socials 11

Dating Dean Headcannons

I thought I’d do something new to honor the new season! And to keep in the theme of twelves, I’m gonna do 120 headcannons and have 12 gifs!

Dating Dean Winchester would involve:

1. Long rides in the Impala with the windows down and the music up.

2. Night drives.

3. Dean having his hand on your knee or thigh when he drives.

4. Sam ultimately gets booted to the backseat.

5. Dean letting you pick the music sometimes -after he approves it-

6. You and Dean switching off who cooks each day, and on Saturdays you order out.

7. Constantly sending Dean snaps of you.

8. Dean getting increasingly annoyed because he’s right in the next room.

9. He won’t admit it, but he find the filters you use to be cute.

10. You and Sam having to show Dean how to use any social media he has.

11. Watching “geeky” movies with Dean, because you know how much of a geek he is deep inside.

12. Calling him Han as a joke sometimes, and him calling you Leia in response.

13. Sam gets stuck with Chewy.

14. Constantly saving each others lives in hunts.

15. Everyone knows you’re each others weakness and more often than not it’s used against you.

16. Getting an Anti-Possession tattoo to match Sam and Dean’s.

17. Dean always getting super worried when your badly hurt.

18. Imagine how protective Dean is of Sam. He’s even more protective over you.

19. Hugging you tightly during difficult times.

20. Giving Dean hugs and kisses when he needs it. (Which is a lot, especially in the earlier seasons)

21. Always reassuring Dean when he needs it.

22. Reminding him he can’t save everyone.

23. Him breaking down he can’t save you.

24. But this is Supernatural and the boys find a way to get you back.

25. Dean being more protective than ever.

26. Going all out on Holidays to make up for shitty ones in the past.

27. Showing Dean more anime other than Hentai.

28. Anime rom-coms become a guilty pleasure of his.

29. Him giving you a necklace with his birthstone and he has one with yours.

30. Acting like children in the store, much to Sam’s annoyance.

31. Having Dean wrapped around your finger.

32. Laying in bed for hours in the morning because neither of you want to get up.

33. Tickle fights in bed.

34. Stealing his beloved bathrobe.

35.Training with Dean.

36. Kicking his ass the first time.

37. Him never underestimating you again.

38. Showing off to each other during target practice.

39. Showering together afterward.

40. Shower sex.

41. Sex in the back of the Impala.

42. Sex on the Impala. 

43. Rainy day sex.

44. Rough Sex.

45. Soft sex.

46. Wearing Dean’s shirt after.

47. Dean sucks at remembering your anniversary, but then so do you.

48. It’s okay though, because you don’t need a special day to show how much you love each other, cause you do that everyday. 

49. Dean always seeing things that remind him of you and buying them for you.

50. Pranking Sam with Dean

51. Teasing each other constantly. 

52. Falling asleep on Dean’s shoulder.

53. Singing along to music with Dean.

54. Making faces at each other when your bored.

55. Dean kissing your forehead.

56. Playing with Dean’s hands.

57. Dean being your personal heater when you’re cold.

58. Making him grab stuff you can’t reach.

59. Hugs from behind.

60. Stealing Dean’s jackets

61. Binge watching Netflix on nights were neither of you can sleep

62.Buying Dean pies

63. Trying to bake Dean pies

64. Dean flirting with you even though you’re already together

65. Dealing with drunk Dean

66. Drunk Dean being super affectionate

67. Drunk Dean mumbling about his really great girlfriend while you take care of him.

68. Drunk Dean giving you sloppy kisses on your cheek

69. Drunk Dean getting pretty hand-sy, but even drunk he stops when you tell him to.

70. When you’re drunk Dean talks to you very softly.

72. And gives you pancakes with aspirins in the morning.

73. He holds you hair back while you puke.

74. And runs a bath/shower for you.

75. Dean always being really careful with you, because he’s afraid he might break you, no matter how much you tell him otherwise.

