Dominant Function, Introverted Feeling, Fi: Castiel is a very different angel from the rest and this comes from being an Fi dominant with inferior Te. (More on inferior Te below). Fi is a very subjective, individualistic, and experiential function. Castiel is the rebel angel because his first instinct is to judge from his own experiences. He doesn’t obey or follow the laws of the angels first. He will if he agrees with them, but we see he clearly doesn’t. He changes his mind and adapts as he experiences new things, new sensations, new experiences in general with the Winchester brothers. What seems right before he starts to question. It simply doesn’t “feel right” to him anymore. Hence, the start of the relationship he has with the Winchester brothers in their anarchy against mythical forces.
Fi focuses on fundamental human values and are prone to more of an idealism than the moral dealings of Ti. Fi for Castiel is seen in how he deals differently with each individual human, how one human doing a good thing is beautiful to him. He doesn’t adhere to Angel rules and principles of how to judge and deal with humans and being on earth. He handles each situation as unique and judges in the moment. Fi has an emphasis on that free will. The very thing that separates him from the rest of the angels. He doesn’t think Dean and Sam should conform to the plans of the angels, but can make their own path. He becomes a defender of free will for everyone, including himself.
Fi being prone to idealism is also very prone to self doubt as a result. This is what centers on the beginning of his character arc. As an angel his Fi gave him this ideal of how things should be instead of how things are. When he finally is outside of his own head, his own romance of how things are on Earth and he lives in it helping the Winchesters these feelings of doubt set in for him. Life on earth and the angels do not uphold the ideals Castiel held close to his heart. He isn’t seeing reality reflecting his inner world. This can become disastrous for an INFP like Castiel who can’t reconcile with his inferior function of Extraverted Thinking. This combination leads to the darker path he takes.
Auxiliary Function, Extraverted Intuition, Ne: This function helps promote a healthier Fi outlook as it grounds Castiel in the objective experiences in the outer world beyond his Fi inner world of personal and circumstantial judgments. Se can work in much the same way for ISFPs. This secondary function helps balance out an IFP so they are not stuck in doubt, disappointment, and dissatisfaction that comes with being stuck in an inner world of Fi. What Ne specifically focuses on are more impression of experiences rather than the concrete experience. Castiel with Ne is trying to unpuzzle a deeper meaning in the world with Ne, but through his Fi lens.
This is what makes Castiel feel so lost. His Fi has led him to question and doubt the world as he conceived it before, he is questioning the authorities of the universe, especially as God is real big on one way conversations. If his Fi judgments are to be trusted and all the angels are wrong in their bringing on the apocalypse and using the Winchester brothers, then what is the meaning of angels in the first place. What is Castiel’s role in the big picture of the universe, what is the role of the Winchesters? What is the right thing to do? He is left looking for meaning and patterns that make sense of his Fi judgments.
Unlike an Ni-Fe combo that looks to help and understand people in a bigger picture, looking at society as a whole, Fi-Ne focuses on helping those who have fallen through the cracks of society and the system. Castiel feels for the demons, for the humans, for everyone his angel brothers and sisters seem to underestimate and dismiss. He finds meaning in helping those who are left behind.
Tertiary Function, Introverted Sensing, Si: Si is a very personal function that takes in concrete information that works desperately from society and any system therein. This can be a problem as Fi also works in a very personal and subjective form. So without proper use of Ne and Te to ground an INFP in the objective outer world, Castiel becomes rather unhealthy as he isolates himself and doesn’t use his Ne when he doesn’t get the answers he wants. He picks and chooses the Si concrete forms of information that fit his already made Fi judgments. This is what motivates his taking on the position of God and leading the angels. He starts to distribute divine punishment on humans. He works with the information that conforms to his judgments instead of using Ne to see outside of his own perspective.
Inferior Function, Extraverted Thinking, Te: As the inferior function Te is what irks Castiel the most, but what influences him just as much. He finds Te judgments, those based on proven principles to create rules and order to the world overall to be cold and heartless. They miss the individual experiences of each unique person. Castiel finds this mode of thinking to be incredibly imperfect with his Fi priorities. Order and structure should not come above individual freedom and happiness, no matter the greater purpose. Te structure tries to pin Castiel into a very specific role as an Angel, but his Fi challenges this pigeonholing. Castiel doesn’t see himself as being definable in this way. He is an exception. So he tries to erase this boundary imposed upon him by the angels, demons, and anyone else who wants to tell him who he is.
