skilled positions

okay … but like .     i just saw the most random, really, unemotional, not particularly special gif set of chibiusa on my personal account, & it just ??? made me want to cry ?     & it struck me how much i love this precious child, something i never would be able to do until i started writing as usagi, & followed @futureheld .     the love & adoration she has for this character .     the effort she puts into everything about her .     like, fae is legitimately 10000% the reason i love chibiusa as much as i do now, & it’s a fucking ridiculous concept that i could have ever hated this precious pink sugar sweet child .     like, wow .

Disability doesn't come with extra time and energy

I’ve heard a lot of advocates of inclusion say things like “kids with disabilities work twice as hard as everyone else” or “my employees with Down’s syndrome never come in late or take a day off.”

This sounds like praise, but it isn’t.

The time disabled people spend working twice as hard as everyone else has to come from somewhere.

There are reasons why kids aren’t in school every waking moment. There is a reason why vacation time exists and why it’s normal to be late occasionally.

People need rest. People need leisure time. People have lives and needs and can’t do everything.

Being disabled doesn’t erase the need for down time. Being disabled doesn’t erase the need for play, or for connections to other people.

Working twice as hard as everyone else all the time isn’t sustainable. Praising disabled people for doing unsustainable things is profoundly destructive.

People with disabilities should not have to give up on rest, recreation, and relationships in order to be valued. We have limited time and energy just like everyone else, and our limitations need to be respected.

It is not right to expect us to run ourselves into the ground pretending to be normal. We have the right to exist in the world as we really are.

Here’s some daily reminders for all yall💕😌

  • If you can’t remember how long it has been since the last time you showered, go do it. Even if it takes you hours to work up the motivation bc of dysphoria or just seeing yourself in a mirror, you’ll feel so much more refreshed.
  • Take your medicine!
  • Hydrate hydrate hydrate!!
  • E a t omg please eat your body needs to be healthy even if it’s a small snack get somethin’ in your tummy!!
  • Breathe. Everything will be okay.
  • Take some time to do a hobby! Whether it’s just writing or scrolling on tumblr a bit, take time for yourself!
  • Avoid that harmful post/person. Just scroll right past. Don’t reach out to what could be intentionally hurting you.
  • If you’re not up to talking today, tell the people you love quickly what’s up, then do what you need to do to keep yourself safe and healthy.
  • Reach out if something is wrong. People love you. Even if you think they don’t.
  • If nobody is willing to listen to you, message me, or the person who reblogged this. We obviously care enough.
  • Remind yourself that YOU ARE LOVED!!!!!!

Not all coping skills will work for you. That’s okay. Try new ones. Try old ones again. Find what works for you. Some will come easier to you than others. It can involve doing things you already love to do. Using your coping skills can be fun, but it won’t always be. Sometimes it means deep breathing when you want to lash out. It can mean tearing paper instead of tearing yourself apart. Coping skills can be little things, boring things, the farthest things from glamorous — but our coping skills help us move between the stepping stones on the path of our recovery. Our coping skills ground us when we most need them to.

We're autistic, we're human, get used to it

Some dehumanizing descriptions of autism are negative. For example, some people believe that we are incapable of love, or incapable of imagination, or incapable of understanding anything of importance.

Some dehumanizing descriptions of autism are positive. For instance, some people believe that we are incapable of lying, incapable of being manipulative, and that we always say exactly what we mean.

Autism doesn’t work that way. We are fully human, for better and for worse. We are fallible. We make communication mistakes. We don’t always know what we mean, and we don’t always express ourselves clearly. For instance, sometimes we say things that feel direct but that are actually very confusing. That’s human.

We are capable of treating others well, and we are capable of treating others badly. We are capable of caring about others, and we are capable of indifference. We are capable of being kind, and we are capable of being cruel.

Autism means having disabilities that can affect how we communicate, how we move, and how we understand things. Autism doesn’t make us better than other people, and it doesn’t make us worse. We’re not subhuman, and we’re not superhuman. We’re just people.

another coping post, people have told me to update it a bit and not limit the skills to delusions and auditory hallucinations. so now, the bigger and better coping post for psychotic symptoms (not just schizophrenia!) and i won’t do the “keep reading” thing, even though it’s a veeeery big post, because i kind of want people to see it. 

