so i should probably post about it

Hey guys

So I’m back! I feel better about everything and apart from the small blip last night I should be back to posting regularly again. I’m starting to do the requests again as you probably saw with the new Bumba’s one I did and as @lyreical-dork kindly posted yesterday I am making some if not all of them into stickers to sell so if anyone wants any of them then please let me know. 

Thank you all so much for the kind words on both of my other posts, I read them all and I was touched. It warmed my croc heart <3

Originally posted by amnhnyc

Last Weeks Goals

So my goals for Monday to Friday last week were pretty basic:

No take out - i did have subway and pita pit, but i chose healthy so i’m not mad about it

3 workouts - 2 trips to the gym and a long walk 

Drink more water - probably not as much as i should have been drinking, but more than the previous week so i’m happy!

I’m also only 3.2lbs away from my first goal weight of 185lbs!!! I should definitely have it within the next two weeks :)

Self Diagnosis Misconceptions
  • How anti-self dxers think I self dxed:
  • Me: *reads post about disorder and mildly relates to half a sentence of it* sounds edgy *loudly screams from the rooftops that I Definitely Have The Disorder*
  • How I actually self dxed: (note that this takes place over a period of multiple months)
  • Me: *reads post about disorder* wow I really relate to this but I don't have that disorder so I'll just ignore it.
  • Me: *reads and relates to many more posts about that disorder* ok, I should probably look into this more.
  • Me: *looks up official diagnostic criteria for the disorder* huh, I guess I don't have it.
  • Me: *reads and relates to more posts about the disorder* hmm… this is kinda weird…
  • Me: *looks up the diagnostic criteria again, this time recalling past incidences of symptoms* wait I… actually do enough of these symptoms to get I diagnosis… how did I not realize this the first time…?
  • Me, weeks later: but what if I actually don't?
  • Me: *looks at the diagnostic criteria again, remembering even more past symptoms* ok I most likely really do have this disorder.
  • Me again: but what if I really don't
  • Me: *takes at least half a dozen online tests based off the official diagnostic criteria*
  • Literally every test: You might/probably/definitely have moderate/severe (disorder). You need to see a mental health professional.
  • Me: ok, the evidence so far suggests I have this disorder
  • Me, forever questioning my own perceptions: ok but what if I don't

If you would go out of your way to argue how easy it is for capital to automate away jobs when labor costs become too high, then you should probably know that you’re giving all kinds of credibility to those of us who advocate fully-automated luxury communism. I mean, think about it: you’re arguing that so much of human labor ISN’T NECESSARY because said jobs can be done by machines, and yet you STILL want the bulk of humanity to pointlessly scrape by laboring for the capitalist class, receiving meager wages to buy the shit they helped generate in the first place. The above billboard is a THREAT. Let’s not mince words – that billboard is bourgeois propaganda designed to turn the working class against each other and against the broader goals of resource democratization. “If you fight for a basic livable wage, just know that you’re easily replaceable, peon!”

This is what leftists mean when they say that capitalism is an economic system filled to the brim with tensions and contradictions; it’s also what they mean when they say that capitalism inevitably produces its own gravediggers. Automation is one of those gravediggers, and it’s a major one at that. As more and more jobs become automated in the coming decades, the working class will face widespread dispossession, ramping up revolutionary class consciousness in the process. At that point, capitalism will either focus on generating more superfluous jobs for people to work or set about instituting a universal basic income – regardless, the point is to keep enough scraps flowing downward so that people don’t call for a broader system change. In this way, capitalism’s ruling class can maintain control over the wealth-producing means of production and imperialist capital accumulation can continue unrestrained.

For these reasons, “more jobs” and universal basic incomes are not enough. We need to democratize the broader social infrastructure and eliminate the profit system. If you recognize how possible it is to automate away human labor, then you should defenestrate yourself out of the Overton Window and use some political imagination – cut out the unnecessary jobs, automate all the labor you can, produce for human need rather than elite profit, and you end up with drastically reduced working hours and bountiful leisure time. This is the essence of fully-automated luxury communism – the natural conclusion of the conditions that capitalism set in motion.

