social manners

  • Person: you have such a quirky personality, and I think your mannerisms are cute :)
  • Me: thanks, I borrowed them from my coworker, best friend, and the main character of the tv show I've been watching recently.

15 things you should never do at the office holiday party

Don’t flirt.

Don’t look bored.

Don’t gossip or bad mouth your colleagues.

Don’t dress inappropriately.

Don’t forget to acknowledge those who planned the party.

Giving shit to creators and authors about the direction episodes/chapters went is what causes the stop of content flow and abruptly ends stories.  

You attack them for no real reasons anymore too. You do it because your fictional ship didn’t become canon and another one did, or because a certain character wasn’t pure and innocent and perfect and has actual flaws, makes awful choices and does awful shit, or how the creator is female or male, is heterosexual or homosexual, and shouldn’t be writing/creating certain things because of that– like, really? 

You get upset when mentally ill people aren’t portrayed as cute and adorable and endearing all the fucking time, where creators try to accurately portray that we struggle to meet society’s social interaction norms and mannerisms, that we don’t always make the correct choices when it comes to ourselves and those around us, we can break and lose it, and impulsively let our emotions, pain, and illness control us, that we don’t always seek out the best company(this is specific on how tumblr fucking romanticizes and forces the idea mental illnesses are cute and easy to handle, when no the fuck they aren’t and can be devastating) and a long list of other shit that many people like to ignore or not acknowledge about mental illnesses and how difficult is it to handle them. It does not demonize mentally ill people when shows or stories do this, portray a mentally ill person mentally ill as accurately as they can, it’s bringing to light to what it really is and how badly it can affect us.

You whine and bully over anything, instead of being grateful that the authors and creators fucking pay attention to you, the fans, and try to be kind and answer questions and interact with you.

anonymous asked:

Could you do a scenario or whatever where Junkrat and his s/o overhear someone saying that his s/o is too good for him so they go and clock that jerk in the face. (Sorry if its a weird request I just keep thinking about that.)

Junkrat was already nervous as is. You had been dating a few months now, and although his partner only mentioned him in passing once or twice to their parents, they suddenly insisted he come to their family reunion. [Name] shouldn’t have been surprised, though. Their sister dated a guy for two weeks and they were already taking him with them on family outings.

Knowing that Jamison wouldn’t really fit in well with the whole family reunion scene, they tried to work up a few excuses. But their mom was adamant on having a new “member of the family.” So now there he sat in the corner of your living room, hands in his pockets and shoulders hunched. Cordial get-togethers with socializing and manners were not Junkrat’s idea of a good time in the slightest.

“Hey,” his s/o said sweetly as they came up to him.

Glancing up at them, Jamison let out a sigh and fumbled with his shirt collar. He wasn’t accustomed to getting so dressed up, much less wearing a shirt.

“Sorry, love,” he mumbled, “These hoity toity scenes aren’t really my scene,”

“Junkrat,” they giggled, “This is hardly that fancy to begin with,”

When they saw that their comment was just making it worse, they cleared their throat and said, “Why don’t you go try talking to someone? I’ll go with you,”

“W-Well I already talked to yer mum,” he shrugged, “She likes me plenty. In’t that enough?”

“How about my aunt?” [Name] suggested, “She seemed interested by you when my mom brought you up,”

Jamison let out an inaudible mumble, fidgeting in his seat awkwardly.

“I dunno,” he mumbled, “I don’t think yer family would like me much. I’m just gonna get them all mad fer somethin’ stupid. Might accidentally…”

“…Set fire to the house,”

Their conversation was cut short when they suddenly heard someone practically finish Junkrat’s sentence. Looking across the room, they saw [Name]’s cousin, gossiping to some other relatives.

“I mean did you see his hair? You may not be able to tell now with that hoodie, but most of his hair is all singed off! I bet he’s some kind of pyro,” [Name]’s cousin went on, “Think about it: how do you think he lost an arm and a leg? Playing with explosives most likely? Why is it that when [Name]’s sister brings a boy to the house, he’s a respectable gentleman, but [Name] seems to pick her suitors from a criminal lineup? He looks like a criminal anyway, like you’d see his face on a ‘A Moment in Crime.’”

With every word that scathed past the cousin’s lips, Junkrat felt himself shrinking deeper and deeper into his chair. Normally he wouldn’t be bothered by it in the slightest, but this was [Name]’s family…people close to [Name]. If they didn’t approve to him, who’s to say [Name] would stop approving of him, too? He just wished Mako was there…

But his partner wasn’t having it. They matched across the room, pushing uncles and nephews out of their way until they stood in front of the cousin in question.

“What’s your problem?!” they asked loudly, catching everyone’s attention.

“Um, excuse me?” their cousin scoffed.

“I bring the boy I love over and you just talk about him like he’s trash?!”

“Well, just look at him…”

“No! I won’t let you talk about him like that! Why do I always pick my boyfriends from a criminal lineup?!” they snarled.

