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if you have an excoriation disorder (skin picking)

definitely look into getting hydrocolloid adhesive plasters. you can get them at CVS or Walgreens or even Walmart if you look carefully. they’re blister bandages that can be cut into little squares and put over picked pimples or any small infected wounds (such as cuticles, which I’ve got right now) and left on over night or for a few hours and they draw out infections and protect the wound from getting more germs in it. they’re really easy to use and the results are amazing, plus, they’ll keep you from picking already existing wounds, while helping them heal. if you’re using one on your hands, I recommend putting a bandaid over it just to keep it in place just because your hands move around a lot, but other wise they’re self adhesive and don’t need anything else to hold them on.

they’ve helped me a lot and I haven’t seen much about them anywhere so I hope this post helps some people!!

dermotillomania

Most people have a couple of scars from childhood playground scrapes; oven burns that never healed; cuts from sports injuries. I have one on my left knee from skidding on the gritty concrete of my primary school playground during a game of rounders, an injury so common that a number of my classmates can boast sporting a similar injury. It’s not my only scar, however. My skin is a perfect pointillism portrait of every cat scratch, chicken pock, bug bite and grazed knee I have ever had. I have excoriation disorder, also known as dermotillomania.

Dermotillomania is an obsessive-compulsive type disorder whereby sufferers compulsively pick at perceived imperfections in their skin, such as spots or bug bites- some people will pick at skin that has absolutely nothing wrong with it. This sets it apart from other mental illnesses in that it is easily one of the more physically obvious ones, yet it’s one of the least well known. 

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I know summer can be tough for people with dermatillomania (like me)

I know how it feels to suffer through the heat in pants and long sleeves because you don’t want people to see your skin

I know how it feels to work up enough courage to wear shorts or a t-shirt or a bathing suit and then people ask “oh what happened” or “what are all those spots/scabs/scars/etc. from” or “are you ok? your skin doesn’t look so great”

So this is for me and anyone else who needs to hear it:

My skin isn’t ugly, my skin isn’t gross, my skin isn’t ruined. And neither is yours.

I can wear whatever I want to this summer. I can wear shorts and a t-shirt, I can wear a bathing suit, I can wear a crop top or a shirt with a low back or anything else that shows my skin. And so can you.

And if I don’t feel comfortable showing my skin this summer, if I need to cover up to feel safe that’s ok too. I don’t need to be ashamed of doing what’s best for my mental health. And neither do you.

And if people make comments about my skin, I will do my best to remember that that reflects poorly on them not on me. I will try to remember that even though their words hurt there are people who think I am beautiful and perfect even with all my spots and scabs and cuts and scars. It’s really really hard but I will try to believe the words of those who care about me over the words of strangers who feel a need to comment on my appearance. And I truly, truly hope that you can too <3

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I think this is the cruelest thing I’ve done to edward…and I’ve drawn him dead/dying a couple times. But one thing that always bothered me about fma (and most shonen anime) is that we rarely see the main, young teen protagonist dealing with real teenage issues…outside of discovering girls and dirty magazines. And ed is under so much stress and gets into so many literally messy situations that I highly doubt he’s never had a bad break out. So here’s him dealing with acne….I know no one asked for it and no one else wanted it, but here you go. Enjoy?

witch-without-a-social-life  asked:

I, too, pick at my face & arms & legs, but I specifically pick at my lips. I'll rip the skin off my entire lips and all I'll think is: 'Why can't I get this one tiny piece in the corner?'. Im trying to stop but it's so fucking difficult

OH YES. In middle school, there were up to 3 bloody cracks in my lips at a time. I’ve switched to other body parts, but I try to keep two chapsticks around for when I feel it starting up again on my mouth (multiples are better if you’re as forgetful as me).

process of picking

• feel urge to pick (usually triggered by feelings a bump on my face and wanting it gone)
• try not to pick
• fail
• try to compromise by only picking one section of my face
• pick that section
• try not to pick other section
• fail
• pick other section
• dispose of skin
• get a wet piece of tissue
• gently clean my face with the tissue (maybe be harsh if I’m pissed off at myself for picking)
• apply cream
• relax until the next time I feel the urge to pick
• repeat

