So sorry about the lemmings remark. It was just a figure of speech I let slip through and I honestly did not mean it in an ugly way. The point of my query was merely that it is so hard for us who have seen none of the photos which everyone else apparently has seen to understand what all of the uproar is about. I thought we were doing fine.
Thank you for the apology. I think the main “uproar,” and at least where my confusion is coming from, is that he attended a family event across the country with a girl who has continuously tried (mostly unsuccessfully, I might add) to show that she’s dating him. And not blatantly either. Through constant innuendo and self-promotion and completely for self-gain. Combine that with the fact that last year, all of last year but especially the fall/winter, was literally the worst year to be in this fandom hopefully ever and people are still not over the horrendous bullying, constant harassment and generally terrible treatment shippers received. We’re sensitive, we’re defensive and we’re really bruised. Hence when everything was going so SO well for 6 weeks, I think we may have let our guard down a bit. I know I did. So this, while in the grand scheme of things was maybe not such a big deal, it was unexpected and it stung because everything Sam and Cait have shown us since January has been them, as a team together.
In bed. It’s been Sam interacting with and enjoying shippers on twitter. And then out of the blue we have Sam flying across the country to attend a family event with this random chick??? who admitted to and said she was thankful for gaining something like 3,000 more social media follows because of her connection to Sam? I’m not saying I believe 75% of it but I think I can speak for many shippers when I say we feel a bit played with. I know Sam and Cait don’t owe us a goddamn thing in terms of their relationship but I think we at LEAST deserve respect and to be treated like we’re grown ups and not 5-years-old having a joke played on us that’s going over our heads because that’s exactly what it feels like. I feel like I’m being played for dumb somehow and it’s not nice. So I don’t know how much control they have over their situation, maybe it’s none, but I’d really appreciate a bit of honesty from one or both of them. Nobody enjoys being lied to. I don’t care if you’re on or off the ship or somewhere in between. We’re all really tired and really, really done.