socialise

The truth is…
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Aries:

  • is a sassy bitch, let’s just accept that. always answering back, they’d even answer back to any god (may it be diplomatically or sarcastic)
  • always give people cheap gifts not because they’re broke but because they think that’s the only standard or gift you deserve
  • has a huge disgust with humanity so they either get delusions of controlling the world or they avoid/limit their human interactions
  • their logic is out of this world: it’s either you get mesmerised and see a new horizon or you end up getting crazy because you can’t get it
  • beneath all their layers, they’re one of the smartest and hardworking people out there… always willing to help you study/work/etc.

Taurus: 

  • their trigger word is literally food and all its proper nouns. they’d sell their souls for a ceaseless supply of food and they’d won’t regret
  • literally possessive as fuck, aphrodite lives in their titties cos they dun calm down if they see someone circling around their man/woman.
  • obsessed with getting shit organised y'all don’t even know. they will never move unless a very detailed blue print is in front of them.
  • they will keep hustlin more than a twenty of you combined. they know and prioritise how precious time and money are.
  • when they say they can’t do an errand/plea, dun quickly believe them at all cost or you’ll get a small surprise: they’ll do it after some while. 

Gemini: 

  • know that archetype of a kind person who’ll obey & follow you to the death but has so many fucking personal motives? yep, that’s gemini.
  • their knowledge and expertise are vastly scary; multilingual people and historians. they aint called GEMinis for nothing, hunty.
  • for them, it’s a dog-eat-dog world. if you don’t match their pace, you’re basically out of their surviving list, whatever list that is.
  • insanely in love and proud making other people swoon over them (oh the oozing warmth of being loved and respected) but says otherwise
  • bad at remembering dates but that dun mean they love you less or you’re not that important to them, just believe in them.

Cancer:

  • they dun talk much but best believe me, whenever they speak it’s either they gon hand you your ass or roast the living shit out of you
  • are all terminally sarcastic bless their souls. they don’t have time for your bullshit, they don’t even have time for their own.
  • they will never side or they will avoid picking a side. they’re the best people to rant cos they will literally get where you coming from.
  • one of the sweetest and loving signs out there but for some reason, they tend to have some problems making real long time friends.
  • always look brooding or even out of reach. that’s cos they’re afraid words/actions won’t come/show they way they really want them too.

Leo:

  • so demure but once you get close to them/they know they have the upper control, they will fucking nag & bully everything
  • but after the searing primadonna stage, these lions are all just smol precious clumsy beans who must be protected at all cost
  • knows the traditional ways or romancing someone, like the flowers and cupcakes and shy yet formal asking you out for events/dates
  • easily clouded by false/dark ideas and hard to snap them out of it. it takes another brave alpha who can help them out of the cray
  • but don’t be fooled, these lions can be tamed and would be willing to tag along the right people for the rest of their life line.

Virgo:

  • dont slack off in front of them, they will give your ass a whoop back to reality. trust me, they give so much vigour and moral to people.
  • not easily scared of pretty much anything because they always think about the story/reason behind it, for this one, what made it scary?
  • they can get super fucking salty and shady and they aint afraid of being salty and shady, for a good or bad reason whatsoever.
  • they never fail to always see the bigger picture, that also means they’re not afraid to do everything to get to the biggest picture.
  • loves having fun and enjoying life without taking advantage of things or forgetting to be humble and well-grounded.

Libra: 

  • too pure for this world but these people have a skyrocketing tendencies to becoming a yandere (lol they probably already are)
  • their aesthetic perfectionism sickness is practically beyond all earth signs combined: they’ll set fire on anything lower than their standards.
  • too kind and angelic we dun deserve them. we also dun deserve their life sucking flirtatious killer charms. we just dun deserve then all in all
  • these bitches love to meddle with other people’s business tho. either they save the situation or aggravate it, there’s no in between
  • even with all the hate on their kind, libra people just keep their heads up and tryn’a understand and accept other people’s view of them.

