sick trends

fuck sad melancholic “looking out to the sunset crying while clutching her blue crown of roses” Lyanna tho.

gimme angry, resentful, exasperated, unkept, regretful, PTSD, judging, self hating “aware of how much everything has fucked up but resolute to make things right for the baby” Lyanna.

this is the woman who saw a man be bullied and put on armor to fucking avenge him and humilliate his tormentors, you think she gets locked in a tower and stays all sad, combing her hair everyday putting on her crown of roses waiting for Rhaegar? fuck that. She sassed her “guardians”, she didn’t bother with blue dresses if she was locked up she was gonna be comfortable, she cursed her thoughtlessnes (and Rhaegar’s). She promised to her belly she would do right and mend stuff. She would justify herself saying the sexist society left her no choice then berate herself and frown all day at all she caused.

I get it, she died in childbirth locked up, it was tragic and sad. That’s her story but not HER. That’s not Lyanna “a touch of the wolfblood” Stark. Do her right, please.

Finn rant

Okay, here goes. I wanted to take the time to summarize everything that I hate about the Star Wars fandom and it’s treatment of Finn. This is all stuff that has annoyed and in some cases offended me that I’ve had to look at for well over  a year since joining this fandom. This is also everything that I’ve felt like I had to keep my mouth shut about because it seems like most people in the Star Wars fandom have no problem whatsoever with.

If you disagree with me, that’s great, and feel free to message me why. If you feel offended, then unfollow me, because that’s what I’ve been trying to do for over a year.


So the other day, a dear friend of mine told me that the finnreyfridays one-shot we were working on was sexist. Like actually sexist. Do you know why they told me it was sexist? Allow me to answer the question for you.

They told me it was sexist because the plot included Finn saving Rey. That’s why. I didn’t turn Rey into a helpless damsel-in-distress, I didn’t write Rey as a slutty scavenger who flirts with every guy she sees.

I wrote Rey as a skilled Jedi who was ambushed by Kylo Ren and the Knights of Ren on a mission, and simply needed help. That’s it. It’s not an unrealistic situation at all, and Rey still got the upper hand on Kylo Ren. She was in danger and outnumbered, and Finn showed up and helped her.

And it’s became very clear to me that it offended my friend for one reason. That reason was that by simply because my having Finn rescue Rey, I apparently shattered Rey’s character and turned her into a helpless damsel-in-distress….

A few weeks ago there was photoset made by @shropshiregirl79 for finnreyfridays. It was a daily planet au with Finn as superman and Rey as Lois Lane. One of the pictures showed Rey in danger and Finn rescuing her, carrying her in his arms. Someone got mad about that and said they made Rey into a damsel-in-distress. 

Another situation arose where someone posted artwork of Finn and Rey as an old-style movie, with Finn a detective pointing a gun at someone while Rey clung to him. Once again, someone got mad and said it turned Rey into a damsel-in-distress. 

It’s become so taboo in this fandom just to have Finn saving, or even protecting Rey without people (probably white feminists) getting mad at it. Why is that? Is Finn’s only role only to be put in peril for Rey to rescue?

And if you’re one of the people who gets mad about that, let me ask you a question.
Would you be mad if it was Finn?


Here’s the deal. I joined the fandom well over a year ago. I can safely say I’ve read about

thirty to forty fics

where at some point,

Finn is inevitably captured or put in peril, and rescued by Rey or Poe.

I’ve seen

finnrey shippers

who supposedly love and appreciate Finn, joke around and call

Finn a damsel-in-distress (or trooper-in-distress)

and talk about how Rey does nothing but save him over and over, and everyone laughs and jokes about it.

I’ve read fics where on the off-chance that Finn does risk his life to save Rey, he gets criticized for it because he was being

RECKLESS and Rey HAD IT UNDER CONTROL. Seriously? Finn can’t even save Rey without it involving him being stupid or catching hell or it? 

It’s always, “Finn why did you do that?! You could’ve died!” instead of “Wow Finn thank you for saving me, I’m glad you’re okay. That was pretty brave.”

But nope. Can’t even have that. 

I’ve read fics where Finn is flat out tied up and gagged.

I’ve read a fics where Finn is captured, beaten, stripped down and hosed and left in a cell shivering in the corner helpless, wishing that Rey or Poe was there to save him (but it’s okay because ta-da they come to his rescue).