76. Finding Dean gazing at you when you wake up sometimes.

77. Tracing over Dean’s freckles.

78. Dean taking you on surprise dates.

79. Trying to scare each other.

80. Pranking each other.

81. Dean being corny sometimes.

82. “Can you leave the room, it’s getting too hot in here.”

83. “I saw the most beautiful girl in my bed this morning.”

84. Making strange things in the kitchen and having each other try it.

85. Dean always reminding you how much he loves you.

86. “Did you see where I put my other boot?”

87. “Dean, can you open this?”

88. “Hold out your hand and close your eyes.”

89.”Dean, I know you’re hiding somewhere!”

90. You and Dean finding a lake near the bunker that you go to sometimes.

91. Skinny Dipping.

92. Resting your head on his shoulder and watching the sunset.

93. Dean playing with your hair.

94. Lip Syncing with Dean.

95. 80s movie marathons

96. Matching sweaters that Dean hates, but wears them for your sake.

97. Snowball fights.

98. Roasting Marshmallows.

99. Eating bags and bags of Halloween candy.

100. Dean can literally clear out a whole room a demons by himself if it means saving you.

101. Sharing knowledge of Supernatural things the other doesn’t know about.

102. You and Dean are often married while undercover.

103. Dean letting you drive Baby.

104. Gabriel flirting with you as just another way to annoy Dean.

105. Even when he had the mark Dean never hurt you.

106. Anyone who is Dean’s enemy is your and vice versa.

107. Both of you getting jealous of past lovers.

108. Getting Dean a kitten, because if he doesn’t like dogs your convinced he must like cats.

109. Dean begrudgingly becoming fond of the cat.

110. Him naming it Pantera, after the band.

111.  Dressing the cat up, much Dean’s disapproval.

112. Asking Dean to teach you how to fix cars.

113. Dean carrying you to bed when you fall asleep in the library.

114. Giving Dean some covers when you wake up in the middle of the night and realise you stole them all.

115. Dean always being supportive of you.

116. Randomly doing nice things for each other.

117. Old people looking on at the two of you fondly.

118. Dean telling you your beautiful. 

119. Asking Dean about various scars.

120. Never having to question your love for each other.

Send me two characters or more and a prompt and I’ll write you a short fic

1. “Are you drunk?”

2. “You’re too young to hate the world.”

3. “I don’t want your pity, I want your absence.”

4. “We’re designed to be disposable.”

5. “There’s blood on my/your hands.”

6. “Could you be any louder?”

7. “I’ve never killed anyone before.”

8. “Your smile is not as bright as it used to be.”

9. “Don’t call me that!”

10. “Please don’t make me socialize.”

11. “Same time tomorrow?”

12. “I’ve been buying the wrong underwear.”

13. “How can anyone not be afraid of love?”

14. “You’re supposed to talk me out of this.”

15. “That was a perfect example of how not to do things.”

16. “If you want, we could go together?”

17. “I have contemplated becoming a hermit.”

18. “I’m alive… I can tell because of the pain.”

19. “Maybe you’re not thinking hard enough.”

20. “It’s 8:30, I have a hangover and you’re annoying me.”

21. “No one has a heart of stone.”

22. “Can I open my eyes yet?”

23. “So much for not getting involved.”

24. “I will if you will.”

25. “My nightmares are usually about losing you.”

26. “I didn’t intend to kiss you.”

27. “Can we go someplace high so I can jump off it?”

28. “I didn’t lose it, I just misplaced it.”

29. “Prepare to be amazed.”

30. “I’m fine.”

31. “Where’s your God now?”

32. “I’d ask you to stay but I don’t like you.”

33. “Something about you makes me want to commit extreme violence.”

34. “It’s not like I missed you or anything.”

35. “You look like a monkey who’s been strategically shaved.”

36. “Everything was fine, until you showed up.”