I’ve come to realize why it’s so hard to stop picking. this won’t make it any easier to stop picking but at least I’m self-aware. 9/10 times you pick, you leave a mark, it’s red and puffy, bloody, and the pimple comes back in the same spot or around the spot and it could even come back bigger. but that 1/10 time that you pick, you get the best sounding pop, the most satisfying pop, you completely clear the dead skin away, the bump goes away, the black/whitehead goes away, the area looks cleaner and better than it has ever looked. and we crave that feeling of satisfaction every time we think about picking, because we know how good it feels. and although you don’t get that feeling every time you pick because 9/10 times the picking isn’t successful, eventually that feeling will come back and you will crave it even more. picking appears worth it because of that one successful pop that you know will come eventually, you just have to be patient and deal with the scars and the bleeding and the embarrassment and the comments.. because it’s all worth it for that one pop, right?

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au ra probably shed their scales (Orben lore heavily implies this)

imagine

  • sauna-like rooms in bath houses specifically designed for au ra who want to have the most comfortable shed possible
  • “by the gods, Qusi is in such a bad mood this week. he must be shedding or something”
  • baby au ra being told off for being impatient about their sheds (“but Niku said my next shed will make my scales stronger!” “Niku also says fruit falls from trees because the sky is falling down! stop picking at it!”)
  • collecting scales of your child’s sheds as the equivalent of baby photos
  • au ra with badly/chronically flaking scales (because they have a condition, or because they eat the wrong diet)
  • au ra with scales which come loose but that always take like a fucken month to actually shed and it just feels itchy and uncomfortable the whole time
  • every tribe and community having its own ancestral treatments and superstitions about what can help
  • displaced au ra trying to find alternatives and replacements for treatments they used to use, the ingredients for which don’t exist in eorzea
  • ul’dahn alchemists trying to cash in with supplements and creams supposed to help
  • ten thousand fish extracts for every lominsian au ra to slather their shedding scales with
  • gridanian herb mixtures for itchy hyur or elezen skin being suggested to shedding au ra, with varying success
Tips to Kick Skin Compulsions

So, like a lot of people, I struggle with skin picking (and, to a lesser extent, trichotillomania–hair pulling). These are compulsive or habitual behaviors that can produce scarring and actually make the problem worse over time. I won’t get into the causes too much, but needless to say, it’s better if you can get it under control and stop if possible. I’ve been learning to do just that, and I figured I’d share some of my tips and tricks.

I am not a doctor, and these are only my non-professional ideas based on limited research and personal success. Different approaches may work better for you.

Picking: Figure out when you pick (for instance before/during the shower), what areas of your body you do and do not target, and what your triggers are, if any. Slipping up now and then is bound to happen, especially by doing it without thinking, but don’t lose hope. The less you pick, the less there will be to pick AT (pimples, scars, bumps, etc.)

  • If possible, cover any areas you would pick at, preferably with a garment that isn’t that easy to remove.
  • Put lotion on your picking areas so it feels different then usual. (Antibiotic ointment is a good alternative if you have open wounds.) The hesitation and weirdness from the new texture will give you a few extra seconds to stop yourself.
  • Remove/cover any mirrors that allow you to walk right up and start picking in front of the mirror. You may only need to do this in the beginning.
  • For mirrors you still need (hopefully only ones that require leaning over a piece of furniture or sink), use that time to stop yourself from leaning in. Hold onto something if you have to. If you wear glasses but can get around without them, take them off so you can’t see your skin as well.
  • At a distance, briefly look at the area you typically pick, smile, and then look away.
  • Wear jingly bracelets so you can hear when you move your hands. Put on gloves or nail polish to make picking more difficult. Clip your nails as short as you can without hurting yourself.
  • Don’t touch the areas at all if you can help it. Why tempt it? And the oils from your fingers can make you break out.
  • Really want to pick? Treat instead. Bandages, hydrogen peroxide, antibiotic cream, etc. Apply where needed, preferably with a makeup sponge or Q-tip so you’re less likely to pick first. Wash the area as needed or if you just touched it.
  • As you heal, you’ll have dry skin, which may itch. Scrub with a wash cloth and soap, but don’t pick at it (because that’s counter to the point!) Do try to remove dead skin by washing, though, because the skin underneath is healthy.
  • Try to find other self-care procedures to work into your schedule, now that you have all that free time you used to spend picking!

