so a lot of good things in one

(2/2) “It’s very difficult to talk about adoption on the Internet. No matter what you say, somebody will say the opposite. We adopted Axel last January. He had spent three years in the orphanage. The staff loved him and were desperate to find him a family. We were the only ones on the list for an older child. We knew it was going to be difficult. I had read a lot of literature on the difficulties of overcoming early neglect. And we’re making progress. We’re teaching him that our home is a permanent home. We are learning that touch is a good thing. We are learning that hugs can make you feel better. And I’m learning to not put so much pressure on myself. At first we felt so much pressure to love him. It would hurt me when he didn’t want to be hugged. I wanted to immediately love him as much as our biological son. And I felt guilty because it wasn’t happening right away. But then I stopped pressuring myself. My husband and I decided to focus on basics. We focused on providing food, shelter, and education. And once we stopped pressuring ourselves to feel a certain way, we discovered that we already loved him quite a bit. It’s a rollercoaster. But I feel like we’re heading up. Adopting an older child is difficult, but every child is difficult. My biological child was difficult. Only this time, after several months, I’m sleeping through the night, my boobs don’t hurt, and I don’t smell like diapers. So I feel like I should be doing a victory dance.”

(Santiago, Chile)

Legends of tomorrow is like really really good like????? Great hilarious characters and strong female characters???? Awesome actors and amazing villains??? The heroes are not 100% good but that ok because they don’t have to be???? Beautiful characters developments??? Cool storylines and super smart plot twists????? Iconic films references??? It has it all and it keeps getting better I love it so much?????

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Moonlight Wine by me writing something really weird and angsty

@herzspalter and i recently been discussing jojo a lot. (which was super fun, like how we discover this weird and wonderful series and what not) also found out that she ships acdc/kars. i wanted to draw something for her and it was a good excuse to practice drawing acdc, so here it is.

ummmm herzy, i was gonna do like a one page thing but my brain sort of went into overdrive and my hand moved on it’s own. ah-hahaha… *sweats* 

nonetheless, it was fun

anonymous asked:

can u recommend me some good narnia blogs that post new content regularly pls?

honestly during the school year the narnia fandom kinda dies down. most people just don’t have time to make things as often :( but here are some great blogs that i’ve seen make stuff recently

@nylonsandlipstick, @queeensusan, @aslansblessings

these are really the only ones i can think off the top of my head. here are a few more who have made a lot of good stuff, but just aren’t as active atm

@ohnarnians, @pevxnsie, @jillpcle, @narniadreams

omg i left a million people out i am so sorry!! but here’s a few :)

Kevin Owens Sex Headcannons

This guy is someone I have mixed feelings about. One the one hand he’s a phenomenal wrestler. But on the other hand, he’s a cunt to Chris Jericho and Sami Zayn so…

But he reminds me of a hamster so he’s pretty adorable. I don’t know him as well as I would’ve hoped but here I am writing headcannons about him.

Originally posted by totaldivasepisodes

- He’d be very good at making love because look at him. But I feel he’d also be very good at rough sex because the guy can overpower you in seconds. 

- He’d groan and moan a lot through the whole thing, maybe even grit his teeth a little.

- I don’t think he’d mind whether he tops or bottoms in sex, as long as you orgasm then he doesn’t care.

- Likes dirty talk a lot

- Unlike some other people who can have many short lasting rounds, he can have one very long round. 

- So you’d probably have like 4 orgasms in that space

- He’s a very generous lover I think, so he’d probably always be in between your legs. 

- Your thighs would hurt after that session. But he wouldn’t regret a thing. 

- He’s a very big fan of pinning your hands above your head; whether its making out or during sex itself)

- He will always slap your ass, and it won’t be the quiet ones either. The sound would crack through the corridors. 

cubone-attack  asked:

As a future teacher myself I'm terrified about what people will say about me being with another man and also being an educator. However, I remember in high school having one teacher who everyone knew was gay but he never directly said it. He was kinda like my support system and really that's what I want to be to future generations of scared, confused kids. I know this didn't really answer your question but I wanted to share that I feel your struggle!