I’ve read a fic where the entire thing was just worshiping Rey. Literally. It’s Poe’s pov during a battle, and Finn is basically getting beat up and dragged away by stormtroopers, by the way that’s his entire role in the fic, just to get his ass kicked. He doesn’t do anything else.
So Finn’s getting beat up, and the rest of the fic is Poe being completely ENAMORED left in AWE by Rey’s amazing flawless skills fighting through the stormtroopers and kicking ass left and right and looking SOOO beautiful and graceful with her lightsaber and she rescues Finn and Poe thanks her and thanks her over and over again. 

That’s the entire fic. Kissing Rey’s ass and kicking Finn’s. And guess what? The readers ate that shit up. They loved it. 

So let me sum it up again. Finn can get beat up by stormtroopers, captured thousands of times, stripped, tortured, hosed down, and left shivering in a corner basically crying for Poe and Rey like bait, and people say that they appreciate Finn’s character for this? This is okay to everyone?

Yet if I write a one shot where Rey is outnumbered, defeats Kylo Ren but is then outnumbered and Finn comes to save her, then I’m destroying Rey’s character? Then I don’t appreciate her character? Then the entire one-shot is sexist garbage based on turning Rey into a damsel in distress?

Apparently so. Thanks fandom. 

Again, I’ve been putting up with this for over a year, and it took a lot of time for me to actually muster up the courage to rant about it. If this offends you, you’re probably apart of the problem.

Finnamon Roll?

Okay, another major trend I’m sick of is the constant EMASCULATION OF FINN. 
Let me sum up Finn’s character.  He suffers from trauma. He was taken away as a baby and raised to be a ruthless killing machine. He endured 20+ years of brainwashing, propaganda, and conditioning. He had no friends whatsoever (SLIP WAS NOT HIS FRIEND). He was the best stormtrooper cadet in his unit. He almost never missed a shot with a blaster. He was an outcast, and constantly criticized for having a heart.

In TFA, he suffers from trauma, is still an expert shot with a blaster, rescues Poe, keeps Rey from getting shot by stormtroopers, makes a tough decision to leave Rey because he knows what the First Order is capable of, and even begs her to come with him. He comes right back into the fight after seeing Hosnian Prime get destroyed, and is witnesses Rey get kidnapped by his worst nightmare. 
What does he do? He decides to help the Resistance, gives them vital information that only HE knew, volunteers to go to SKB. Captures Phasma and forces her at gunpoint to lower the shields, helps Rey escape from SKB, witnesses Han’s murder, watches Rey get slammed into a tree, before making the final decision to stand up to his worst nightmare, knowing he might die just to protect Rey. His last line in the entire movie is “Come get it.”

After summarizing his character, how come all I see on tumblr is “awwwwww look at my cute smol wittle Finny. He’s so harmless and adorable!!!” Like…excuse me? Is that all tumblr was able to get from that movie? So let me get this straight. Because Finn isn’t a cold-blooded murderer, he’s suddenly nothing but a squishy pile of hearts and flowers and sugar  who couldn’t hurt a fly? Really?

How come in most highschool aus, Finn’s portrayed as an overly-meek or powerless nerd? If anything, Finn would probably be a pretty strong guy who gets straight As and stands up for his friends no matter what. But that doesn’t mean he’s a bully either. 

This is what the fandom does with his character, instead of exploring the endless possibilities with his backstory and trauma. AND on the off-chance that someone writes an actual Finn-centric fic based on his backstory, it’s always just Finn and his stormtrooper buddies having a romance or exploring sex for some reason. We can’t even have a Finn story without it circulating around people he knows. It’s always about someone else at the end of the day.

What’s heartbreaking is that most of the things I’m complaining about happens in the stormpilot and finnrey ships (this is where I expect people to unfollow me). Like come on guys. I could see r/eylos doing this, but not you guys. You’re so much better than that. 

Space Prince Finn (More Emasculation)

Look, when I first heard the idea of Finn being a lost Prince, I was stoked. I was blown away. My reaction was,”Finally! This fandom’s actually given Finn something of his own! He could be royalty! How dope would that be!”

But…of course, this fandom has to take that amazing concept and uh…

Well, we ruined that too. We basically turn Finn into a jewelry stand, and a makeup model. Of course, I’m not saying men can’t wear what they want. If a man wants to wear makeup or wear jewelry, that’s completely fine and I encourage that. But here’s the issue. 

We constantly idolize Princess Leia and Queen/Senator Amidala because they are figures of royalty who can fight and take care of themselves, as well as look badass while they do it. 

So why is it that when we have Prince Finn, he’s once again, emasculated, put in dresses and given nail polish, lipstick, doused in glitter, and turned into a damsel-in-distress who not only needs constant rescue once again, but this time needs Rey/Poe as a bodyguard to protect him?