Be wary of automation in the present climate, but always trace it back to the class struggle. Robots taking our jobs SHOULD be cause for celebration; why should we treat these potential liberators as harbingers of dispossession? Technological advancements are pushing us exponentially towards a de facto post-scarcity world, where everyone’s needs can be comfortably met alongside their desires for community and leisure and entertainment, and yet we’re held back by Empire’s insistence on keeping the means of production hoarded under the command of a superfluous ruling class. As long as we are divided into capitalists and workers, humanity will never know full liberation.

Dear Strange Man on the Train,

At 11 o’clock at night, you moved across the train car to sit far too close to two girls about half your age so you could interrupt our conversation to tell us how pretty we are. We said thank you, have a good night, and went back to our conversation.

You interrupted us a second time to say that you didn’t want to bother us, but we needed to hear it, how pretty we are. We said cool, thanks, have a good night, and went back to our conversation.

You interrupted us a third time to say you wouldn’t say anything else, you didn’t want to bother us, you just had to let us know. We said have a good night, and went back to our conversation.

This seemed to perplex you. You came all that way across a train car to bestow upon us this life altering knowledge - the fact we were pretty - and all you got was a polite thank you? You grumbled about gratitude, about how you better not end up on facebook, were we putting you on facebook? Why was my friend looking at her phone? Was she putting you on facebook? All you’d done was tell us we were pretty.

At this point, my friend says, “Sir, we’re trying to have a conversation. Please don’t be disrespectful.”

This was when you got angry. Disrespectful? YOU? For taking the time out of your day to tell us we were pretty? Did we know we were pretty?

“Yes, we knew,” says my friend.

Well, that was the last straw. How dare we know we were pretty! Sure, you were allowed to tell us we were pretty, but we weren’t allowed to think it independently, without your permission! And if we had somehow already known - perhaps some other strange man had informed us earlier in the day - we certainly weren’t allowed to SAY it! Where did we get off, having confidence in ourselves? You wanted us to know we were pretty, sure, but only as a reward for good behavior. We were pretty when you gifted it upon us with your words, and not a moment before! You raged for a minute about how horrible we were for saying we thought we were pretty, how awful we turned out to be.

I took a page out of your book and interrupted you. “Sir, you said you wouldn’t say anything else, and then you kept talking,” I said. “You complimented us, we said thank you, and we don’t owe you anything else. It’s late, you’re a stranger, and I don’t want to talk to you. We’ve tried to disengage multiple times but you keep bothering us.”

At this point, our train pulled into the next stop. My friend suggested we leave, so we got up and went to the door.

Seeing your last chance, you lashed out with the killing blow. “I was wrong!” you shouted at us as we left, “You’re ugly! You’re both REALLY UGLY!”

Fortunately, since our worth as human beings is in no way dependent upon how physically attractive you find us, my friend and I were unharmed and continued on with our night. She walked home; I switched to the next train car and sat down.

So, strange man, I know you’re confused. I don’t know if you’ll think about anything I said to you, but I hope you do learn this: when you give someone something - a gift, a compliment, whatever - with stringent stipulations about how they respond to it, you are not giving anything. You are setting a trap. It is not as nice as you think it is.

But you’ll be happy to know that when I sat down in the next car, a strange man several seats over called, “Hey, pretty girl. Nice guitar. How was your concert?”

“Thanks. Good,” I said, then looked away and put on my headphones, the universal sign for ‘I’d like to be left alone.’

“Wow. Fine. Whatever. Fucking bitch,” he said.

Person: hey
Me: I’m really sorry but I interpret anything anyone says that’s in a vaguely negative or neutral tone to be insulting or angry so I’m sorry if I get offended a lot lol I should probably shut up I just met you sorry

You know what?

Actually I’m fine with this.

I was having the “oh god oh god I WILL JUST HOLD MY JUDGEMENT TILL NEXT WEEK” feeling but after talking it out, you know what? Nope. It’s completely fine. 

Yuuri’s been like this the whole time. Victor truly has no idea how fucking ridiculous his boyfriend is because he’s not the neurotic one in this relationship. This is literally the same misunderstanding that has been building the whole time. Yuuri has probably reached peak neuroticism by now. Peak stress = peak anxiety, thus his near panic attack after his skate because he doesn’t realize how hard he’s been trying to hold it together this whole time and how much anxiety he’s been supressing (he’s been spending a lot of energy convincing himself he’s fine with something that he isn’t actually fine with at all; see 2) below).

