social-customs

But the fact that John knew that it was Sherlock’s birthday based on the fact that he got a text from Irene means that she and Sherlock don’t regularly communicate. They are people who knew each other years ago who on special occasions will send each other a text or say hi. It’s like when you wish a Facebook friend that you never talk to a happy birthday or a merry Christmas. It’s not really a relationship, it’s more like a polite social custom to someone you don’t really know anymore.

Yeah John, she’s out there somewhere. But Sherlock has had YEARS to follow that through and make something happen if he wanted to. But he hasn’t. Instead he’s committed his entire life to YOU, ya big dolt.

So do what Mary (AHEM YOUR INNER SELF) says and GET ON WITH IT already!!!

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People of the World: Māori - Photographs by  Jimmy Nelson

The Māori are the indigenous Polynesian people of New Zealand. The Māori originated with settlers from eastern Polynesia, who arrived in New Zealand in several waves of canoe voyages at some time between 1250 and 1300 CE. Over several centuries in isolation, the Polynesian settlers developed a unique culture that became known as the “Māori”, with their own language, a rich mythology, distinctive crafts and performing arts. Early Māori formed tribal groups, based on eastern Polynesian social customs and organization. Horticulture flourished using plants they introduced, and later a prominent warrior culture emerged.

Please fire me. I work as a sales associate and fitting room attendant at a very large location of a chain retail store, and the number of unsupervised children that are running around the store every day is enormous. Recently, I was fixing clothes on a rack, and something collided very hard with my legs – and that something turned out to be a child running under the clothes racks with no parent in sight. Also, there have been incidents of children actually knocking down the racks of clothes in a domino effect.

No kids have gotten hurt yet, but my guess is that myself and my coworkers will get blamed by the parents in question when a kid does get hurt. Because of course, I get paid minimum wage to watch your kids for you.

MBTI Last Things They'd Ever Say

INFP: I love accepting the harshest of criticisms because I find strength in realizing my weaknesses!

ISFP: Art is nothing more than a futile attempt for humans to waste their time pandering to each other for acceptance over the subjective quality of the mundane.

ISTP: Hard work is the key to success. That’s why I never smoke pot. Really.

INTP: I think I make friends so easily due to my accute awareness of social customs and natural empathy for others. I don’t really see the point in arguing all the time, and I wish we could all just get along. Also, aliens could never possibly exist.

ENTP: I am sorry I hurt your feelings with my joke, that was not my intention and I would like to make it up to you. I’m really not very funny.

ENTJ: Socialism is the best form of government. A meritocracy like capitalism is inherently ableist, and because I am largely unsuccessful and unmotivated, redistribution of wealth will benefit my stifling disability of laziness and aimlessness.

INTJ: Because I deeply care about you as a human being, I will entertain your dramatically different point of view and try to apply it to mine.

ISFJ: Fuck your feelings and I hate you. Mental illnesses are just a crutch used by the lazy, entitled youth of today! Also, what is anxiety?

ISTJ: Woah, dude. Last night was so crazy. I can’t believe we snorted all that coke off of the strippers we hired from the bank job money!

INFJ: Today I decided I wouldn’t be hopelessly and pathetically crippled by my own self doubt and anxiety. I will go out and enjoy myself in the moment amongst a large group of acquaintances in a crowded public space.

ENFJ: I have a motivational poster of Adolf Hitler in my room. I really admire his ideas about humanitarian relief.

ESFJ: I just cleared all the scheduled plans in my calender for the next six months and decided to take life one step at a time.

ESFP: For my new year’s resolution, I will not drink alcohol all year. I will also learn meditation and practice stillness and peace for at least four hours a day. Sit happens!

ENFP: My goals are to get into a prestigious school, eventually become a tireless lawyer who also works weekends,
and permanently settle down into suburbia with a thirty year mortgage and a perfect family.

ESTP: I feel like taking it easy today. Maybe I’ll sit by myself and enjoy a nice cup of tea and this book on quantum mechanics and post my thoughts about it later on my book club blog.

ESTJ: I honestly just don’t understand the point of all this bureaucracy. In my opinion, rules are meant more as guidelines and are maliable to the situation at hand. Flexibility is more important than rigidity, and compassion is more important than justice, wouldn’t you say?

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LES MISERABLES; Victor Hugo

“So long as there shall exist, by reason of law and custom, a social condemnation which, in the midst of civilization, artificially creates a hell on earth, and complicates with human fatality a destiny that is divine; so long as the three problems of the century - the degradation of man by the exploitation of his labour, the ruin of women by starvation and the atrophy of childhood by physical and spiritual night are not solved; so long as, in certain regions, social asphyxia shall be possible; in other words and from a still broader point of view, so long as ignorance and misery remain on earth, there should be a need for books such as this.”