It’s a double standard. I’m sorry but you can’t praise Leia and Padme for being badass royals who don’t need protection, and turn around and make Finn the opposite. 

And again, it’s something that the fandom eats up for some reason. We’ll shun the Hutt-Slayer bikini (rightfully so. it’s disgusting), make it a point to make fun of the hutt-slayer bikini and constantly criticize it, yet draw Finn in it and everyone thinks it’s cute and hilarious. This is the shit that I’m sick of. 

Look at T’Challa, otherwise known as Black Panther. He is royalty, but he’s also very powerful, knows how to fight, is an amazing fighter, and is taken seriously. Very seriously. He is strong, brave, serious, and intimidating, yet he’s not a bully or a stereotype. 

THIS. THIS is what I expected Prince Finn to be. This is what Prince Finn would be if it were canon. He’d be a strong leader, handsome, noble, powerful, and intimidating. And he wouldn’t need constant protection from Rey and/or Poe. Especially not this constant emasculation and woobifying. 

We live in a day and age where Princesses are being portrayed as stronger and stronger, and are told that they can rescue themselves. So why is Finn being treated the opposite? Why is Finn being treated like he’s just there to look pretty for commissions and make out with Poe? Why does he need all-powerful Rey to always protect him? Why can’t he be taken more seriously?

I want you to think about this.


Okay. This was a lot to cover, and it’s something that’s been nagging at me for a while now. Look. I look up to Finn. I really do. He’s my hero. He’s the first main black lead in Star Wars, and that means the world to me. I want to see him grow and be appreciate and given an epic role moving forward, and I feel like the Star Wars fandom isn’t the place I’m going to find any of that. 

Not a day goes by where I’m not tempted to deactivate and walk away from the fandom entirely. There’s just too much shit Finn is put through that drives me insane. There’s too many things that I look at or read that make me feel like this fandom will never actually appreciate Finn the way the he deserves to be appreciated. Even the people who say that they love Finn tend to do this.

So I wanted to write this rant in case I ever deactivate because of this fandom. Just so you, the readers, can know why.

Thanks for reading. Means a lot. If you’re still wondering when the One-Shot is coming out, probably next week. I have to finish it on my own. 














Shoutout to women with beautiful thick eyebrows

Getting real sick of this genderist trend of taking incredibly brave and wonderful women of the past who dressed like men in order to succeed in society and turning them into trans puppets.

No, these women weren’t actually men, they were just doing what was necessary to perform their profession and passion and be taken seriously.

Stop taking away women from women’s history.


So I went on a mini rant on Twitter ‘cause I’m sick of this trend where traditionally feminine things get the word 'man’ slapped on it and suddenly guys start feeling confident enough to wear it.
The power was in you the whole time guys, stop worrying about what other people think and wear what you want regardless of who it was supposedly intended for.
Don’t wait for someone to say it’s 'for men’ because if you put it on and you’re a guy it’s INSTANTLY guy clothes since a guy is wearing it! Be who you are!!

Please Tag Your Let's Player Fanart

I’m sick of this trend. Some dude plays a game and the entire tag for the game is flooded with art of them as one of the game’s characters. It happens for everyone, even YouTubers I really like, and it can cause people who are devoted to the game to stop playing.

Tag your art both as the person playing the game and as something like “let’s players” please.

anonymous asked:

Was Lance confirmed as bi or is that just a headcannon?

I’m assuming you’re talking about this post. To simply answer your question, no, Lance wasn’t confirmed as bi, it is just a headcanon. A very widespread headcanon that at this point is probably more fanon than anything else, but one way or another, it is not canon.

But the point of that post though was more of me vaguely expressing my annoyance with the growing trend I’m seeing of the fandom handling Lance’s bisexuality in a really shitty way. There are tons of things I’ve seen in this fandom that really piss me off, and this is only one of them, but as a bi person myself, I feel like I’m in more of a position to call out this specific thing. So bear with me while I air a bunch of grievances with how Lance’s bisexuality is treated.

