skinny shaming

i spent so much time in body positivity trying to convince thin women body positivity isn’t ‘skinny shaming’ and that all bodies, thin and fat, healthy and unhealthy can participate in body positivity. i spent so much time explaining that body positivity means there is no wrong body, and that people can live without the shame and toxicity diet culture has brought into our lives.

now i spend all my time defending the fact that my fat, disabled body DOES belong in body positivity. body positivity does not center around size. thin bodies are not prizes. body positivity does not center around health. healthy bodies are not morally virtuous.

if i get one more comment ‘i’m all about body positivity but it isn’t okay to be obese’ or ‘i’m all for loving yourself but you’re unhealthy’ or 'you shouldn’t be proud of being unhealthy’ i may implode. Such ignorance, fatphobia, and ableism.

When my plus-sized or fat girlfriends tell me, “I wish I had a body like yours,” or “I don’t feel good in my body,” I don’t say, “Well, skinny-shaming hurts too and I also have low self-esteem.” Even though the latter is true, I don’t try to one-up my friends’ experiences and plights. I say, “You’re beautiful and your body is fine the way it is. Do what makes you happy but society’s beauty standards are bullshit. People who put down women because they’re larger are ignorant and they’re not telling the truth.” I assure and affirm them and am aware of my thin privilege. I may have low self-esteem and don’t think I’m very beautiful either but that’s irrelevant when talking about thin privilege, which I have. I really wish people who have light-skinned, thin or white privilege would stop one-upping dark-skinned, black and large bodies whenever they express low self-esteem due to correlating beauty privileges and standards. I get tired of hearing, “Well, one hurt isn’t worse than the other.”

a fat person: damn i wish majority of society didnt mistreat me because of my size
a skinny person kicking through the wall like the fucking kool aid man: ok but skinny shaming happens to and i dont think its fair that we only talk about body positivity for fat people im a size -6 and forever 21 never has my size were all beautiful in our own ways #LoveEachOther #SkinnyPeopleHurtToo

Tumblr's hypocrisy.
  • meghan trainor: she says boys like a little more booty to hold at night.
  • tumblr: WOW LOOK AT THIS BITCH MAKING GIRLS THINK THEY SHOULD CARE ABOUT A MAN'S OPINION OF HER BODY.
  • nicki minaj: he keeps telling me its real,that he loves my sex appeal,he said he don't like 'em boney,he likes something he can grab.
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  • meghan trainor: im bring booty back,go and tell them skinny bitches that. nah,im just playing. i know you think you're fat,but im here to tell ya.every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.
  • tumblr: WOWW LOOK AT THIS BITCH SKINNY SHAMING THIN GIRLS
  • Nicki Minaj: Fuck the skinny bitches, fuck the skinny bitches in the club.I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the motherfucking club
  • Fuck you if you skinny bitches
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