Qom is the eighth largest city in Iran. Located on the banks of the Qom River, it is considered holy by Shia Islam, as it is the site of a shrine, dedicated to Fatimah bint Musa, sister of Imam Ali al-Ridha. Many people make the pilgrimage to the shrine, to seek recovery from ailments, solutions to problems, and forgiveness for sin. The city is also famous for its Persian brittle toffee, called Sohan. Sold in over 2,000 shops in the city, it is a great a great souvenir.
It was the 19th of Ramadan, the month of fasting of that eventful year. It was the time of morning prayers. The place was the mosque in Kufa. Imam Ali (ع) had arrived in the mosque long before the time of the prayers, had roused those who were sleeping in the mosque. Among them was Abdul Rahman ibn Muljim al-Muradi(ل). He(ل) was lying on his face and had hidden under his garment a sword, the blade of which had been poisoned. Imam Ali (ع) roused him and told him that it was an unhealthy way of sleeping as it hinders free breathing. He(ع) also told him that he had hidden a sword in his garment and an evil intention in his mind. Imam Ali (ع) then called the Muslims to morning prayers and led the service. It was the first part of the prayers and he was rising from the kneeling posture when the sword of Abdul-Rahman ibn Muljim(ل) descended on his head, giving him a very deep cut. It was the same sword that Imam Ali(ع) had pointed out only half an hour earlier. The prayers were disturbed. AbdulRahman(ل) started running and people went after him. Nobody was attending the prayers. There was confusion everywhere. But Imam Ali (ع) finished his two prostrations then reeled into the hands of his sons Hassan(ع)and Hussain(ع). The wound which was bleeding profusely was attended to. His blood-drenched lips parted into thanks-giving prayers as he(ع) said, “Master! I thank You for rewarding me with martyrdom; how kind are You and how Gracious. May Your Mercy further lead me to the realm of Your Grace and Benevolence. Abdul-Rahman(ل) was caught by Sasa ibn Sohan and was brought before Imam Ali (ع). The hands of the murderer where tied behind his back. The Imam(ع) saw that the ropes were cutting into the flesh of the murderer. He forgot the wound of his head, the blow which was to end his life and to cut his career in its prime. He forgot that Abdul-Rahman was a murderer. All that he saw was a human being subjected to inhuman torture. He ordered the Muslims to loosen the ropes on Abdul-Rahman’s hands and treat the man humanely. This kindness touched the murderer and he started weeping. A smile played on those lips and, in a faint voice, Imam Ali (ع) said, “It is too late to repent now; you have done your deed. Was I a bad Imam or an unkind ruler?”
People carried the Imam to his house. When he saw the bright day, he(ع) said, “O daylight! You can bear testimony to the fact that during the life time of Ali, you have never, not even once, dawned and found him sleeping.”
What a wonderful post to make! So recently a lovely person messaged me about wanting to include some Persian things in their wedding and I’ve made this post so they can see what it’s like and pick and choose what they might like.
Let me begin by explaining the Persian wedding process and then you can pick and choose what you might like to include :) (The fact the woman above has her husband’s finger in her mouth is explained haha)
What you see sprawled in front of the bride and groom in the first, second and third picture is the wedding spread also known as “Sofreyeh Aghd”.
Sofreye Aghd (Wedding Spread)
There is a very elaborate floor spread set up for Aghd, including several kinds of food and decorations, this is called Sofre-ye-Aghd. Items in the Sofreh include:
The Seven Pastries: Noghl, Baklava, Toot (Persian marzipan), Naan-e Bereneji (rice cookies), Naan-e Badami (almond cookies), Naan-Nokhodchi (chickpea cookie) and Sohan Asali (saffron almond brittle) are placed on the spread and traditionally served to the guests after the ceremony.
Mirror of Fate and two candelabras, symbols of light and fire. When the bride enters the room she has her veil covering her face. Once the bride sits beside the bridegroom she removes her veil and the first thing that the bridegroom sees in the mirror should be the reflection of his wife-to-be.
The Blessed Bread: A specially baked bread with calligraphy written on it.
“Naan-o Paneer-o Sabzi”: Bread, feta cheese, and greens are also placed on the spread to symbolize the basic food that is needed to sustain life. They are traditionally served to guests after the ceremony.
