??

your discomfort is so valid, the thought of anyone thinking some boy giving them weird vibes or making them uncomfortable is somehow not a valid feeling is gross,
not being unkind or hurtful is important but man this guy is stopping you from doing things that you want to do in your own space by his presence, it may be unconscious and even the last thing he wants or thinks he’s doing but it is still invasive and you have every right to tell him that you feel uncomfortable with his constant attentions (ofc confrontation could be too uncomfortable for you)

baby you owe him nothing, if you need to ignore him, then do so
he’s some boy on the internet who is nice but not yours to have to tend to
I so understand about not wanting to be rude or hurtful but seriously he isn’t your responsibility

I hope you’re safe and warm cutie, be soft and gentle with yourself, you can’t give everyone everything they want from you, that isn’t feasible

(please just do what ever you feel comfortable with, don’t feel that I am pressuring you to agree with me little one)

Really guys i don’t know what i should say, that so many nice and encouraging words you gave me ahh god they made both cry and smile <’) To be honest i have never really thought that somebody even notice this vent thing and feel a bit bad about it….i’m not the type who speaks or even shows these kind of things because well i don’t like bothering others with silly feelings but this time i couldn’t hold myself so sorry about it. c,;

Of course i won’t stop drawing, i would never be able to do it, this is the only things which makes me happy and ease my mind. And i do really know i shouldn’t compare myself to others, but it’s really hard when you face it everytime when you go art sites, but i promise i’ll try to ignore it, i must because it is not good for my low self confident thus i’d like to save you from my dramas (,;

But i really appreciate your kind words, it meant a lot, really! So thank you, köszönöm, danke! <’3

Ui. it was high time to draw Neon with one of his best friend who always comfront him! c,;

anonymous asked:

so there was this guy i had a thing with at uni and even when we left for the summer he told my friends that he wanted to date me. but a week and a half ago he just stopped talking to me and when i tried to text him he seemed really annoyed then didn't open any other texts i sent. i just really wish i knew what i did to make him stop liking me😩

Baby I’m sorry, I hate when people do that, it’s not right to just stop communication with somebody and not tell them what the deal is 😕 xx

Ive gotten

So depressed with myself lately… Feeling like a complete failure… It’s sickening. I need to finish school, I need to finish so many things in life…. I need to ducking stop making excuses for myself… I want to stop making excuses.. So I’ve been sitting here in tumblr for hours telling myself that this is it… I will work hard and enroll myself into school. I will finish my classes and graduate.. I will become somebody. I will fucking finally work on my body. I will finish out with my goal and I will be happy. And I will travel like I’ve said I’d do… I’m done making the excuses… No more for me… This is fucking it.

Thoughts for tonight: We are so plastic.

People promote anti-bully and anti cyber bully campaign, but ironically speaking they never stop bullying. Bullies comes in many form whether it is intensional or not as long as you hurt somebody’s feeling it is still part of bullying. Remember it is in our nature to forgive but never forget. Words can cause low self-esteem, it can cause depression that leads to suicide. Stop doing it just help.

Another, we keep on campaigning to save trees but we never do something to save them. We are so into words but not into action. Me myself is somehow like you and I consider myself as a fuck up plastic who wants to change the world but never ever do something to make things right. I wanted to make difference but actually do nothing instead scrolling on my phone or computers then like, reblog and comment which doesn’t help, instead it makes me more lazy.

We like to promote things but we never do something to make things right and effective.

Thought: Start changing. If you are socially (facebook,instagram and etc) attached use them to make a change. Go travel promote things, show your love, show your support. Be the instrument, go ahead help one another be the ambassador of your own will.

I am with you, lets make a change.

Be Bless you deserve it! ☺️

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry, I understand, but, I don't think you should point out that 'fucked up' thing so much, because it looks like you're making Hiro's mun feel sad and guilty

//im not taking this shit from an anon that doesn’t do their research.

You’re finding an excuse to attack me because of what I said. We already made up but you intend on lingering on it so frankly, if this is somebody I know, stop it right now, because you’re turning into an anon hater for me right now. And if this isn’t somebody I know, so help me god you better get the fuck off of my blog.

If you really cared about either of us you would check to see how we were doing not just outright assuming that she was. But nope, fuck doing what’s right, because that’s what a lot of you anons do right? One of those anons that find excuses to make people feel bad? Because in telling me about this you’re making the problem worse. I will not hesitate to identify who this is so don’t you dare send me another message like this.

“Hey dude, you used to be a really dope painter, what happened? Why did you stop? …What do you do now?”

“I am an accountant.”

“What the fuck? Why? …How did that happen?”

“Well my friends from college kept getting real jobs and I was just chilling, painting. So I decided to get a real job too. I don’t find accounting really interesting. It’s pretty boring, but the good thing is, unlike painting, people actually treat me like I’m a somebody.”

