the "kara losing her entire world" thing is so ridiculous to get mad at. she's lost her boyfriend who she loved and who helped her 'be human' and lost balance in her life. if mag///gie died and a///lex said the same line, it would be fine. but bc mon-el is a cishet white male and kara is a woman, it's apparently bad for her to care about someone that much i just
honestly, i was going to mention this in that ask post, but i didnt want angry shippers on my tail.
but yes to all of that. if al*x said that, it would probably be okay. but since its about Kara, it not okay.
just like Kara developed a love life this season, so did al*x. And its not past the realm of reason for one of them to be devastated if they lost their significant other.
and it was Kara that feel in love, it was her who had her heart-broken when Mon-El. So wanting to dissociate from the pain and be a hero full-time is reasonable!