Scorpio: 

  • for the vagillionth time, y'all have to remember that these “””devil children””” are all just 4D weird bastards who easily space out.
  • the sexy airheads we all get from anime. but dun cross them & their fambam, they won’t think twice about apathetically cutting you.
  • everyone’s fairy godmother/father cos if they love you & they see you deserving, they will lavish &treat you so great. aint lying, dis the truth
  • willing to learn from others but is obsessed with “i am the most mature one so my wisdom is the greatest and the only effective one”
  • so many layers, like they’re literally never-ending. but after plucking all these layers out, you’ll see a fragile marshmallow baby inside 

Sagittarius:

  • they need like a dozen of hobbies as outlets for their energy. if they don’t get the energy out, they become a host of a time bomb.
  • insatiably absorbs all information of all kinds like a baby on his mom’s chest or a tic sucking out blood from a fresh catch: you choose
  • no one really knows if they’re showing genuine reaction/emotion cos you don’t know if they’re forcing it or not or they dun even know too
  • is the jack of all trades cos they have so many talents but can’t focus and drill hard on one cos they jump from different talent to another
  • may come arrogant but always they always want everyone to be happy and enjoying the time, probably more than how libra wants it.

Capricorn: 

  • always late on almost everything. insomniac children of the night, so no matter how dire the situation is, they’ll always be late. deal with it.
  • condescending as fuck cos they know they can do pretty much anything please beware they are vicious machiavellians
  • obsessed with segregating people in their lives; they don’t want their friends to socialise with their family, this group with that group, etc.
  • avoids and gets easily tired with human interaction, but is magically brilliant with human interaction. their magic? idek ask them.
  • after you pass their scrutinising sifting of people in their lives, you’ll just see a funny, dependent, happy-go-lucky, perverted side of them

Aquarius:

  • also don’t like taking sides, will never jump onto anything without all the cards are seeable, yet also not afraid to speak up in the end.
  • obsessed and deranged with their fanaticism of any horror shit idk how they can carry on with a fine stomach after all that scary jazz
  • can never be controlled, they might seem controllable or easy to manoeuvre but spare your ass and don’t be fooled by this sign
  • disappears and reappears at their own will, and doesn’t care about the consequences of their absence, they literally don’t care.
  • in the end of the day, aquarius has no fucks to give any of the other signs. they don’t ask for a lot and they just wanna be left alone.

Pisces:

  • are quiet little shits who looks way more gorgeous when they’re mad cos they just turn fiendish but still in a cute way, like wtf how???
  • needs a fuck ton of guidance from older or more mature people cos they tend either the laziest, silliest, or most annoying things ever. 
  • how fucking annoying it is whenever they pull out the victim card like dude shove that thing back where it belongs or so I will.
  • are actually sensible people, kinda shocking for some but it’s the truth cos these people stay in tune with their emotions, they dun run away
  • break them to pieces and you’ll see a child needing to be loved and wanting to know what are the things that they can improve and learn

My Rich American Family

by reddit user aliceinvunderland

I am part of a rich American family, in a rich American suburb, full of rich American people.

Life is hell.

Every morning, me and the rest of the Wives get up at 5:00am sharp. Fifteen minutes of jogging around the neighborhood, five minutes in the shower (set to cold), twenty minutes for hair and makeup, and then five to get dressed. If we’ve managed that in time, meaning no later than 5:45am, we might be allowed solid food with our coffee.

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For most species, bared teeth are a threat, even on earth. So it shouldn’t be very surprising that most alien species tend to respond poorly to a human smiling at them. Humans who spend a lot of time around aliens do their best to train themselves out of the habit, adopting (as much as they are physically capable) the expression of enjoyment used by whatever species they socialise with most. But it’s really hard not to smile when you see another human… Harder still not to smile back when one smiles at you. This leads to the common misapprehension that humans generally don’t get along with strangers.

When, by whatever series of events, a crew or team with a human member acquires an additional human or two, the atmosphere gets tense for a few cycles while the nonhumans wait for some kind of establishment of hierarchy to take place. Some humans humor the assumption and perform a mock battle in some public area - these are generally those who have encountered the scenario before and became tired of trying to explain.

