skinnygirlproblems

Pet peeve:

When girls be like…“GURL you are so SKINNY, look at them chicken legs! Do you eat?!?!” like it’s okay to pick on me because I am (was) thin.

Now what if I said…“GURL you are so FAT, look at them BACK ROLLS! What have you been eating!?!?” would that be ok? HMM??

When you lose weight, you still find imperfections on your body. You’re never quite satisfied. Heavy people want to be skinny but then when you are skinny, you want to be toned and not just a bag of bones. It’s a never ending cycle of wanting to be better then before. Even if you are proud for losing the weight.
It would be easier if we could just accept our bodies for how they are and just simply nourish them.

Long list (sorry, just had to say it)

Can I add:

- Being told you look like you have cancer

- Being told you look like you are a drug addict

- Being told you look like you are dying

- Being told you are too fat and too thin simultaneously

- Getting sick all the time from being underweight

- Doctor attributing any illnesses to being under weight instead of running tests (my doc has done this SO many times to me now)

- Constantly being thought and talked about as a ‘girl’ or a ‘child’ instead of a woman (I get this so much!)

- Not wanting anyone to know you ever had a history of anorexia because they will immediately assume it’s because you are vain/shallow/stupid/rich/ridiculous/celebrity obsessed/fame obsessed instead of the reality which is that you are a victim of sexual & emotional abuse

- Being made to feel bad for having small breasts

- Your body becoming free to touch because ‘look at you, you’re so thin/skinny!’ and feeling the need to touch you to point this out

- Feeling conflicted/embarrassed/crappy about buying a hot drink & brownie/muffin to take to a class in case people comment about how and why you can eat so much and not gain weight etc. etc. and even going as far as to prepare a bitchy answer in case anyone asks

- Being made to feel like you aren’t attractive to anyone because you don’t have curves/breasts etc. ALL THE TIME

- Overweight people thinking they have some god-given right to say whatever they like about your body and nothing about theirs in return, EVER. This is like a rule within society, the number of obese people who have commented on my body who I KNOW would throw a tantrum if I dared to say similar things back…TOO MANY TO COUNT. And never saying anything back out of politeness (not from now on though)

- Anorexia being thrown around to put thin women down and in turn belittling a serious illness


Just had to get it all off my chest…(what little there is of it, obviously) *rolls eyes*

Honestly...

I’m so tired of full figured black women coming for thin black women when they share their stories of pain and ridicule. I understand that full figured black women are not showcased on a pedestal in the media and general society, but if you haven’t noticed that’s a skinny white bitch holding all the pedestals. Skinny black women take up a very small percentage.

Being skinny in the black community is a completely different experience. And not really a good one. When I say skinny I mean SKINTY. As in “chicken legs, no hips, no booty, no breast, just height and bones” type of skinny.

In the black community that body type is deemed unattractive. Its like you don’t even count as a real black women if you don’t have ass and titties. That’s a hard thing to deal with. You’re a black woman wanting to date a black man and they don’t even want you because you don’t have everything that a black woman “should” have.

I grew up being picked on for being skinny. And people really used that as a means to excuse the bullying. They felt it was okay to shame my body because I was skinny and not fat. Maybe because the media likes skinny. Idk. But Its not okay. We don’t have the media knocking down our door to embrace us. Every skinny girl ain’t the model type. Most of us are just trying to navigate through our black community and be embraced by it.

I don’t say any of this to down play the full figured women plight. I would never do such a thing. But full figured women should not down play ours as well. Just because we’re skinny doesn’t make life perfect. Respect each others struggle.

Bigger is better.....???

Alright so being skinny already sucks

Then people go and be all like “Bigger is better!” or “Real men want  curves. Dogs want bones” or some shit like that. Doesn’t that make us feel great??

You can’t call a girl fat but you can call a girl a toothpick/stick/branch/twig/anorexic without it making her feel bad about herself? Wtf is with this world? Just because a girl is skinny doesn’t mean she feels good about herself. It doesn’t give you the right to skinny shame. Just like no one has the right to fat shame.

So stfu.

The life and times of being "too skinny"

“You’re so skinny, you should be a model”. No, just because I’m skinny doesn’t mean I can be a model. It takes knowledge, skill, practice and major confidence to master the profession of being a model. My waist, my figure, my body actually has nothing to do with modeling because even the more manly looking women or plus size women are role models in the industry not because of their “skinny or whatever size figure” but because of their effort and time and passion they put in to being a model.

