I feel like I’m just raining on everyone’s parade or something (which is not my intention, I more just feel like I don’t understand it?) but it just bothers me the way that some people treat mental illnesses with almost over-positivity? I understand the need to make positive out of the negative and obviously everyone uses different coping mechanisms, so I get that people have their own ways of dealing with things and etc. But idk, stuff like “everyone with stpd are beautiful fluffy sparkle baby angel sweeties UwU, stpd really just stands for Super Tremendous Perfect Darling teehee i love uuuu~!!!” simply bothers me and is just off-putting and uncomfortable. I don’t see how that is helpful. I suppose maybe it could help an individual boost their confidence?? But how much can well-intentioned-but-very-generalized platitudes from random people on the internet actually help in an individuals confidence? It seems sort of demeaning in a way I suppose, because it’s like forced positivity upon something that isn’t necessarily positive. Don’t get me wrong, of course I have many traits of my mental illness that I’m actually kind of thankful for and there’s a few traits that I actually find favorable that I’m happy to have in comparison to what ‘regular’ traits would be . But there’s a difference I guess between rationally appreciating specific traits and watering down an entire concept to the point that you ignore the negatives that are present. It’s like diluted and the actual seriousness of the particular disorder is sort of ignored and the conversation becomes just very fake and fluffy seeming to me.
Like if you were to come to someone with a specific serious problem and all they told you was “omg bby everything will be alright u r perfect and amazing and a unicorn goddess dnt let anything get u down~! ur a bright sparkle and everything is amazing and youll get better i love uuu UwU”, would that honestly help some people?? To me that would only have the opposite effect, I think I would just be annoyed that I had entirely wasted my time coming to someone who clearly wasn’t capable of providing me with informed or solid insight. I haven’t received any feedback on my actual problem, i’ve just received some form of random fluffy “emotional support” ? ( I’m not annoyed by the person themselves, I see that they’re coming from a good place and mean well, so it’s nothing against them, I would just be more peeved in a general sense that I received nothing of practical value from the conversation. )
I just mean like i guess I would like to understand it? Whats the point? How does it help? Does it actually help anyone? Does it do more harm than good? Why does this occur? If you’re someone who has actually been helped by this, can you explain like what it does for you or what satisfaction you receive from it? Am I just not thinking about it in the right way or something??