Rap battles, trivia contests, simple sports matches and other activities that a human would recognise as popular recreational activities often feature in these dominance rituals. The participants find that the performance serves as a great ice breaker and so the practice is becoming increasingly common. It is likely, therefore, that the misinformation about human social strata will persist.

me, at home: i’m wasting my life what the fuck am i doing i should be outside and doing things i hate myself
me, outside: god i can’t wait to go home and take a nap,, this is terrible and stressful and everyone’s judging me and i want to just lay down and listen to music and stare at the wall i Hate this and myself

  • me playing older bioware games: Why do my companions always stay in the same room all the time I wish they'd go visit each other.
  • me playing Andromeda: Where the hell are my companions now why aren’t they where I left them how dare you socialise without me
Mars; Agitation, Aggression, Anger
  • Mars in Aries: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by control, restriction, judgement, injustice, lack of following own will, lack of sex, inadequate mental and physical stimulation
  • Mars in Taurus: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by lack of adequate rest/sleep, financial and employment pressures, over strenuous obligations, lack of creative expression
  • Mars in Gemini: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by lack of mental stimulation, boredom, lack of change, restriction, controlling relationships, frustration due to inadequate sleep or rest
  • Mars in Cancer: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by unstable family dynamics, moods of severity that have a long recovery period, lack of stability when looking into the future, internal anxieties
  • Mars in Leo: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by self contempt, lack of rewarding relationships, invalidating relationships, inadequate creative expression, lack of sex, heartbreak
  • Mars in Virgo: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by self consciousness and ricocheting defeatist thoughts, mental overload, disharmonious surroundings, lack of focus, lack of routine or employment/stability, lack of sex
  • Mars in Libra: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by inability to assert one's own needs so there is the development of irritation at others because others are seen to be selfish, injustice, unexpressed emotion
  • Mars in Scorpio: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by unconscious events, traumas and memories, feeling misunderstood or judged by people they trust, lack of alone time, restraining relationships, lack of meaningful sex, betrayal
  • Mars in Sagittarius: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by occlusion to freedom, being surveilled or scrutinised, dishonesty, lack of physical movement and fresh air, inadequate mental stimulation and boredom, control
  • Mars in Capricorn: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by unexpressed emotions and needs, feelings of inadequacy or that they have nothing to show for their work, lack of appreciation, the feeling of being stuck in a rut
  • Mars in Aquarius: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by imposed restrictions and lack of freedom, inadequate mental stimulation, generous feelings that are difficult to process suitably, controlling relationships
  • Mars in Pisces: Agitation/Aggression/Anger triggered by feelings of being taken advantage of, passive and unexpressed feelings of frustration toward others, lack of sleep, over socialisation, constantly repairing others who won't help themselves
  • -C.
Gem Class Analysis: Pearls

Prior to the recent Steven Bomb, some of the most divisive fan theory characterisations have been for Blue and Yellow Pearl. Theories would range from their having a close and intimate relationship with the Diamonds, to their being physically abused, to it sometimes being a mix of both.

And we can understand the source of what seems like a contradiction. That these Pearls, in particular, are serving the Diamonds directly puts them in a very privileged position, not exactly in the modern sense of the word.

That Pearls are in such close contact with the ruling elite makes them privy to the goings on of upper Homeworld that other gem classes would remain ignorant to. At the same time, they’re also living objects, dehumanised and treated as utilities rather than individuals.

It’s a unique position of power and powerlessness and, unconsciously, we as fans pick up on that; hence, the muddled characterisations of what their relationship with their Diamonds would have been like.

In the latest Steven Bomb, we got to see more of all of these characters and we know now that their relationship isn’t one or the other but somewhere in between.

“Oh no. It was very serious. When I still served Homeworld, I saw it myself.”

In that regard, I want to talk about how Diamonds and their Pearls relate to each another, and look at the implications this has for our very own Pearl, who admits she served Homeworld at one point.

1. The function of the Pearl class

To get this out of the way as early as possible, Pearls are being dehumanised. It’s not right to limit an entire class of gems to objects and prevent them from having individual inclinations, when other gems can manage some level of individuality. Pearls are individuals with their own capabilities, thoughts, and feelings.

