The London public transportation system
is starting a program that issues a badge
and card to people with invisible illnesses.
It’s designed for passengers who have
trouble standing but don’t appear visibly
impaired, like people who have cancer or
epilepsy, so they don’t have to feel
awkward asking for a seat
when they need one. Source
“It’s important to me to show images to my children that reflect their beauty so they can grow up in a world where they look in the mirror — first through their own families, as well as the news, the Super Bowl, the Olympics, the White House and the Grammys — and see themselves,” she said (Beyonce Grammys 2017).
Beyonce’s Grammy performance speaks to gennerational traumas, to womanhood, to mothers and those who give birth to us and who are then punished for the act of pushing us out of their wombs. Her performance speaks to the Divinity within Black bodies, coloured bodies, marginalized bodies that have been taught that God cannot exist within us.
I see those who say her speech was too long, her words self indulgent, her image overated? I ask then, have you really listened and received what she is saying?
Why is it so contreversial for God to exist in the body of a Black Woman? Why is it so contrversial for Black and Brown and Coloured bodies, on who’s very shoulders our societies have long stood on to be built but is overdue in recounciliation and recognition, to embody the Divinity of Motherhood? To speak to that Divinity? And that glorious celebration of that Divinity?
Beyonce, with all her privileges and under privileges is using this platform to tell her story, and through her story to speak to generational healing of those who have been abused and brutalized by the toxicity of colonial masculinity.
It was perfect to me, Divine, and speaks to the reality of Divinity within bodies that embody God within our blood, our sweat, our tears, our triumphs, our healing, the revolutionary reality of our very existence, in a society that would make us invisible. When we become invisible no more.
People need to stop saying being ace is essentially being straight because it just. isn’t. true. I’m not attracted to the opposite gender (which is fuzzy anyway since I’m agender.) I’m not attracted to anyone. I am not catered to by the heteronormative society we live in. Invisibility isn’t a privilege and I just have to say. Unless someone is holding their partner’s hand or have a huge flashing sign saying I’M GAY, most people will assume you’re straight. So stop using that argument. I’m not straight. And I don’t care what you personally believe my sexuality is because your opinion doesn’t matter. You have not lived my life. You have not experienced what I have. You get NO say in what my sexuality is, especially if all you want to do is erase it.
And that’s not even bringing intersectionality into it.
Not because I was having a bad day & not because it was “hard.” I didn’t bawl like a baby I just had to take a deep breath and let a few tears out
Because as a student (a first semester student!!) I had to advocate so damn hard for a patient who apparently, all the staff who are supposed to be mentoring me, have forgotten is a human being.
41 y/o f GSW to the head in 2005, TBI as a result, pretty major cognitive impairment. Came in through our ED when she because aggressive/violent towards her roommate at her group home. Placed on neuro floor because group home refuses to take her back & no beds in psych. Basically no one knows why she lashed out.
Her speech is almost incomprehensible. Unless you PAUSE AND LISTEN.
She’s impulsive unless you PAUSE, LISTEN & give her CHOICES.
I saw her nurse yell, berate, and intimidate her to the point of tears today. (A male nurse who stood over her shouting as she sat on the commode)
I saw a cna yank her arm and not listen when she asked for a procedure to stop.
I saw healthcare providers all day who minimized her, treated her as invisible, pretended she wasn’t there, didn’t matter, and was a burden, while making jokes and rude comments at her expense.
I also saw her smile, laugh, engage me, talk to me about her life, allow me to do a full neuro assessment on her, she got up and went around the unit with me smiling from ear to ear.
When I left today she bawled. She said please don’t leave me with them, don’t leave me with them and I heard her nurse say “she’s getting agitated I’m getting Ativan”
I was disgusted and sad. I spoke up loudly for her all day. I tried to make her feel important. She’s so much more aware than they realize. I engaged her as a person. Perhaps if “they” paused for just one moment to address the anxiety the Ativan wouldn’t be needed.