First off

try to manage your stress - psychotic symptoms has quite a lot to with stress. it’s also important for any mental health issue. 

don’t “self-medicate” - marijuana has shown to make psychotic symptoms worse and makes the risk of falling back into a psychosis bigger. other substances that can trigger/worsen/even cause psychotic symptoms are cocaine, speed, crystal meth, ecstasy, LSD, magic mushrooms and ketamine

take care of yourself - selfcare, mindfulsness, exercise, eat reguraly and healthy, sleep well… you get the idea.

know your early signs - it’s good to know when you start getting signs of another episode, so you can adjust your medication or talk to your doctor more often so you can avoid another episode. early signs may be sleeping less or more, isolation, being annoyed or thinking “is medication even necessery?” i

don’t isolate youself - this is a early symptom for me, before i get a psychotic episode, i often isolate myself and hate the world. that often lead to me being alone with my delusions and they get worse. so try to see friends often, especially when you have early signs. 

Auditory hallucinations

relax - voices are often caused by stress, so try to focus on your breathing.

distract yourself - focus on a task or watch tv.

ask your voices a question, that you dont know the answer to - if they dont know the answer the voices must be coming from within you.

background sounds - people have reported that listening to music or having the tv on sort of drowns the voices.

talk back to your voices - ask them to leave and say no if they order you to do things, remind yourself who’s in control.

know your triggers - it may help to keep a diary of when the voices are more active.

medication - modern anti-psychotics are 80-90% effective in revieling voices and will often make them disappear.

hum or sing - it drowns the voices as well as distract you.

read out loud - same with hum or sing

open your mouth really wide - i have no idea why or if this works, but you can try it! 

just a symptom - try to think of your voices as just a symptom, and not something that has a special meaning. after all, it’s just a random thought you can hear.


Visual hallucinations

this is quite a hard one, i haven’t experienced much visual hallucinations, so i don’t personally know what works and what doesn’t. and i don’t find much about it on internet. if you have any coping skills for visual hallucinations, let me know and i’ll include it! 

take a picture - if you’re unsure something is there you can try taking a picture 

turn away - or break eye contact, leave the room. if you don’t see it it’s not there 

shine on them  - if you see shadows you can try shining light on them from your phone flashlight 

medication - well, yeah, you get the idea. they work. 

five senses method -  acknowledge five things you can see; four things you can touch; three things you can hear; two things you can smell; one things you can taste. 

•  keep your pet near - if you have a pet it may help to tell you if something is real or not. if your pet doesn’t react you can assume it’s not real. 


Delusions

distraction - try to take your mind of it, even though it’s not that simple.

give them facts - checking facts and statistics may help

talk about them - in my case, the more i talked about my thoughts, the more unrealistic they seemed. That may not happen to everyone, but it is helpful to talk about them.

know your trigggers - delusions are also good to know when they’re more active.

medication - antipsychotis aren’t just helping for your hallucinations, but other symptoms as well - including delusions.


Disorganized speech

• count from one to three - start by thinking about (visualizing) the numbers in your head and focus on them before saying them aloud to align thought and speech centres of your brain.


Other symptoms 

trust me, i really wish i knew how to cope with the other symptoms. i don’t personally have much advice, and i can’t find much on internet, but if any of you know how to cope with these symptoms*, let me know and i’ll include it!

*some other symptoms are:

negative symtptoms - this could be not having energy, feeling indifferent towards things and gestures may decrease. 

catatonic behaviour - a bit more rare. it’s when the person stops moving and can be completely still for a long period of time. 

disorganized behaviour - appears as a decline in overall daily functioning, unpredictable or inappropriate emotional responses, behaviors that can appear bizarre and have no purpose, lack of impulse control. 

trouble thinking -  having too much thoughts or having slow thoughts

trouble functioning in social situations, isolation, trouble handling jobs or everyday chores. 


also, a big thank you to you guys who come with advice, you’re awesome 

positive affirmations

☼ recovery is a bumpy road for everyone.

☼ i can change things if they are not working for me.

☼ i have gotten through hard things.

☼ i have gotten through harder things.

☼ things will continue to get better for me.

☼ i am safe.

☼ i am loved.

☼ self care is not selfish.

☼ i deserve happiness.

☼ i will achieve happiness.