Victor is sweet and WANTS to be supportive and he’s really trying but he literally has NO FUCKING CLUE IN HIS HEAD about how Yuuri’s brain works, like, at all, because he’s kind of the opposite of neurotic. It’s not that he’s insensitive, he just has no frame of reference for how Yuuri processes things - likewise, Yuuri has no frame of reference for understanding that he, himself, just as he is, could be “enough” to make someone else happy because he’s never internalized that idea. I almost think the idea that he can make other people happy through anything other than skating well or “succeeding” by competitive standards - by just being himself and being around another person who likes spending time with him - may have never even crossed Yuuri’s mind in his life, honestly. (No, this isn’t an extreme assumption - I may have just cried writing this because I was nearly in my 30′s when I really started realizing that in most areas of my life I had a problem with *internalizing* the idea that other people might actually get something valuable and enjoyable out of my existence regardless of my “successes” or “failures”)

This “opposite” personality type thing is, of course, both bad and good for their relationship - it’s why they are complementary to each other but at the same time, these completely different viewpoints is probably the biggest difference between them and that is why it’s going to be the biggest and last hurdle standing between them and the mutual understanding necessary for a healthy relationship. And that’s exactly why I think it’s obvious that they WILL work it out.

1) Narratively, this show has been VERY solid and reliable. Everything in the narrative points to this as Yuuri being neurotic and Victor being clueless. If there were something to be gained by them breaking up, then I would be a little worried. However, no matter how I look at it, the only things that could be gained from a breakup are:

a) Victor would “be able to go back to skating” or whatever it is that Yuuri is “keeping him from” …except it’s clear by now that he literally doesn’t want to, he’s ENTIRELY happy with what he has right now, and Yuuri and everyone else wanting him to “return” to the past won’t change that.

b) If Yuuri wanted to continue his skating career or had some other goal but feels that he needs to develop his confidence on his own without “depending” on Victor for his self-worth, this might be a sensible reason to break up. It’s honestly the only one I could kind of see happening. Except that… we KNOW that his his breakup ideas are literally tied into his plans to retire from skating. He’s said it so many times that he plans for this to be his last season. So breaking up with Victor WOULDN’T “give him the chance to develop as a skater on his own” or whatever because that’s not even a thing he’s thinking about. Also, Victor’s earlier narration about spending so long trying to succeed alone and find strength alone also speaks to the fact “going it alone” and “the importance of not depending on anyone, ever” are definitely not meant to be the moral of the story for anyone here; after dependence and independence is interdependence; interdependence = healthy relationships.

c) Victor gets butthurt by Yuuri’s inability to believe in his feelings for him, thinks that Yuuri is somehow cheapening his feelings and doesn’t understand it as fear of rejection and self-deprication on Yuuri’s part, and they’d break up because of of failure to actually have a REAL CONVERSATION about it - but this is not a productive ending for any series; pretty much no story ends like that. The only case where I could see this happening is cheesy romance like BL manga, where after this scene they’d be apart for a couple of months until they ran into each other again, then one would realize he couldn’t live without the other, force the conversation, cry and have makeup sex *~the end*~ But that’s a lame convoluted narrative - not the style of this series - and takes way more than one or two episodes to deal with and still ends up with them together in the end. So it clearly won’t be that either.

So, honestly, there’s really nothing to be gained narratively by Yuuri winning the “let’s break up” argument, because all of his reasons are flawed and based on neurotic worries and assumptions about Victor but not actually knowing what Victor thinks. So far, everything in this show has made perfect narrative sense, so I’m not worried there.

2) Do you have anxiety? If you do, please tell me you are not familiar with the whole “JUST GIVE UP WHILE YOU’RE AHEAD SO YOU DON’T HAVE TO FAIL” feeling? But then you justify it like “No, see, I’ve come up with lots of reasons (i.e. neurotic worries) why this is the ‘realistic’ and ‘pragmatic’ thing to do, I’m not ‘running away’, I’m doing what makes sense! D:”. See, that’s obviously where Yuuri is at. This is a huge case of “Give up Victor now while all of your memories are perfect and good (and make an effort to make those memories as perfect and good as possible! re: the date in episode 10) so that you have something beautiful to hold onto but you don’t have to deal with losing him later - no, no, I’m not being cowardly, seriously, this is best for both of us! Really! Victor can go back to skating and everyone will be happy and I’ll go live the life I deserve (whatever that is, but 8 months with Victor was more than I ever thought I would get in the first place it would be ridiculously greedy to ask for more, there is a limit to how much I can ask for, I’m going to stop asking before the answer is “no” because I couldn’t deal with the thought of that. Better to push him away myself than to wait until he’s annoyed with me and be pushed away by him!” If you’re not familiar with this thought process I’m not sure you’re familiar with anxiety because that’s… basically the crux of it. And the more I look at it the more I can’t see it any other way.