Top 6 strategies to surprise and inspire your customers
  1. Get inside your customer’s mind.
  2. Make the customer the centre of your universe.
  3. Focus on the experience, not your product.
  4. Let the customer define the journey.
  5. Be hyper-personal without getting ultra-creepy.
  6. Unite the promise makers and the promise keepers.

I never write about autistic!Sherlock because as far as I’m concerned it’s canon, but I just wanted to share my thoughts. These can be applied to both book version of Holmes and the BBC TV show. So consider these:

  • Autistic Sherlock being unintentionally rude and cold because he doesn’t understand social protocol that well and has different body language and ways of expressing emotions.
  • Autistic Sherlock learning and using deduction because he was always very good at noticing small details and picking out information that others miss.
  • Autistic Sherlock using deduction to navigate the confusing world of allistics with their obscure and always changing social rules and customs.
  • Autistic Sherlock having a special interest in crime from very early age and not understanding why it is rude or inappropriate to infodump about it.
  • Autistic Sherlock being able to selectively remember and recall information because he doesn’t think in words.
  • Autistic Sherlock struggling with cognitive empathy and understanding his own feelings.
  • Autistic Sherlock stimming by playing violin, talking to himself, tapping his fingers and pacing around the room.
  • Autistic Sherlock going nonverbal for days and not being able to communicate in any way because others think that he just doesn’t want to talk.
  • Autistic Sherlock hyperfocusing on solving a puzzle and using it to his advantage.
  • Autistic Sherlock needing people to take care of him (cooking food and reminding him to eat, managing all housework for him, making sure he doesn’t overdose on something) because of executive dysfunction.
  • Autistic Sherlock not being able to deal with a change in his routine when Watson leaves to live with his wife.
  • Autistic Sherlock having a special interest in chemistry that he considers ‘the fun one’.
  • Autistic Sherlock having shutdowns that others mistake for just being focused.
  • Autistic Sherlock keeping the pipe in his mouth even when he isn’t smoking it because he likes the sensation.
  • Autistic Sherlock always keeping his magnifying glass with him because it is his comfort object.
  • Autistic Sherlock being asexual but not aromantic and trying to avoid romantic feelings because they confuse and annoy him.
  • Autistic Sherlock valuing his intelligence and skills above everything else because he was always praised for it as a child and he didn’t learn to love anything else about himself.

Just saying – Autistic Sherlock Holmes

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It’s FRIDAY FASHION FACT! If you have been reading this blog for a while, you’ll know that one of my favorite aspects of fashion history is the influence of society on dress. I can’t believe I haven’t written about today’s topic yet, since it is one of the best examples of this! We’re talking tea gowns!

Tea gowns rose to popularity in the late 1870s, reaching widespread popularity throughout the late 19th to early 20th centuries. To put it simply, a tea gown is an informal garment worn in the house- you guessed it- at tea time, though later they were worn at dinnertime as well. What is so interesting about tea gowns is that their creation was a direct result of the rapidly changing society of the time.

The Industrial Revolution led to a dramatic rise in urbanization. Naturally, this congested setting shifted social customs. Increased social circles meant increased social obligations. Visiting a friend or acquaintance for tea quickly became one of the most popular social calls, namely because it was the shortest. Custom dictated that one would not stay for more than half an hour for tea. The short time frame meant a less formal atmosphere.

On a different note, during this same time, there was a strong Asian influence on design. Due to the 1868 Meiji Restoration, trade lines between Japan and Europe opened up, bringing a steady stream of Japanese goods to the Western world. Using these pieces, homes were decorated in the exotic style. Kimonos also held a fascination among the Victorians, many adopting them as dressing gowns. Women would commonly host members of their wide social circles in their homes (particularly the parlors) to show off their creative interpretation of Asian and exotic inspired design. So how does this all connect to the tea gown?

To begin with, women desired a specific garment for these new abridged social calls- something relatively informal, yet still fashionable. Tea gowns have been described as a blend between a dressing gown and an evening gown. They were a far more relaxed style than the majority of fashions at the time. They were often loose fitting, and were often worn without the usual restrictive shapewear- namely bustles and (gasp!) corsets. Naturally, this meant that tea gowns were a very controversial garment, with many condemning them as lewd and immoral. Of course, many women who were so accustomed to wearing corsets still wore them with tea gowns, but disguised it with a loose bodice. Since they were so relaxed, though, a lady would never leave the house in a tea gown. As a result, only the hostess would wear one, while guests would wear afternoon or visiting gowns.

One of the biggest appeals of the loose tea gown was that they were so easy to put on, and a lady could dress herself without the help of a lady’s maid. While the structure of tea gowns were simple, though, their design was anything but. Women pulled inspiration from the exotic into their gowns, often aiming to match the design of their parlors. There was also a strong historical influence in many tea gowns. Watteau pleats, the cape/train-like pleats used in 18th century robes a la française, were a popular design element. Some tea gowns would be made to look like two garments, a faux-robe over a dress. As with all fashions of the day, ladies would show of their wealth through their tea gowns, using rich fabrics, lace trims, ruffles, and other embellishments.

