some self-care/mental health tips for the upcoming school year
with school coming soon or already starting for some people i figured i’d share some of my tips for a healthier lifestyle. i know in the past i’ve struggled so much with being good to myself once school starts, both mentally, emotionally, and physically!
keep a clean room
i know how hard this is. i’m absolutely awful at it, even in the summer but it really makes the biggest difference. coming home to a mess when your life is already stressful and messy enough just makes things worse. i know when i have a clean space i’m way more productive and at peace with my situation.
take a break from social media
just doing this every once in awhile makes the hugest difference. social media is a wonderful world but it’s easy to get caught up in how everyone is doing things without you or having more fun or how someone’s prettier or whatever. it’s not worth it. i’ve learned that just deleting the apps for even a few hours can make my mental state 10x better. it’s important to realize that while people are out doing things all the time, you can never be as fun as all the 162 people you follow combined.
don’t be afraid to invite people out
one of the biggest things i struggle with is being social, simply because i overthink inviting people to do things with me too much and just wait to be invited by someone else instead. remember that even if someone says they can’t do something, it’s not the end of the world. at least you opened up a possibility!!! by being someone who invites others to do things, people will feel more appreciated and like you actually want to hang out with them! but also always save time for yourself as well!
create a self-care routine with motivation
by giving yourself some type of reward to wash your face, brush your teeth and shower, such as only watching your favorite tv show afterwards, it will feel a bit easier to accomplish the tasks that seem simple but can be terribly hard, especially if you suffer from depression. i’ve learned that combining things into one task also makes it easier, such as once you get in the shower, do everything. wash your face, brush your teeth, shave, all in the shower. it makes self-care so much easier.
get outside, stay out of bed
laying in bed is the best thing ever, i know, but it can be so easy to get in there and never get out. this is my biggest bad habit. i feel more productive even just sitting on the couch. my bed is like a black hole of lost motivation. go outside for twenty minutes a day if you can. sunlight makes things a little better and staying inside all day does nothing for you.
do one thing that scares you everyday, big or small.
i’m someone who has struggled with social anxiety for years now, but i’m slowly getting better because i’m making a conscious (and very terrifying effort) everyday. this won’t work for everyone, i know, but it’s helped me a little bit. i try to challenge myself everyday to do one thing that scares me, whether it’s asking someone to do something after school or agreeing to get coffee with a friend you’re not super close to yet, or even just making conversation with someone next to me in class. don’t push yourself too far but don’t make zero effort either.
cut the negative language/mindset
anytime you have a negative thought find a reverse positive. even saying “i’m not happy with how my hair looks but my ass looks great in these jeans” is better than saying “i look awful today”. stop the constant internal bullying! think of it this way, if your best friend said the things you say to yourself, how would you feel? you’re your own best friend, so cut the shit! compliment yourself like you do your best friend. complimenting myself and finding things i find beautiful on my own body even once a day has increased my confidence exponentially. a negative language towards yourself leads to a negative mindset.
find someone who motivates you
if you need motivation to work out, study, anything, find a buddy. having someone to do things with and hold you accountable makes a world of difference. this summer i got together with a friend and made a deal that we would work out 2-3 times a week. it worked so much better than if i had just made that goal for myself because she was always there to text me to ask to workout when we needed to but i lacked the desire. and i did the same for her. now we actually both got a job at a gym together this fall and are working out consistently because we have that mutual accountability with each other! plus just having someone you enjoy seeing makes doing the hard task more fun!
accept your individuality
you don’t need to look like society’s ideal of beautiful. there’s millions of types of flowers, and just because one kind is pretty to someone, does that make all the others ugly? no. there’s tons of species of dogs too and they all look totally different. is a poodle ugly just because a golden retriever is cute? NO.your individuality is you. everyone is beautiful in the very own unique way. don’t try to look like someone ellse. your beauty is not measured by how perfect your features are.
drink some fucking water
and eat some food too
understand that a bad week doesn’t mean a bad life
we’re all going to go through those weird ass time periods where it feels like everything sucks and nothing can go right. accept that although it’s pretty bad right now, it won’t be forever.
good luck with this school year everyone! hope my tips help even just one person. take care of yourselves, kiddos.