37. “Can you just shut up for five minutes?”

38. “Never mind, the moment’s gone.”

39. “You’re an idiot. I’ve met smarter sandwiches.”

40. “I believe you dropped this.”

41. “What are you doing in my house?”

42. “I don’t know if I should kiss you or slap you.”

43. “Why are you/we whispering?”

44. “If you really loved me there wouldn’t be a choice.“

45. "I think I made a mistake.”

46. “Shut up, I am a delight!”

47. “I can think of a million places I’d rather be right now.”

48. “Now, just hold on a diddly darn minute.”

49. “It sounds like you’re trying to convince yourself.“

50. "Why does anyone have to be naked?”

Send me a number and I’ll say what I prefer!

1. Fancy or casual?
2. Closet or dresser?
3. Hot or cold?
4. Meat or veggies?
5. 1 pillow or multiple?
6. 1 blanket or multiple?
7. Organized or messy?
8. Games or books?
9. Hide and watch or stand up and fight?
10. Shy or social?
11. Soda or juice?
12. Handheld or console?
13. Light or dark?
14. Scary or Happy?
15. Movies or restaurant?
16. Car or bus?
17. Carpet or tile?
18. Love or wealth?
19. Markers or colored pencils?
20. Independent or dependent?
21. Hat or necklace?
22. Poster or calendar?
23. Pain or death?
24. Science or math?
25. Shower or bath?
26. Socks or slippers?
27. Chips or crisps?
28. Secretive or open?
29. Friendship or romance?
30. Talent or skill?

Generation gaps

The people I follow and talk with on Tumblr tend to be either younger than me (high school and college) or older (thirties and up). The generational differences are fascinating, and I think commentators talk too much about technological generation gaps and not enough about social changes.

But maybe that’s because I have similar technological experiences to younger people, but similar social experiences to older ones.

I’ve used a computer since before elementary school, (primitive) mobile phones and the internet since elementary school, video games since middle school, and blogs since high school. I was free to walk and bike around my neighborhood any time without supervision, but beyond that, my parents scheduled and drove me. I didn’t grow up with tablets or smartphones, but smoothly integrated them into my life in college. Any differences in technology and freedom of movement from today’s high school and college students seem like more of a matter of degree than kind.

On the other hand, I comparatively grew up in the dark ages regarding disability, gender, and sexuality. 

The first minority gender or sexuality I ever heard of was being gay or lesbian, and that’s when I was about ten. My parents, although accepting of LGBT people, seemed to see it as “something that happens to other people.” They assumed that when I grew up, I would marry a man and have children. 

As a child, I never met other people with allergies, sensory sensitivities, or motor delays–let alone ADHD or autism. ADHD was just gaining popularity as a diagnosis, and people, including my parents, worried that it was being used as an excuse to medicate kids who didn’t fit in and caused too much trouble. Autism spectrum diagnoses wouldn’t hit it big for about another decade, and childhood bipolar disorder even later. I knew one child who got therapy–child psychology and psychiatry hadn’t become a booming business yet. Basically, neurodivergence was invisible–either you were so disabled you lived at home under lock and key or in an institution, or you passed well enough to be just an eccentric.  The local public schools were ideologically unwilling to support gifted students, and had never heard of twice exceptionality.

We had no legal trouble with homeschooling, but were ostracized by the neighborhood and most of the people we knew. Perhaps for good reason: all the homeschoolers we met (through local homeschool groups) were doing so because of religious beliefs or strict health food/supplementation regimens. They were trying to shelter their children from a sinful or unhealthy world, not provide for educational needs that public schools couldn’t meet. We did finally meet someone who started a gifted homeschooling group; that was the first family we met who homeschooled for educational reasons. Now, homeschoolers are everywhere, and the percentage not on the “lunatic fringe” is growing. 

