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crooksandliars.com
Confused Republicans Upset That Bradley Cooper Seen At DNC
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Republicans are so upset when their perceptions are shattered by those pesky details called FACTS. It’s even more upsetting when someone who they think is ‘one of them,’ on the big screen really isn’t at all.

What makes matters worse is this actor was present at the DNC and not even slated to speak, just sit and watch the far superior-production the Democrats put on for the American people than the GOP. The RNC had to resort to Scott Baio and Antonio Sabato Jr. as celebrity endorsers.

Bradley Cooper, the actor who played Chris Kyle in “American Sniper,” was spotted in the crowd at the Democratic National Convention this last week in Philadelphia. Here’s an example:

I have a list of celebrities that support Socialism I refuse to spend another $ on. Add this one. Boycott them all. http://pic.twitter.com/uOFMkxSvRY

— Nat Shupe (@NatShupe) July 28, 2016

People being mad at #BradleyCooper for having different political beliefs than a role he played is proof we need to invest in education.

— Dave Engler (@DaveEngler) July 28, 2016

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Psychologists describe four kinds of support: (1) instrumental, “to provide the necessities of life”; 2) emotional, ” to give strength to”; 3) appraisal, “to give aid or courage to”; and 4) information, “by providing new facts.”

In forensic psychology, assessing the kinds and levels of support a person has and what types of support must be created will help to evaluate that person’s level of risk for engaging in a criminal act. 

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on correlation vs causation

Contagion is not caused by poverty, but when when the poor can’t afford to go to the doctor, any illness they catch spreads. Likewise, when the poor cannot afford or are not allowed to take time off from work when they or their children are sick, their quality of work suffers, and they make others sick, too. This affects everyone, as contagion is indiscriminate, transmitted by breath and touch, putting a heavier strain on all healthcare systems by letting illnesses fester rather than seeing them dealt with early on. Therefore, by preventing the poor from accessing affordable healthcare - by forcing them to work when sick, and their children to attend school when sick; by pricing them out of the medications they need - you are not only punishing the poor, but weakening the whole community.

Ignorance is not caused by poverty, but when the poor are given a substandard education and barred from accessing the lessons and advantages made freely available to the middle class and the wealthy, ignorance becomes endemic. Likewise, if tertiary education is priced beyond the means of the poor - if poverty becomes a genuine risk for the middle class when they send themselves or their children to university - and there are few or no alternatives to enter a  well-paying field otherwise, then you are ensuring that poverty becomes generational. This affects everyone, as the whole of society is handicapped by the struggles of a group who cannot be helped by superficial measures and who cannot institutionally help themselves, no matter their intelligence, their work ethic or their eagerness to learn. Therefore, by preventing the poor and the middle class from accessing the same level of education as the rich, you are not only punishing those groups, but seeding ignorance, generational poverty and dependence in the whole community.

Trauma is not caused by poverty, but when the poor are made more vulnerable to problems of exploitation, disability, mental illness and abuse for want of services to address those problems - or when those who, through their struggle with these issues, are reduced to poverty for lack of help - then a disproportionate duty of self-care is placed on the poor; a duty which, under the circumstances, cannot possibly be fulfilled. If possessing independent wealth is the only way to afford medication, physical therapy and counselling, or to break free from abusive domestic situations, in a context where all these issues make it either difficult or impossible to work independently, and where in any case such services are so expensive as to be priced beyond the means of even the working poor or working middle class, then you are ensuring these issues become entrenched in poor communities. And this, too, affects everyone, as the whole of society is deprived of the positive contributions such people might otherwise make, as well as suffering the effects of these conditions being left unchecked on a large scale. Therefore, by preventing the poor from fulfilling their need for self-care, you are not only punishing them, but actively fostering harm and trauma within the whole community.