Too many times, the fandom puts Lance in a position of having a “gay panic” when it comes to Keith, and I am really sick of it. It makes me really upset whenever I see whenever I see Lance “turn bi” for the convenience of shipping Klance. Don’t get me wrong, I ship Klance too, but it still sucks to see their relationship constantly presented in this way. Bi people within the LGBT community already have to fight the stigma associated with them for being “wishy washy” or “confused” or “just figuring it out”, and this recurring trend of making Lance unsure of his sexuality until he meets Keith and then suddenly “omg everything is clear I like boys!!!” only serves to add to it. Why is the fandom obsessed with always having Lance be the one who’s questioning his sexuality, and why does it always end up being that Keith gives him his moment of sexual clarity? Because honestly, the only reason I can think of is that bisexual people are often assumed to be just figuring it out anyways, just confused anyways, not really sure what they want yet anyways, so it’s convenient to write bi characters within these stereotypes. It may sound stupid, but even little things, like fandom culture turning a bi character into a constantly questioning confused little boy, all just adds to existing negative stereotypes about bi people. It makes me mad. Why can’t the fandom just be happy with Lance being comfortable in his sexuality pre-Keith? Why can’t he already knows he likes boys before having a “gay panic” for the sake of a fanfic? It’s done to death, and I’m tired of it. Believe it or not, bi people can actually be confident in their sexuality without having a crisis every time they’re attracted to someone on the same end of the gender binary. That’s sorta like?? What being bi is all about??

In addition to this, I constantly constantly constantly see things within the fandom with Lance being the one that deals with things like a homophobic family and internalized homophobia. Now I’m not trying to say that these things don’t exist and are unrealistic, they’re very real issues, but why is it always Lance who struggles with those things? Why can’t the fandom just let him be happy with himself, surrounded by a family that supports him and his sexuality? In some ways, it ends up teaching young impressionable bisexuals within the fandom that their sexuality is something that will always be countered with this type of negativity, which in turn makes them afraid of coming out of the closet and afraid of themselves, and that is not okay.

The final point I’ll make in this rant is that I’m sick of the trend within the fandom as writing Lance keeping his bisexuality hidden. That sucks!! That sucks so bad!! Again, this just teaches young bi kids in the fandom that they should be ashamed of their sexuality, which is not! okay! 

A lot of times, characters like these are role models to kids, especially someone who’s a superhero like Lance is. Fandom produced content that constantly closets Lance, forces him to deal with heavy homophobia and biphobia, and writes him as insecure in his sexuality end up showing bi kids that that is what being bisexual is like, which adds to negative stereotypes and makes people afraid to embrace this part of themselves.

Again, I’m not trying to say that real bisexual people don’t face any of these problems. I know that there are bisexuals who are uncomfortable with their identity, or who deal with homophobia and biphobia in their home life, or who are in the closet. And those things within themselves aren’t inherently wrong. It’s real life. But Lance doesn’t exist in the real world. He’s a character, a character who is often interpreted as bisexual. And that’s what characters are there for, to teach people lessons, like the lesson that it’s okay to be not straight. Isn’t that why we want representation in the first place? So why do bisexual people not deserve representation of a happy bisexual through Lance? And, if someone uses the real life argument to defend constantly presenting Lance in a questioning, insecure, and unsupported light, then why doesn’t Keith face the same things? Maybe I’m just reading the wrong fanfics, but I haven’t seen one where Keith has to deal with these things. No, Keith is always the happy gay. It’s always Lance who gets the shitty end of the deal.

TL;DR: The point of that post was to point out how much it fucking sucks that Lance’s bisexuality is always shit on, and how much happier it is to actually allow him to be fully happy and confident with that part of himself.

Anon, this rant was in no way directed at you, this is directed at the fandom in general. So I hope you don’t feel personally attacked, because that wasn’t the point. The point is just that while Lance being bi may only be a fandom wide headcanon, it’s important that we treat his bisexuality well.

EDIT: If you want some additional viewpoints on this besides just mine, I know @klanced has mentioned this over on her blog, and please feel free to add your own! In order to change the way we look at Lance’s bisexuality, there needs to be a fandom-wide discussion and push for change, and I encourage everyone to participate in it.

im sick of the trend where some scrub plays a character that could easily be seen as autistic so everyone goes ‘this character is autistic :D’ and then the actor goes 'actually uhm sweaty im uncomfortable with ppl labeling my character as autistic :/ theyre too smart and human-like’


And all the kids cried out, "Please stop, you’re scaring me". I can’t help this awful energy. Goddamn right, you should be scared of me. Who is in control?

I’m sick of this trend that people are wanting all their food to look like a “unicorn” I’m sorry but I don’t want sprinkles all over my fuckin burritos like enough is enough

Let me address you all to something. Seokjin hurt his neck during save me at kcon france. he repeatedly put his hand to his neck at the end of kcon, you can watch a fancam here. (x)

Now, bangtan are back in korea and the recent airport pics shows that there is still something wrong with jin’s neck:

yet what i’ve seen is, well, NO ONE TALKING ABOUT IT. his neck is injured, and people are STILL ignoring it. why is it always jin that’s ignored?!?!?!