BAM! They answered their own question with a punch to their cousin’s face. The rest of [Name]’s family all gasped in shock, and Jamison saw a few relatives exchange bets.

“Maybe because I’m a bit of a criminal myself!” [Name] concluded.

“J-Jesus…” their cousin seethed as they held their bleeding nose.

“And you all!” [Name] turned on the others, “Jamison is family now, he’s sitting in that corner all by himself, and none of you are making any attempt to make him feel at home! That’s no way to treat a new family member!”

When [Name] had finished their speech, a silence fell upon the living room. All the relatives stood wide-eyed, like a group of dumb deer in a truck’s headlights. When [Name] got no answer from them, they let out an exasperated groan and marched back over to Junkrat.

“C’mon, Jamison, let’s go,” they growled, dragging him out of the chair and out the door.

Meanwhile, he was just as equally in shock. He never thought his s/o would defend his honor like that–he never assumed he even had any honor to be defended in the first place! Well, at least he knew how to pick ‘em as well: girls/guys with a bit of criminal in them.

–Mod Sirana

Oh my god I submitted a PowerPoint late then the submitted the wrong one and resubmitted and THEN realized that I’ve been emailing someone whose email address shows their name as David B- who I assumed was like an administrative someone since the med school dean is Dean S- and the grad school dean is Dean P-, but then I literally just noticed this guy is signing his emails as Dean B- and idk if that’s his actual name or like his title and either way that was such a terrible social fuckup and I feel awful. Either I left off his title or I got his name wrong, and either way, I know it looked super disrespectful when it wasn’t supposed to be and had I noticed I would have spent more time figuring out who he was.

anonymous asked:

you know how we're always like "where are your parents?" @ stalkers? well, now we know why they are the way they are. no manners, no social awareness.

Honestly like…..clearly they were raised to be this way. Yikes.

I took my dad out to go see Monster Truck Jam for an early birthday present (he and I used to go to a convention center close by me as a kid all the legit time, it was our daughter father bonding, I’ve always been the tomboy daughter lol) and so for memory lane I brought him. Anyway, all night long I’ve been sitting next to this 7 y/o kid and he’s been talking my ear off and telling me all these facts and asking me who my favorite is (its grave digger) and I was saying I’ve been a fan of his since I was his age (politely informed me he was 7 lol) and this kid is just too cute and so polite lol

Voltron: Legendary Defender - Keith (ISFP)

ISFP, according to the cognitive functions, is comprised of the following:

Fi-Se-Ni-Te

Introverted Feeling (Fi) : Keith is quietly emotional, lending him a cool demeanour. He doesn’t verbalise his feelings but according to Allura ‘The Red Lion needs a Paladin as temperamental as itself’; his emotions fluctuate between high and low very frequently, which make him such a good match for his Lion. He’s not affected by other people’s emotions (completely ignoring Lance’s indignation when he says he doesn’t remember him) and processes his own by himself without letting others in.
He doesn’t care much people’s perception of him and does what he thinks is right, regardless of rules and what people tell him to do, earning him the label of being a ‘rebel and loner’. Keith doesn’t always know how to act in a socially appropriate manner (which admittedly is due to his isolation and may not be a valid point). In addition to this, he has a strong moral compass, clearly dividing what he perceives to be wrong or right - he refuses to leave the planet the Castle of Lions has inhabited for so long because it could mean possible danger to the aliens living there and innocents shouldn’t be put in danger. Similarly, the Galra, no matter who it is or in what situation, are his enemy because they hurt Shiro - when Keith attacks Zarcon, he does so because he wants to eliminate undeniable evil. Further, he becomes upset when Pidge voices her wish to leave Voltron, listing all the moral reasons she shouldn’t, as if trying to correct her ‘faulty’ ethics.

Extraverted Sensing (Se) : Keith is known as one of the most agile team members of Voltron. He has excellent control over his body, great reflexes and ‘relies more on instinct than learned skill’. He reacts immediately to being expelled from the Garrison, moving to the desert where he adapts fast to his new environment. Similarly, he’s barely even fazed by unexpected developments, such as Lance, Hunk and Pidge barging in one his rescue mission for Shiro. Keith’s ability to adapt to new situations quickly without necessarily looking back is also apparent in becoming part of Voltron; he voices next to no objections. He sees what’s undeniably there and acts on it in the present.

Introverted Intuition (Ni) : Keith’s whole reasoning behind moving to the desert is to follow a vague gut feeling, like ‘some force pulling him in that direction’. He doesn’t question it, going along with it in the certainty that it’s going to lead him to something real, and pieces together clues about the Blue Lion from what he finds in the desert. It’s a slowly accumulating picture with its missing pieces only being added once Hunk provides the last piece (the graph). Once he joins Voltron and their mission becomes clear, all his focus is on making their goal reality. Keith is a quick learner, picking up on things he has little to no former experience in. While not able to respond to Lance’s jokes in a similar manner at first, he learns what is acceptable fast - when Lance asks to be unchained from the tree, Keith is the one to initiate banter and jokes to the same degree as Lance. Keith gets flashes of insight, such as in ‘Collection and Extraction’ - he sees something he ‘just knows’ to be behind what’s going on at the base and immediately deviates from the plan to explore it. The same action also shows his lack of foresight, due to his Ni being one of his weaker functions, and adds to his impulsiveness.