Reminder that you’re allowed to feel negative emotions. You don’t have to skip right over the bad in order to feel the good. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: emotions are meant to be felt. It is not only unrealistic, but also unhealthy to stifle your negative feelings just because you want happiness. Inside of suppressing the negativity, explore it and understand what has made you feel as such. Think of solutions.

That doesn’t mean, however, that you should wallow in your negativity without trying to healthily get through it. You don’t need to be completely self destructive in order to blossom in the future.

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At university I learnt how proper preparation and rehearsal can make doing presentations a lot easier, they don’t need to be a big deal! I just wish my teenage self knew this…I can’t tell you how many projects I did last minute because I was nervous and didn’t want to think about presenting. 

Even MORE reasons to smile

Someone could’ve just perfected their skincare routine

Someone could’ve just been asked to prom for the very first time by a genuinely nice person

Someone could’ve just renovated their room

A second grader could’ve just won their first
spelling bee competition

Someone could’ve just sold their first piece of artwork after months of struggling

A dancer could’ve just placed first in their division AND overall

A shy student could’ve just participated in a class discussion for the first time

Someone could’ve just met their soulmate

A dog could’ve just had the best car ride of their lifetime

A patient could’ve just woken up from a successful surgery

Someone could’ve just ran their first mile

A traumatized individual could’ve just let go of repressed/internalized anger and pain

Someone’s eczema could be clearing up

Someone could’ve just made it past the $1000 mark in their savings account for the first time

Someone could’ve just found the confidence to wear THE thing

An alcoholic could be attending their first AA meeting

Someone recovering from a eating disorder could’ve just made it to a healthy weight

Someone could be starting their hormones today

A depressed person could’ve just gotten out of bed to enjoy this beautiful day

Someone could be hearing their first, “I’m proud of you”

How to Adult: Cover Letter Edition

So I have several followers who are working on applying to jobs right now, and by far the most common concern is “what even is a cover letter??”  Now, while this post is funny and accurate, it’s not super helpful if you’re looking for specifics.  So I figured I should show you mine.  Now, without further ado, allow me to provide to you:

~*~ The Cover Letter of Destiny ~*~

[Name]
[Address Line 1]
[Address Line 2, etc]
[Phone]
[email]

[Right Justified - Date]  (This is just standard business letter stuff)

To Whom it May Concern, [Or Mr/Ms. Hiring Person’s name, if you can find it.] 

I’m delighted to submit an application for the [Job you’re applying to] position at [Company/Institution/etc].  After reading the job description I’m certain I would bring a solid combination of  [Skill 1], analytical thinking [or whatever Skill 2 is], and communication skills [This is always my Skill 3] to this position.  I’m particularly attracted to this position because I believe it will utilize the skills I have gained through my industry [or research or whatever] experience, and allow me to apply those skills in new areas. 

In my role with [Company] as a [Most Relevant Position Here], I managed a project [to do some stuff - flesh out your most important/relevant job responsibilities here].  I specifically focused on [a thing that is the most explicitly relevant to the job posting.  In fact, I creatively copy/pasted some of the job posting into this sentence, that’s how relevant it is.].  I was also responsible for [A couple of things that maybe were mentioned in the job posting, or at least show increased responsibility over time].  This gave me the opportunity to collaborate with a variety of different team members [to achieve a goal]. Through these and other job duties, I have gained excellent listening skills and the ability to carry out self-directed tasks in the context of a larger team. [i’m not joking. use this phrasing it’s so great just copy it idgaf]

 In my current role as a [Current Title] with [Company], I have continued to build strong skills in project management [or whatever] as well as clear oral and written communication. [Maybe this sentence describes the types of communication (or whatever skill) you do.]   [This sentence describes briefly the less-relevant work you do].  [This sentence ties in your less-relevant job to the job you are seeking].  These experiences have prepared me well to succeed in a role as [Name of Position you’re applying to].

Thank you for taking the time to review my materials and consider my application. I am excited at the prospect of applying my skills to a [Name or category of position] with [Company], and I feel that the knowledge and skills I have gained through my experience will be a great benefit to the team. Please do not hesitate to contact me with questions as I would welcome a chance to discuss this opportunity more. [After all, they want to hire you after reading this]

Regards,

 [First Name Last Name]

I hope you find this helpful in your job search!  Just remember to focus on skills you learned rather than specific experiences or titles you’ve had.  Don’t be afraid of inflating it too far, either.  There are real useful skills underlying every job task if you look hard & get creative with your phrasing. 

