smile language

The Signs when flirting

Aries: Glorifies themselves and brags in hopes of attaining interest

Taurus: Really sweet and put together over text, an awkward mess in person

Gemini: Only flirts when drunk and somehow is good at it

Cancer: A bunch of cliche pickup lines. That’s it.

Leo: Introduces self with various ice breakers followed by a wave of awful jokes

Virgo: Waits for the perfect opportunity and plays hard to get.

Libra: Doesn’t play games or anything. Just blunt and to the point.

Scorpio: Laughs at jokes and smiles the same way they do with friends, so it’s a bit hard to tell if they’re actually flirting. (Surprise!)

Sagittarius: Doesn’t even try.

Capricorn: Is super smooth and good at flirting and somehow ends up being close friends instead

Aquarius: Just body language. Winks, smiling, nothing else

Pisces: Tries their best to be a Virgo and ends up being a flustered Taurus or Leo

Is that a doggy smile I see?

The internet loves photos of ‘smiling’ dogs.  But is that dog really happy, and how can you tell? It’s important to know the difference between a stressed dog, an overstimulated dog, and a happy dog - both for your own safety and so that you’re not sharing incorrect information that could get someone else hurt. Before you scroll down, stop and think for a second - what do you think a happy dog’s face looks like?

If you answered soft eyes, slack mouth and lolling tongue, you’re right! Unfortunately, because we’re primates, humans are cued to see tension around the lips and exposed teeth as a ‘smile’ - and in dog language, that means something totally different. A quick google search for ‘smiling dog’ pulls up these:

None of these are happy dogs. All show signs of stress. The signs to look for are tension around the lips/edge of the mouth, nose wrinkles, bared teeth, hard or squinted eyes, ears held farther back on the head, and overall tension. The last photo is probably an appeasement behavior, and the second is definitely fear with a potential for aggression.

Let’s look at some dogs showing happy smiles! Here’s the first google image for happy dog that I got:

Much better. Doesn’t that look like a happy animal? The skin around the mouth is relaxed, the mouth is open, the eyes are soft and there’s no tension in the face.

Now let’s look at some slightly more complicated examples, starring angerinyourbones‘s Spike and zookeeping‘s Ace. It’s important to know the animal you’re viewing when you try to figure out if it’s happy, because each animal uses different body language.

Here’s a great photo of Ace being super happy and smiling:

Erect ears, soft eyes, soft edges of the mouth (even though it’s open because he’s panting, they’re not pulled back tightly), loose face, hanging tongue without tension. In contrast, here’s Ace when he’s very overheated, but still smiley and happy. You can see that his face is still pretty soft even though it’s stretched because he’s panting hard.

Contrast that with this last photo of Ace below - this face isn’t a smile. Note how much tension there is in his face, especially around the eyes and the corners of the mouth. The tongue is pretty tense, too. Zookeeping describes this photo as him being overstimulated and very intense, fixated on her hand.

So that’s a good examples of how different dogs show stress/intensity/smiles differently. Lots of people would say that the third photo of Ace is a smile and the 2nd might be stressed, but it’s actually flipped. Remember - the more tense the muscle of the face, the less likely it is to be a smile.

Let’s contrast this with Spike! Here’s a great photo of him being fucking adorable and smiley.

Notice the soft eyes and face and lolling tongue.

Now compare that to the photo below. In the second photo, his tongue is lolling more but there’s also a little more tension around his eyes and pulling back the corners of his mouth. This isn’t a doggy smile, it’s a combination of overheating and stress. My big giveaway on calling that is looking how far back the corners of his mouth are pulled, because it’s more tension than would be necessary with his mouth open to pant that way.

Here’s a photo of Spike when he’s just plain overheated and not stressed - you can see how his face is a lot softer than the photo above, and there’s not as much tension in his lips.

This concludes dog smiles 101! Basically, look for soft features and a loose tongue. Check to see if the amount of tension around the lips is about the amount needed for how open the mouth is (and it’s not a smile if the mouth is closed). Eyes should be soft, ears should be wherever they normally sit on the dog’s head when it’s active and alert.

I’ll leave you with a photo of my surrogate baby, Avalanche, and his killer smile. 

When I kissed, you could taste 
Lahore — a film on my teeth,
a smell of gravel and rooftop wind.
Powdered ash and cardamom
still flowering in the corner of my mouth.

But these days, my tongue searches,
tracing the grooves of my gums for 
anything left.

My mother’s empty stomach
skipped oceans to fill mine and
somewhere, in a mosque,
in the tired arms of Quebec City,
fathers touched their foreheads to ground,
praying to the God in their children’s hands,
and rose to meet the eyes of the very war
they fled.

Tonight, I make pilgrimage to forgiveness.
I cup my hands and pray to hospital silence
and the harvest moon over opium fields
and what we look for when we look for home.

Tonight, my fist is not tight. There is a photo
in my wallet of my mother, 22 years old,
hand in hand with her daughter. Her smile
is the only language she still knows.

Tonight, I am not saving my energy
for the fight — I am waiting for the fight to save me.
In the elbow’s bend of this ruin, I am realizing
you only feel loss when you have
something beautiful to lose.

—  On Losing While Muslim | Ramna Safeer

anonymous asked:

These days there's a lot of promo about 50 shades of Darker and some of the pics of Jamie Dornan and Dakota from yesterday premiere remind me of Sam&Cait. The same "no room for Jesus" pose. He said he loves her and that she's her best friend. She said the same. The point is: Jamie is married and with 2 little kids. So that's when I question my beliefs about SC and tell myself that yes, maybe they're just friends since other co-stars act like them without being together.

Premiere was last night so this Ask doesn’t surprise me.

In short Anon, the answer is NO!! I don’t see Jamie/Dakota as SamCait.

Jamie and Dakota seem like friends to me. I don’t see the suggestive looks and smiles or body language I see with Sam and Cait.

But, let’s just say, for the sake of argument, that JD have the same interaction as SC.

That would make JD and SC people who are flirty and touchy feely. Fine.

MAJOR distinction! JD show the same type of affection to their SOs!! Jamie is very affectionate with Amelia and I’ve seen plenty of PDA between Dakota and Matt.

Sam and Cait with SOs? NOT SO MUCH…

So, I’m calling total BS on Sam and Cait being touchy feely with each other but somehow not their SOs??

Sorry, no go, thanks for stopping by.

Here I am posing in front of my future place of residence–La Maison Francaise!

I preemptively had a friend of mine take this photo because I was so dead-set on living here my sophomore year. The application process was wild. The form itself was simple, but maybe I was a bit too confident because I got rejected. Determined, I applied again and got accepted!

I want our lips to lock the way our hearts have,
I want my mouth to have a mind of its own when it’s touching yours.

When you ask if I care I don’t want to speak my anwser, I want to show you with the way I close my eyes and grab the back of your neck.
I could kiss you for hours.
Kissing is so much more than a touch, it’s an emotion all on it’s own terms.

Kissing is the unspoken ‘I missed you’
The late night ‘don’t leave yet’
And the ‘I’m sorry’,
But most importantly the 'I’m in love with you’.

I can never speak words that describe the same things a kiss does.
Speak my language, speak with locked lips and wild tongues.
Speak to me, with anything but words.

—  Language of the lips