So someone asked me a question on my ask Yuri blog about Victor reading I was watching through the DVD’s again to get some screencaps and I noticed something about Victor’s room.
Other than being a very well read man (I think that it may be canon that he likes to read because he has a pile of books next to the sofa and a tonne of books on his shelves), I wanna take a look at the new layout of his room.
As a lot of you might know the producers literally took this room originally from a pre-existing room design but had to change because of what we assumed to be legal reasons.
The thing I wanna note is the lighting of the room in all the images. Fair enough after the DVD edit (the first image in this post with all the books in the background) they had to change it so there’s less light in the back but look at the light in the front of the picture on the ground and then take a look at the real life image. If you look at the real life image, the lighting at the front is broken and quite small, this indicates that in the real photograph that there are small, thin windows with wall in between them that are obviously either covered in some kind off blind/curtain or have segmented panels/frames. But if you look at Victor’s apartment, the entire thing is just one, big block of light.
From this, you can deduce that there are no breaks in the window, nor are there any curtains or panels in the window, nor is there anything outside casting a shadow in. That means that the window that Victor has must be a full wall window, bigger than a three person sofa, small chest of drawers and small side table combined (and continuing) and high enough or far away enough from things that would cast shadow into his room. And if you aren’t aware of how much full wall windows are, they’re expensive. Obviously depending on the sizing and area. they can be anything around £22k, sometimes a lot more sometimes less..
So, even though we know that Victor is pretty extra and likes to buy really expensive cars, brands, first class aeroplane tickets etc, we now know that he has either bought or is renting a really expensive apartment too.
It wouldn’t surprise me if those bookshelves and that table in the corner were solid oak wood as well….
I am So Done with these criticisms I keep seeing like “It was good and all but Diego Luna didn’t work for me casting-wise, he was too wiry and soft-spoken, not action-movie enough” and I’m like??? SPY???? That’s the point????
Honestly people need to stop forcing the Hypermasculine Jason Statham Aesthetic bullshit irrelevantly onto characters that bear literally no comparison.
Draco walked into
the eighth year common room with his head downcast as always. He spoke to
no-one. No-one spoke to him.
He was making a
beeline for his favourite armchair right by the fire - it was always empty,
everyone knew it was his - when he heard it. Laughter.
He knew exactly
whose laughter and exactly where from. There was no need to look up. But as
always, he did.
Harry Potter and
his friends, Weasley and Granger, were in their usual spots on the widest,
comfiest couch in the room, tucked into a corner by the dormitory stairs. They
were all laughing, Potter the loudest of all, while taking turns to grab at the
golden snitch zooming above their heads.
Potter had beaten
Draco in the Gryffindor vs Slytherin Quidditch match in the morning. Again.
Draco had been training constantly - it’s not like he had much else to do, or
anyone else to hang out with - and yet he had still been defeated. It was disheartening.
He wondered whether he should just give up on Quidditch. Maybe on Hogwarts too.
It’s not like anyone wanted him here.
He was still
staring when Potter looked up, his eyes falling on Draco’s. Draco quickly
turned his head - making it more obvious he’d been staring - and continued on
towards his chair. It was no couch, but it would do.
Potter’s voice called out behind him.
before turning back. He didn’t want to look too eager. Potter probably just
wanted to gloat about the match.
But when he finally
did turn to Potter, the git was already laughing again with his friends again,
paying no mind to Draco.
Draco stomped over,
feeling very much like a dog called by his owner. He didn’t like it. He crossed
his arms and stared down at the three Gryffindors.
Potter stood up,
the snitch following his movements. He held out a hand. Draco stared at it.
” Potter said.