“You’re not hungry.? Aren’t you gonna eat.? C'mon , that’s why you’re so skinny.”
No I’m not hungry. No I’m not gonna eat. No that’s not why I’m skinny. I’m skinny because I’m skinny. I’m skinny because I have a high metabolism. It’s not that I starve myself , just like everyone eats when they are hungry I do too. Just because you will doesn’t mean I have to as well. Don’t judge me based on my looks because I know you suffer body insecurities as well. Don’t tell me I look what I look like because of what you assume. You’re false, your opinion is false, you’re thinking is irrelevant. I know my body is the way it is and that’s good enough for me, I don’t have to please your eyes.

“How are you not that size.?..you have a small waist.”
…and that matters because.?? I have a small waist, what of it? You want me to be bigger or smaller or what.? What are you implying? That I change.? For you.? For the attraction of your eyes.? Because I don’t change for anyone but myself. I change what I see is wrong with me, that NEEDS a change. Maybe a negative that should be a positive. A struggle to a settlement. Not my waist. If its an “imperfection” maybe I’ll just let it be my imperfection because I see nothing wrong with it. If i want a change I will go for it but otherwise don’t tell me because its not worth wasting your breath..

I know I’m skinny you don’t have to point it out. I look at myself in the mirror everyday..I’m aware of my figure. Just save your breath. Thanks✌

It really irritates me when people roll their eyes at skinny girls who say they want to work out. Its normal to be naturally skinny, but it’s not normal to be naturally skinny AND have abs and a toned body without working for it! Also stop telling skinny girls to go “eat a cake or something”.

"You have insecurities? But you're so skinny"

I’ve been thinking about writing this topic for a long time but I wasn’t sure how I was going to approach it. It wasn’t until someone had a conversation with me about body image. I don’t actually remember who I  talked to but all I remember was telling him “skinny girls have insecurities too” and he then replied “oh really? I thought that was only for fat people.” From then on that comment just pissed me off because it was like as if thin girls were not in the picture of society’s body image. Here’s what I have to say about this:

Yes, I am skinny. I am petite and I am very short. I get it. But I am being honest when I say I have insecurities as well. I’m sure many girls have at least one as well but if not, hey more power to ya :) But what bugs me is that not only did he generalize that assumption, he just marginalize every other girl who he thinks isn’t “fat.” I tried to explain to him that skinny girls can have just as much insecurities about their body as well. He then proceeded to ask for examples and so I did but I am sure there are other examples I can exemplify. The main one I pointed out to him was the fact that since I am skinny, I have to meet certain expectations to maintain my body image or change it to meet the “ideal” image of skinny. For example, since I am skinny, I have to be “proportionately skinny.” I think perhaps the most offensive thing anyone has ever commented about my body image was my last ex-boyfriend when he said that it doesn’t look good for me to have a tummy since I look skinny. That’s when he recommended me to exercise to lose my tummy fat, and me being his lovey dovey girlfriend I agreed. Shows how much influence even your own partner has on you. 

There are plenty of things that I have thought I would wish to change about myself. I wish I can be taller. Seriously, being a short petite girl makes me feel inferior sometimes. I wish I can at least eat more food or be hungry often. I wish my arms were skinnier. I wish I didn’t feel self-conscious when I put on a form-fitting dress. I wish I wasn’t self-conscious when I put a bikini on. I wish I didn’t feel weak. I wish I was just a little big bustier. I wish my thighs were smaller. Also, I wish people would stop telling me to eat more. I wish people would stop calling me an anorexic. I wish people would stop saying I “look fit.” I wish people would stop complaining about their bodies and compare it to mine. I wish people would stop calling me a “stick,” “tiny,” and a “midget.” I wish people would stop saying I’m skinnier than this person. Stop. Just STOP. 

Just because I wish to change these things doesn’t mean much to me because in the end, I can’t do much about it (except I can also exercise and tone my body, that’s a different story). With the physique I have now, I can only embrace and work with what I have. The things I like about my body outweighs SO much more than the things I want to change and that’s what has helped me go through the day feeling confident at least. For me, it’s always a love/hate relationship as a result of the kind of culture we live in. Seriously, it’s like every where you go, everyone will say something about you and your body or the way you look. I do feel like I am constantly being judged when I meet new people. It becomes a mental battle for me sometimes but at the end of the day I could care less now. I just laugh it off nowadays. I’m more grateful that I am at least alive and in good condition to do physical activity but that doesn’t mean people don’t have feelings. I don’t think anyone should ever assume that only certain people have insecurities and others don’t. Just to clarify, yes I am skinny but that doesn’t mean skinny girls don’t have insecurities. 