That actually helped me a lot! You are so sweet to take the time to respond! It’s good to know that I’m not alone! It may take awhile but we will figure these things out :)

nico-queen  asked:

okay not just saying this because i want adderall, but i think i might have adhd (good at school but anxiety over finishing things causes me to do poorly), is there something i can do to get on medication? i know doctors hate prescribing this kinda stuff, which is why i ask.

they actually prescribe it pretty quickly if you get diagnosed first. Talk to your doc about the fact that you feel you’d like to be diagnosed and they’ll tell you what to do from there. They’ll typically run you through a gauntlet of other ADD meds before giving you adderall (usually strattera, which absolutely sucks and is shitty imo, and then concerta/ritalin, which works well for a lot of people, and then vyvanse or adderall), so if they prescribe you one thing and you don’t feel it’s a good match for you, don’t be afraid to tell them that you’d like to try a different medication until you find one that works for you. It’s really, REALLY worth it, imo. It changed my life 200% for the better

So I’ve started reading the Witcher books in Polish. I feel a bit the same as when I was reading Tolkien in English except I actually could speak English at that time xD But oh well I like a good challenge I guess. Anyway I’m using my french books as translation to help me make sense of it and I must say that a lot of Sapkowski’s talent and writing style gets lost in translation. There are times in the french version when I stumbled upon some overly complicated sentences which I didn’t think were very nice to read. Turns out those sentences are actually VERY different in the original version, because yeah some things are so easily said in Polish by just writing one or two words and using the right grammatical case. And it’s completely impossible to translate that into French so the french translation is a loooong and complicated sentence struggling to convey the meaning of it. I’ve read maybe 10 pages so far but I’m already 100% convinced that it’s not possible to have an accurate idea of Sapkowski’s writing if you are not reading these books in Polish (or another Slavic language with similar grammar rules). I seriously even feel bad for the french translator because it’s obvious while reading the 2 versions that translating those books was a real struggle xD And I’m kinda falling in love with the books (and the polish language) all over again here. Anyway I’ll make sure to write a longer post about it afterwards, considering the time I’m taking to read it I’ll probably be done with Ostatnie życzenie in something like 5 years. Hopefully I’ll make some progress with my Polish in the meantime.

anonymous asked:

My favorite part about this Andromeda shitfest was you making the complete nonsensical suggestion that Bethesda's business model of repackaging an old engines and reselling what can be described as the same game (from the lips of Todd Howard himself no less) as a good thing. BioWare's incompetence to deliver a quality product shows only that BioWare is incompetent. The exizstance of the FOX engine torpedoes your argumentation to smithereens

Wow, I wasn’t aware that Morrowind, Oblivion and Skyrim were all “the same” game. That must make people complaining about one not being as good as the other really confused!

No, dumbass. I was talking about the engine underneath. But then, you probably think switching from 32-bit to 64-bit is as simple as flipping a switch on the compiler. If you’re running a ‘hello world!’ program it is, but for just about anything more complex, there’s a lot of things that need to be changed for it to work at all.

My argument is this, in simpler terms so you can understand it: It is generally better for a developer to stick with the same engine as long as possible, and incrementally upgrade it. Valve’s Source was built upon GoldSrc, which in turn was built upon the core of Quake with some bits and pieces of Quake II, as an example. Commands, file formats, the way the engine inteprets data, and all these sorts of things have made it enduring despite it’s age. And when it finally was hitting limits that could not be overcome? Source 2.

Bethesda is doing the exact same thing, but they’re being called the fucking devil for it. And as for the Skyrim thing, yeah, it is getting a little tiring that they just keep selling it.. but you keep buying it! And if you had the PC version and all it’s content, you’d get the remaster for free anyway! And if you didn’t, you’d get a significant discount, based on what you DID own! So, no, you weren’t paying for the same thing twice!

Unless you got it on a different platform. Which is how it’s always been.

So, to follow that logic, Bioware should have stuck with the familiar Unreal engine and simply gone with a newer release of it, rather than go with something completely different. At LEAST until they learned the new one’s quirks and methodology. Would that have solved the fundamental issues with the game? Nope. But it wouldn’t have the same bugs, and if it did, they could easily look at prior work and use the same solutions to fix them, even if the team that was working on it didn’t have the personal experience themselves.