She’s only 10 years older than me. She’s been bounced around 10 group homes in 10 years since the GSW. She’s not a ward and doesn’t have a guardian, she’s trying to navigate this earth without an advocate, in a society where she is invisible.
I got told today by my instructor that I have a calling for working with the people no one else wants. She says I need to work with castoffs of society. That I have a gift for seeing patients as whole beings not one dimensional diagnoses.
I needed to hear those things from an instructor I respect so much. I do love the weirdos, the rejects, the “annoying” patients, the voiceless, the burdens. Those are my people.
I hope I can continue to grow and become the strong nurse those people need. Keep your cute old men and sweet old ladies. Give me the underbelly.
To all the people shrugging off or downright despising Yurikuma Arashi as disgusting male gaze fetish porn or something: I think you’re entirely missing the point. I think it’s time for me to explain you a thing, gaugau!
Yurikuma is one of the works of the brilliant but notorious Ikuhara, known for anime like Utena and production work on bigshot yuri-approved Sailor Moon. He’s said time and time again that he will write lesbian characters and yuri relationships into his stories, mostly for the reason that it usually does not detract from the story at hand, allowing him to build a great story without just romance to it to create substance.
You see, Ikuhara uses his stories to make points, and it’s up to us to try and figure them out. Sure, they’re cryptic, but it’s a fun and a wild ride for us as viewers, and that’s something I refuse to take for granted. With Utena there was a lot about adolescence and some important points about various other things that I’m too tired to think about right now, and with Sailor Moon it was a little more of proof that lesbians could be incorporated into a show for a relatively younger audience in a healthy relationship that didn’t define them wholly as people, amongst other things.
And in Yurikuma, Ikuhara makes perhaps his most poingant point yet. It’s all about you guys. Yep, all of you. Why? Because it’s a cleverly made criticism of both the anime industry, and society as a whole, and their treatment of lesbianism.
Society tries to stay inconspicuous, or invisible. Society follows trends. Those who break the trends pay the price.
From the beginning, the girls who are excluded are those who choose to love as they wish. Metaphors aside, it’s pretty clear that they exclude girls for loving other girls, causing girls like those that Life Sexy spies on to keep their love under lock and key. Many even confuse friendship for love, or at least mask love under the guise of ‘friendship‘, like Yuriika does.
Not only is exclusion a key factor, but the fact that the Yuri Court is under the supreme control of Life Sexy certainly is no coincidence. Yuri as a genre, and lesbianism as a theme or trend in the media, is governed by the laws of eroticism and sex, much more than is the case for gay males or those of another sexuality or gender. From the beginning, we have been both loved and hated by you.
We are lovedin the sense that we are seen as objects of lust in the eyes of men,but hatedin the fact that we exist and yet are not willing to become objects of their affection and so break the rules of society.
You see it all the time. When a new yuri anime comes along, the first general reaction is either ‘is it some male gaze bullshit‘ or ‘regardless of the content, it’s gotta be male gaze bullshit. ew.‘Both attitudes factor into this, as yuri is so often portrayed for the eyes of those that cannot have us and refuse to acknowledge our sexuality that we automatically believe that everything yuri is male gaze and nothing is ‘real‘. That’s how far it’s gone. Don’t believe me?
I was sat in front of the TV with my mum once, flicking mindlessly between two music channels out of boredom. One was your standard near-naked twerking sorta deal, the other was a storytelling sort of music video with two girls falling in love. When the two girls kissed, fully clothed and innocently in love, my mum said that the other video, where girls were writhing nearly-naked around a single guy, was more ‘decent’ and less ‘male-gaze-y’. Now doesn’t that tell you something.Not to say that wearing little clothing and twerking isn’t ok, but to say that one video was clearly meant to be sexual whilst the other was clearly not.