Feel free to send me an ask if you want any specific advice on how to spin your education/work history into the job you want, or if you want a proofreader or cheerleader or whatever.  Job hunting is a bad game designed by and for a certain type of person.  It’s dehumanizing and horrible even at the best of times, so I’m more than happy to help anyone find a way to beat the system.  <3 <3 

i will not do the “keep reading” thing, so i’m sorry you have to scroll throught a lot of text, but i think this is kind of important! 

psychosis often hit around 20 years old or later, but i was just a kid. at 15 i banged my head to the wall in hope of killing the voices before they killed me. i didn’t know anything about psychosis, i was just scared. nobody i knew could fully understand what i was going through. i couldn’t seperate reality from fantasy. today, i know what my symptoms are and i find great comfort in that. 

i’m on medications that works wonders and i want to teach people about psychosis, so that they may understand their loved ones with psychotic symptoms. i also want more people to know about psychosis because, well, it’s quite misinterpreted! browsing through the psychotic tag on tumblr is a nightmare! i’m not crazy, insane, dangerous, mad, ascocial or violent!! i’m just a person with psychotic symtptoms. so here’s a masterpost about causes, triggers, coping skills and lots more about psychosis.

causes

people are born with different vulnerabilities when it comes to mental health. you can be born with a high vulnerability – different factors effects how high it is, for example if a relative had a psychotic illness the risk is higher for you. another factor is complications during pregnancy or birth. science has also shown that your vulnerability increases by use of marijuana. stress is one thing that often triggers psychotic symptoms. if you have a high vulnerability, it doesn’t take much stress.

in the brain

neurons is the brain communicate with eachohter through synapses. chemical messengers in the brain called neurotransmitters sends messages between the neurons through synapses. vulnerabilitiy by psychosis is about an imbalance in those synapses. dopamine is a neurotransmitter that reseachers believe have a big role in psychosis. dopamine is what makes us think something is important or interesting, and disrutpion in those brain functions may explain the symptoms of psychosis. medications reducing dopamine also reduces psychotic symptoms.

triggers

stress is one trigger, but many other things can also trigger psychotic symptoms. some conditions can trigger psychotic episodes in some people, that include anxiety and depression, as well as HIV, malaria and alzheimers.and cannabis isn’t the only substance that can trigger psychosis, other substances include cocaine, speed, crystal meth, ecstasy, LSD, magic mushrooms and ketamine.

symptoms

hallucinations is a psychotic symptoms. auditory hallucinations are the most common which is hearing things others around you can’t hear. all senses can develop hallucinations – seeing things that aren’t there, tasting, smelling, feeling. another symptom are delusions, a strong belief that can’t go away even though you have facts suggesting that it isn’t true. trouble thinking – having too much thoughts or having slow thoughts is a psychotic symptom. negative symptoms are things that the person with psychosis lack, unlike positive symptoms that are added to the peron with psychosis. negative symtptoms may be not having energy, feeling indifferent towards things and gestures may decrease.

catatonic behaviour is a bit more rare. it’s when the person stops moving and can be completely still for a long period of time. disorganized speech includes for example quickly jump from topic to topic or using neologisms (made up words) as well as repeat words or sentences. disorganized behaviour appears as a decline in overall daily functioning, unpredictable or inappropriate emotional responses, behaviors that can appear bizarre and have no purpose, lack of impulse control. people with psychosis may also experience more trouble functioning in social situations, isolation, trouble handling jobs or everyday chores.

coping

i know i’m just including coping skills for auditory, visual hallucinations and delusions, but i don’t really know how to cope with other types of hallucinations or other psychotic symptoms.

voices

• relax – voices are often caused by stress, so try to focus on your breathing.

• distract yourself – focus on a task or watch tv.

• ask your voices a question, that you dont know the answer to – if they dont know the answer the voices must be coming from within you.

• background sounds – people have reported that listening to music or having the tv on sort of drowns the voices.

• talk back to your voices – ask them to leave and say no if they order you to do things, remind yourself who’s in control.

• know your triggers – it may help to keep a diary of when the voices are more active.

• medication – modern anti-psychotics are 80-90% effective in revieling voices and will often make them disappear.

• hum or sing – it drowns the voices as well as distract you.

• read out loud – same with hum or sing

• open your mouth really wide – i have no idea why or if this works, but you can try it!