That is all. That’s all I was arguing. Not about business practices or any other shit that you’re extrapolating from words I did not write. The relevant posts are right below. Please, point out where I say such things. Use Google or Wayback or a web cache or whatever to ensure I didn’t edit them.

tl;dr: Stick with what you know. If you need to go further, practice. Otherwise, don’t complain that your shot for the moon isn’t even getting off the ground.

anonymous asked:

What is it with this King Julien? As if he is a good character. All he does is party and lead his kingdom to destruction. Everything he does will never lead to something good. I got bored of King Julien once I reach season 2, it sucks. Find a better story to watch.

You may not enjoy All Hail King Julien like we do, and you may think that it sucks. But we all think that it’s a very good show and brilliantly done. Like I said to an anon before, nobody has the same views with anyone else. Even to the closest of twins, they would have at least one thing that they disagree with. I cannot deny that some episodes are boring (DATNB, etc.), but to me the rest are very good. I really enjoy All Hail King Julien, and so do a lot of us. If you hate All Hail King Julien, I respect your opinion, he may be seen as a selfish, and bad character to some people, but we cannot go to others and just blast out their inbox with hate comments.

ew I’m so disappointed I went into that phase of feeling cringey for liking twenty one pilots when I could have just been enjoying myself

like hell, you do you, but the concert was lots of ridiculous fun and just good vibes all round and the songs were loud and energetic and awesome and I had a super great time with my best friend and it was just genuinely fucking lovely ok

i am going to let myself have this one nice thing

if anyone, jewish or not (because I feel that non jewish people could also benefit from throwing out any lingering false associations between our core theology and christian core theology), is curious about learning more about how jewish thought / theology differs a lot from dominant christian narratives, specifically how “god” and “prayer” are very poorly executed english translations of our concepts of HaShem and tefilah/l’hitpalel, especially if you’re a jewish person struggling with the idea of religious judaism because you don’t feel compatible with what the dominant meaning and concept (heavily influenced by christianity) of the english words/concepts “god” and “prayer” are, please please watch some videos by Rabbi David Aaron specifically this one (x) and this one (x

neither of them really come from a denominational perspective so don’t worry about if you’re heterodox or orthodox it’s just a really good look at authentic jewish theology. and some of the misunderstandings that he clarifies are, if left unclarified, big stumbling blocks for a lot of jews who are hung up on things like “do I believe in God” “do I have some ambiguous faith” “when I pray does God listen”, and those stumbling blocks could be avoided by having these conversations about what jewish theology really holds as true, especially since a lot of those phrasings we absorb from our non jewish surroundings that lead us to be confused and doubtful about our judaism are based in concepts that are… entirely unjewish. 

like as a brief summary, “do I believe in God” is a question that is steeped in this christian dominant perspective that you sort of absorb in a lot of english speaking christian majority countries, where God = metaphysical dude far off in the sky that you have to profess blind faith towards, which… could not be further from what the concept of HaShem is in Judaism, aka HaShem is everywhere, HaShem cannot be depicted by any of our human conceptualizations of embodiment (like seriously depicting HaShem as a man in a flowing robe is a huge no no) and HaShem is more scattered divinity of Being than some humanoid ruler up in the sky (the video is a lot more eloquent than on this than me lmao). “do I have faith?” often references this idea that faith is blind and that "faith” is a state of mind not a set of actions. in Judaism there’s a lot more weight to actions than sitting around and thinking “yeah I have blind faith that there’s a God” (again that perspective draws on these weird ideas of HaShem as a distant and metaphysical being that are extremely unjewish) and “when I pray does God listen” comes from a non Jewish perspective of prayer as begging God to change his mind or something like that, which is again a very unjewish perspective and that second video link talks a lot about what the real meaning of l’hitpalel / tefilah is in Judaism and what are we doing when we daven, if not this english/christian centric concept of “to pray”

anyway I feel like those videos really solidified some things succinctly for me; I had the ideas cemented in my head theologically before but this was the first time I had heard them verbalized this simply so like check it out! the first video is very short, like under 10 minutes, and should be watched first imo, the second video is like 40 minutes, if you’re really interested but don’t think you’ll get to the second one on tefilah at least watch the first one on HaShem. 

i wish that more people would take a page out of miyazaki’s book and actually learn how to deliver a pro-environmental message without coming across as annoyingly preachy or anti-technology and progress

“Huh, we’re that couple.”

