obviousdestruction asked:

my two "best friends" are ignoring me because I mentioned I don't support Bernie sanders because of his socialism and I support trump. what are your thoughts on this?

I wouldn’t support Trump because he’s the same as Bernie Sanders.

Both favor a single payer, socialist style, healthcare system.

Both blame unemployment on immigrants.

Both oppose free trade. Bernie. Trump.

Bernie suggested taxing the wealthiest at 90% 

Trump suggested similar.

Let’s be clear, here: If cis men were capable of getting pregnant, the right wouldn’t be so viciously opposed to abortion rights. If cis men were capable of getting pregnant, there would be an outcry about how they deserve to be able to control their bodies and make informed decisions about how, when, where, and whether they get pregnant, and there would be staunch social support for abortion on demand and without explanation or apology. Because that’s how society works. Society is sexist.

But society is also cissexist, and it’s very bound up in notions about gender that simply aren’t true — and it’s very specifically wrapped up in genital essentialism. Woman=vagina and man=penis, and women are fertile because they have eggs, while men are fertile because they have sperm. People don’t exist outside this binaristic framing. When we reduce abortion to an issue that just affects women, we do get at a huge swath of people who are targeted by anti-abortion legislation, and we also confront the fact that such legislation is rooted in misogyny.

But when we erase the fact that other people also can and do get pregnant, we’re perpetuating transphobia. And this is a huge, huge problem. Because lack of abortion protections harms people of all genders, and additionally makes it even harder for people who aren’t cis women to access abortion services. Trans-competent health care is extremely hard to find in the United States, particularly outside urban environments, particularly for people of colour. This means that some extremely vulnerable populations, like transgender men of colour, cannot access the basic reproductive health services they need — not just abortion care but paps and screenings, as well as discussions about managing pregnancy risks, depending on where they are in transition and where they’re going with transition.

To fight for abortion rights should perforce be about fighting for all people with the capacity for carrying a pregnancy to be able to get an abortion. And that includes a larger discussion about trans-competent health care.

I feel like there’s a lot relationship-y wise that’s going weird or wrong for Ben right now and it was really nice to see him with someone where he was being sweet and goofy and she seemed to be really enjoying herself as well. And she said she thought he was a people-pleaser too and I’m not quite convinced by the way he said he was happy and eeeebuoewjafkldrgh

anonymous asked:

don't mean this in a rude way...but honestly, do you think tayvin will last? do you truly think this time it's different?

no, i totally get it but genuinely? i really do think they’re going to last. even when i view it objectively and not through shipper goggles. i can’t honestly see them breaking up any time soon, because right now they’re making it work so well. even better than i could have imagined. 

the effort they put in to make sure they see each other (no matter how many air miles they clock up, especially on calvin’s side–i can never get over the fact that he flew everyday between london and scandinavia when he had shows there in june just to be with her for a morning. that’s incredible to me honestly i’m in awe of that still), taylor’s clearly besotted with him the same way he is with her, even the social media support they give each other is just… wow. they’ve found a great line between being public enough to show they’re solid and private enough that they’re rarely bothered by the paps. i really don’t think they’ve even left their ‘honeymoon’ phase as it were–if anything, their relationship is stronger and more affectionate with the passage of time since they went public.

because i’m an anxious person i do worry about them for the stupidest reasons even though there’s no real reason to. so i’m focused on them getting to the end of this year and this leg of her tour before i start thinking a lot about them taking big steps of commitments like moving in and marriage but they’re really solid right now i think and i can’t see that changing any time soon.

Look like people in social network dont support my art. I dont have a reason to share to them anymore. I wish i could quit internet life someday. I still share because some 10% of people who really love me.

Thanks alot

Psychologists describe four kinds of support: (1) instrumental, “to provide the necessities of life”; 2) emotional, ” to give strength to”; 3) appraisal, “to give aid or courage to”; and 4) information, “by providing new facts.”

In forensic psychology, assessing the kinds and levels of support a person has and what types of support must be created will help to evaluate that person’s level of risk for engaging in a criminal act. 