Pulling hair: Treat Trich much the same way as picking. Find out when you pull (night time? after something stressful?) and where. Not everyone pulls in the same places or for the same reasons.

  • If you pull with your fingers, find ways to make it more difficult to do. Gloves might work in this case or even mittens (silly, I know).
  • If you wrap the hair around your finger first, use the time you do that to tell yourself not to. Even if you only save a few hairs that way, it’s a start.
  • Shave, wax, pull back, or hide the hair you target as much as possible. Hair products can group the hair together, making it more difficult to pull or target an individual hair.
  • If you do pull a hair by accident or on purpose, don’t look at it or inspect it. Don’t look for skin tags, don’t follow any of your usual steps. For instance, if you typically throw the hair on the floor, quickly and calmly put it in a piece of toilet paper and throw it out. Avoid any behavior that might give you a sense of accomplishment at pulling the hair. This is the mental reward that makes the behavior soothing (and addictive).
  • If you use tweezers or other implements, hide them in a place that’s difficult to get to, throw them out, or, if you have a friend or family member helping you, give them to that person. Literally remove your means. Don’t buy more. Don’t find other ways. “Out of sight, out of mind” works to an extent, and chances are, the tweezers themselves are a minor trigger or reminder to starting/resuming the behavior.

Reminders:

There are no good reasons to pick your skin or pull your hair. It is NOT healthy, and in the long run, it will not ease your anxiety at the same rate without getting worse and worse. It may, therefore, be helpful to think of the behavior as a form of self-harm similar to cutting. Others may find it more relate-able to think of it as an addiction. (Or both.) With that said, you are not dirty, shameful, bad, or otherwise tainted for having a compulsion.

If you find yourself with an infection, a blemish, or what appears to be an in-grown hair, treat them with non-compulsion means. (For in-grown hairs, it may be viable to address the specific one with tweezers, but it’s best to do so under supervision if you can, so that you are not tempted to bother other hairs.)

Therapy and medication may be helpful. Not everyone who picks or pulls has a mental illness, but quite a few may, especially OCD or PTSD. Seeing a doctor about your repetitive behaviors not only means you’ll have other people on your team working toward success, but you may find you no longer have to carry the weight all by yourself.

Slipping up happens. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed or lost all your progress. It’s never too late to get better. Pick yourself up and start again. You can do this.

Recovery is not only possible, it’s doable. If you need someone to talk to, I’m here too. Good luck!

(Prepare for a long and cheesy caption sorry)

The first photo was taken exactly one year ago today and as you can tell, it was bad. I hated everything about myself and the fact that my bald patches were visible made it so much worse, I cared so much about what people thought and I just felt so ugly.
As the year went on it got worse. The hair in the middle/front of my head was completely gone and I had nobody to turn to, I talked to a therapist and she signed off on a permission slip that let me wear hats in school to keep me from picking at my head and while it helped me from pulling, my classmates all wondered why I got to wear a hat and they couldn’t and I remember getting asked everyday and making excuse after excuse, some more outrageous then others. I told a few people I trusted and that was it and that was how it was for 5 whole months.
Mid summer (see me with purple hair) I was happy, my hair was the color I had always wanted it to be and I was learning to be okay with myself. However something happened with someone I was not on good terms with (for the dumbest reason) which lead me to telling everyone about why I wore hats and I was overwhelmed with so much support, like there wasn’t a single negative comment on that entire post.
The last picture is me now, I’m no longer wearing hats in school because I don’t care. Yes you can see the ugly spot on the back of my head but if you judge me solely on that then you aren’t worth my time. I’m still learning to love me for me and my disorder is no where near “cured” but that doesn’t define me.

Tomorrow is the first day of #BFRBAwarenessWeek (BFRB stands for Bodily Focused Repetitive Behavior) and my advice for anyone who compulsively pulls out their hair, picks at their skin or bites their nails to the point where they’re always bleeding is that it doesn’t define you. You are the thoughts you think and the dreams you dream, not the hair you pull or the skin you pick.