Weasley and Granger
had stopped laughing. Everything was silent. Draco kept staring at Potter’s
hand. It was shaking a little.
Just when Potter
looked like he was about to drop his hand, Draco shot out his own and caught it
in a firm shake. Potter’s hand was clammy.
Potter smiled, as
broad as his face. “You flew brilliantly today. It made me nervous.”
fly well,” Malfoy said in return. It came out sounding forced but he meant
Potter, unlike Draco, had no problem sounding genuine.
They stood there
silently for no longer than a beat but it seemed a very slow, awkward one.
Draco nodded politely and moved to walk away.
Potter called out, louder than required.
Draco supposed the laughter would start up again as soon he left. His presence
seemed to bring everything down.
As there didn’t
seem to any further words coming out of Potter’s mouth, Draco was left to stand
there awkwardly. His eyes were drawn to the golden snitch fluttering by
Potter’s ear. It was hardly moving now. He could easily reach out and take it.
So he did. Or at
least he tried. The snitch seemed to know he was coming and zoomed to the side
at the last millisecond. Draco tried again, the snitch few away. Frustrated, he
reached out with both hands, but only continue to grasp air.
He heard Weasley snigger.
His face reddened. He looked like an idiot now. His only saving grace was to
actually catch the damn snitch. So he tried again. Nothing.
Granger was soon
laughing too and Draco grew angry. He didn’t like being made the fool. Especially
not by the perfect golden trio.
One last time, he
told himself. But once again, his hands closed over nothing, the wings of the
snitch just grazing his fingers, always out of reach.
That’s when the
sound hit him: Potter’s laughter. Except this time he was right here with him
and not only that, Draco was causing
it. And it didn’t sound cruel, or mocking. It didn’t sound like Potter was
laughing at him at all. No, it was bubbly and bright and basically what Draco
imagined sunshine to sound like.
Draco dropped his
gaze to take in Potter’s face. It really was a sight when he laughed - full and
joyful and pure. Draco never wanted to look away.
His anger had
faded, almost as soon as Potter had started laughing, but now Draco’s face was
red for another reason entirely. He needed to stop looking at Potter
immediately. But he couldn’t.
When Potter stopped
laughing, he seemed to finally find his words from earlier. “You should
sit with us.”
Draco blinked. Sit
at Potter’s couch? With Granger and Weasley? Surely that’s not what he meant.
Weasley seemed to
have the same though because he blurted out, “What?”
Draco just stared
at Potter. He had no idea how to respond to such a suggestion. He wanted to ask
why but the words never came out. Potter seemed to understand regardless.
He leaned in to
Draco, close enough that Draco could smell his shampoo, and whispered: “I
think you need a laugh.”
golden idea for next 1D Day: eight hours of the boys doing pointless online quizzes like “what fruit are you?”, “which sunglasses should you rock this summer?”, “what dog breed should you consider adopting?”
bonus: watch Harry take a “which 1D member should you date?” quiz and cheat the system to get Louis
BTS Reaction | the other members noticing the hickeys your boyfriend left on you
request: “Hello love can you do a BTS reaction to another member noticing the bruises/hickies bts left on their s/o? (maybe your bts boyfriend being in the same room when it happens haha!!)”
wear this turtleneck shirt yesterday as well?” Your boyfriend asked you. You
rolled your eyes. “And who’s fault is it?” You looked at him with a serious
look. “Mine?” He said surprised. You slipped in your shoes and Jin helped you
get in your coat. You wanted to leave together with the other boys to get
something to eat and you all stood in the entrance and waited for Taehyung who
clearly took his time to get dressed. You turned around after you got into your
coat and lowered the hem of your shirt to reveal the hickeys he left last
night. Jin raised both eyebrows and pushed your hem back up, while he started
to giggle. “You’re enjoying that, right?”
