‘Why do you appear to put down marriage and yet tell people to get married?’

To me, marriage is a dead thing. It is an institution, and you cannot live in an institution; only mad people live in institutions. It is a substitute for love.
Love is dangerous: to be in love is to be in a storm, constantly. You need courage and you need awareness, and you have to be ready for anything. There is no security in love; love is insecure.
Marriage is a security: the registry office, the police, the courts are behind it. The state, the society, the religion—they are all behind it. Marriage is a social phenomenon. Love is individual, personal, intimate.
And nobody knows where love will lead. It is just like a cloud—moving with no destination. Love is a hidden cloud, whereabouts unknown. Nobody knows where it is at any moment of time. Unpredictable—no astrologer can predict anything about love. About marriage?—astrologers are very, very helpful; they can predict.
Man has created marriage because man is afraid of the unknown.
On all levels of life and existence, man has created substitutes: for love there is marriage; for real religion there are sects—they are like marriages. Hinduism, Mohammedanism, Christianity, Jainism—they are not real religion. Real religion has no name; it is like love.
But because love is dangerous and you are so afraid of the future, you would like to have some security. You believe more in insurance companies than in life. That’s why you have created marriage.
Marriage is more permanent than love. Love may be eternal, but it is not permanent. It may continue forever and forever, but there is no inner necessity for it to continue. It is like a flower: bloomed in the morning, by the evening gone. It is not like the rock.
Marriage is more permanent; you can rely on it. In old age it will be helpful. It is a way to avoid difficulties, but whenever you avoid difficulties and challenges you have avoided growth also.
Married people never grow. Lovers grow, because they have to meet the challenge every moment—and with no security. They have to create an inner phenomenon. With security you need not bother to create anything; the society helps.
Marriage is a formality, a legal bondage. Love is of the heart; marriage is of the mind.
That’s why I am never in favor of marriage.

But the question is pertinent, relevant, because sometimes I tell people to get married.
Marriage is a hell, but sometimes people need it. What to do? So I have to tell them to get into marriage. They need to pass through the hell of it, and they cannot understand the hell of it unless they pass through it.

I am not saying that in marriage love cannot grow; it can grow, but there is no necessity for it.
I am also not saying that in love marriage cannot grow; it can grow, but there is no necessity, no logical necessity in it.
Love can become marriage, but then it is a totally different kind of marriage: it is not a social formality, it is not an institution, it is not a bondage.
When love becomes marriage it means two individuals decide to live together—but in absolute freedom, non-possessive of each other.
Love is non-possessive; it gives freedom.
When love grows into marriage, marriage is not an ordinary thing. It is absolutely extraordinary. It has nothing to do with the registry office. You may need the registry office also, the social sanction may be needed, but those are just on the periphery; they are not the central core of it. In the center is the heart, in the center is freedom.
And sometimes out of marriage love can grow, but it rarely happens. Out of marriage love rarely happens. At the most, familiarity. At the most, a certain kind of sympathy, not love. Love is passionate; sympathy is dull. Love is alive; sympathy is just so-so, lukewarm.

But why do I tell people to get married? When I see that they are after security, when I see that they are after social sanction, when I see they are afraid, when I see that they cannot move into love if marriage is not there, then I tell them to go into it—but I will go on helping them to go beyond it. I will go on helping them to transcend it.
Marriage should be transcended; only then real marriage happens. Marriage should be forgotten completely.
In fact the other person you have been in love with should always remain a stranger and never should be taken for granted. When two persons live as strangers, there is a beauty to it, a very simple, innocent beauty to it. And when you live with somebody as a stranger…
And everybody is a stranger. You cannot know a person. Knowledge is very superficial; a person is very profound. A person is an infinite mystery. That’s why we say everybody carries a god within. How can you know a god? At the most you can touch the periphery. And the more you know about a person, the more humble you will become—the more you will feel that the mystery is untouched. In fact the mystery becomes more and more deep. The more you know, the less you feel that you know.
If lovers are really in love, they will never reduce the other person to a known entity; because only things can be known—persons never. Only things can become part of knowledge. A person is a mystery—the greatest mystery there is.
Transcend marriage. It is not a question of legality, formality, family—all that nonsense. Needed, because you live in a society, but transcend; don’t be finished at that.
And don’t try to possess a person. Don’t start feeling that the other is the husband—you have reduced the beauty of the person into an ugly thing: husband. Never say that this woman is your wife—the stranger is no longer there; you have reduced it to a very profane level, to a very ordinary level of things. Wives and husbands belong to the world. Lovers belong to the other shore.
Remember the sacredness and holiness of the other. Never impinge on it; never trespass it.
A lover is always hesitant. He always gives you space to be yourself. He is grateful; he never feels that you are his possession. He is thankful that sometimes in rare moments you allow him your innermost shrine to enter and to be with you. He is always thankful.
But husbands and wives are always complaining, never thankful—always fighting. And if you watch their fight it is ugly. The whole beauty of love disappears. Only a very ordinary reality exists: the wife, the husband, the children, and the day-to-day routine. The unknown no longer touches it. That’s why you will see dust gathers around—a wife looks dull, a husband looks dull. Life has lost meaning, vibrancy, significance. It is no longer a poetry; it has become gross.
Love is poetry. Marriage is ordinary prose, good for ordinary communication. If you are purchasing vegetables, good; but if you are looking at the sky and talking to God, not enough—poetry is needed.
Ordinary life is proselike. A religious life is poetrylike: a different rhythm, a different meter, something of the unknown and the mysterious.
I am not in favor of marriage. But don’t misunderstand me—I am not saying to live with people unmarried. Do whatsoever the society wants to be done, but don’t take it as the whole. That is just the periphery; go beyond it.