Even before we knew about the Diamonds, the way other gems like Peridot initially treated our own Pearl showed us that Pearls are one of the lowest classes on Homeworld.

Words like “owner,” “stand there,” and “hold your stuff” were being thrown around. Not much was expected from them.

In light of all the new information received, a consolidated understanding of what Pearls were expected to do on Homeworld would help in the succeeding discussions. And what we know is that Pearls were gems created specifically to serve particular individuals. This service did not entail doing a job like other gem classes.

Other gems serve a specific function in servicing gem society as a whole. Like builders, soldiers, technicians, and leaders.

This public- or collective-oriented approach to organising gem society makes a lot of sense considering the way the gem life cycle is perpetuated.

The reason we don’t have gem classes specifically for private affairs, like the home life, is because their concept of “home” is much different from ours. Gems are born as full adults; they don’t need to eat or sustain themselves physically. That means a lot of our human necessities don’t apply to them.

That in turn puts the service sector of Gem society, where Pearls are, as something extraneous to functioning. 

It’s much the same for social constructs. Would the Ruby Squad consider themselves a “family?” Probably, but not in the way we understand the word. Instead of families, gems are groups into classes. And in these classes they socialise each other on what it means to be the gem they are.

The best example of this would be the soldier gems, who train each other and depend on each other in missions.

Leggy, the newbie “just born yesterday,” according to Rebecca Sugar’s early sketches of the Rubies, was being oriented by her more senior teammates.

Even though we felt threatened by the Ruby Squad, and Eyeball in particular, Leggy had absolutely no fears hiding behind the latter and it’s more than clear their shared experiences made them more cohesive as a unit.

In that way, gems don’t seem to spend a lot of time with gems outside their class.

The very “function” of Pearls is very different from that of other gems. Their work is relegated inward into the private sphere. They attend to very specific individuals. They are always with gems who aren’t like them.

And the key to this is the value system on Homeworld.

I talk about the utilitarian nature of Homeworld a lot of the time. So in a society in which utility is one of the key aspects, having work that is visible, like the creation of buildings or the colonisation of planets, puts a high premium on certain types of gems.

Service is invisible.

It’s not as easy to measure the impact of telling people they’re great everyday has on the rest of their lives. But this is the work Pearls do. Their work makes Pearls appear like they’re of even less use, which in turn puts them lower down in the eyes of individuals.

It’s very similar to how the work of medical nurses wasn’t recognised as legitimate until very late on in the history of medicine. Nurses comforted patients, checked on them daily, and attended to them, while doctors stepped in for a diagnosis and prescribed the treatment plan.

Because one involved something tangible and the other involved the daily grind of caring for another human being, the “usefulness” of latter was taken for granted.

It was (and in many places still is) very difficult to quantify the effects of their contribution and they were viewed lowly.

2. Servicing the Diamonds

Now to the specific question: What exactly do Pearls do?

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Mega Vocabulary List

Ready for the ultimate challenge? If you’ve been following from the start, then this year’s worth of vocabulary shall prove a mighty challenge for you - see how many words you can remember. Otherwise, if you’re new, here is a very long list of vocabulary to get you started! Good Luck! 

  • : Dream
  • 여행: Travel
  • 시험: Exam
  • 계획: Plan
  • 찾다: To find
  • 기분: Feelings
  • 쉽다: To be easy
  • 고민: One’s worries
  • 의자: Chair
  • : Car
  • : Book
  • 탁자: Table
  • 도시: City
  • 건물: Building
  • 잡지: Magazine
  • 나라: Country
  • 가방: Bag
  • 선생님: Teacher
  • 나무: Tree
  • 창문: Window
  • : Door
  • 의사: Doctor

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The 5 ingredients for a happy parrot.

When owning a bird, we must remember they aren’t domesticated over thousands of years the way cats and dogs are.
They can however adapt to living in a human environment if given a balanced daily routine, filled with things to help bring out behaviours they are naturally created for.