When poverty is viewed as a moral failing for which its victims are solely responsible, the systems that contribute to making poverty inescapable are ignored. A child born in poverty, denied healthcare and a good education, can still succeed in life, but this task is made exponentially harder if the jobs they must work to build their wealth do not pay a living wage; if they must go into debt in order to study; if a single accident of trauma, injury, violence or genetic bad luck is enough to negate their every achievement. A healthy society is not some perfect utopia in which nobody ever suffers hardship, but one in which those who do suffer have access to the necessary support and resources to succeed regardless; one where the game is not fundamentally rigged against a large proportion of the populace by an accident of birth. 

It is cheaper to cure a single sick person at the onset of an illness than to cure a hundred in its extremis.

It is cheaper to provide birth control and sex education to the population than to support the unwanted children they have no choice but to raise.

It is cheaper to educate a child and to provide them with opportunities than to struggle, over and over again, to inadequately shore up the broken foundations their absence creates.

It is cheaper to provide actual homes for the homeless - to enable them to live and support themselves independently - than to continually provide only the resources necessary to let them live in the moment.

It is cheaper to build schools than prisons.

Stop acting as though demonising the poor is a sound financial choice, one made with an eye to what’s best for the whole of society. It’s not. It’s bullshit. Scrapping social support systems is a short-term financial gain enacted at the price of a massive long-term financial loss. It’s unjustifiable, and it needs to fucking stop

Psych2go Article on Confidence

Psychological Tips to Boost Self Confidence!

Self-confidence has an effect on everything we do, from job interviews to first dates. Such an important tool should be kept as sharp as possible so that you’re always on top form and mentally ready for anything. Whether you need to build your confidence from the ground up or simply need to put the cherry on top of the cake, these Psychology based tips to get your self-confidence back on track will do you wonders!

Read more at Psych2go: Psychological Tips to Boost Self Confidence!

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Traumatic events destroy the sustaining bonds between individual and community. Those who have survived learn that their sense of self, of worth, of humanity, depends upon a feeling of connection to others. The solidarity of a group provides the strongest protection against terror and despair, and the strongest antidote to traumatic experience. Trauma isolates; the group re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes; the group bears witness and affirms. Trauma degrades the victim; the group exalts her. Trauma dehumanizes the victim; the group restores her humanity.

Repeatedly in the testimony of survivors there comes a moment when a sense of connection is restored by another person’s unaffected display of generosity. Something in herself that the victim believes to be irretrievably destroyed–faith, decency, courage–is reawakened by an example of common altruism. Mirrored in the actions of others, the survivor recognizes and reclaims a lost part of herself. At that moment, the survivor begins to rejoin the human commonality.
—  Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence–from domestic abuse to political terror
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published earlier this month suggests that, in addition to making us feel connected with others, all those hugs may have prevented us from getting sick. At first, this finding probably seems counterintuitive (not to mention bizarre). You might think, like I did, that hugging hundreds of strangers would increase your exposure to germs and therefore the likelihood of falling ill. But the new research out of Carnegie Mellon indicates that feeling connected to others, especially through physical touch, protects us from stress-induced sickness. This research adds to a large amount of evidence for the positive influence of social support on health.

*hugs our Tumblr followers*

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Will your psychiatrist be prescribing you MDMA?
The use of MDMA-assisted therapy for mental illnesses, particularly PTSD, is inching it's way towards approval by the Federal Drug Administration in the United States. An earlier, relatively small ...

But why use MDMA in therapy? Apparently, this is not because sweating in dark basements while gyrating deliriously to deafening bass is useful exposure therapy for people with PTSD. At this point, the reason the MDMA might be effective (if it is) remains purely conjecture. Although, if you’ve ever been in a sweaty club around lots of people on ecstasy (obviously not you, yourself), then you might have had the pleasure of getting hugged by a really sweaty high person. They might have even told you how much they love you. MDMA can, potentially, make people feel very positive about those around them. And what has research shown is one of the biggest predictors for developing PTSD and success with recovering from it through therapy? The sufferer’s perception of social support… Social support might be the actual active ingredient in this treatment.