The end of this episode is just a confirmation of my feelings after episode 9;  In a way, I think episode 10 was meant to make you feel like maybe he’d solved that worry when actually he hadn’t: episode 10 actually just pushed him and Victor’s viewpoints even further apart, in a way:

Victor was feeling closer to a future together with Yuuri


Yuuri was feeling closer to being able to convince himself that he could end this memory on a good note; now he knew that he’d played an important part in Victor’s life and that was enough; he wanted to be able to end it without regrets that he hadn’t made the best of it.


This show is way too narratively clean to do something that doesn’t make sense now - and if by some wild chance they do break them up at the end it’s going to be in some romantic twist where they ARE still happy and love each other, (or else worst case scenario some cavalier move that relies on the hope of a second season but I seriously doubt that they won’t wrap this up, since all the metanarratives are already in place).

If you’re still worried, Here is a good thing someone else wrote

3) I know there’s going to be a ton of “NOO IT WAS QUEERBAITING ALL ALONG” bullshit because my friends have already been complaining about seeing a bunch of it (I’ve been covering my eyes) - but that’s what it is: bullshit. Sorry, but it is.



Guys, don’t be swayed by that doubt; You see, even if the unthinkable happens and they break up, you know what? This still wasn’t queerbaiting. Why? Because they were in love and are in love and when you break up with someone you loved does that you never loved them? No. It means you were in love and then you broke up - that’s what people do so guess what, QUEER PEOPLE DO THAT TOO. Let’s say a bisexual girl breaks up with a boyfriend she loved, and then a couple years later she falls in love with a girl - does that mean she is not bisexual or that she never loved that other boy? Obviously not. I would like it if people could stop thinking that breaking up means that somehow “it was never real to begin with”. That kind of thinking makes no sense. You can love more than one person in your life and if this show has made one thing clear it’s that these two love each other and have spent probably more than 8 months loving each other, and that their entire character arc was about falling in love - so even if they find some batshit crazy reason to break them up it doesn’t mean that this was queerbaiting because they fucking loved each other and breaking up won’t change the fact that those 8 months were real, okay? Seriously. I really don’t want to see any “it was queerbaiting” posts so I might just kind of be careful around tumblr for the next week.

#DEAR EPISODE 12 PLEASE MAKE ME CRY ALL THE TEARS IN A GOOD WAY  #I HAVE FAITH IN YOU

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how am i supposed to leave now…?

…also, you should probably go see Hunk, dude.

Lol so this is based off my post here - we we’re talking about the mystery galra theories and @teegesmagee​ said maybe it is a future version of Lance! I have so much klangst thought up around this idea, man, it makes me wanna write about it

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161030 1pm - i finished up this weeks spread at breakfast this morning !!! idk how i feel about this bc it got really cramped, but i like the layout idea a lot and ill probably try it out again closer to the holidays !! next week i think im going to try for a more naturalistic (??) style haha (not pictured: the lasagna at caffè habitū that made me cry for home cooking again)

what is a “russ” and why does it seem like the biggest deal in SKAM ( aka vilde ) ?

so if you’ve seen from season 1, you’ve heard about the famous “russebussen”, or how in season 2 you see william and his friends partying in a bus. so you’ve probably been like “wtf is this shit? do norwegians actually obsess over this?”, well the answer is yes and no. but i’ll explain more of that later on in this post.

so to the first thing, what is a russ? well to sum it up shortly a russ is someone who is finishing up their last year of videregående, or as some would call it, high school. 

russefeiringen or russetia will normally last for about a month, starting in april and ending on the 17th of May, the norwegian constitutional day. during this period you will often find severely sleep deprived, hung over 19 year olds. 
but the russ do other things than drink and party; they also dare each other to the most hilarious things like walking around with bread shoes, go on a date in the school cafeteria with a first grader ( they’re 16 don’t worry! ), walk to the shops or around town with skiis on their feet, sit in a trolly and order a happy meal at McDonalds drive through, and so much more. 