These include;

1. Exercise:

Giving your bird a range of options through participating in daily activities such as flight, foraging, training, playtime.
Out of cage time is simply the single most important thing you can do for your bird.

Teaching them how to navigate flight around a secure home with lots of encouraging landing opportunities is the best, most natural form of exercise for your parrot. It also introduces them to reaching certain boundaries and feeling confident moving above them.
Foraging is another natural and stimulating way to keep your birds active. Keep in mind your parrot will have to learn how to use certain foraging items from you teaching them through encouragement and simple step by step routines.
Training your bird to step up onto your hand, a perch, recall (come to you when called) can assist with flight training as well as everyday activities.
Playtime with certain toys is a fun part of your birds physical development and should be an active part of training, recall and everyday routines.

2. Diet:

A healthy, balanced diet filled with variety can be exciting to your bird. It’s giving the options of extra nutrients with fruits, veggies, grains, sprouts, nuts and various treatsalong with pellets and/or seeds.

Not only can textures, flavours or shapes be a fun way to introduce birds to new foods but it is a stimulating way to conduct environmental enrichment.

3. Tricks:

Are simply fun and entertaining. They help create a mutual trust and offer various problem solving and brain developing tasks to give to your bird.

Clicker Training offers a fun, quick way to help your parrot problem solve and use their brain to learn a trick in a shorter amount of time.

4. Socialisation:

Socialising can vary between individual birds.
It is important to note what appropriate limits are for your parrot and, how best to work on those limitations through training and positive experiences.
Exposing your safely bird to different environments, people and various items can help with confidence and problem behaviours in your parrot.

5. Appropriate housing:

Should always give your bird opportunity to gain some lift or room to move freely, stretch and flap their wings, especially if caged for long periods in a day.
You should offer activities within their cage to prevent boredom, such as foraging, shredding activity, toys and levels withing perches.

Remember, birds aren’t easy pets to look after but if provided with these appropriate Ingredients, your bird will live a happy and fulfilled life.

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MONSTA X members personality psychoanalysis (Ep 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 )

Shownu
Shownu is an authority-type behind the king. People with this kind of personality doesn’t really like to go forward, it is possible for them to feel uncomfortable. He has a lot of stress because he is under pressure that he is the leader. He tries to do well in everything. The good thing is, however, that despite his high levels of stress, he has a low-level of depression. He is good at self-management. He is someone with great responsibility, he is very much like a father-figure. Fathers are not fathers because they are strong (they can be weak). Even if he doesn’t speak much, members should not think “He knows it all” or “He wants to talk”, but ask him first.
Minhyuk
He’s the most outgoing person. He’s an eloquent speaker, a good MC like a leader. He always checks other reactions without realising (after he says something) to check whether it is enough. It is because he’s looking at it not from one angle but the variety of the situation. Minhyuk says he gets stressed if the reaction is not good as expected. The psychotherapist replies there is no weakness until you compare yourself to others. Therefore Minhyuk’s way of thinking is a strength.
Kihyun
Kihyun is a type of member who goes well with any other member. He is a social type. He socialises with people with his body and emotions. He is social with his actions; he has natural skinship. He is also likely to lose his temper. But even if he loses temper, it doesn’t last long. That’s why he is good at cooperating with others. If he gets married, his wife will be happy (because he likes cleaning/taking care). It is okay for Kihyun to keep within bounds (members were complaining he is nitpicky with chores) but he should know the limit. He doesn’t do these tasks to boast, or make himself look good; it is for the sake of Monsta X as a team. It creates synergy in the team, his actions are out of good heart. He wouldn’t do it if he didn’t care about his members (but he does).
Hyungwon
He is a Joan of Arc type who is diligent in everything. He is a good role model; he has spirit. He has guts (Kihyun questions the psychoanalysis). He was the main in Ep.2 (Role as first daughter-in-law). He did not like the role at first, however worked hard regardless and took everything on as his role was. That explains his guts that he had. During Ep.5 daycare center, he comforted and took care of the toddler who was shy of strangers. He did the best he could and pulled through.
Jooheon
Jooheon has a spark type personality. When a spark type and rapper comes together, it’s creates perfect synergy. Since he has so much energy; whatever he does with the members will create more energy; like an igniting equipment. He has charming eyes. During Ep.2-3, his role as a charming dog made him work hard to spice up the atmosphere with comedy and enjoyment. However, such a personality tends to hold grudges.
I.M
I.M looks cute, and has a baby face. (Members disagree, the psychotherapist is talking about his innocent personality). Even though he is the youngest, he’s the most flexible, he’s adapts to change. He is curious. With that, he is ambitious and also wants to achieve many things. He was the mafia during Ep.1, it was exciting for him. His top priority is pleasure. I.M asked about his parents being opposite types (Acting vs. Thinking type) and which he takes after. The psychotherapist replies it’s not important who you take after, but to know that you take after both.
Wonho
Wonho has a Joan of Arc personality. He is emotional and feminine, but with brilliant intellect. These types are often designers (Wonho has good sense of fashion, redoes his own leather jackets & designed Clan Tour jackets). During Ep.5, Wonho was sensitive to kids (played at their level). He has interest in volunteer work (currently does so) to stabilise his mentality; a therapy effect called the Mother Teresa effect. This effect helps to boost self esteem. So Wonho cared for the kids in a way that he wanted to be cared for by others. He also wants a hug from others. The psychotherapist sensed that he was lonely and lost his self-esteeem. Wonho possibly would have seen himself in the kids, aswell (Wonho starts tearing up). Idols want to take care of themselves but they are stressed and tired. If members comfort each other with words and support each other, it will help relieve stress and bring Monsta X together as a whole.

