Motherhood is not a competition:
By Naadira Chhipa
You have had morning sickness since day one of your pregnancy yet your cousin has never experienced morning sickness throughout her pregnancy, Alhamdullilah Allah has blessed both of you with pregnancy.
You have just had 12 hours of intense labour and delivered naturally yet your sisters have all had c sections, Alhamdullilah Allah has given all of you the status of a mother.
You have given birth to a girl baby and your best friend gave birth to a baby boy, Alhamdullilah Allah has blessed both of you with a healthy child.
Your baby started sleeping through the night since she was three months yet your sister in laws baby is two and yet to sleep through, Alhamdullilah Allah has blessed you both with the patience and strength to sail through different tests.
You chose to breastfeed while your friend chooses to bottle feed, Alhamdullilah Allah has given sustenance and filled the bellies of both your babies.
You chose to use a regular diaper yet your sister in law chooses to use cloth diapers, Alhamdullilah both your babies are hygienically clean.
You chose to co-sleep yet your neighbour chooses not to, Alhamdullilah both your babies are well rested.
You chose the cry it out method to sleep train yet your sister chooses to rock her baby to sleep, Alhamdullilah both your children will learn to sleep soon.
You chose to only feed organic food to your child yet your best friend chooses to feed her child whatever she has made for the rest of the family, Alhamdullilah both your children have food to eat.
You chose to home school your child yet your sister in law chooses a public school for her children, Alhamdullilah may all our children be successful Muslims and human beings.
You chose to only dress your child in branded clothing yet your best friend dresses her child in hand me downs, Alhamdullilah both your children have clothing.
You chose to have just one child yet your best friend chooses to have five, Alhamdullilah you both are blessed with the status of Jannah under your feet.
Motherhood is not a competition.We are all trying to be and do our best for our children.We should never think that the way in which we raise our children is the best method and the only method.There are millions of mummys raising their children differently yet successfully.Instead of comparisons, insults, gossip and belittling we should motivate, encourage, inspire, unite and celebrate motherhood.If someone you know is ‘mothering’ differently to you do not take it as a personal insult to yourself and retaliate rather wish her well and support her efforts.A new mummy is very sensitive and is always second guessing herself which leads to her questioning her motherly skills, we should be considerate and always praise her for being the best mum she can because we are all trying everyday to be the best mother we can be.
Let us not not be divided by motherhood but rather united in this beautiful journey.