Prepubertal stress in the context of social support promotes resilience to age-related cognitive decline

Women are particularly susceptible to adverse environmental influences during puberty. Insults occurring during this period are thought to precipitate adult affective disorders in women, which commonly emerge during aging and are associated with difficulties in emotion regulation and prefrontal cortex-dependent executive function. Indeed, risk factors for late-onset cognitive and affective disorders in women include prepubertal adversity, a time that coincides with PFC maturation

Prior work has shown that the effects of early life adversity may be ameliorated by a supportive social environment, and that social support is a robust predictor of long-term resiliency. Moreover, a mild amount of stress during early life has been associated with improved coping skills in adulthood, suggesting that resiliency is a valuable characteristic aligned with future success. However, the interaction between prepubertal stress, social support and late-onset cognitive decline characteristic of aging remains relatively unexplored. 

The Bale lab developed a mouse model to examine the interaction between prepubertal experience and age-related changes in cognition and stress regulation.

Female mice were exposed to prepubertal chronic variable stress (CVS) from postnatal day 21-34 and either individually housed, to model stress susceptibility (CVS-S), or housed with social interaction, to model resiliency (CVS-R). One year following this stress, mice were examined in tasks to access their cognition and their HPA stress axis reactivity.

The researchers found that aged females displayed significantly lower circulating estradiol than young controls (menopause much?), which was unaffected by prepubertal stress. To examine cognition, the researchers tested spatial memory acquisition and reversal learning on a modified Barnes maze and found that aged female controls displayed a deficit in reversal learning compared to young controls. Interestingly, aged CVS-R females (i.e. social support group) displayed improved performance in reversal learning, suggesting that prepubertal stress with social support promotes resilience. The researchers also found  that CVS-R females have differing PFC gene expression compared to both control and CVS-S females following reversal learning. 

Source: 

K. E. MORRISON, C. N. EPPERSON, T. L. BALE. Programming grit: Prepubertal stress combined with social support promotes resilience even in the face of aging. Program No. 80.10/KK28. 2014 Neuroscience Meeting Planner. Washington, DC: Society for Neuroscience, 2014 . Online. 

Family is the epicenter of Black life, community and culture. For Black LGBT people, its importance is just as great. Studies show that Black lesbian partners parent at almost the same rate as Black heterosexual couples (45 percent and 51 percent, respectively). In comparison to their white counterparts, Black lesbian couples are more likely to be raising children. But without the legal protections that marriage provides, our families are some of our nation’s most vulnerable.

Robbed of the 1,138 federal protections and benefits available to married couples, including Social Security survivors benefits, Medicaid spend-down protections, and workers’ compensation, our Black same-sex families are disproportionately put in harm’s way. And it doesn’t stop there. According to the report LGBT Families of Color: Facts at a Glance, 28 percent of children raised by Black female same-sex couples live in poverty. That’s more than double the poverty rates of children raised by Black married heterosexual parents (13 percent) and white married heterosexual parents (7 percent).

Despite these challenges, Black lesbians continue to care for children in need of a loving and supportive home. Research shows that same-sex partners who become foster parents are more likely to be families of color than among heterosexual married couples. Yet 40 states plus the District of Columbia are silent on fostering by LGBT parents, while two states restrict it. Same-sex couples also face uncertainty about joint adoption in 28 states and are prohibited entirely in 5 other states.

— 

National Black Justice Coalition, “Happy Mother’s Day: Saluting Our Black Lesbian Moms

(via Son of Baldwin)

my-corner-of-insanity  asked:

Hi, my name is Shawna and I'm 16(turning 17 in January). I am 5'4" and sadly over 200lbs. I have been overweight for as long as I can remember. Recently my friend and I have both decided to make a change to get healthy, NOT skinny. My problem is I don't have the time (or permission) to go out and exercise and I'm not allowed to make any meals for myself so I'm forced to dine on something that consists of 7 spoonfuls of grease and zero good veggies. What should I do?

Hi Shawna,

I think it is a very good idea to have recruited your friend to join you in your new lifestyle change since you live in a family that can’t / doesn’t want / doesn’t have the information to make a change. You need support and it’s great having a good friend on your side. 