but you also need to watch out, because if you are a first grader or a second grader, you can easily end up on the “terrorliste”, meaning that the 3rd years fuck you over like duck taping you to a pole whilst they throw water, flower, egg and all other stuff. you can become kidnapped, where the russ will take you and drive you to a place and then just leave you there, but they mostly leave you at a buss stop and make sure that you have the money to get home again. 

but the russ often have fights among each other, where the “enemy” can be the neighbouring city, the schools that are close to yours or the famous “blå russ vs rød russ” ( i’ll get into the colours in another post ), or the østkanten vs vestkanten ( east and west parts of oslo, the rich kids vs the middle to lower class kids ) 
now during the fights, you will often throw eggs at each other, egging down cars or other russ. the meeting grounds are trashed after the “fight”, but it’s all for a little fun.

now to the russebus and russebil. both extremely popular amongst the russ.

now this is a russebus, they don’t need to look like this, in fact if you google russebusser, you can find a lot of really cool busses. 
but anyways, russebusses normally cost around 1 million norwegian kroners, but normally they can reach up to 4, depending on how much work you’re putting into the bus.  
now people normally save up from the 9th or 10th grade with a group of their friends just so they can get this bus. the busses look amazing, and is a great place to sleep during landsstreff and a lot of room to party in, on the top and lower decks. this is mostly popular in the oslo area, but you can find them all over the country.

now this is a russebil, again really popular choice for the russ. here a smaller group of friends will save up money to buy the car ( or perhaps their parents have one for them to have ) and they decorate the inside and outside, often writing their names on the car. 
now i would say that the cars are more popular, because of the huge price difference. but hey, if you got the money and if you saved up, why not?

now all of this is all fun and all, but the russ also have to be extremely careful not to party too hard, specially with our new fraværsgrense of 10%. and the fact that our exam period is right in the middle of russetia. so whilst you are celebrating that YAY IM DONE WITH SCHOOL, you’re actually not and have to worry about reading with a hangover. the politicians did this in the 70′s in hopes that the russ would party less, well it didn’t work at all.

of course you don’t have to be a russ, but it’s fun and it’s why we go all out, it’s our last celebration before we head of to universities or jobs. so this is the shortest version of what the russetia is and i swear i’ll write up what the different colours means and the different types of russ you can be, but that should be in a post of it’s own

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[[ well would you look at that, i finished another long-response-comic-thingy… ain’t i productive i should be doing coursework what am i doing with my life
so, due to the majority vote… sansby will be canon on this blog - don’t worry, this is still baby BONES, aka, sans and papy, so to all you sansby haters… just skip a few posts every now and then, okay? ;w; 

ironically i was listening to ‘helpless’ whilst drawing this 

also papyrus is totally bs’ing about knowing sign language. he probably looked up that one term and ended it at that… sans is too much of an awkward pudding to research sappy phrases like that anyway, so good going paps. ]]

I just reblogged a post but I’m pissed now so I’m going to make my own post.
People with BPD have to CONSTANTLY question if we’re being manipulative and abusive, even in the smallest of interactions. Overshared on feeling bad? Abusive shit I should die. Wait. Wanting to die makes me abusive too, and God help me if I tell anyone.
So, sometimes, we make tumblr posts telling other people like us that they aren’t inherently abusive, and there’s always at least one asshole who reblogs or comments saying “don’t forget that people with BPD can actually be abusive”. Which is not something we’re about to forget. I spend all day in a panic because I’m probably manipulating and hurting everyone, and I really probably shouldn’t have friends because I’ll just hurt them.
WE DON’T NEED REMINDING THAT WE CAN HURT PEOPLE; WE ARE HYPER FUCKING AWARE OF IT

About the Mila crush thing...