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Traumatic events destroy the sustaining bonds between individual and community. Those who have survived learn that their sense of self, of worth, of humanity, depends upon a feeling of connection to others. The solidarity of a group provides the strongest protection against terror and despair, and the strongest antidote to traumatic experience. Trauma isolates; the group re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes; the group bears witness and affirms. Trauma degrades the victim; the group exalts her. Trauma dehumanizes the victim; the group restores her humanity.

Repeatedly in the testimony of survivors there comes a moment when a sense of connection is restored by another person’s unaffected display of generosity. Something in herself that the victim believes to be irretrievably destroyed–faith, decency, courage–is reawakened by an example of common altruism. Mirrored in the actions of others, the survivor recognizes and reclaims a lost part of herself. At that moment, the survivor begins to rejoin the human commonality.
—  Judith Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence–from domestic abuse to political terror
A study

published earlier this month suggests that, in addition to making us feel connected with others, all those hugs may have prevented us from getting sick. At first, this finding probably seems counterintuitive (not to mention bizarre). You might think, like I did, that hugging hundreds of strangers would increase your exposure to germs and therefore the likelihood of falling ill. But the new research out of Carnegie Mellon indicates that feeling connected to others, especially through physical touch, protects us from stress-induced sickness. This research adds to a large amount of evidence for the positive influence of social support on health.

*hugs our Tumblr followers*
Argentina Creates Indigenous Film School
Indigenous films aim to portray modern and historic events from the perspective of colonized peoples who continue to suffer from extreme inequality.
As this year’s Indigenous Film Festival concluded over the weekend, the Argentine Governor of Chaco province, Jorge Capitanich, announced the creation of a national school for indigenous cinema.

“Today we confirm the (creation of) the Indigenous School of Cinema. Its a call on people to their own history, based on what they are capable of doing,” Capitanich said.

The school will be created within the Culture Institute, and its creation falls under Law 26,522 Audiovisual Communication Services. 

The Indigenous school will provide training in audiovisual basics and will promote production of local content in the different indigenous communities of Capitanich’s province.

The Indigenous Film Festival began in 2008, with the idea that movies are a social tool that go beyond entertainment and transform reality through social inclusion. The festival supports full rights for the indigenous peoples of the Americas and brings locally produced films to other regions.

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Already watched the finale? Well regardless prepare to be LOUD Saturday night!

In a world where we can receive anything instantly and it sucks to have to wait when a download is at your fingertips it can be hard to hold back. Many of us have already watched the finale of Hannibal while others are patiently waiting for it to air Saturday night.

Want a season 4 everyone? Well prepare to make yourself heard. Twitter, Facebook, Tumblr, be loud and be proud. ESPECIALLY Twitter. Bryan said that a station may be more willing to pick up Hannibal for a 4th season after they see where the finale leaves off and what amazing fans the show has. Even if you were satisfied with where the ending left off, please show your support through social media to let the world know how fun of a ride these last three seasons have been and that we are very thankful for such a unique and groundbreaking show.


Patient’s choices follow a vicious circle, where a partial social representation of the disease is produced. People who suffer from chronic headache face a dilemma in social relationships: should they conceal their disease, or make it evident? If they conceal, any possible social representation of the disease is denied, which could lead to carrying the burden of the disease alone, with no social support. On the other hand, making chronic headache visible could result in stigma.
—   Cristina Lonardi, Social Science & Medicine Volume 65, Issue 8, October 2007, Pages 1619–1629
Prepubertal stress in the context of social support promotes resilience to age-related cognitive decline

Women are particularly susceptible to adverse environmental influences during puberty. Insults occurring during this period are thought to precipitate adult affective disorders in women, which commonly emerge during aging and are associated with difficulties in emotion regulation and prefrontal cortex-dependent executive function. Indeed, risk factors for late-onset cognitive and affective disorders in women include prepubertal adversity, a time that coincides with PFC maturation

Prior work has shown that the effects of early life adversity may be ameliorated by a supportive social environment, and that social support is a robust predictor of long-term resiliency. Moreover, a mild amount of stress during early life has been associated with improved coping skills in adulthood, suggesting that resiliency is a valuable characteristic aligned with future success. However, the interaction between prepubertal stress, social support and late-onset cognitive decline characteristic of aging remains relatively unexplored. 