• just a symptom – try to think of your voices as just a symptom, and not something that has a special meaning. after all, it’s just a random thought you can hear.

visual hallucinations

• take a picture – if you’re unsure something is there you can try taking a picture

• turn away – or break eye contact, leave the room. if you don’t see it it’s not there

• shine on them  – if you see shadows you can try shining light on them from your phone flashlight

• medication – well, yeah, you get the idea. they work.

• five senses method –  acknowledge five things you can see; four things you can touch; three things you can hear; two things you can smell; one things you can taste.

delusions

• distraction – try to take your mind of it, even though it’s not that simple.

• give them facts – checking facts and statistics may help

• talk about them – in my case, the more i talked about my thoughts, the more unrealistic they seemed. That may not happen to everyone, but it is helpful to talk about them.

• know your triggers – delusions are also good to know when they’re more active.

do’s and don’t’s

•  don’t “self-medicate” - marijuana has shown to make psychotic symptoms worse and makes the risk of falling back into a psychosis bigger. other substances that can trigger/worsen/even cause psychotic symptoms are cocaine, speed, crystal meth, ecstasy, LSD, magic mushrooms and ketamine

try to manage your stress - psychotic symptoms has quite a lot to with stress. it’s also important for any mental health issue.

take care of yourself - selfcare, mindfulsness, exercise, eat reguraly and healthy, sleep well… you get the idea.

know your early signs - it’s good to know when you start getting signs of another episode, so you can adjust your medication or talk to your doctor more often so you can avoid another episode. early signs may be sleeping less or more, isolation, being annoyed or thinking “is medication even necessery?” i

don’t isolate youself - this is a early symptom for me, before i get a psychotic episode, i often isolate myself and hate the world. that often lead to me being alone with my delusions and they get worse. so try to see friends often, especially when you have early signs.

don’t assume it’s schizophrenia - it’s usually not schizophrenia. there could be many reasons and/ or illnesses for someone to have psychotic episodes. And almost everyone experience psychosis some time in their life, schizophrenia needs a half year or longer psychosis.

stop talking to toxic people - not everyone will understand psychosis, and that’s ok. but there’s a fine line between not understanding, and being toxic. if they start making jokes you’re not comfortable with or if they trigger you in some way, stop talking to them. 

don’t try to figure out what the voices mean - voices are just random thoughts coming to life. they don’t have to be true or important, they have no special meaning that you need to figure out. 

living with someone with psychotic symptoms

• keep an eye out for early symptoms (things that can happen before a psychotic episode)

• you can’t love the symptoms away, but please, show a lot of love

• their symptoms are no ones fault

• don’t challenge their delusions, they won’t go away no matter how many facts you give them

• keep a dairy of when the symptoms are more active

• one symptom of psychosis is lack of motivation and hard time starting chores. help to motivate and give them creds for what they do.

• learn about their illness, symptoms and maybe even what side effects they get from their medication. understand who the person is, and who their mental illness is.

• remind them to take medication, if they are bad at taking them themselves

• take care of yourself too, you are lovely

statistics

among people with schizophrenia, which is a psychotic illness, 1 in ten commits suicide. that makes suicide the leading cause of premature death among people with the illness. but it’s worth to keep fighting as 15-25% recovers and 50% improves. and with more understanding and love, as well as less fear and stigma, the number of suicides may go down.

Fourth of July Do's and Don'ts

Do’s:
•Include people who want to be included
• Be understanding of others’ boundaries
• Realize that everyone celebrates differently or maybe not at all

Don'ts:
• Scare or chase others with fireworks
• Point fireworks in someone’s direction
• Look inside fireworks to see if they’re working
• Call people names because they don’t like fireworks
• Pressure anyone to drink alcohol
• Be a racist, fascist dick and call it “patriotism”
• Purposely make someone uncomfortable

Here’s some motivation to finally call back that place that’s hiring

To quit that job that’s tearing you down

To end a toxic relationship

To make the first move on someone you’ve been avoiding for weeks

To start something new after months of telling yourself you’re not ready

To treat yourself to that shopping spree

To call up an old friend and smile again

Today is the day to everything that you’ve ever procrastinated on. To achieve those goals that you never believed you could achieve. To push yourself to get that one thing done. You can do it. Don’t ever tell yourself you can’t ever again.

I’m rooting for you.