Prayer Rug: A prayer rug (Jaa-ye Namaaz) or a traditional Iranian Termeh is placed in the center of the wedding spread. The prayer rug, open in the Aghd-cloth is to remind the couple of the importance of prayer to god, the prayer carpet also includes a small cube of clay with prayers written on it (Mohr) and a rosary (Tasbih). Non-Muslim families may or may not omit the prayer kit.
A scarf or shawl made out of silk or any other fine fabric is held over the bride and bridegroom’s head (who are sitting by the Sofreh) by a few unmarried female relatives (bridesmaids). Two sugar cones made out of hardened sugar are used during the ceremony. These sugar cones are softly ground together above the bride and bridegroom’s head by a happily married female relative (and/or maid of honor) throughout the ceremony to shower them in sweetness. The sugar drops in the held fabric, not on their heads.
In spirit of humor, sometimes a few stitches are sewn on the cloth which is held over the bride and the groom’s head. The needle will have seven threads of seven colors and will symbolize sewing the mother-in-law’s tongue against saying anything rude or unholy to the bride in her future life.
The contract signing for the wedding is usually done before the ceremony of Aghd so that the ceremony can flow naturally.
In religious circles the Aghd usually includes some verses of the Quran (followed by reciting a Hadith of Prophet Muhammad about the importance of marriage (only if one or both of the couple are Muslims). In the more modern ceremonies, the officiant is not of religious background and would recite romantic poems from Saadi, Hafez or Rumi.
Then the ceremony administer (or marriage officiant) asks the mutual consent of the couple. First the groom is asked if he wishes to enter into the marriage. Then the bride is asked the same question. Here the bride makes the groom wait for her hand in marriage by not answering the question right away. This is usually accompanied by a relative yelling out something (funny) that the bride could have gone to do. The scenario will often be as follows:
The officiant: Do you wish to accept x as your husband?
The bride remains silent, while one of the guests/bridesmaids says “the bride has gone to pick flowers.”
The officiant: For the second time I ask, do you accept x to be your husband?
Again the bride remains silent and a female relative/bridesmaid may say “the bride has gone to bring rose-water.”
The officiant: For the third time I ask, will you accept x as your husband?
This time the bride says “with the permission of my parents and elders, yes” and they are declared man and wife. From that moment, the man and the woman will be considered married (or mahram in religious families).
Once the couple is pronounced husband and wife, the officiant will ask for God to bless the union. The bride and groom exchange wedding rings, where they put the rings on each other’s left ring finger. In religious families the kiss exchange is not done publicly. Finally, the bride and groom dip their little finger in honey and put it in each other’s mouths, to symbolize starting the marriage with sweetness and love. At this point, the families start clapping and singing, and the closer members of the family will present their gifts to the bride and the groom, mostly cash or jewelry.
Traditionally, the cost of the wedding ceremony is paid by the groom’s family, and in return the bride’s family provide the ‘jahaz’ (the furniture and household appliances for the couple’s new life together). However, most modern families share the responsibilities and the costs associated with the wedding ceremonies.
That’s pretty much the gist of it. I like how in the second picture they’ve incorporated an aisle to walk down first and then sitting down in front of the wedding spread. Kinda mixes it up with a western style wedding in a church for example. In fact a lot of people like the idea of walking down the aisle but aren’t religious so it’s a good compromise. I like how you can have any faith or no faith to get married in this way. But anyway, perhaps you could have the wedding spread in a corner on a table if you don’t want to incorporate the whole Persian thing into your main wedding, just have it as a side feature. I don’t know how far you’re willing to go but I’ve tried my best to show what a Persian wedding entails, you can figure out what you want and don’t want better than me. :)
Good luck bride to be! <3
(fml making this post makes me want to get married so bad. #foreveralone hahaha)
i get why you guys think cat's shouldn't be allowed outdoors, but i really disagree. i adopted my cat from a shelter, and before she ended up there she had been living her life in the wild. she is sterilised and vaccinated. i live in a safe neighbourhood far away from any busy road. in my opinion, forcing her to stay with me, keeping her indoors, is egoistical and cruel. she is a living being who should decide over her own life. she can take care of herself, but my house is still her home.
you know what’s truly egotistical? being in the middle of a worldwide mass species extinction, and allowing your cat to roam outdoors, while knowing that cats kill up to 3 billion+ birds a year. are those birds living beings? do they not deserve to survive, just so your cat can run around unsupervised for a few hours a day?
stop being selfish. if people want their cats to to around outside, they should walk them on a leash or build a catio.