social situations

So we’ve got a (potential) new intern in the lab, and he speaks incredibly fractured English. That’s not bad by itself. It’s difficult adjusting to life in an entirely new culture, and he’s got my massive respect for that. But it’s really really a problem when working in a lab with strict protocols and dangerous chemicals.

I have to repeat simple things to him (“How was your weekend?”) and I can’t see myself trusting him to handle the biohazardous stuff with instruction (and like, everything is potentially biohazardous.)

End result is me seeming really frigid as I go about the lab work with him shadowing me way too close. I’m new here as it is; I’m trying to keep myself in check so I don’t mess anything up. The whole things just makes me really uncomfortable… Like its not his fault (his aunt is pushing to get him working here) but it’s all-around not a good idea.

Im pretty sure I have authority in the decision of whether or not he stays, but I’d also feel awful being the one to give him the boot

Sorority girls do really well in this game historically like, Rachel Riley was a Phi Mu and Britney Haynes was a Kappa Kappa Gamma and those are just the two I can remember off the top of my head. I’m almost positive Janelle and Dani D were also in sororities.

And being in a sorority, in such a weird way, prepares you for Big Brother. We do this thing called Greek Week where it’s all sports and trivia competitions so we’ve got competition prowess on lock. Socially you won’t find a group more socially tuned in and there are a lot of times you have to pretend to like people you really don’t. That’s a perfect storm for Big Brother if you ask me. I know nothing really prepares you but it gets you pretty close.

I don't usually ask for help, but...

My 3DS top screen smashed today, and I decided that instead of repairing it I’d buy a new DS. However, I don’t have money or anything to buy a DS.

Having a DS helps me in social situations, as explained in my gofundme description. Please do look at the page and reblog if you can’t donate. I’d appreciate it very much. If you do decide to donate or reblog and would like me to follow you, please message me. I know it’s only a simple follow, but I don’t have much else to offer.

The link to my gofundme is

Thank you for reading this, and while there are more important things, this really does mean a lot to me and will help me.

Every time I go read around tumblr I get frustrated

Heres some huge misconceptions:

1. Smoking weed doesn’t make you a lazy scum of the earth, but it also doesn’t make you cool or any different than anyone else. (There’s no secrete thing that will automatically make you cool if you do it, except for skydiving.) 

2. Getting nervous or anxious in social situations/when you’re giving a speech/ect is not the same as having anxiety. Actually in general, please don’t take some 10 question online quiz that tells you whether you have anxiety/depression/PTSD/ect. and go ahead and declare your results are true. If you do the quizzes and genuinely feel you are, go to a doctor. They went to school and studied for a long time for a reason. Declaring your self-diagnosis because buzzfeed released a new “do you have ____” quiz is reckless if you truly have an issue and insulting to those who actually studied these subjects. (Side note: Severe anxiety isn’t glamours. My friend literally rips out her eyebrows and eyelashes when she’s really bad, but even if people ask about her eyebrows/eyelashes she won’t admit she has anxiety to people she isn’t skin close with)

3. People will realize if you’re lying about your life. I didn’t even know this was a thing until a few days ago, but apparently some people lie about their lives on tumblr. No joke. The link to the right is someone on tumblr being exposed >> If you didn’t know this was a thing, like me, read it. It’s actually crazy and way better than any of those Hollywood “what did this rich person do this time” articles. Don’t start GoFundMes for fake causes please. This makes people less willing to help actual serious causes. I know this isn’t a wide spread problem, but there are so many more consequences to some actions than you’d think. 

4. “Migraine” isn’t a synonym for a really bad headache. Want to know what a really bad headache is called? A really bad headache. This sounds like I’m just being a dick, but seriously they’re different and are treated differently. People will be telling me how they had a migraine and were taking a test or driving or something or how it affected them all day. Like that could be a mild migraine, but most people I know who actually got diagnosed by a doctor and truly have reoccurring migraines are on a whole different level. A lot of times they can’t even drive safely. My mom literally won’t be able to do anything for like 3 days. But at the same time, if you’re having reoccurring headaches, look at migraine symptoms and if necessary go to a professional. If you’re having problems, it’s important to identify the right name/issue to help treat it. Some people have special pills for migraines, and they won’t take them until they know for sure it’s a migraine because if it’s not one, it can really just hurt them. Some won’t take them until they’re having auras. Also, taking medicine/treatment you would use for a regular type of headache could worsen a migraine and taking medicine/treatment you would use for a migraine could worsen a headache. 

