skin picking tw

if you have an excoriation disorder (skin picking)

definitely look into getting hydrocolloid adhesive plasters. you can get them at CVS or Walgreens or even Walmart if you look carefully. they’re blister bandages that can be cut into little squares and put over picked pimples or any small infected wounds (such as cuticles, which I’ve got right now) and left on over night or for a few hours and they draw out infections and protect the wound from getting more germs in it. they’re really easy to use and the results are amazing, plus, they’ll keep you from picking already existing wounds, while helping them heal. if you’re using one on your hands, I recommend putting a bandaid over it just to keep it in place just because your hands move around a lot, but other wise they’re self adhesive and don’t need anything else to hold them on.

they’ve helped me a lot and I haven’t seen much about them anywhere so I hope this post helps some people!!

every so often someone tells me “wow your lips are so full and red” and i wanna be like “thanks it’s actually because i’ve been compulsively picking the skin off them on a daily basis for over five years which has made them constantly swollen and painful” but i do not say this

I know summer can be tough for people with dermatillomania (like me)

I know how it feels to suffer through the heat in pants and long sleeves because you don’t want people to see your skin

I know how it feels to work up enough courage to wear shorts or a t-shirt or a bathing suit and then people ask “oh what happened” or “what are all those spots/scabs/scars/etc. from” or “are you ok? your skin doesn’t look so great”

So this is for me and anyone else who needs to hear it:

My skin isn’t ugly, my skin isn’t gross, my skin isn’t ruined. And neither is yours.

I can wear whatever I want to this summer. I can wear shorts and a t-shirt, I can wear a bathing suit, I can wear a crop top or a shirt with a low back or anything else that shows my skin. And so can you.

And if I don’t feel comfortable showing my skin this summer, if I need to cover up to feel safe that’s ok too. I don’t need to be ashamed of doing what’s best for my mental health. And neither do you.

And if people make comments about my skin, I will do my best to remember that that reflects poorly on them not on me. I will try to remember that even though their words hurt there are people who think I am beautiful and perfect even with all my spots and scabs and cuts and scars. It’s really really hard but I will try to believe the words of those who care about me over the words of strangers who feel a need to comment on my appearance. And I truly, truly hope that you can too <3

I’ve come to realize why it’s so hard to stop picking. this won’t make it any easier to stop picking but at least I’m self-aware. 9/10 times you pick, you leave a mark, it’s red and puffy, bloody, and the pimple comes back in the same spot or around the spot and it could even come back bigger. but that 1/10 time that you pick, you get the best sounding pop, the most satisfying pop, you completely clear the dead skin away, the bump goes away, the black/whitehead goes away, the area looks cleaner and better than it has ever looked. and we crave that feeling of satisfaction every time we think about picking, because we know how good it feels. and although you don’t get that feeling every time you pick because 9/10 times the picking isn’t successful, eventually that feeling will come back and you will crave it even more. picking appears worth it because of that one successful pop that you know will come eventually, you just have to be patient and deal with the scars and the bleeding and the embarrassment and the comments.. because it’s all worth it for that one pop, right?

( #skin picking tw )

au ra probably shed their scales (Orben lore heavily implies this)

imagine

  • sauna-like rooms in bath houses specifically designed for au ra who want to have the most comfortable shed possible
  • “by the gods, Qusi is in such a bad mood this week. he must be shedding or something”
  • baby au ra being told off for being impatient about their sheds (“but Niku said my next shed will make my scales stronger!” “Niku also says fruit falls from trees because the sky is falling down! stop picking at it!”)
  • collecting scales of your child’s sheds as the equivalent of baby photos
  • au ra with badly/chronically flaking scales (because they have a condition, or because they eat the wrong diet)
  • au ra with scales which come loose but that always take like a fucken month to actually shed and it just feels itchy and uncomfortable the whole time
  • every tribe and community having its own ancestral treatments and superstitions about what can help
  • displaced au ra trying to find alternatives and replacements for treatments they used to use, the ingredients for which don’t exist in eorzea
  • ul’dahn alchemists trying to cash in with supplements and creams supposed to help
  • ten thousand fish extracts for every lominsian au ra to slather their shedding scales with
  • gridanian herb mixtures for itchy hyur or elezen skin being suggested to shedding au ra, with varying success

anonymous asked:

As another person who has also been struggling and trying my best to take care of my skin and not pick it/touch my face a lot, your skin is looking so good! High five for progress!

thank you so much!!! it’s so hard to break the habit bc its definitely a coping with control / anxiety issues thing so i’ve just had to keep reminding myself that picking at it will only give me relief for .5 seconds and make me extra anxious because of the marks it leaves. but good luck to you i’m sending you positive thoughts!! 

skin picking tw //// 

(Prepare for a long and cheesy caption sorry)

The first photo was taken exactly one year ago today and as you can tell, it was bad. I hated everything about myself and the fact that my bald patches were visible made it so much worse, I cared so much about what people thought and I just felt so ugly.
As the year went on it got worse. The hair in the middle/front of my head was completely gone and I had nobody to turn to, I talked to a therapist and she signed off on a permission slip that let me wear hats in school to keep me from picking at my head and while it helped me from pulling, my classmates all wondered why I got to wear a hat and they couldn’t and I remember getting asked everyday and making excuse after excuse, some more outrageous then others. I told a few people I trusted and that was it and that was how it was for 5 whole months.
Mid summer (see me with purple hair) I was happy, my hair was the color I had always wanted it to be and I was learning to be okay with myself. However something happened with someone I was not on good terms with (for the dumbest reason) which lead me to telling everyone about why I wore hats and I was overwhelmed with so much support, like there wasn’t a single negative comment on that entire post.
The last picture is me now, I’m no longer wearing hats in school because I don’t care. Yes you can see the ugly spot on the back of my head but if you judge me solely on that then you aren’t worth my time. I’m still learning to love me for me and my disorder is no where near “cured” but that doesn’t define me.

Tomorrow is the first day of #BFRBAwarenessWeek (BFRB stands for Bodily Focused Repetitive Behavior) and my advice for anyone who compulsively pulls out their hair, picks at their skin or bites their nails to the point where they’re always bleeding is that it doesn’t define you. You are the thoughts you think and the dreams you dream, not the hair you pull or the skin you pick.