The problem that society has with lesbians but not with gay men so much is one that has arisen out of misogyny. Somewhere along the line somebody thought that lesbians were clearly not lesbians, and in fact were ready to pounce onto the ‘right guy’ when the time came, and unsurprisingly it caught on. I went on omegle once (for shits and giggles) and the first thing the guy said to me was ‘so lesbian means you’re just hard to get, right?‘
A guy liked me once. He was pretty sweet and I didn’t know him well so I tried to turn him down as kindly as possible, explaining that I liked another girl and was 100% gay. He must have misheard ‘gay‘ as ‘i wanna take it slow‘, clearly, and decided to spam me with promises that ‘we can be friends first‘ and ‘it’s ok to start off slow‘. I deleted his number when it became too much. I’m far from alone, and many other people have had it worse.
My own family and people I thought I knew have fallen prey to this ‘invisible storm‘ in real life, and the ‘wall of severance‘ that separates us from the rest of society is built around false eroticism and misogynistic sexual colonialism.
It may sound like I’ve gone off on a tangent here, but everything that I have said and experienced is ultimately relevant. Why? Because Ikuhara is criticising the society that we live in in Yurikuma Arashi, and the extents that the invisible storm of society will go to in order to exclude and harm those who do not ‘follow social cues‘. When we get to a point where even lesbian love in its purest form is considered enough to make us all criminal-bears, then where the hell did we go wrong? If we can’t break down the wall, we are forever fated to destroy ourselves from the inside.
“Freemasonry is a fraternity within a fraternity—an outer organization concealing an inner brotherhood of the elect. Before it is possible to intelligently discuss the origin of the Craft, it is necessary, therefore, to establish the existence of these two separate yet interdependent orders, the one visible and the other invisible. The visible society is a splendid camaraderie of "free and accepted” men enjoined to devote themselves to ethical, educational, fraternal, patriotic, and humanitarian concerns. The invisible society is a secret and most august fraternity whose members are dedicated to the service of a mysterious arcanum arcanorum.
In each generation only a few are accepted into the inner sanctuary of the Work, but these are veritable Princes of the Truth and their sainted names shall be remembered in future ages together with the seers and prophets of the elder world. Though the great initiate-philosophers of Freemasonry can be counted upon one’s fingers, yet their power is not to be measured by the achievements of ordinary men. They are dwellers upon the Threshold of the Innermost, Masters of that secret doctrine which forms the invisible foundation of every great theological and rational institution.“
“ Feeling invisible comes natural to me. I sit in the quiet corner. what nobody knows is inside there’s a person, who is outgoing, talkative, she loves deep conversations. but she’s scared to come out. she’s scared to talk. Scared of judgement. Scared of rejection. Scared of embarrassment. So I chose not to talk. I sit in the corner with my face hidden in a book. I want her to come out. She wants to come out. But I’m scared. She’s scared. So I stick with being invisible. And she stays unnoticed.”
So many (mostly abled) people talk about disability like it’s something of a family secret, or like it’s something to be ashamed of. They change the topic as soon as it’s brought up.
I’m here to say that it’s 100% okay to talk about disability. In fact, disability needs to be talked about much more. So if someone tries to change the subject, change it right back. Talk about it. Learn from each other.
Disability isn’t something that people should feel uncomfortable about. It’s time for the stigma to end.
A founder of a modern economics. She is famous about her theory that individual’s interest is eventually related to iterest of a whole society due to invisible hand. But, she is upset because people don’t care about her assumed premise that every agent acts with good will.
The conscious and intelligent manipulation of the organized habits and opinions of the masses is an important element in democratic society. Those who manipulate this unseen mechanism of society constitute an invisible government which is the true ruling power of our country. …We are governed, our minds are molded, our tastes formed, our ideas suggested, largely by men we have never heard of. This is a logical result of the way in which our democratic society is organized. Vast numbers of human beings must cooperate in this manner if they are to live together as a smoothly functioning society. In almost every act of our daily lives, whether in the sphere of politics or business, in our social conduct or our ethical thinking, we are dominated by the relatively small number of persons…who understand the mental processes and social patterns of the masses. It is they who pull the wires which control the public mind.