5. Attacking causes/issues is different than attacking individuals. Attacking feminism doesn’t mean they’re attacking every individual who declares they’re a feminist. Attacking menism doesn’t mean they’re attacking every individual who declares they’re a menist. Attacking factory farms doesn’t mean someone is attacking everyone who eats meat. Attacking an individual means that individual is being attacked. (Also if you’re hating on someone anonymously should you really be doing it? If you can’t put your face behind it, you probably shouldn’t attack someone.)

There is no real theme to this blog other than keeping it relatively SFW. I mean yeah I talk about comics and videogames like 90% of the time but  I wouldn’t qualify this as a comic blog exclusively. I think as a black nerd I can’t be so focused on just comics and not talk about the current social situations we find ourselves in. As much as I’d like to live in a fantasy world (Ideally the MCU because the DCU is rough af ) I can’t ignore the mountain of injustices that I see; whether it be sexism, racism, bigotry or any other form of ignorance or hate. I know I’m not perfect, some would say I’m problematic (which is a grossly overused word imho) but at the end of the day I try my best to be 100% and to be better than I am…but this is also my blog and I’ll run it however I want. 

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anonymous asked:

Have you always been quite introverted? I was an extremely extroverted + loud kid! I literally made friends with everyone! But when I was about 14 I started to get quite sick and I was diagnosed with major depression by the age of 15... Not something I regularly discuss because I almost felt ashamed on the major shift + struggled with everything. I now consider myself predominantly introverted and I spend more time on my own... is this possible? or do you think its just a coping strategy? xxx

Hmmmm good question!

Interestingly, I’m both outgoing and introverted.

As an only child, growing up and travelling a lot I learned very quickly to be confident and go say hello to other kids. Today in class I arrived into a tute with 3 others who were sitting in silent and I started conversation going. I chat with store clerks about their day, can hold conversations with strangers and will feel comfortable in most social situations. However, after a lot of socialising, I need to be on my own for a good period of time to ‘recharge’ my mental energy.

As for your experience, that’s something unique to you so it could be anything, but also remember those traits are fluid and can change throughout life. I definitely don’t think introversion is a coping strategy though. I LOVE spending time on my own, like, more than spending time with almost anyone else (bar a few special friends), but this is what makes me thrive. If I didn’t have that time for myself, I would break down. Contrastingly, someone who is extroverted would thrive and refuel in high energy social situations, but maybe feel lonely if by themselves for too long.

This trait may be linked to your depression or totally and completely separate, as merely an evolution over time. If you’re worried, just pop in to see your doctor or mental health professional :) They will be able to give you far better advice than me <3 

anonymous asked:

And that's what I don't understand about people who say that Regina bullies Emma. Emma knows where that verbal defensiveness comes from, Emma herself has that, Emma can lash it out as well as Regina can. Emma wasn't defending herself in 4x05 because she knew Regina felt betrayed. She knew Regina was angry and hurt. I agree that it wasn't rational and Emma wouldn't have hesitated saving Marian's life and I don't think she felt guilty about it, but Regina got hurt.

These are two women who react in many of the same ways to social situations.  Emma’s running away is less destructive than Regina’s casting a curse on an entire realm to run away… but it’s different scale not kind.

What I never get about the people who hate 4.05 because Emma is somehow being hurt by Regina’s words is that they never seem to listen to Emma’s words.

anonymous asked:

idk why there are people who ship danrific, not bc i dont like it, but bc if i HAD to ship either dan or phil with cat, it would be phil because in her vlogs phil is always more friendly to her while dan is usually just on his phone or something? (no offense meant to dan bc he is me in all social situations)

i see where ur coming from but  ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ people will ship what they ship ig

Social Issues

Aries overly open viewpoint is what can mess them up in social situations. Some Aries can be boisterous and aren’t afraid to say their views even if it comes out as condescending or if others don’t agree with them. Some Aries simply have the problem of being overly trusting and believes that no one will really judge them off of their ideas, opinions, and secrets. Aries needs to learn discernment and caution when it comes to social interactions.