As fashion developed, so did the tea gown. By the Edwardian Age, they became difficult to distinguish from other styles of dress. As society changed through the 1920s and 30s, the tea dress slowly faded from popularity, vanishing altogether by World War II. It just goes to show how the life and death of a fashion can all be directly related to shifts in society!

Have a question about fashion history that you want answered in the next FRIDAY FASHION FACT? Just click the ASK button at the top of the page!

Instead of converting people to Christ, Christians too often convert people to…


their theology
their culture
their values
their creeds
their traditions
their spiritual practices
their specific type of baptism
their required form of communion
their style of sermon
their church
their denomination
their definition of conversion
their philosophy of evangelism
their form of ministry
their brand of worship
their interpretation of Revelation
their interpretation of the Bible
their leadership systems
their social customs
their laws, rules, and regulations
their political beliefs
their moral values

Imagine if Christians introduced people to their God instead of their religion.

Slytherin Muggleborns & Halfbloods

I hate the way Slytherin House was portrayed in the books and especially the movies.

THE MAIN REASON SALAZAR DIDN’T WANT MUGGLEBORNS AND HALF-BLOODS IN THE HOUSE/SCHOOL WAS BECAUSE OF THE WITCH HUNTING AND TRIALS. HE DIDN’T WANT THE STUDENTS TO BE PLACED IN A POSITION OF DANGER.

This is where most of the old school prejudices come from. That and the complete lack of education for both sides. Purebloods who don’t hold the hardcore old beliefs dislike the Muggleborns and some of the halfbloods because they aren’t aware of the social rules and customs.

There are so many more rules and dangers that are so vastly different in the wizarding world that these little 11 year olds aren’t aware of and no one thought to teach them.

So when the tiny, little firsties who’s last name isn’t recognised get sorted into Slytherin and inevitably get booed the Slytherins decide they’ll protect them where the adults haven’t.

The Slytherin prefects and more open minded students from the sacred 28 teach them the rules. Not just because they’re Slytherins, or not pure blood and don’t know, but also to protect themselves and the firsties. And really we all know some of them have snuck out with friends to the muggle world and see how different It is.

Thy get sorted into Slytherin because of their ambitions, their cunning, the possibility that they will become someone great. The older students know they’re likely to see how dangerous it can be to not know the rules and customs, so they’re going to pay attention and learn it all as quickly as they can.

The older Slytherins not only teach them the rules and customs, but the charms, spells and potions that are a part of everyday life these first years would have no clue exist. They teach them about the trick steps and some of the secret passageways that make it easier to get to classes.

They have maps for all of the first years, not just the Muggleborns and halfbloods. Eventually a book is written for their halfbloods and Muggleborns. They still teach them. But they give them the book so they have something to fall back on.

We aren’t like the Ravenclaws who only help slightly with classes and assignments. We want to win the house cup.

We aren’t like the Hufflepuffs who teach them the basics if a student has a problem. Or the Gryffindors who don’t particularly care unless they’re one of the sacred 28 that hold the old customs.

We don’t care if you’re not a pureblood. We care that you learn the rules and customs and don’t cost us points simply because it’s all new to you.

IDK if reccing yourself is in bad taste or whatnot, but something that I’ve really had my own eyes opened to after returning to fanfic writing after so long is that one my personal strengths as a writer is warm, fuzzy emotions. One of the most special comments I think I’ve ever gotten on a fic was that reading it was “like wrapping yourself in a soft blanket at the end of a long day.”

So, here’s the top five most fluffy, “soft blanket” fics I’ve written for this very bad, no-good week:

Just Jack - This fic has gone on to be more popular than my wildest dreams because it struck a chord with so many people. It’s been kind of amazing because I wrote it while in an admittedly silly mood, but I think that Jack is such an endearing doof in it that it connected with a lot of people. It’s an AU where Bitty is hired as a consultant to help NHL Player Jack with social media.

One Per Customer! - aka the somehow infamous Zimbits Costco AU. I gotta admit…I was drunk when I wrote this and I don’t really get it. (is it cool to say that you don’t get your own fics?) I love that it’s so popular. I literally shake my head every time it pops up in my notifications because it’s so silly. Pretty much guaranteed to make you smile. Oh, and there’s a Part Two!

Four Times Ronan Lynch Visited Adam At College (And One Time He Didn’t)  - Okay, so I re-read this fic a lot because I personally love it. I know, I know, Julie you wrote it that’s weird. I know that I wrote it because it’s literally everything I like in a good Pynch fic. That’s my modus operandi - think about all my favorite fic things and then smash them together into my own fic to create what I believe is a great combination. Anyways, the title should tell you everything you need to know.