Compounding the narrowness, I spent a lot of my childhood in an overwhelmingly white, Christian suburb, full of what the Myers-Briggs Typology refers to as “Sensing-Judging” types. You didn’t have to be that different to be different there.

I grew up as “the only kid who ___” and “the weird one” in many ways. Sometimes I felt proud, sometimes embarrassed, sometimes lonely. I still don’t know what it’s like to feel normal, or to take for granted when entering a new group that I will “fit in.” The range of ways to be a “normal person” was breathtakingly narrow–especially in terms of neurotype, gender, and sexuality. 

I grew up without the conceptual tools to understand myself, my family, or most of the people using Tumblr today. I had to find or invent these. Now, people can read blogs and see themselves reflected back. They can learn new concepts to understand themselves, and language to explain themselves others. Disability blogs like this were just taking off when I was in college, on sites like Blogspot and Livejournal. People older than me, like Mel Baggs or Kassiane, talk about a time when there were only message boards. Now, disability blogs are everywhere.

When I see people attacking others for their word choice or self-descriptions on Tumblr, I’m reminded that people now are growing up very differently. I think many take for granted the existence of language, communities, and even general awareness that their type of person exists. People who make choices that seem reactionary today were stumbling around in the dark without support trying to understand the most complex things imaginable–human minds, bodies, and relationships. Of course they got some things wrong. They also may have experienced being whatever neurotype, gender, or sexuality they were differently, because they lived in such a different world and understood themselves so differently. I imagine those born ten years after the current Tumblr teenagers will think today’s teenagers got important things wrong, too. They should feel that way. That’s what happens with social progress. 

I think the best way to accelerate social change is to work together. It only hurts all of us when we splinter into tiny groups that fight each other instead of society’s ignorance and prejudice. I’d like to see older people adopting useful concepts and language younger generations develop, and younger people treating older generations as allies. Honestly, a lot of old fogies just want others to grow up in a better world than we did. (…OK, some of us like to complain, too). 

Patater Week: February 6th-12th

For those who are Patater trash, a whole week dedicated to Kent Parson and Alexei Mashkov!

Feb. 6- Get Together

Feb. 7- Proposal/Wedding Day/Wedding Night

Feb. 8- Fake Dating/Secret Relationship

Feb. 9- Alternate Universe

Feb. 10- Social Media Shenanigans

Feb. 11- Cuddling/Snuggling

Feb. 12- Adopting a Pet Together (Bonus points for including Kit!)

Make sure to use the tag #PataterWeek both here and on AO3, if you’re posting on there. If you have any questions, feel free to ask!

Liam Payne debuts on Billboard's Social 50 Chart

11/3/2016 by Kevin Rutherford

One Direction’s Payne debuts after teasing solo material, joining bandmate Horan, while former 1D member Zayn re-enters the list.

New solo music teased by One Direction’s Liam Payne earns him the top debut on Billboard’s Social 50 dated Nov. 12, starting at No. 17 two weeks after signing to Republic Records.

Payne posted an unnamed excerpt of his new solo material on Instagram Oct. 29, showing off a decidedly raunchier side compared to his tamer boy band days, crooning about making love to a woman. Fans ate it up, with Payne garnering 5.5 million Instagram reactions in the tracking week ending Oct. 30, according to Next Big Sound. Little else is known about the clip of music, though Payne tagged Bibi Bourelly, a singer-songwriter who’s worked with Rihanna and Usher (while releasing her own material), as well as producers Danny Boy Styles and Ben Billions (Beyonce, The Weeknd).

Though Payne’s Social 50 debut is lower than the starts of former One Direction member Zayn (No. 3; Feb. 13) and current bandmate Niall Horan (No. 1; Oct. 15), his fellow One Directioners past and present had full-length new music to promote upon their debuts, unlike Payne, whose current output remains the Instagram-teased music and nothing more.


Maximum cultural development
(Revolutionary mentality)

1. Study oriented: reads, evaluates and debates books, newspapers, magazines and scholarly journals. Excepts the challenges of education.