The whole ordeal over Korra not being able to Airbend until much later gives me a lot more emotions than I thought it would. 

Airbending basically demands freedom. The ability to no longer feel constrained, and move without limitations. 

Tenzin says in Book 1 that the Avatar’s most difficult element to learn is the one opposite to their personality. For Aang it was Earthbending, and for Korra it was Airbending. 

I think this is mainly because Korra was immediately trained to be the Avatar, whereas Aang was at least given a chance to be normal. He even earned his tattoos before he was informed of this huge responsibility. He was allowed to be free, which is why Earthbending was such a struggle for him: he had to be grounded (lol) for once. 

For better or worse (perhaps more the latter), Korra was told the “good” news when she was only a baby.

There was a post I saw on Tumblr a while ago, which said that A:TLA is about a human learning to be the Avatar. And TLOK is about the Avatar learning to be human. This is definitely the case. While I won’t compare the two Avatars, Korra went through so much shit when she was a teenager, up until she was in her twenties, and I do think this stems from the fact she was brought up as this weapon, not really as a normal person.

Not to mention the only real friend she had was Naga, until she followed Tenzin to Republic City. I mean, this kid has lived her life under protection, with barely anybody to socialise with, and has had it rammed into her head that she is the Avatar from a frighteningly early age. She has been disciplined harshly, been trained thoroughly, and has had many limitations set on her. It’s no surprise Airbending (the ability to be free) is so foreign to her.

To say Korra is the worst Avatar makes no sense to me. I think it’s pretty fucking remarkable she survived, mentally especially, after everything that has been thrusted at her. It gives the ending of Book 3 a much sweeter note. Korra walks into another world, another life, holding onto a girl who has never once shown her limits. Who literally makes her free.

Things you should know when starting university

1. Don’t worry about making new friends. There will be so many people and opportunities!!

2. There’s nothing wrong with feeling anxious and afraid. Everyone is new and will be feeling scared like you!

3. Don’t try to change yourself or act as if you’re someone different. You’re fine the way you are – so just be genuine and real.

4. It’s normal to feel lonely and to miss the life you had. It’s part of taking risks, and being brave, and moving on.

5. You’ll wonder if you’ll fit, or find a place in this new world. But that will start to change, and soon this new place will feel good.

6. Don’t only socialise, and go to everything you can. Make some space for being alone, and time for quiet solitude.

7. At the same time, make sure you force yourself to move outside your comfort zone, and try new things with others, and see what you enjoy.