What saddens me about this fandom is that people don’t even want to consider the idea of Yurio and Otabek being just friends. A solid friendship based on mutual trust and understanding is just as important as a romantic relationship. If Kubo and Director Yamamoto will make them canon in the future, I support it even though I don’t really ship them. Scrolling through the yoi tag makes me realize how underrated friendship is. Romantic relationships can come and go as we mature but true friendships last forever. Also, there’s nothing wrong with straight couples being shown in YOI, I’ve seen posts about straights being called out for being heteronormative, and that they should go watch something else. Please don’t be so rude. The same people who would like the idea of Mila and Otabek being a couple most probably adore Victuuri. No one is trying to force their heteronormative beliefs on anyone. Stop being so negative. Let’s respect the creators of YOI. Also, Mila seems to know a lot of things about Yurio. If Yurio really thinks more of Otabek than just a friend, rest assured she won’t get in between them. She’s a sweet character not some backstabbing bitch.

It keeps bothering me that they decided to show that galra shield in Sendak’s ship to the audience through Keith, when they could very well have used Shiro or Allura, people we know has a past with the Galra empire, or even Sendak himself.

Okay, that sounded confusing, so let me try to elaborate. English is not my first language, so it will be a bit hard.

On the first episode, after Shiro and Pidge casually ditched Keith to his own luck on finding Red, we see him running around until he find himself in a… A…

He has two paths to go and doesn’t know which one to take.

You know, this

Now, the composition on this scene is interesting. You have the galra symbol hovering above Keith, who is right in the middle. It’s almost like it is pointing at him. 

Scratch that, the whole scene seems to be pointing at Keith in this one. No matter where you look, the lines take you back to our favorite Red Paladin. 

And then, this happens.

His whole body language changes when he sees it. He straightens his back, his arm falls to his side and I do wish I had HQ screencaps of this moment, but I don’t, so bear with my rushed kisscartoon misery.

And then he actually stares at it.

He stares at it for sometime, and only stops when he hears the galra soldier coming. His whole expression is… I don’t know how to put it. fucking language barriers, dude. If I were to name it anything, it’s almost of somewhat familiarity. 

As if he’s seen it before.

And then we see his expression changes yet again as he hears the soldier approaching and remembers why he’s there.

And not once the galra symbol leaves the screen in this brief moment. It’s always there, pointing at Keith, above Keith, on Keith’s visor…

Now, after three years hearing my teachers saying over and over again that nothing in animation is there just because, that everything was throughout planned to be there and be the way it is, I can’t help but wonder what were dreamworks and studio mir’s intentions with this one.

I mean, there’s the obvious one: to show the viewers one of the shields of the Galra Empire. To know that, whenever this symbol and others similar to this appear, it means that it’s related to the Galra in one way or another.

The thing is… Why do it through Keith, out of all the characters?

They could have done it earlier with Shiro’s flashback, as he remembered that he was in that ship before, at one point of his time as a slave from the galra empire. 

They could have done it with Sendak, since, you know, it’s his fucking ship.

They could have done it even with Allura, when Sendak first contacted the castle, and she could have recognized the symbol from the time Altea was being attacked.

But they made the deliberate choice to do it through Keith’s eyes.

They sat down in a room, discussed over this scene, made the storyboard, and decided that showing a Galra symbol through Keith, going even as far as keeping the reflection on his helmet’s visor when there were very few other times they used reflection to show anything in this show.

And here’s my guess on their not-so-obvious reason on to why they made this choice:

They want us to associate the galra with Keith, even if in the back of our minds.

The last time I saw a show giving this sort of hint was in the really fucking good anime Erased. In the op, for a very brief moment, you see the reflection of the killer in the shattered glass.

It’s not a really obvious reflection, for you still have a hard time associating the face with any named characters before the great and majestically composed reveal. And it lasts not even a second, so, unless you’re an obsessed theorist who lives in a shack in the desert and went through the op frame by frame, you barely notice it.

But is enough for you to make out a black suit, and now it’s imprinted in your mind that you cannot trust the man in the black suit.

SPOILER: And, as it turned out, the only character who used a black suit in a regular basis was the killer.

And just like in Erased they wanted you to associate black suit with the antagonist through the reflection, I feel like Voltron is trying to do something similar in here with Keith.

They aren’t straight out telling us, but they aren’t exactly keeping it from us. At a first glance, it’s just another in between scene before Keith gets to his lion.

But when you put it together with all the other slightly more obvious pieces of evidence…

… I dare to say it’s a quite brilliant hint.

TL;DR: Either Keith is a galra and they want us to associate one of the galra symbols directly to him as a hint, or I’m going completely crazy here.