I drew a small part from @apvrrish‘s fic time out of mind because it just made me… so happy, among lots of other emotions and you should definitely check it out and all of their other fics because they’re all so good… :’)

Anyway Soldier is perfect and good

One of the most unfortunate (and fortunate in some cases) aspects of completely delving yourself into a fandom is that you begin to accept how other people interpret characters versus how the true game interprets them. Like I mentioned, this can be a really awesome thing!

But sometimes, not so much.

A good example in our home sweet home, the tf2 fandom, would be the most antagonized character of the game (at least imo. Medic gets a lot of shit representation too)

Good ol’ Jane Doe.

Most of my opinion on this topic is from a personal experience so I’ll jump straight into that:

When I first joined this fandom/ got the game, my love for the characters was pretty contrastive; Medic was super up top, and engie, demo, and ya boy solly I wasn’t really into (yet of course). This was pretty realistic since I was newer and had set my heart on my favs. As I met people, enjoyed content, and created my own, my love began to spread and even out (thank God). 

Except…one merc was still lagging. Soldier. As I matured in my knowledge and independence of interpretation I began to really notice why. 

Soldier is portrayed very heavily as the angry hateful antagonist of many artistic scenarios, especially writing.

It’s too easy. Jane’s excessive expression of opinion and loud sense of patriotism and criticism made him an easy villain to give an insult, or cause a problem. I had seen this usage of his character so often that I had forgotten how this absolute DORK teleported fuckin bread for three whole days, just out of childish impulse

LIKE HOLY HECK HE IS SO BUBBLY AND ALL OVER THE PLACE! The interpretation is flawed in one major place. Is Soldier someone who has opinionated outbursts?? Yes. Are they all based on hate and bias?? NO. Soldier is very expressive in all fields, including excitement, love, and the support he has for his team

The team part is a big one. Like wtf are you thinkin’ Jane LOVES his teammates!! He is extremely supportive and doesn’t seem to push his insults any further than impulsive outbursts

look at him smiling during scout’s date!! He’s so proud

pure

he’s so loving in his own way

anyway this kinda turned into a soldier appreciation post that is too long but uh yeah pls he’s not awful he’s a big ol dork thanks

Real advice

So a lot of you on here are teens and might be getting ready to be out on your own. Here are some things I learned the hard way or that are just good to know.

