size acceptance

Things I have heard the body positivity movement say:

  1. Body positivity can actually help people who want to lose weight. Fat shaming does not.
  2. Obesity is not an “illness” or an “epidemic,” it is a risk factor in a number of illnesses and treating obesity itself as an illness makes fat people feel like shit tbqh, which is counter-productive.
  3. Diagnostic overshadowing is something fat people routinely have to put up with. Conditions that have nothing to do with weight are sometimes missed because doctors are obsessed with telling people to lose weight.
  4. There is good evidence showing that diets and exercise are not all that effective at keeping weight off in the long-term.
  5. Weight loss is treated like a magic bullet and this ignores the complexity of health issues, including the social factors.
  6. Treating fat people like people can only ever be good for their health. It is not “indulging” people to acknowledge that fatness intersects with race, class, gender and disability in complex ways.
  7. It might be a good idea to put more resources into figuring out how to treat fat people rather than continuing to put so many resources into making people thinner, which is a losing battle anyway.

Things I have NEVER heard the body positivity movement say:

  1. Every fat person is healthy.
  2. Doctors don’t want to operate on fat people because they hate them and want them to die. The anaesthetic thing is a myth.
  3. Fuck you if you want to lose weight.
  4. Nobody should ever consider making any changes to their lifestyle.

Things medical professionals need to acknowledge:

  1. Misrepresenting the views of the body positivity perspective is a convenient way to avoid challenging yourself on your own behaviour.
  2. Science is not a neutral objective bystander, it is subject to the same human biases as everything else.
  3. We are not yet done learning about the human body and there is a lot left to learn.
  4. Some of the darkest, most abusive incidents in the history of medicine have been caused by professionals retreating into their “expert” role and failing to listen to patients.
A message to everyone

You do not have to look like a model. You don’t have to have a perfectly flat stomach, no cellulite, no stretch marks, you don’t have to have perfectly toned arms and legs. You don’t have to be perfect. You should simply strive to be the healthiest version of yourself. 

Things to never say to a Hirsute girl:

Or in general, to anyone who is suffering from excess hair, whether that be trans/PCOS/or any other type of medical condition. (I understand some are more directed towards females.)


1. “Is that hair on your _________ ?”
2. “What is that rash on your _____/______ ?”
3. “Do you not get scared when it comes to being intimate with your partner?”
4. “Does your partner mind that you’re hairy?”
5. “You’re so brave, I would of killed myself if this was happening to me.”
6. “Even though you’re hairy, you still look like a girl.”
7. “You may think being hairy is the end of the world, but someone out there is worse off than you.”
8. “My Mother’s friend’s daughter has hirsutism and her’s is worse than yours.”
9. “Have you thought of lazer hair removal/ electrolysis/ shaving with a razor/ waxing/ threading/ plucking/ bleaching?
10. “So, can you get pregnant?”
11. “If you had a baby, would you be scared that it would also have abnormal hair growth, you should know better than anyone that it would be cruel to have a baby under those circumstances!”
12. “Why is your makeup so heavy - you would look so much better if it was natural!!”
13. “My friend takes _____ to control her hirsutism, why don’t you try that?”
14. “Ha ha ha, you could always join the circus as a bearded lady!!!”
15. “It’s just a little hair, it could be SO much worse, you are overreacting!”
16. “You wear such baggy clothes that cover up everything, it’s so depressing, stop being lazy, shave your body and wear something more revealing!
17. “Does your partner see you when you’re hairy?”
18. “Does it not scare you to wake up next to your partner every morning with a full face of stubble!?!?!?”
19. “Asking for laser hair removal on the NHS/Insurance would be selfish, it’s a cosmetic thing, not for actually bettering your life!”
20. “You’re such a spoil sport, you’re hairy, so what, stop making everything about you!”
21. “You know I can still see your hair through your makeup?”
22. “Maybe if you lost some weight like the doctors say, the hair would stop.”
23. “You always have to make everything about you, no one cares that you’re hairy, you’re being OTT.”
24. “Have you thought about buying a NoNo? I hear great things about them!”
25. “Maybe if you stopped buying yourself things, you could afford laser hair removal. 
26. “Ugh, I just felt your stubble brush up against my face!!!”
27. “You know, in old middle eastern history, hairy women were a sign of femininity and extreme beauty.”
28. “You should be greatful the hair is only on _____ and ______ it could be so much worse.”
29. “Did you see that bearded woman on the news the other day? That will be you in 5 years!!! Ha ha ha.”
30. “Aw no, don’t be upset, you know I’m only joking, my hairy friend!!”
31. “Your hair is getting kinda long…. Do you not thing it’s time to shave/wax/whatever it yet?”
32. “I can shave your hair for you if you want…”
33. “You would look so much better and prettier if you weren’t hairy.”
34. “Have you tried drinking _____ and eating ______ …. I read on Google it can stop excess hair growth!”
35. “It annoys me that you waste GP time going to see your doc about your hair, It is only hair.”
36. “You’re hairy because you have more male hormones, than female ones? Does that mean you are going to grow a penis lol?”
37. “Happy Birthday!!!! We bought you a gift voucher to the local spa for a full body wax! Hope you like it.”
38. “A lot of girls have this issue, you’re not the only one, relax.”
39. “I read that hirsutism means that you aren’t as developed as other humans, and are more like monkeys, is that right?”
40. “You’re a great friend, I love you and everything, but I find your hair so gross, I wish you would just control it better and take some pride in yourself!”