2. Worker: looks for ways in which to actively work for self may hold a job outside in order to sustain self and family. Self-reliant.

3. Organized and systematic. Efficient and diligent.

4. Progressively collective; conscious of others and cooperative.

5. Family oriented: regards mate as a partner in struggle; loves children. Values trust in relationships.

6. Land conscious: realizes that the only thing that nobody’s making any more of this land.

7. Disciplined: strong, unyielding and energetic.

8. Serious. Practices Fairplay, order and punctuality. Honest and dependable.

9. Analytical and critical.

10. Frugal: buys mainly on a need basis; saves.

11. Social life is developmental and involves children.

12. Creatively aggressive: will dare of the impossible if it is possible.

13. Respects elders.

14. Dislikes incompetence and mediocrity.

15. Fights against black on black crime and understands that it’s root is white on black crime.

16. Loves black art, music and literature.

17. Can give and follow instructions. Encourages experimentation and criticism.

18. Committed to black liberation, local, national and international.

19. Does not use drugs.

20. Politically active. Not crisis oriented Acts on information rather than reacts. Plans for the long term; alert; prepared for change.

21. Self-confident. Respects others regardless of race or culture.

22. Understands the economic forces that control our lives on the local, national and international level.

23. Rational and decisions and actions.

24. Rewards merit and achievement.

Haki Madhubuti
Black men: obsolete, single, dangerous? The Afrikan family in transition
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Social Media

(Feb 11 prompt, @softkent)

(One of these days I’ll actually get them done on time. One day)

“You want to do what?” Nursey asked.

“Change our status on facebook,” Dex repeated.

“Like, our relationship status?”

“Yes Derek, our relationship status. I thought you wanted to tell people.” Dex rolled his eyes at his boyfriend.

“Uh, I do, but you don’t. And you hate facebook relationship statuses.” Nursey stared at Dex. “Did you get bodysnatched or something?”

“No, I just - it seemed practical. The fastest way to tell everyone.” To anyone watching them, it would have looked like Dex was looking at Nursey, but Nursey could tell Dex was focused on a spot just over his shoulder.

“A little impersonal though, right, your words?” Nursey couldn’t help poking at the issue.

“Okay fine, if you don’t want to, we don’t have to.” Dex huffed and crossed his arms.

“No, Dex, I want to,” Nursey reaches across the table to take Dex’s hand. “I’m just confused about why you’ve suddenly changed your mind.”

Dex takes a deep breath. “It’s going to sound stupid.”

“Hey, you can tell me. No judgement zone.” Nursey said soothingly, stroking his thumb across the back of Dex’s hand.

“That would be a first,” Dex snorted. “It’s just, ugh, every time I call home someone is asking me when I’m going to get a girlfriend. Like, when I said I was bisexual, apparently none of them registered the fact that I like guys. Or that I’m dating a guy, because I literally talked about you the entire time I was home at Christmas. So I just… I just want them to see that I’m happy.”

“I make you happy?” Nursey asked, a soft smile on his face.

“Ew Nurse, don’t get sappy,” Dex wrinkled his face in disgust. “I like you, don’t make a big deal about it.”

“I am sappy though,” Nursey declared, dropping a kiss on the back of his hand.

“Ugh,” Dex pulled his hand away from Nursey and wiped it on his pants. “Nurse, we’re like… in public.”

“We’re at the haus, we’re not in public.”

“Same difference.”

“Sorry,” Nursey apologized. “I’ll keep the sappy to a minimum.”

“Not-” Dex tilted his head, thinking. “Not a minimum, just like, in private? I like it, I just… like when it’s just us.”

“I can do that.”

“Thanks. So, facebook status?”

“Sure, whenever you want. How about you change it and I can just confirm it or whatever?” Nursey suggested.


“Hey,” Nursey bumped him with his shoulder. “You make me happy too.”