  • Never smoke or quit if you are currently. The cost of addictive smoking is more than half your groceries a month AND the bodily cost will surprise you.
  • Drink water. Yeah okay I know this one sucks but water is much much cheaper than soda, trust me. Your skin will thank you.
  • Send thank you cards. Don’t have any? Get the cheap ones and send those. It doesn’t matter how nice they are, the fact that you sent a thank you card matters. Send it for gifts, people calling you to check on you, those adults who helped you move, and even people who interview you.
  • Withhold 1. Okay so speaking of jobs, on your forms (US) where you are trying to figure out your tax withholding, put one. Yourself. It’s an easy way to make sure you don’t owe $2,000 in April and you still get a pretty decent check. 
  • No pets. If you don’t have a pet now, don’t get one. It’s super hard to get an apartment that will let you have a pet when you are first starting out. Wait until you are a bit older and can afford to rent more than a one bedroom apartment. 
  • Insurance. You’re young, so why do you need life insurance? Because that’s the best time to get it. Yeah, it’s a dumb expense to pay right now, but if you get it early, you can afford it. The longer you wait, the more expensive it is. Car insurance is going to be high for a few years, but it will drop around 22 and 25 years old. Health insurance usually comes through your job and please don’t ignore it. Renter’s insurance is usually pretty cheap and it covers you if there is a fire or natural disaster and you have to go back home to mom.
  • Off brand. This goes for food, clothing, makeup, and cleaning supplies and just about anything else you can think of. For food, Aldi’s is your best friend. I can go fill up a cart of just food and it will cost maybe $70. the same amount of food at Walmart is easily over $150. You can of course be picky, but try to get the majority of your food off brand. Hygiene products too. Goodwill is great for clothes, but plan a trip. Save like 60 bucks and drive near a big city where the rich people live. Go to the goodwill there. You can basically get an all new wardrobe for pennies on the dollar. Makeup is tricky. It can be really really expensive but you don’t really have to buy all of it name brand. Pick whats most important to you. I prefer eye shadows and lipsticks name brand and I deal with everything else from the drugstore. With he right techniques, you can make it look expensive. As for cleaning, I always use dollar tree stuff minus my laundry detergent because of allergies. Bleach, stain spray, and vinegar are gonna be your best friends,.
  • Car. Okay so yeah, that brand new car is nice and sure, maybe you can afford it. For now. Disaster will strike. Something will come up and bam, you’re stuck choosing if you want to walk everywhere or eat. Try getting a slightly used car, such as one of the ones they let people test drive a lot or a car that has previously been leased. Just as nice and much MUCH cheaper. And I have gotten THREE cars with no down payment so don’t let them tell you you can’t. But it is nice to put it down,even $100. 
  • Negotiate. Don’t be afraid to haggle with people. Yeah it’s intimidating but it’s 10 minutes of your life versus hundreds of dollars a year. What can you negotiate? Almost anything. Car payment. Rent. Insurance. Hospital bills. Even due dates for the bills you can’t negotiate on. Also, if something comes up where you have to skip a payment on something, call them. Give them like $25 and explain your situation. Ask if your payment date can be moved with the $25 as a goodwill promise to pay the rest later. It works. They would rather move your date than send you to collections. 
  • Collectors. Okay so this one is tricky. If you have fallen behind and owe a collector, don’t fret. I do too, even as I write this. Owing a collector means that the original service has been paid (health bills, credit card ect) and you are now paying the people who paid your bill. (I know it’s confusing) however, they will usually want the entirety of what they paid for you in 6 months. Meaning if they just paid a bill for you that was $3,000, they are gonna ask for $500 a month. That’s rent. That’s crazy. Tell them outright what you can afford and don’t lie about it either. If you can afford $100, tell them that. If you can afford $50, tell them that. If you can’t afford to pay them anything when they call you, let them know when you can. If you can’t afford it when you told them you could, don’t answer your phone to a number you don’t know. I know that sounds horrible but if you are renting an apartment, renting a car, and literally own nothing, they can’t do much to you. Just pay when you can and try to maybe pick up some extra shifts at work to make a payment. I have been dodging collectors for about three years. I owe I think three right now. I pay ONE of them a month, but it’s a large payment to keep them quiet for a while. I do not suggest this for you, I am just letting you know what I do.
  • Credit Cards. Okay, the big one. Many adults will tell you to never ever get a credit card and that’s just not feasible in this world. However, it can be addicting to be able to go to Walmart when you are negative in your bank account and get that $10 movie. I mean, it’s just 10 bucks right? WRONG. It will build up fast and soon the one credit card you have will be maxed. So you have to get another for emergencies. And another. And so on. So here’s my advice; Get a credit card through the same bank as your checking and tell them to put a limit on it and not let it raise. Then lock that sucker away and forget you have it until a real emergency comes up like a flat tire, short on money for groceries, or that collector that hasn’t been paid in 4 months. You can make it on one credit card if you are strict with your money, which I am sure you don’t have a lot of.