You can’t choose your family, but you can try to see what’s negotiable: for example, an idea could be to tell your mom that you would like to try to make your own food for 2 weeks.

Don’t tell her you want to lose weight, just tell her: “Mom, I’m turning 17 in January, and I would like to become a bit more independent to learn how to function on my own. I respect and really appreciate all the work you did to raise me (give her compliments / show some gratitude, do not criticize or judge her own life choices), but now I’m coming to a point in my life where I would like to learn to do more things on my own and have a bit more freedom (freedom to choose your own food, freedom to go out and exercise). I think I’m mature enough for you to trust me. I know I won’t disappoint you if you give me a bit more space to make my own choices.”

anonymous asked:

tbh im so glad you're for aro/ace inclusion and MOGAI usage bc most popular sj blogs are against it and even if im nb it just hurts having half of your identity fucked over, so thank you

some of my followers feel exactly opposite, i’ve had some of them that have been with me a loooong while that don’t like that i tend to be for ace/aro people

i get the argument that some ace/aro people shouldn’t use ‘queer’ as an identifier, even if i’m on the fence about that particular issue. i don’t get, at all, the argument that they don’t belong in the MOGAI community.

and in all seriousness, i’m tired of the community arguing about it. i’m tired of the hatred and vitriol. and i’m tired of people that would prefer to sacrifice the ‘A’ to actual cishet people rather than let asexual/aromantic people have it

Letter to My Younger Bi Sisters

This open letter previously appeared in Bi Women Quarterly at BiWomenBoston.org. Summer 2014 • Vol. 32 No. 3 (pages 9,11) and republished with The Advocate magazine: http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2014/09/10/op-ed-open-letter-my-younger-bi-sisters

Dear Bi Sisters Who Are in Their Twenties and Thirties,

In a few months I’ll be 40 years old. In the past 20 years, I have grown more knowledgeable about myself. I faced my fears and anxieties about being rejected by friends and relatives by being an out bisexual. I became more confident about needs: having people in my inner circle who have the skills to be fully engaging and emotionally expressive and who can celebrate my authentic self.

When I was 22, during my first semester at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, my Soul Sister committed suicide; she was 19. I was devastated, emotionally isolated, felt unheard, and grieved alone. During the first few months of my grief, I adopted a lifestyle of healing. I made a promise to myself that I would ask for help when I need it, comfort and soothe myself; create and initiate support systems; and be my own cheerleader.

In keeping with the customs of my Haitian elders, I will give you some unsolicited advice; however, the advice I will share with you is the same advice that I practice myself.

1. Practice radical self-acceptance. Accept who you are at this moment. Accept that you can and will change your internalized biphobia or self-doubt once you decide to accept yourself as you are and connect with others who can support you.

2. Be vulnerable. It has always been part of my personality to express my intellect and feelings. I express my authentic self, show my humanity and vulnerabilities, regardless of whether other people feel uncomfortable about this part of my personality. http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability

3. Develop your emotional support system. Having a community of people who truly get me became even more important to me as the years pass by. My need for emotional support and consistent sisterhood has increased. I found out who my true supportive ride-or-die friends are [http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Ride-or-Die-Chick] when I hit a major life challenge, i.e., gave birth, or experienced a death in my family, financial instability, or illness. Some friends will vanish and return when you feel better and others will step up and have your back during the whole tumultuous journey.

4. Be your own cheerleader. During the times I felt alone, isolated with deep despair, and had suicidal thoughts, I have used this mantra to help me keep breathing: “My ancestors have been through worse; I feel this way because I can’t cope anymore with all this hurt and pain, but I do want to live. I need to find new ways to cope with life and I will ask a professional for help.” That gets me through another day. [http://www.wingsfortheheart.com/self-esteem-being-your-own-cheerleader.htm] and 1-800-273-8255, National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