Extraverted Thinking (Te) : As Keith’s weakest function, this doesn’t come into play very often. It’s shown in when he sorts all the clues he finds into a network on a pin wall, clearly connecting everything to show an emerging pattern. He immediately recognises the graph Hunk shows him when explaining a scientific concept, identifying a mountain range in the desert. He’s good at recognising the best, most straightforward way of doing things when he needs to.
Te is a function that is often associated with being comfortable with taking over control and leadership - so far, this has come out in Keith when he’s under pressure as inferior functions often do. For example, when Keith finds the Red Lion, he expects it to obey immediately and is surprised when it doesn’t. This stumps him because that is the most obvious, logical way of bonding with the Lion as far as he knows. He bluntly tries to force it into submission by trying to establish his dominance over the Lion, ‘I am your Paladin! I’m bonding with you’.


If anyone’s got any questions/wants to challenge this, please ask! :D

Things I wish the Divergent / Insuregent movie had taken the time to include about Eric:

• Where he lived. Any sort of description really; how big the place was, color schemes, where was it located. Tris could have stumbled by it at least once.

•Scenes with Eric doing routine stuff. What did he do once he went home from hunting down Divergents? Took a bubble bath? Made dinner? Scrap booking his favorite kills of the day?

•Had him take his shirt off at least twice.

•Told us where he hung out. No one ever bumped into him once after hours. He had to be there somewhere. (Unless he was scrapbooking.)

•The ladies he associated with. There’s no way he was all work and no fun. There had to be at least a few girls in his time in Dauntless and it would have been interesting to read.

•His social mannerisms and quirks. We only got to see him interact with a few initiates and Johanna and Max, but it would have been interesting to see him around regular members as well. Not to mention the fact that he had to have at least one friend. Maybe.

•His resurrection or reappearance in Insurgent.

theatlantic.com
John Steinbeck on Falling in Love: A 1958 Letter
The Nobel Prize Winner and author of The Grapes of Wrath on the importance of waiting for love
By Maria Popova

// this letter is my go-to when looking for reassurance when it comes to relationships and love: whether you’re getting together or falling apart.

New York

November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First – if you are in love – that’s a good thing – that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second – There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you – of kindness and consideration and respect – not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply – of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it – and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone – there is no possible harm in saying so – only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another – but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens – The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.

Love,

Fa

Of Genizahs, Sufi Jewish Saints, and Forgotten Corners of History

Sarmad Kashani was a poet, merchant, courtier, and social dissident whom scholar of religion Nathan Katz memorably dubbed the “Jewish-Sufi-Yogi Courtier of the Mughals”. Born around 1590 to a Jewish merchant family in Kashan, Iran, Sarmad supposedly received a thorough Jewish education but later converted to Islam after studying under the preeminent Islamic scholars and philosophers. Around the age of 40, he underwent what we might now term a midlife crisis. While traveling in the subcontinent on business, his career took an unexpected turn: he fell madly in love—spiritually, says the tradition—with a young Hindu man, Abhai Chand. This passion inspired him to cast aside all manner of social conventions, including, quite literally, his clothing. In the tradition of naked Indian yogis or renunciants, Sarmad went about naked, traveling from city to city and imparting spiritual teachings, predictions of the future, and Persian poetry. In all his peregrinations, Abhai Chand remained his lifelong companion.

In the south Indian city of Hyderabad, Sarmad encountered the author of one of the earliest encyclopedias of world religion, the Dabistan, who was thrilled to meet a Jew in the flesh. He interviewed Sarmad on Jewish beliefs and customs, even if the ensuing account seems a bit unorthodox:

Sarmed gave the information that, according to the Yahuds, God, the Almighty, is corporeal; and that his body is after the image of mankind, and similar to it; that, during the course of time, he is dispersed in the same manner as splendor is dissi­pated. Sarmad moreover said, that it is mentioned in the Mosaic book and in the holy writings, that the spirit of the divine body is beauty itself, and manifests itself under a human form (translated from the Persian by David Shea and Anthony Troyer).

The author of the Dabistan notes that Sarmad and Abhai Chand translated at least part of the Torah into Persian. At the height of his renown and interfaith dealings, Sarmad was an active participant at the Mughal court in Delhi, where he interacted with European Jesuits, Hindus, and Muslim scholars alike. A close confidante of the “syncretizing” prince Dara Shikoh, he was also a vociferous critic of Dara’s brother and successor Aurangzeb. Likely as a result of his role in the political intrigue between brothers, Sarmad was executed on charges of public nudity or blasphemy in 1661 or 1662. To this day, he is venerated as a Sufi martyr and a Sufi “Jewish saint” of India, and his tomb in Delhi remains a place of pilgrimage.