Hey there Anon,
Sometimes you have to look outside your family, sometimes even outside of friends and local circles, in order to find folks who understand and can relate to your struggles. If you keep looking for validation among people who just don’t get it or don’t even believe it could be possible, you might wear yourself out.
I’m glad you reached out here - there’s lots of great blogs on tumblr you can follow and communicate with that have supportive communities. It can be very soothing and empowering just to read and even moreso to get into a conversation with even just one person. I know there’s lots of supportive videos on YouTube, too.
Keep educating yourself and exploring your identity; it will help you build confidence. At some point you’ll be able to take the invalidation of others and respond with information, all kinds of websites and organizations that support trans and nonbinary people. Several of the big organizations - the HRC and PFLAG and GLAAD - have PDF’s about being transgender that you might want to share with your mom someday. Often when people get information from a worldwide source they have a much harder time denying it.
And remember, the problem is outside of you, not within you. You will grow beyond your community and leave them in the antiquated dust of their ignorance.
Man, that sounds a little dramatic. But really. Chin up. =)
- Mod Aldwin