5. Save your emotional energy – stress causes physical pain. There have been many times when I felt I was emotionally safer when I was in the closet because then I didn’t have to deal with the anxiety and frustration of receiving the silent, staring, or deer-in-headlights treatment or be exposed to ignorant biphobic questions after saying the word bisexual. I learned that I don’t have to explain and re-explain my culture, race, or sexual identity to anyone. It’s not my job to repeatedly educate, coach, or mentor others to understand me. People are responsible to do their own work. This article is geared towards doing work on white privilege but can also be applied to heterosexism. Doing the Work: Unearthing Our Own White Privilege by Maggie Potapchuk. http://www.mpassociates.us/pdf/DTW.pdf

6. Don’t give up on romance. You get wiser about growing your romantic garden as an out bisexual. Throughout the past 20 years I learned more about what type of relationships I needed and what type were toxic to me. I got better at clearly defining what I wanted in various types of relationships. Here are some weeding tips that have helped me throughout the years.

A. Make a list of what you want in a relationship and what qualities and emotional skills you desire in a partner. Mentally check off whether that person fits your needs.

B. Don’t force yourself on people. Look for others who are engaging and are equally interested in wanting to be with you.

C. When a person says, “I’m busy,” on a regular basis, take that as a sign that they may not make time for you, their time management skills are lacking, and they just don’t have the skills to make you a priority.

D. If you are romantically or sexually interested in someone, let them know. Tell them: I really like you, I’d like to spend more time with you and get to know you better. Over time, ask them open-ended questions. Ask: Are you dating anyone else right now, are you married or in a committed relationship? How do you feel about bisexuals? How do you feel about public displays of affection? How do you feel about dating cross culturally? How do you feel about our age difference? What are you like when you feel angry or frustrated? How do you release your stress? How do you practice safe sex? Yes, some of these questions sound corny and you might feel awkward asking them, but hey, you said them and now they’re out there. You just have to sit back and listen to their responses.


Gwendolyn is the founder of Boston’s BIWOC, Bisexual Woman of Color, an online and in-person support and discussion group. She is also a writer, librarian, mental health advocate, and vegan personal chef. For more information: https://www.facebook.com/BIWOC.Community or biwocinfo@gmail.com

The 'Cold Sore' Down Under

Here’s a little story that I’ve been waiting to write down. It has been boiling and simmering and it has to come out now.

I just think that people should start reading hard facts than believing rumours. So you were told that your friend caught the cold after swimming in the pool contaminated by someone who has it? And you believe that story? STUPID. You can only get it when you FUCK the hell out of her that’s why they call it STD. 

You don’t get it by sharing towels, or drinking from the same cup of coffee, or sitting on the same sofa as she does. The virus don’t and cannot survive in CHLORINED water in the pool! She suffers from a norm that says she’s sick when in fact giving her stress by thinking she’s dying is just making it worst. She’s NOT dying. It’s just an incurable disease like what you’d get if you have severe acne that won’t go away. But this one’s worst because it attacks her nervous system so she can get flu-like symptoms and have headaches and backaches. 

So when all she asked for is a little bit of support you don’t shun her away. You should stay and be her friend and LISTEN. You don’t go running around and telling everyone you know that she has caught the bug. It’ll only backfire you anyway. Telling people other people’s little secrets shows that you’re an untrustworthy attention seeking WHORE. 

On the contrary, if you are no longer friends with your ‘sick’ friend, you still have to honour the promise you have made to keep her good name from the social stigma. It’s the unwritten code. But obviously you’re too much of a Borderline to understand basic respect.

beneaththepalemoonlight:

Apparently 1 in 8 people in Australia have herpes. 1 in 8. And of the people suffering from this condition 80% of them are NOT aware of it. So I tried to imagine this - out of 40 of my friends, 5 people have herpes, and out of that 5 only 1 person is aware they have it. I just thought out of all the people I know, there must be a number of people suffering from it, yet I am not aware of any and this saddened me.

My heart goes out to all Herpes sufferers out there. 

anonymous asked:

Just dropping in to let you know your constant support on social media to keep the positivity about DC's extended universe and its films going throughout these years has been noted. By a lot of *people*... who appreciate your help. ;)

tell affleck if he wants to adopt me he should come straight to me, he doesn’t need to play these games through anons