Boyfriend's Hysterectomy (Short Version)
1. The recovery for this is actually more intense than top surgery.
This shocked me, I’m not sure why - I mean, this is technically more invasive. Top is so OBVIOUS that I think I have not been really mentally prepping to support Boyfriend through this surgery.
If you’re travelling to and from the hospital, be ready for carsickness - we were told by the nurses that Gravol was safe to mix with the meds he was on. It can help him with travel sickness and falling asleep.
3. Be nice to nurses.
They work for twelve hours at a time. It is worth being nice to them. Plus, surgeons are not really around longterm - they do their job and leave. Nurses stick around. Nurses dispense pain meds.
4. Buy more parking. Always buy the most parking.
Just bank on needing more time than you think you will. It’s like buying bulk, and hospital time runs differently than normal time. 90% of the time EVERYTHING takes two hours more than you think it will (at least).
5. Be ready for any weather.
If you’re travelling for the surgery, pack an outfit for any weather you THINK could happen. It was freakishly hot where we were, which none of us were expecting.
6. Use pillows.
Boyfriend used lots of pillows to prop himself up and ALSO (this is key) he put one between him and the seat belt on our way home (a tip he got from someone on Tumblr - whoever you are, you’re a GENIUS).
7. Be ready for the mental side.
He wasn’t able to bind but was still around a lot of people, which made him feel kind of shitty. Also, some people did misgender him, which is ALWAYS rough.
8. Lots of little snacks.
He didn’t really want to eat for a while after the surgery, but I impulse bought some almonds that seemed to go over well. A couple hours later (late afternoon the day after the surgery) we demolished some chicken fingers and fries together.
9. Bring things to keep you entertained.
I made the mistake of not bringing my mondo-purse with my book in it when we went to go see him right after the surgery - and there was an unexpected delay that resulted in us waiting around at the hospital for almost three hours.
This is all I can think of right now, but I may add to this later on.