Taurus can be overly cautious in some social situations and is afraid to look stupid, foolish, or odd. A lot of times this is from a combination of Taurus’s natural cautious side and any insecurities they might have. Taurus might take some time to develop confidence and bravery in the social world but ultimately Taurus needs to take themselves out of their comfort zone! 

You can argue that one of Gemini’s biggest social issue is their superficial tendencies and possible short-attention span. While this can be an issue for some Geminis I would say their lack of emotional sharing is the biggest threat especially when trying to create close bonds. A Gemini doesn’t mind getting to known how you work but when others want reciprocated emotional sharing Gemini can lack. Also there are Geminis who can be very changeable, unstable, and flaky which adds to the struggle to build close bonds. By expressing and sharing their feelings more Gemini can not only have close friendships and even closer lovers but this helps them to learn more about themselves. 

Cancer has a wild imagination and this can work against them in the social world! Cancer can be a very suspicious individual even with people they don’t know well. Being caught up in trying to figure out someone’s intentions, thinking someone doesn’t like them (when that isn’t the case at all), or thinking an individual is out to get them can be common with this sign. Learning to give people the benefit of the doubt and trying to be more unbiased in social situations can help Cancer.

Believe it or not Leo being too awkward or too confident is what messes them up in social situations. This all stems from Leo’s ego. A more negative and sometimes just a younger, inexperienced Leo can have an ego that lacks nurturing which makes them highly awkward in social situations and they can be someone who really fears other people’s opinions. Also an insecure Leo or one who maybe has had too many ego boosters in life can be overly cocky and therefore turns others away. Finding a balance between a healthy self-esteem and having respect and admiration for others can make Leo highly likable and  sunny and charming in social situations. 

Some Virgos are shy, some can have a lot of pent-up nervous energy, and some are just more introverted, but Virgo’s biggest social challenge is being too judgmental! Some Virgos are judgmental by being snobbish or elitist while others try to fit everyone into some sort of category, and others are just quick to assume things. Taking a step back and being more open-minded about social situations can help Virgo greatly. They need to learn tolerance without completely abolishing their discernment.

Libra’s sugar-coating optimism is their social downfall! Libra gives everyone the benefit of the doubt and can make excuses for even strangers by saying “oh they just forgot or they are just having a bad day”. But sometimes Libra needs to just listen to their intuition that says no, this individual IS a mean person or person B doesn’t like the Libra! 

Scorpio’s suspicious side can get in the way when it comes to social situations but their natural intensity is what can easily intimidate many! Obviously a Scorpio shouldn’t change who they are so they can “fit in” but Scorpios who are more patient, who use their understanding and compassion, and who use their perceptiveness to figure out how to approach someone can become less intimidating.

Bluntness and impulsiveness can sometimes stand in the way of Sagittarius’s social life but burning through people and their energy is actually the biggest issue. Sagittarius is known to burn through romantic relationships quickly but this tendency also reaches into their general social life. Burning too quickly through friendships and connections can be a reoccurring problem in many Sagittarius’s lives. Balancing a healthy dose of space and committing to keeping up with others can help fix this. Also trying to focus their energy can help keep their own passion and interest prolonged.

Capricorn has a hard time trusting others, plain and simple. They can also get in the mindset that people are disposable and can use others (this is so they don’t get used themselves). Being more open and understanding is what Capricorn needs to not be so closed-off socially. This sign normally doesn’t struggle with fitting in or being accepted but they themselves keep their distance and can be cold. You will find that a Capricorn who puts themselves out there is very likable and even popular!

Aquarius can appear to not have any problems in the social sphere, they do great in a group, tend to be charismatic, and is the type of person to have a lot of buddies and acquaintances. Aquarius’s distant trait can keep them from creating close bonds, but this is a hard aspect to change in Aquarius. Making an effort to create closer bonds is healthy for this sign but they have to do it on their own terms! Also being “different” can make social situations hard for Aquarius but just because they are odd or follows unpopular opinion doesn’t mean they should change themselves. An Aquarius in this predicament should try explaining to others why they believe in what they believe, like what they like, etc.

Pisces sensitivity is what can get them in trouble in the social world! Pisces sensitive nature is hard for them to control. Their emotions run deep and they are naturally fluid and expressive. Being openly moody isn’t fair to others or Pisces, trying to keep a professional appearance even in a non-professional atmosphere can help out this sign. Pisces should never block their emotions but they need to take a step back and think about if an issue or situation is really worth being upset over.