I’m in love with my body


I feel like I’ve finally really developed my own womanly physique. I love not being called anorexic anymore. I’m still skinny but I’m not trying to be skinny or fat, I’m just trying to be myself. And I feel like I can finally be comfortable in my body now that I actually look like a woman. 

I’ve always been shit on for being super skinny and then shit on even more when I complained about how I was miserable because people were actually bullying me about something I couldn’t help. I eat more than anyone I know, always have, always will. Not my fault I’m petite and never gained weight.

I believe I look fine as hell now and the way I look and feel about it is a big fuck you to anyone who’s ever shit on me for how I look. 

SKINNY GIRLS PROBLEMS
  • Woman in the bus:Girl you're so skinny, don't you eat?
  • Me:Not as much as you clearly!
  • Girl at a party:Oh man, you're so skinny, that dress looks different on me?
  • Me:Lady, this is called Sample size!
  • Same girl:I want that body? what's the secret?
  • Me:My gene :)
  • Friend:Lula, am worried about you. You don't eat? What's wrong?
  • Me:I eat ALL the time! Just not a lot, put that third plate DOWN hehe
  • Friend:Am so jealous!
  • Me:No ,Am jealous! I wish I had more room for that food.
  • Me:Hi, Do you have a smaller size?
  • Store Assistant:That's the smallest size!
  • Me:Sweetheart do you remember me?
  • Baby cousin:Yes
  • Me:How do you remember me as?
  • Baby cousin:You were as thin as a pin
  • Me:Ouch

I wish there was more to me than being a walking skeleton. That’s pretty much what I’m known for, being that tiny girl. Every day of my life, I am constantly reminded of how skinny I am. Sometimes in a friendly way like “Oh you’re so cute!” “I wish I could be skinny like you!”. But sometimes, it isn’t so friendly, and people say shit like “eww I can see all your bones!” “are you anorexic, do you eat?” “what size are you??” “shouldn’t you be in like 5th grade or something?” “You should try to gain weight, is it even healthy for you to be like this?” And you know what, I DON’T FUCKING KNOW. I try and i try to gain weight, but it doesn’t happen. I can’t control this, and it’s really taking a toll on me. I’m just…done…done of feeling disgusting…done with all this shit. I just want it to stop.

That felt good to finally say.

Real Blog Time: Body Positivity

So, I am pretty skinny, and I have been my whole life, with that being said I am still at times made to feel inadequate.

I have been scrolling through my dash for years seeing things about “real women have curves” or “only dogs like bones” or stuff like that, and then for the past couple of years I have seen tons and tons of body positivity and all I could think was, THANK GOODNESS. I hope all the women, of all shapes and colors and sizes are aware that no matter what you look like, you will at times feel like it’s not good enough, and that’s not how you should be feeling! You should love your body no matter what. Sure, the grass always seems greener, but it isn’t.

Anyhow, I wanted to tell you the ways in which I have been made to feel…not so good about my bod.

The number of times I have been asked if I want to, or if I plan on, getting a boob job, is absurd. I am well aware that I have small breasts, but they are perfect just how they are, and I have no intention of changing them.

Someone recently described my body as “heroine chic.” I’m sorry but telling me I look like I’m on heavy drugs, heavy drugs that have killed a total of four people from my graduating high school class…is not a compliment!!

Nothing at Forever 21 fits me. Small’s are too big and they don’t make extra smalls. I bought an XS dress from Bettie Page Clothing, and I was seriously swimming in it. It was enormous on me. An XS!

Almost every vintage dress I’ve bought in the past few years has had to be taken in, specifically at the bust.

People always tell me to eat more. All I do is eat. I eat healthy food because I have IBS and my body doesn’t take well to things like dairy, gluten, and excess refined sugar and salt. But I still eat all day, I never skip a meal. So please don’t tell me to eat more. I eat plenty.

Anyways, I love my bod. I like being petite, I like having small boobs, I like my butt, and I like being short. Sure, I wouldn’t miiiiind if my boobs were bigger, I wouldn’t miiiiind if my ribs were never showing, I wouldn’t miiiind if my legs were longer. But they’re not, and that’s okay. There’s no reason for me to feel inadequate.

So there.

End rant.