  • Budget. Speaking of money, write out a budget for yourself. Don’t know how? Here’s the easiest way. Most people get paid bi-weekly so here’s how to do it. Make two columns, Check 1 and Check 2. If you have a full time job you know about how much your checks are going to be so put the amount at the top of each column. Now that hard part - figure out what is due when. Is something due June 1st? Take it out of check 2 (end of May). Is something due May 14? Take it out of check 1 (beginning of May). That main thought process behind your budget is that you want to have the money for a bill set aside before it’s due. Paying a bill a few days early is a great way to make a good financial reputation for yourself and for some things even build credit. Now if you get paid bi-weekly, you will sometimes have a month where you get 3 checks. DON’T BLOW IT. Put it right back into your budget as Check 1 and keep the flow going. If you prepay bills, like your car or your rent or your credit card, and stay a month a head of those big ones, you may need that wiggle room later. If your car, for instance, is paid ahead 1 month, you can use the car money you would normally pay that month for maybe some extra groceries or some small emergency without using your credit card and you won’t even fall behind! You’ll just be back to owing every month instead of being ahead. It’s like a savings account without the temptation to blow the money. 
  • Simplicity. Enjoy simple things. A gym is expensive, go for a walk instead. Cable is expensive, pay for internet. Phones are expensive, get on a family plan (there is no shame in staying on your parent’s plan, just pay your share). Food is expensive, enjoy leftovers. Movies are expensive, go early and resist any snacks. Shopping is expensive, go to the mall and spend all day trying on cute clothes and taking selfes in the dressing room (makes you feel like a million bucks sometimes!). Time is expensive because you don’t have a lot of it so If you want to stay in bed all day on your day off, do it. If you want to binge on your day off, do it. If you want to just play board games with friends on a Saturday night with a few beers, do it. Simple fun is way better for your pocket and your anxiety.
  • Mental Health  - speaking of anxiety, make sure you take care of your brain. Go outside, even if it means sitting on your steps. Wake up early, even for just an hour. Don’t burn yourself out at work or school because you will suffer the consequences. Make a schedule. If you have trouble with timekeeping, ask for help. If you feel you do have a real mental disorder, see if your employer has what’s called and EAP program (employee assistance program). They usually help you find a mental health provider and give you a few visits for free. This will help you narrow down what exactly you have and after you’re free visits are up you can see who is in your health insurance network that can provide you the mental care you need. if you are prescribed drugs, always get generic. If there is no generic, ask for an alternative. I will not lie to you, mental health is the hardest thing to treat. It took me 8 years and a lot of money to figure out the right medication cocktail for me and my bipolar/ schizophrenia (yes I have both). Turns out I only need two pills, and if I were to refill both of them right now, I wouldn’t even pay $10 thanks to my health insurance (which sucks but at least it’s there) and because I got generics. Also, talk therapy can be pricey but sometimes only a few sessions can change your life. I have literally only been to talk therapy 11 times in my life and that was to deal with PTSD, bipolar, schizophrenia, and suicidal tendencies. 11 sessions. That’s 11 hours. And yeah, I paid over $400 out of pocket for those collectively. But if I hadn’t I would probably be dead right now so it was worth it.
  • Connections. Calling your friends is awesome because sometimes, it’s free therapy. And okay, maybe you’re 19 and you still have a horrible relationship with your parents. It’s okay. I am 25 and I still have problems with my parents. My whole family actually. Social media is a kind of safety net for me because that’s where I can be myself. Find where you can be yourself, it will help you stay sane.
  • Clean. Sometimes when I feel crappy, I take a shower. I clean the living room. I do the dishes. I vacuum. I mop. I open the windows. I get the trash out of the house. Change into some clean clothes. Organize my desk. Clean out your closet and put all your unwanted clothes in bags to donate. Just a small amount of cleaning can make you feel like you accomplished something. 
  • Hobbies. This one is a little hard too. It depends on your personality, your budget, and how much free time you have. Drawing , singing, and writing are free. Exercising can be free if you run or walk in the park. But most hobbies do actually cost money. Video games, playing an instrument, painting, sewing, cooking/baking, making things - those all cost money. Some of them lots of money. But you have to have a hobby outside of social network, sleeping, and working. It’s another thing to keep you sane and it’s just a good idea.
  • Toxic people. Do not be afraid to cut people out of your life that do nothing but make you feel bad about yourself or insult your life. This could mean breaking up with your partner, unfriending a person from your social circle, cutting out a whole circle of people, or even not talking to a relative(s). It’s not easy for some people but if they do not build you up, they will only tear you down. 
  • Drink at home. Okay so this one might sound like a no brainer, but I’ll explain it anyway. Packs of beer and hard liquor bottles are cheaper than a pint and a shots at the bar. Bottles of wine are cheaper than a glass at a restaurant. It’s never okay to drive drunk or even after one bottle of beer. NEVER. Staying at home is cheaper all around and you can drink in your pajamas while watching Finding Nemo on loop. Or invite some friends over and create a drinking game out of a show, a game you already have, or just talk and drink. 
  • Sleep. This one is so important. You need a good bed and a quiet, dark place to sleep. If you are scared of the dark, get a night light. Can’t sleep in silence? Get a fan. I have both of these and they help. You’re brain will feel tired if you ‘slept’ for 12 hours but only got 1 hour of REM. REM can really only happen every night if you are in a calm and dim environment. Quality of sleep will effect your eating habits, your emotional state, your mental stability, and your ability to make rational decisions among other things. 