After having severe hirsutism for the best part of 10 years, these are just a handful of the extremely hurtful things that have been said/happened to me. Some of them were clearly meant in good taste, but a safe thing is that, unless the hirsute person brings up their hair, don’t bring it up yourself. 

- A Hirsutim sufferer

FAT GIRL PROBLEMS

1. chub rub
2. people who see us as a fetish
3. cute clothes are never in our size
4. when clothes are our size, they never fit right 
5. boobs, belly, hip, but, ratio
6. people regularly call you “fat,” as if you never knew
7. “you can have the front seat” when traveling with friends & family
8. you can never find a towel that goes all the way around you 
9. people are surprised when you order a salad instead of a burger 
10. “oh honey, you’re not fat, you’re beautiful”
11. painting your toe nails
12. doing up shoes with the buckle on the sides
13. people who think fat girls don’t have sex
14. cute bra’s and panties in your size are impossible to find 
15. public transport at rush hour
16. fat girl clothes prices 
17. judged if you eat too much, judged if you eat too little
18. the crotch/in between the thighs if your trousers rip too often
19. “sore throat?” .. “Yeah…” …. “It’s because of your weight" 
20.  squeezing past people and still rubbing your body against them
21. body hair in places you never knew existed
22. "you’re so soft can i use you as a pillow?”
23. the stare of death you receive from other fat girls in public
24. “you’re so pretty for a fat girl”
25. no matter who you’re with in public you both get dirty looks
26. shopping with thin friends and only trying on shoes and jewellry
27. “would you like that meal as a large?”
28. stairs
29. the fact that it’s socially acceptable to make fun of fat people
30. booths in restaurants
31. your family automatically plate up XL portions of food for you
32. “have you put on weight?” at every family gathering
33. you can never find pretty bangles or rings that fit you
34. “you should go to the gym with me”
35. “you’d be so much prettier if you lost 100lbs”
36. irregular periods
37. we’re treated worse than murderers/rapists/pedophiles by society
38. people are shocked when they see you eat fruit
39. “fat girls have to try more with their personalities”
40. we’re made to feel like shit by society, and it’s fucking wrong. We are fucking beautiful. We have as much right to love ourselves and feel great, just like every other human being. Rock on fat girls. 

Fat girls, I love you. 

In the effort to set themselves apart from plowboys and milkmaids— that is, working and rural youth— middle-class daughters chose to pursue a body configuration that was small, slim, and essentially decorative. By eating only tiny amounts of food, young women could disassociate themselves from sexuality and fecundity and they could achieve an unambiguous class identity. The thin body not only implied asexuality and an elevated social address, it was also an expression of intelligence, sensitivity, and morality. Through control of appetite Victorian girls found a way of expressing a complex of emotional, aesthetic, and class sensibilities.
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Joan Jacobs Brumberg- The Appetite as Voice

The origins of the current diet culture can be traced to the Victorian Era. The moral attributes attached to thinner bodies then, are similar, if not the same to those attached to them today by popular culture.

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Pictures of me being a chubby bunny in my first time in the snow❄️❄️

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It ain’t rocket science. Body diversity is not pathological.

‘You are not responsible for other people’s actions. They are.
I don’t care how fat you are. I don’t care how funny-looking your are. I don’t care how old or disabled or poor or underemployed or uneducated you are. I want you, right here, right now, to stop holding yourself responsible for other people’s bad behaviour. You are not obligated to tolerate or indulge cruelty or nastiness of any sort just because you are not perfect in every way. No one is perfect and no one should be made to feel that their imperfections mean they must take responsibility for the fact that someone else is nasty, cruel, or abusive.’
—  The Unapologetic Fat Girl’s Guide to Exercise, Hanne Blank

being a fat girl, in a relationship with a slim, handsome man, really does suck. Before you even leave the house together to go shopping, or for a walk, you damn know you are going to get stares, looks of disgust, and people whispering. 

Love knows of no boundaries, yet, 2016 and people can’t accept the fact that two people of complete different sizes can fall in love together and be just as, if not, happier than any ‘normal’ couple. 

Intersectionality means that there are no “secondary” fights. We cannot limit our awareness or our activism to “Today I’m smashing the patriarchy,” OR “Today I’m fighting racism,” OR “Today I’m combating transphobia.” Our oppressions are connected and cannot be dismantled unless fought simultaneously. We either embrace intersectionality or we fail.