sixteen

16 things I learned while being 16
1. You are a lot stronger than you think you are.
2. Breathe. No matter how bad you feel right now, no day lasts longer than 24 hours.
3. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to be the best version of yourself.
4. Boys aren’t as scary as you think they are.
5. Going to the movies or shopping alone is not something you have to avoid at all costs but rather a great thing to do during your me time.
6. Plan your next steps ahead especially your near future whether it’s looking at unis, apply for internships, book flights etc.
7. Take your time. If you feel like you pushed yourself too far into a relationship for example it’s okay to admit to yourself that you weren’t ready. There are plenty of options later in life.
8. People don’t care about your pimples or your unwashed hair. Sometimes we tend to think that everyone’s thoughts are about us, which is luckily not the case.
9. Become the person you are instead of trying to change yourself for the sake of family members or friends.
10. Having a diary or occasionally writing letters to your future self can reduce your stress level and who doesn’t like reading letters from your past self?
11. Relationships aren’t a necessity. If you never dated, kissed, or were in a relationship with someone, that’s okay. It doesn’t make you less valuable or weird trust me.
12. Tell your loved ones how much you appreciate their existence, they won’t be here forever.
13. Grades aren’t everything. Yes they pretty much determine your future but one failed test won’t destroy everything you worked so hard for.
14. Artsy stuff is amazing. Read books which inspire you or take pictures of the things you love just to put them on your walls afterwords.
15. You can do everything as long as you are passionate about it and willing to work hard.
16. Live. You have your entire life in front of you and the world offers you endless possibilities.
There is more to life than him. There are cafes on cozy city corners with vintage chandeliers and that waiter that always smiles at you when you order a chai latte. There are christmas trees that shine through apartment windows and that seventy year old couple across the hall who walk around the park at 9:30 every morning. Rainy Thursdays when you’re awoken by the patter of rain on your roof and Sunday nights when the week is yours to conquer. There’s swimming in the ocean at dusk when the sky is pink and the saltwater is warm. There’s sweet wine to drink with your best friends and karaoke songs to butcher with any willing participant. There are bubble baths after a long day and a clean bed with fresh sheets. There are adventures waiting in some far off country and a boy who will look at you one day like you’re the only person in the damn world. There is more to life than heartbreak.
—  reminder
1. Showing more skin does not equate with more beautiful.
2. You don’t have to wear makeup everyday.
3. Your mother loves you.
4. He doesn’t love you.
5. Things take time.
6. There is art in you and everything you do.
7. You don’t have to pretend anymore.
8. A cup of coffee every morning will not kill you.
9. You can’t live in your bed forever.
10. Time will heal a broken heart.
—  m.n // “Ten Things I Wish I Knew at Sixteen.”

                                                I had a dream
                                          We were back to sixteen
                                       Smoking weed and nicotine
                                                Always carefree
 
                                          With just a few pennies
                                      dreamed big, our minds free
                                     wished the world and its cities
                                                In our pockets
 
                                It’s all over ‘cause we’ve had enough
                                       The love that once we had
                                             was never enough
 
                              And I don’t wanna know what’s been up
                                      all I know is that we’re alone
                                               and hurt in love
 
                                                      Now
 
              Who’s gonna hold your hand when life won’t treat you sweet?
               Who’s gonna pull you close at nights when you can’t sleep?
                Who’s gonna kiss your eyes when daylight’s gonna hurt?
                           Who’s gonna show you what love’s worth?
 
                                            ‘cause it won’t be me
                                                 it won’t be me
                                                   won’t be me
 
                                                I had a dream
                                      We sipped coffee in between
                                     late night talks and ice creams
                                               Never worrying
 
                                          But then we had a fight
                                   Couldn’t stand each other’s sight
                                       Stopped seeing eye to eye
                                           Now we’re on our own
 
                                 It’s all over ‘cause we’ve had enough
                                        The love that once we had
                                             was never enough
 
                              And I don’t wanna know what’s been up
                                      all I know is that we’re alone
                                               and hurt in love
 
                                                      Now
 
               Who’s gonna hold your hand when life won’t treat you sweet?
                Who’s gonna pull you close at nights when you can’t sleep?
                 Who’s gonna kiss your eyes when daylight gonna hurt?
                            Who’s gonna show you what love’s worth?
 
                                           ‘cause it won’t be me
                                                it won’t be me
                                                  won’t be me”

                                  - Won’t Be Me, Shikha Singh

She shines like the christmas lights from across the street and walks like everyone in the world will know her name someday. She laughs until she cries and snuggles with her younger sister on Sunday nights. The white walls in her room are painted with imagination and sunlight, kind of like her. She eats buttery pasta for dinner and stays up until 1:00 AM for the simple thrill of it. She has a map in her mind filled with all the places she’s been and everywhere she dreams of going. She thought she loved him, but she never did. What she loves is taking risks, striped comforters, sandy braids, the turquoise sea. What she loves is bigger than any boy could ever be; she loves the world.
—  letters to my best friends, #3