Why is John so like gross and disgusting? Doesn't he see his actions as problematic at all?
this is a complex question because i dont think its so much he doesnt see so much as he doesnt care
he doesnt care about who he hurts or the consequences of what he does so long as hes getting attention
because trust me we told him plenty of times he was wrong and he would do his whole “im sorry i love you i promise ill change” routine that all abusers do to placate others
and then go right back to doing the same shit and then blame us for “expecting him to change overnight”