The Bale lab developed a mouse model to examine the interaction between prepubertal experience and age-related changes in cognition and stress regulation.

Female mice were exposed to prepubertal chronic variable stress (CVS) from postnatal day 21-34 and either individually housed, to model stress susceptibility (CVS-S), or housed with social interaction, to model resiliency (CVS-R). One year following this stress, mice were examined in tasks to access their cognition and their HPA stress axis reactivity.

The researchers found that aged females displayed significantly lower circulating estradiol than young controls (menopause much?), which was unaffected by prepubertal stress. To examine cognition, the researchers tested spatial memory acquisition and reversal learning on a modified Barnes maze and found that aged female controls displayed a deficit in reversal learning compared to young controls. Interestingly, aged CVS-R females (i.e. social support group) displayed improved performance in reversal learning, suggesting that prepubertal stress with social support promotes resilience. The researchers also found  that CVS-R females have differing PFC gene expression compared to both control and CVS-S females following reversal learning. 


K. E. MORRISON, C. N. EPPERSON, T. L. BALE. Programming grit: Prepubertal stress combined with social support promotes resilience even in the face of aging. Program No. 80.10/KK28. 2014 Neuroscience Meeting Planner. Washington, DC: Society for Neuroscience, 2014 . Online. 

Family is the epicenter of Black life, community and culture. For Black LGBT people, its importance is just as great. Studies show that Black lesbian partners parent at almost the same rate as Black heterosexual couples (45 percent and 51 percent, respectively). In comparison to their white counterparts, Black lesbian couples are more likely to be raising children. But without the legal protections that marriage provides, our families are some of our nation’s most vulnerable.

Robbed of the 1,138 federal protections and benefits available to married couples, including Social Security survivors benefits, Medicaid spend-down protections, and workers’ compensation, our Black same-sex families are disproportionately put in harm’s way. And it doesn’t stop there. According to the report LGBT Families of Color: Facts at a Glance, 28 percent of children raised by Black female same-sex couples live in poverty. That’s more than double the poverty rates of children raised by Black married heterosexual parents (13 percent) and white married heterosexual parents (7 percent).

Despite these challenges, Black lesbians continue to care for children in need of a loving and supportive home. Research shows that same-sex partners who become foster parents are more likely to be families of color than among heterosexual married couples. Yet 40 states plus the District of Columbia are silent on fostering by LGBT parents, while two states restrict it. Same-sex couples also face uncertainty about joint adoption in 28 states and are prohibited entirely in 5 other states.


National Black Justice Coalition, “Happy Mother’s Day: Saluting Our Black Lesbian Moms

(via Son of Baldwin)

my-corner-of-insanity asked:

Hi, my name is Shawna and I'm 16(turning 17 in January). I am 5'4" and sadly over 200lbs. I have been overweight for as long as I can remember. Recently my friend and I have both decided to make a change to get healthy, NOT skinny. My problem is I don't have the time (or permission) to go out and exercise and I'm not allowed to make any meals for myself so I'm forced to dine on something that consists of 7 spoonfuls of grease and zero good veggies. What should I do?

Hi Shawna,

I think it is a very good idea to have recruited your friend to join you in your new lifestyle change since you live in a family that can’t / doesn’t want / doesn’t have the information to make a change. You need support and it’s great having a good friend on your side. 

You can’t choose your family, but you can try to see what’s negotiable: for example, an idea could be to tell your mom that you would like to try to make your own food for 2 weeks.

Don’t tell her you want to lose weight, just tell her: “Mom, I’m turning 17 in January, and I would like to become a bit more independent to learn how to function on my own. I respect and really appreciate all the work you did to raise me (give her compliments / show some gratitude, do not criticize or judge her own life choices), but now I’m coming to a point in my life where I would like to learn to do more things on my own and have a bit more freedom (freedom to choose your own food, freedom to go out and exercise). I think I’m mature enough for you to trust me. I know I won’t disappoint you if you give me a bit more space to make my own choices.”