Replacements for Ableist Language - OCD

A recent ask made me realize that I should probably have some kind of series to help educate writers about ableist slurs / offensive uses of words relating to mental illness, and offer replacements to use for writers.

Note -  It is ScriptShrink’s official opinion that anyone who has been the target of the ableist language used here is fully and 100% able to reclaim it if they so choose.

This was going to be a single post, but it started getting huge so I’m splitting it up. First up is…

OCD

Wait, Shrink, you might say. Why is “OCD” in a series about ableist language? Obviously it’s not a slur, right? True, it’s not a slur, but that doesn’t mean it’s not sometimes used in an ableist, demeaning way.

What it literally means:

It’s an acronym for “Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder.”

When you should use this word / phrase:

When you’re referring to the disorder itself and / or people who actually have obsessive-compulsive disorder.

When you should not use this word / phrase:

When you’re referring to people, behaviors, or things that are not related to the actual disorder.

Why you shouldn’t use this word / phrase:

OCD has a lot of symptoms that are often debilitating to the people who have it, and by associating this disorder with casual, non-clinical level symptoms (such as simply preferring being organized or being focused on details), you make it harder for people who actually have OCD to make their struggles heard and understood.

Examples of how to this word / phrase appropriately:

“She’s been diagnosed with OCD - she washes her hands for hours a day.”

“I have OCD. I have disturbing, intrusive thoughts and do compulsive behaviors in response to them.”

“In the DSM-5, OCD is in the same category as Hoarding disorder, Body dysmorphic disorder, Trichotillomania, and Excoriation disorder.”

Examples of how not to use this word / phrase:

“You actually fold your underwear? You’re so OCD.”

“I’m so OCD about brushing my teeth twice a day.”

What to use instead:

NOTE - I am not saying that any of these words are synonymous with OCD, or that people with OCD necessarily have these qualities. These are just alternatives that can help people describe what they really meant before they chose to use “OCD.”

All of these words have different meanings and connotations. Don’t just pick a word off this list at random - look it up and see if it’s the right one for what you really mean.

Cleanly
Conscientious
Controlling
Detailed / Detail-oriented
Disciplined
Exacting
Fastidious
Finicky
Fussy
Meticulous
Methodical
Nitpicky / Nitpicker
Orderly
Painstaking
Particular
Perfectionist
Persnickety
Picky
Precise
Punctilious
Scrupulous
Self-controlled
Squeamish
Strict
Systematic
Thorough
Tidy

So that’s it for the first part! What ableist language or slurs would you like to see me cover in this series next?


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Electric Love (reader x Bucky One-shot)

Hi, my lovelies!!! Technically, I’m still on hiatus (you can read about it HERE plus news about future fics). It’ll probably be another week until I am Officially OFF Hiatus. HOWEVER. I wrote this and I just kind of love it and want to share it and then I heard the song on the radio today so I took it as a SIGN that I should post it. I hope you like it!! Any feedback in any form is appreciated. I love you guys!! I’ll be back for good soon!! :) 

Song Inspiration: Electric Love by BORNS

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Electric Love (reader x Bucky One-shot)

Characters: Reader x Bucky, Tony, Sam, Clint, Natasha

Summary: Reader’s powers keep her from getting too close to anyone, until Bucky makes a surprising discovery. 

Warnings: near-death experience mentioned, mostly fluff, a tiny bit of angst?

Word Count: 1933

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Originally posted by retardell

“Hey, if it wasn’t for me, you both would’ve died, alright? Whose idea was it to knock down the power lines anyway? I can’t believe you both stepped in that puddle at the same time…” you trailed off, laughing about it now but still shaken by the sight of Sam and Clint motionless outside the HYDRA compound.

Sam smirked, “Well, I guess it’s lucky we have a walking defibrillator with us at all times, eh, Y/N?”

You had sent small electric shocks to both of their hearts to get them beating again. “Yeah, lucky I took pity on you instead of letting you die of your own stupidity,” you said with an affectionate smile.

A laugh erupted around the dinner table as the team finished eating. Bucky caught your eye and sent you a smile, which you returned. The former-Winter Soldier was one of your best friends and you were grateful to have him. The whole team, in fact. The past few years had been rough for you so finding the Avengers and being asked to join was a Godsend.

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