People keep talking about how they want a relationship like Harley and The Joker. Canon ignorance and psychological implications aside, it baffles me that no one has ever mentioned the beauty of the relationship between Spike and Drusilla.
Fundamentally, they’re the same thing as Harley and Mister J.
Spike is a sociopath; he likes to toy with people physically, emotionally and mentally.
And Drusilla is insane,, her mind completely shattered by a sadistic monster who wanted to “create” something in her.
Both of them create chaos wherever they go. But that’s where the similarities between Spike and Dru, and Harley and The Joker end.
Because Spike and Dru actually reciprocate the love they feel.
Spike never belittles or hurts Dru (at least until Season 5, but we’ll skip over that.) He takes care of her, treats her like a princess and abides her madness. And whenever Drusilla does get hurt, Spike goes absolutely ape.
Dru isn’t obsessed with Spike; she isn’t afraid of him or used by him. Somewhere in her fractured mind she recognized that he loved her, and she loved him right back. And when she made the choice to go their separate ways, she mostly stuck to her guns. And Spike, instead of chasing her down and forcing her to come back to him, tried to move on. At least until Dru came back with plans for another bloody conquest, but again, the Devil is in the details.
It’s okay to aspire to a relationship wherein your partner understands your beauty and your demon. It’s okay to want to be with someone who, like you, is a little bit stark raving mad.
But it’s not okay to aspire to a relationship where someone hurts you.
Don’t be like Harley Quinn and The Joker.
Be like Spike and Dru.