**

Scenario 2

“What made you become a Doctor?”

“Well my parents always pushed me to be a Doctor so yeah, I became a Doctor to make them proud.”

“Oh that’s cool! How do you like it?”

“It’s OK. But my parents are thrilled so that’s good.”

**

Scenario 3

“What do you do for a living?”

“I’m a comedian.”

“Holy shit that’s awesome! What does your day look like?”

“Well I get up at like 10. Fuck around for a bit. I write jokes for 3 hours, practice, and then at night I go to the comedy club and do my act.”

“How did your peers and parents react to the news when you told them you’re going to become a stand up comedian?”

“Ironically, they gave me the reaction us comics crave…they fucking laughed in my face. They said I was insane, and I was never going to make any money.”

“Haha. Are you making any money?”

“To be honest, no. I’m actually having a tough time making ends meet. Plus people don’t really respect you when you’re a struggling comic.”

“I bet. So were they right? Are you insane?”

“I wouldn’t call myself insane for doing what I love.”

“What would you call yourself?”

“Fulfilled.”

**

The three scenarios above were conversations I had with people I met throughout my journey.

I learned quite a bit from these conversations.

My greatest discovery was…

Society is fucked up.

Society labels the accountant and the doctor in the first two scenarios a success, however, they call the comedian in the third scenario a complete failure.

But they have it all wrong.

In my opinion, the comedian, although, he is not successful, is actually the one who is the most successful.

Hear me out.

First of all, the accountant and the doctor are seeking validation. That’s all they’re doing. They’re not doctors and accountants because that’s what they want to do, they’re doctors and accountants because that’s what people told them to be.

They’re fucking copy cats seeking status and validation from others.

They’re fucking robots going along with what others say and do.

But it’s not their fault. They just fell victim to conformity.

You see, society conditions us from the get go to conform, to seek validation, and to do what others are doing.

Society conditions us to exchange our big dreams for mediocre dreams.

Usually, the older a fellow grows, the more he conforms.

He conforms to the standards society sets forth regarding how he is supposed to look, how he is supposed to behave, what type of job he’s supposed to hold, how much money he’s supposed to make etc.

In the process, he forgets who he is.

He loses his sense of self.

He forgets all about his childhood dreams.

He forgets all about his huge ambitions.

He becomes another product of society.

Society chews him up and spits him right out…without giving a single fuck about him or what he wanted out of life.

To society, he’s just another person placed on the assembly line who society will transform from abnormal to normal.

But of course, to the outside world, everything is good.

To the outside world these people are living a perfect life.

They’re doctors and accountants…and society bows at their feet.

But on the inside, some of these people, such as the folks mentioned above, are miserable. They hate their jobs, but they continue to do them because that’s what society told them to do.

That’s the manual society programmed into their mind.

The manual called, “Live a normal and comfortable life.”

These people are considered normal and they make up majority of our world.

But on the flip side, there are a select number of people who aren’t normal.

There are people that society labels to be insane.

Take the comedian for example.

From society’s perspective, this dude is a prime example of someone who has lost his mind.

He has lost it because he hasn’t conformed to the expectations of what type of life he is supposed to lead and as a result he drives society nuts.

“What the fuck is he doing chasing the dream of becoming a comic? Is he nuts? The odds of making it are slim to none. Who the hell does he think he is to go up against such odds?”

Society will always talk bad about the person who hasn’t conformed.

Staying true to your dreams when society is shit talking you is the hardest thing you may ever do, but the comedian in the scenario above has not stopped. He has continued.

The more he continues, the more abnormal he becomes in the eyes of society. The more abnormal he becomes, the more shit society throws in his face.

They laugh in his face and throw dirt on his name.

They label this dude a massive failure without giving him a second thought.

But the crazy thing is, this dude is more successful than 95% of the masses. In fact, he’s probably more successful than you.

No he didn’t make it big. He’s still struggling to make ends meet, but he’s more successful than you and the majority of the masses because…

When the time comes for this dude to die, he’s not going to look back at his life and think, “Fuck, I wonder what would have happened if I had become a comedian? I wonder how different my life would’ve been.”

No he’s not going to say that shit.

Instead, he’s going to go out with a smile, because he ultimately achieved success at the hardest thing one can ever accomplish, he lived life on his terms. He didn’t conform his dreams and ambitions.

He stood up, took a lot of shit in the process, but he did it his way.

So he will die happy.

You know who won’t die happy?

The doctor and the accountant.

They will always wonder what would have happened if they had chased their true dreams. How different would their life would’ve been?

Unfortunately, when they come to grips with this question, it will be too late.

Majority of the people that society labels to be successful will view themselves as failures just before death because death makes you review where you spent your time.

If you didn’t spend your life doing what you wanted, you weren’t a success after all, now were you?

The bottom line is…

In the end, only the insane will prevail.