And I tell you to get married if I feel that this is what you need. In fact if I feel that you need to go in hell I would allow you—and push you—to go in hell, because that is what you need, and that is how you will grow.

—  Osho

Uncle Remus Brand Syrup - “Dis sho’ am good” - Uncle Remus is a fictional character that existed before becoming the face of a brand of syrup. The character was employed as the narrator of a collection of folktales adapted and compiled by Joel Chandler Harris in 1881. Harris was a white journalist writing in post-Reconstruction Atlanta, Georgia. His stories were adaptations of the oral stories of slaves, and over the course of his career, Harris produced seven Uncle Remus books. Many African Americans have been sharply critical of the Uncle Remus character in Harris’ retelling of the stories, noting that his portrayal as a kind but passive old man is patronizing, and the fact that Uncle Remus has been emptied of any and all animosity toward his former slave owners rings false, c. 1920s.


Students have been studying slavery in the U.S. for decades, so how do we keep getting it so horribly wrong? Grappling with massive, institutionalized cruelty is no easy task, especially for kids, but we owe it to American students to tell them the truth. We’ll never be able to reckon with our shared national history if we insist on sugarcoating it. Read more

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For Black History Month, black second graders at LA school receive math homework about slavery

  • At Windsor Hills Elementary, a prestigious math and science magnet school in Los Angeles, second graders received math homework containing a word problem about slaves picking cotton, the Root reported. 
  • The word problem used words such as “plantation,” “slave” and “master.”
  • Karol Gray, a grandmother of a second grader at Windsor Hills, was horrified by the homework her 7-year-old granddaughter was assigned.
  • “It’s definitely disturbing using terms like plantation, master — my daughter doesn’t know what these things mean,” Gray told NBC News.
  • Gray said second graders also received word problems about a man being shipped or “mailing himself to freedom.” Read more (2/15/17 10:25 AM)

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Sex Farms During Slavery

While it is well known that slave owners routinely raped enslaved Africans, the actual extent of these atrocities is rarely discussed. 

This list highlights the most abominable acts committed on sex farms.

They would impregnate enslaved women then make their very own children slaves.

Enslaved males were forced to get 12 females pregnant per year for 5 years, according to another account.

By 20, women were expected to have 4-5 children. Slave masters often promised freedom for females bearing 15 children.

But these women often suffered cruelty by the master’s wife. Including the beheading of a child conceived by the rape of a captive.

These facts do not surprise me today. The most incredible thing is that we forgive white people after this mess. We are the only nation that could forgive this kind of atrocity.



With a gun-toting Harriet Tubman, ‘Underground’ is the perfect ode to revolutionary women

  • Underground, the television drama about runaway slaves on a quest for freedom in 1857, wasted no time in showing audiences that their preconceived notions about Harriet Tubman were all wrong.
  • For years, on-screen portrayals of the civil rights hero have been relegated to educational cartoons for kids and sanitized TV movies that portray her as “juvenile and one-dimensional,” writes Kate Clifford Lawson, the author of Bound for the Promised Land: Harriet Tubman — Portrait of an American Hero, at Entertainment Weekly
  • Think Cicely Tyson’s 1978 portrayal of the famed abolitionist in A Woman Called Moses, where Tubman spends half her time on screen in tears, praying for strength as she shuffles behind white abolitionists.
  • But Underground, which debuted its second season on WGN Wednesday night, turns that portrayal of female revolutionaries like Tubman upside down. Read more (3/9/17 3:55 PM)

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