Strength Building Self-Statements 

1. What’s the worst that can happen? And based on my experience, and NOT on my emotions, how likely is that to happen? 

2. Feelings are sometimes painful, but are time-limited. 

3. It will get easier each time I practice. 

4. My success is measured by taking skillful action, not by whether I was anxious when I did it. 

5. I’m not going to let a lapse get in my way. I’m going to continue making progress towards my goal. 

6. Feeling I can’t do it is NOT the same as not being able to do it. Stick to the plan. 

7. Good job—I’m staying in the situation, even though it’s hard. 

8. I’m going to make it. 

9. It’s a sign of strength to ask for help in an effective way. 

10. Knowing when to ask for coaching is a skill in itself. 

11. I am a unique person, and I have unique reactions. Only I can determine how I SHOULD feel in any given situation. 

12. My feelings are not right or wrong, they just simply ARE. 

13. A feeling of certainty is not the same as the truth. 

14. My painful emotions happen for a reason and are an important source of information and direction for me. 

15. Urges are a natural part of emotions and of being human. Having an urge (even a strong urge) does not mean that I have to DO anything at all.


Dialectical Behavioral Therapy

Self-Encouragement: Reality Statements for Interpersonal Effectiveness 

  1. It is OK to want or need something from someone else.  
  2. I have a choice to ask someone for what I want or need. 
  3. I can stand it if I don’t get what I want or need. 
  4. The fact that someone says no to my request doesn’t mean I should not have asked in the first place.
  5. If I didn’t get my objectives, that doesn’t meant I didn’t go about it in a skillful way. 
  6. Standing up for myself over “small” things can be just as important as “big” things are to others. 
  7. I can insist upon my rights and still be a good person. 
  8. I sometimes have a right to assert myself, even though I may inconvenience others. 
  9. The fact that other people might not be assertive doesn’t mean that I shouldn’t be. 
  10. I can understand and validate another person, and still ask for what I want. 
  11. There is no law that says other people’s opinions are more valid than mine.
  12. I may want to please people I care about, but I don’t have to please them all the time. 
  13. Giving, giving, giving is not the be-all of life. I am an important person in this world, too.  
  14. If I refuse to do a favor for people, that doesn’t mean I don’t like them. They will probably understand that, too. 
  15. I am under no obligation to say yes to people simply because they ask a favor of me. 
  16. The fact that I say no to someone does not make me a selfish person. 
  17. If I say no to people and they get angry, that does not mean that I should have said yes. 
  18. I can still feel good about myself, even though someone else is annoyed with me. 


Natilik, Ceuse, France. The most classic of all multi-pitch routes at Ceuse.

Photo by Francisco Taranto Jr. @fotovertical and Sandra Ducasse @sandraducasse
[ Rock Climber ● Stéphanie Bodet ]

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