The insane that chase their own dream and live life on their own terms.

They may not become huge successes, but they will lead extraordinary lives. Mainly because they will live on their own terms. In the end, that’s all you need to do if you want to die with a smile.

On the other hand, the person that lived his life according to the expectations of society will die with regret because he never got the chance to express all the abnormal and insane ideas he kept locked inside his chest. All because he conformed. All because he was too worried about what society would think.

So the question I have for you is…

Aren’t you tired of being normal?

Aren’t you tired of concealing your abnormalities?

If so, are you ready to go “insane” and chase after your true dream, the dream buried deep within you, the one you labelled impossible?

If not now, when?

When you’re on your death bed and grasping for your last breath?

Ha. Good luck with that.

**

Living a normal life is boring.

Take a stand now or it’s over.

In 100 years, you and everybody you know is going to be dead.

What people thought about you and what people said about you is not going to matter.

In the end, nothing is going to matter…because we’re all going to be six feet under.

So living your life according to someone else’s expectations is truly the dumbest thing you could ever do.

But don’t take my advice for it, continue living your life according to the expectations of others and see where it gets you.

Peace

PS. I lied. Something is going to matter in the end. The one thing that’s going to matter in the end is whether or not you did it your way…because the people that do it their way…live on well after they take their last breath.

And oh one more thing before I go…

Don’t live the same year 85 times and call it a life (I jacked this saying from Robin Sharma).

anonymous asked:

I know why I'm feeling this way. Being perfectionist and overmabitious person is the reason. I just can't really deal with it. I don't have any friend or person who I trust. How does faking confidence works? I maybe tried doing it wrong way, as there was always been somebody "kind" to remind me that it's not as good as I "think".

Oh gosh, I’ve had similar feelings. I get very apprehensive about my future and career and what not and thus have a tendency to tell myself I’ll never achieve what I want in life, especially when I see others around me accomplishing so much. It makes it difficult, but I’ve learned how to cope with it. Faking confidence is probably the oddest sounding thing ever, but in the end it’s really wonderful. Basically, stop talking shit on yourself, yo. Like, stop telling yourself you can’t do something, or that you’re not good enough, or that no one likes you, etc. Stop treating yourself like garbage because A. You don’t deserve it B. It’s not true! C. It gets you NO WHERE. In the end, it just makes you feel worse about yourself and prevents you from really experiencing life and just being happy.

About two years ago, I decided to stop telling myself those things and say “You know what! I am AWESOME. I am beautiful, and smart, and funny, and talented, and totally awesome and if someone doesn’t like me then so be it!” No way in hell did I believe that, but I told myself otherwise and accepted compliments with a smile instead of disagreeing with them. 

If you’re anything like me, then 99.9% of your self disappointment is based on how you perceive yourself. Everyone has greatness inside of them. And if someone wants to come to you, especially while you’re trying to better yourself and be genuinely happy, and tell you that you’re wrong, then they are not someone worth being sad about. 

Self confidence and jealousy are linked. Let yourself love you. You are not selfish or self absorbed for thinking you’re one grade A son of a gun. Everything has greatness inside of them, whether they see it or not. And everyone deserves to love themselves and should love themselves!

I’m sorry I’ve just gone off rambling– but this really hits home and I hope my rambles can help in some way ;u;<3

It’s so funny the way you see yourself. ‘I’m a man and no one was ever supportive’ Every fucking body in this house has always been supportive of you. All the times that you talked to me, my brother, my mother.
We wanted you to be happy that’s all. But simply that you cannot accept that help cause you think you can all do it on your own is your fault. Not ours. I’m not trying to look for bad things about you. Our relationship is clear to me now. I understand what went wrong that’s it. If only you could just stop talking bullshit like 'now I’m still open for a relationship with her but once somebody else touches her, it’s over.’ I hate that because that makes it clear that you just simply cannot ever listen to a single word I’m saying. It’s over. I’m so done. I really wanted to 3nd everything in a good way but you just cannot shut up and stop trying to get my attention by saying all this fucking bullshit about me. I really thought you respected me a little bit more.

when you put two and two together and your lowkey feeling the naw’s in everything.

i have a feeling from time to time my bestfriend is gonna end up back with his ex shhhhit or maybe a scorpio.

we don’t have a connection man just a good ass friendship an i feel like i’m forcing to much i’m being semi patient as well.

i think i really need to stop liking him slowly.

it was better before i spoke on things.
i just feel like w/e thats gonna last for him his somebody way better you know ? he just does things based off of what i want an i don’t mind but i makes me feel sad, like what if this nigga just doing things so i won’t feel bad about our friendship.

i don’t even really want to speak on it with him.

i just want something new now, i hate forcing myself on men.

and i know he got productive things to do, but i just don’t feel mutual things.

i feel like he feels bad for me.