You were busy cutting the vegetables as Hoseok came closer from behind with his eyes fixed on your neck. “What is that?” He said while stroking over the dark red spot on your skin. You covered your neck with your hand and immediately turned around to look at your boyfriend who was sitting on the couch. “I marked my territory.” He said calmly without looking up from his phone. Hoseok just widened his eyes and pulled his hand back. “I’ll never ask again.”
you take your scarf off? It’s pretty hot in here.” Taehyung asked, pointing
towards the fabric that was tightly around your neck. “You really should take
it off.” Your boyfriend added, while giving out the chopsticks for dinner. “You
know damn well why I can’t.” You caught him by surprise. “What? Why?” He said
confused. You loosen the scarf to reveal the hickeys he left the night before, all over your neck. Namjoon burst out into laughter while the others were
astounded by the amount he left. “You don’t have to feel embarrassed about
them, they should all see that I treat you well.”
together with the boys at practice as they took a little break to eat
something. Meanwhile your boyfriend, Jungkook and Jimin showed you on what
choreography they were working on, as you joined them for fun. The last pose of
the choreo was with your hands over your head what caused your shirt to slide
upwards revealing the hickeys that were all over your stomach. “Are those
Hickeys?” Jungkook asked surprised. You didn’t even get it at first what he was
referring to until you looked in the mirror and saw them yourself. Hoseok came immediately
over to your side to cover you with a hug. “Wooaaa! Jagi! Don’t show them!!”
yelled from inside the bedroom. Your boyfriend was already in the kitchen
preparing something to eat for breakfast while you still were in your pyjamas
lying in bed. You noticed the bruises he left on you immediately as you looked
in the mirror. You rushed out of your room to face Jimin, who looked up surprised.
“What is it babe?” You pushed your pyjama pants, that were already pretty short
even higher up to show him the bruises on your tights. Jimin stopped you and
gently pushed your pants back down and looked over your shoulder. You didn’t
notice that all of the other boys were already sitting at the table and eating
and you stood there half naked covered in hickeys. They all had their mouth
open and Jimin tried to cover you up. “Maybe you should dress yourself first?”
your best to cover up the spots, by wearing a big hoodie that didn’t show any
skin and you really thought that nobody would notice it. But the minute
you bend down to pick something up, the hoodie slid up a little bit, just
enough to reveal the hickeys Jungkook left on you. “What did Jungkook do to you?”
Yoongi asked with a calm voice. You jumped up and the other members turned towards Jungkook, teasing him about it. “Our
Maknae really did grow up, huh?” He would act very embarrassed about the
situation but in fact like it and give you a smirk.
need another towel?” Jin asked you while you rubbed your hair dry. “No thanks.”
You rejected him friendly. You got into the rain while you got take out food
for the boys together with Jin and now were nearly completely soaked but fortunately
you didn’t wear anything white that would turn transparent by now. The only
thing you forgot were the hickeys your boyfriend left on your neck that you
covered with make up in the morning. Jin’s eyes would be fixed on your neck
while you dried your hair. “Hey Y/N, did you hurt yourself there?” He came
closer with his eyes narrowed at your spots till he realised. He immediately
turned red and stepped back. You turned around to face him and didn’t get at
first why he was blushing so hard. Oh Shit, you thought as you saw that the
others were already starring at you but the only one that was offended as fuck was your boyfriend. “You did cover them? You know how much effort I spend in them?” Then everyone would look towards Taehyung with a questionable look.
Anon asked “Can you please do a part 3 to ‘guys my age’ were Bucky asks reader for another lap dance”
A/N: The fic that started it all. I’m so glad people liked it as much as I enjoyed writing it. Let me know if you want to be tagged. Also, dominant/jealous Bucky is just wow. Let me know if you want to be tagged HERE or HERE. Go away kids! And please use protection y’all.
concept: it is a rainy, autumn day and i’m spending it indoors with my family. the fireplace is lit. autumn treats are being baked and the scent of them fill the home. on the tv are my favorite halloween films. autumn scented candles are lit around the home. i’m sitting on the couch wrapped up in a cozy throw with my dog on my lap. i feel warm, inside and out.