Truth or Dare? - I personally, in my very biased opinion, think this little one shot is underrated. It’s adorable!! Jack and Bitty have their own private game of truth or dare!! You should read it for some serious fluffy feels!! JS.

Bad News - This Pynch College AU is basically the origin story of my tag ‘adam parrish and his god damn plants’, but also more importantly largely an exercise in pure sap and an excuse for me to think of increasingly ridiculous ways that Ronan could give Adam strange plants as gifts.

All of these fics are 99% angst-free and any angst that does appear is swiftly dealt with. I know it’s been a rough week, so I just wanted to share some of my sappiest work with you all in hopes that it would make you smile or at least distract you for a while. <3 <3 (if you want to cleanse yourself with some angst, I have other choices here or here.)

If you need to talk, my ask box is open! Happy reading! And hey, if you have any fluff worth recommending, please send it my way - I’m in that kind of mood too! <3

2017.03.09

Be A Daymaker by lululawrence | @lululawrence [?, 5.1k]

AU where Louis and Lottie are a consultant team for LuLaRoe and Harry is one of their most loyal customers. 
Fashion, social media: facebook | POV: H

If you’ll be my star, I’ll be your sky by MANGAMANIAC666 | @supernovajazzy [M, 42.7k]

“You know,” he whispered. “The pirate way is to take your pretty finger with the ring. If you want to keep your lovely hand you have to give me something else of value.”
Louis swallowed again, harder this time. “I don’t have anything else.” He mumbled worriedly. Averting his eyes.
The pirate grinned. “Oh, but I think you do.”
Inspired by book: To Catch a Pirate, pirate (H), aristocrat (L) | POV: both | bottom!L

Stiles courts Peter by leaving him the heads/corpses of his enemies - Gerard, Kate, those in the Alpha Pack that dared lay even a claw on Peter, even Meredith for violating Peter’s mind and then dumping all the blame on him for the deadpool business.

Of course, Stiles is always careful, always makes sure Peter has a solid alibi before he goes and deals with whoever has harmed Peter enough to deserve Stiles going after them.

And Peter is confused at first, and understandably suspicious (is someone trying to frame him and get him locked up or killed?), but it doesn’t take long for him to realize what all the bodies mean, that they’re courting gifts meant for him of all people, an archaic tradition even amongst werewolves (most go with flowers and other more socially acceptable customs these days, which is ever so boring in Peter’s opinion), to show that the one doing the courting is both willing and able to protect the one being courted, and Peter soon finds himself flattered and pleased by the attention.  Nobody’s ever courted him before.  It’s an exhilarating novelty.

And when other gifts begin appearing on his doorstep - a delicious cajun chicken pasta one time, a drool-worthy coffee and peanut butter chocolate cake another, and - most memorable - the bloody heart of an Alpha, still warm when Peter lifts it out of its rune-covered container with reverent hands - all to show that Peter’s secret admirer can provide for him as well, Peter decides that it’s high time to figure out who is courting him so that he can start returning the favour.

Inevitably, he realizes that it’s Stiles, which is even better.  He’s always been drawn to Stiles, attracted to his loyalty and cunning and sharp biting wit, and Peter is pleasantly surprised and utterly thrilled to find that Stiles is apparently equally drawn to Peter and also has no qualms about courting him the good old-fashioned way.

It’s impossible for Peter not to reciprocate, to show that he too can and will protect and provide for Stiles, that they can be magnificent and terrifying together, and that the fascination and growing affection and the increasingly powerful pull of mineminemine between them are entirely mutual.

Stiles has his own fair share of enemies now, and it’s infuriating how self-absorbed and neglectful people tend to be when it comes to Stiles, so Peter will rip out the throats of Stiles’ enemies and lay their carcasses at his feet, and he’ll care for Stiles so that the boy will never feel lonely or think himself forgotten again.

Peter can’t wait until they can hunt together.  His mate will look beautiful under the moon, drenched in blood and triumph with Peter at his side.

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We can regard these observations as facts of custom–as standardized ways of doing, knowing, thinking, and feeling–universally obligatory and valued in a given group of people at a given time. But we can also regard them as facts of social organization or social structure. We then seek to relate them to one another by a scheme of conceptual operations different from that of the previous frame of reference. We see custom as symbolizing or expressing social relations–that is, the ties and cleavages by which persons and groups are bound to one another or divided from one another in the activities of social life. In this sense social structure is not an aspect of culture but the entire culture of a given people handled in a special frame of theory.
—  Meyer Fortes, “The Structure of Unilineal Descent Groups”

                                                                 open to verse !!


                 next person to want their totaled car fixed saying they’re not paying over five hundred is getting a wrench to the head.