So these are obviously just a few things, but I feel they are important to share. Please feel free to add any and reblog it for those about to enter adulthood. 

anonymous asked:

how do you feel about SU Crit blogs??

I’m kind of jaded about the SU c/rit/ical thing. So like disclaimer, if you’re a fan of the show providing legitimate criticism, that’s one thing. I respect that, like, a lot! But I’ve seen “su cr/iti/cal” blogs complain about such trivial things, down to (literally) inconsistency in Pumpkin’s tongue texture. I feel like at the beginning there was actual valid criticism, but now it’s just turned into a hotbed of negativity.

I think the problem is that some people feel like ragging on something for its flaws somehow demonstrates that you’re more objective or enlightened than those who choose to celebrate the good things about it. But how can you provide a valuable critique of something you’ve already decided you hate? In my opinion, if you find it impossible to acknowledge anything good happening in the show, you’re pretty much just as subjective as someone who is incapable of acknowledging its flaws.

The thing that I mostly don’t like is that when a fan of the show says “I don’t like su c/ri/tical’”, their immediate response is to say “foolish sheeple^tm, you special snowflakes are unable to take criticism about anything you like. these damn millennials !!!” Which is so ironic, because like, that’s just a weak response that gets tossed out by people who claim to be “critics” but are unable to handle when anyone says “hey, that’s a dumb argument and here’s why.”

I do really appreciate that they keep the criticism in their own tag rather than just the general SU one, though, so like, props. They can keep doing their thing, they aren’t hurting anyone. A lot of the time w/ ships and stuff, the actual ship tag is just filled with hate, so it’s nice that these guys don’t post their stuff in the main tag.

also–in case you’re worried this is suddenly gonna transform into a Discourse Blog^tm or something, worry not lol, we are returning to your regular programming right after this post. I just have gotten a lot of messages about this and feel like I should voice my thoughts about it \o/

blue night radio ♡ 170309
translation: u. kim, soompi

(the leaving announcement - longer translation) jonghyun: when i first started hosting this show, i wanted to create a space where people, including myself, could set their hearts at rest, no matter where they were. three years later, this space has grown into a whole world in itself. it taught me about so many things i’ve never experienced, and i’ve also revealed a lot to my listeners. this space allowed us to come together in one place regardless of where we were physically. some people joined us from the other side of the world and at a different time, but we were were still in the same space. physical space had nothing to do with us, and i hope it continues to be that way.

do you know the feeling when you find something you love so much that you’re not sure what you should do to take good care of it? blue night has turned into something like that for me, and now i don’t now what to do. i guess every beginning has an end. i have something to tell everyone today. for various reasons, i will be taking some time away from the physical space of blue night i thought my listeners should be the first ones to know. i will continue to be in the same spiritual space we created.

i apologize. i said i would stay for a long time, but [i had to do this] because of my schedule and health. i’m sure there will be a time when we can share our stories with each other again. as i’ve always said, i have a certain mindset that i set for myself as a radio dj. while i’m away, i will continue thinking about those things and polish myself before i come back. i will definitely come back.

you don’t have to define it. there’s lots of words and words can be good. you know? there’s a million words for genders, a million words for sexuality. and what they can be good for, these labels, are for helping you to understand your feelings ‘cause if you see a description or something written down you can think, “that’s how i feel,” and maybe if you want to convey your personality to somebody, then you can look that up and go, “yeah.” i know that some people argue that sexuality and all these labels and definitions are different things but we don’t even know what sexuality means so… on one hand, you don’t have to label yourself. a lot of tumblr, they… you know… make you feel like you have to “label myself with these complicated labels to be cool.” you don’t have to. if you just want to be a formless blob, a mess that struggles to define themself from moment to moment, that’s also okay. you can use labels if you wish, if it helps you to define yourself. and you can change!