However, as much as this thinking irks him, the more he pushes it away and does not see this function inside himself the more Te impulses show themselves within his personality and way of going about things. Because of his Fi he finds the system to be corrupt, morally wrong, and leaving too many people behind. This is when he tries to take on being God. However, he starts imposing his own Te order on others. He becomes strict and cold while being motivated by Fi.
Dominant Function, Extroverted Intuition, Ne: Extroverted Intuition in its basic form takes in as few details as possible and gets the ‘gist’ of the situation. Luckily, ENPs are right most the time, but can run into real trouble when they are not. We see this a lot with Ron when it comes to his studies. Ron gets bored with his studies once he understands the basic ideas behind what he is doing, the actual implementation of writing a paper or finishing a project are boring to him as his Ne deals with ideas and potentials. Once he gets the gist of the assignment, Ron feels done and has a hard time completing his work and actualizing his ideas.
Contrast this style with Hermione (ESTJ). Hermione needs to go step-by-step (Te) through every reading and assignment and gather every minute fact and detail (Si). With dominant Ne, Ron has little time to go through concrete data and details, especially in order. Such methods hold little interest for him. For Ron his Ne makes him focused on the bigger picture and potentials, so dealing with actual implementation bores him and feels like a lot of work. For many ENPs once the idea is had, it feels completed, so following through becomes a major issue as the ENP, like Ron, feels they already did it. It is why many ENPs delegate tasks that deal with those details to others when they can. Ron most certainly does this by copying off of Hermione and making her do what he sees as the ‘grunt-work.’
Extroverted Intuition can seem veryb bleek looked at only through his study habits. However, his Ne is what makes him such a great chess player. His Ne floods with all the potential moves of his opponent and he reacts accordingly. Chess is all a game of potentials and trying to figuring out your next move. It is a future oriented game, at least that is Ron’s style. This shines in The Philosopher’s Stone. He may not be physical or in the present moment (Se) like Harry (ISFP) who gets the key task, and he may not have the best memory for details (Si) and mind for dealing with rational principles (Te), like Hermione who gets the potions task, but he has a mind for potentials (Ne) and winging it (perceiver) making him a great strategist and the best for the chess task.
Many mistype Ron’s Ne for Se. As extroverted perceiving functions they seem very similar on the surface.
While Se deals with the now and facts, Ne deals with the future, potentials, and ideas. Ron has a very difficult time living in the now.
One way we see this difference is that a dominant Se moves from activity to activity for very clear reasons. The excitement is gone, the thrill of the experience has dissipated and they move on to the next new exciting adventure. Ron as an Ne users moves on for less clear reasons. Because he is so much in his own head, thinking of the future, he will lose interest in an activity before it is ever actualized. Ron often shares his dreams and ideas for the future with Harry, but we see very little of these things actually happen. However, his Ne enthusiasm for the future and possibilities is the energy that Harry loves about Ron.
He often imagines many futures for himself without having very much information on the present. This is what creates a worrying Ron. He often doesn’t do things because in his head he has tried and failed. Despite Harry and Hermione pointing out that those futures aren’t inevitable, Ron often puts more faith in his conjured realities of the future than in what is happening around him. He already sees himself failing at getting Hermione to date him, he already sees himself losing the quidditch match, and he sees himself failing his classes, etc. His mind is in the future of what could happen (Ne) that he doesn’t bother with the possibilities of the present (Se). He doesn’t feel in control of his own fate, which is a result of a lack of self reflection, of not using enough of his auxiliary function.
Auxiliary Function, Introverted Feeling, Fi: Ron’s Fi gives him a people focus. Combined with his Ne that looks at potentials, this makes Ron interested in the potentials and dreams of others. He sees the Hero in Harry that Harry doesn’t and he sees the amazingly brilliant witch in Hermione. He sees so much in his friends. He wants to help them realize their own potentials. However, because he doesn’t use this function enough to self reflect, he doesn’t have the same positive view of himself. His Fi being used minimally leads him to want and think he needs positive feedback from others for support. He becomes super concerned with how others perceive him and what they think about him. When Harry gets all the glory and feedback in The Goblet of Fire we see his envy bubble to the surface.
We see Ron wield Fi in the way he makes judgments. He puts a lot of importance and meaning into his own personal experiences. This can actually work against him, making him closed minded. He doesn’t put as much value in the personal experiences of others. It is what makes him so judgey of someone like Luna Lovegood who sees the world in such a different way. Based on his own experiences are how he judges future, new events, and people. Fi can be used to also see the importance of the personal experiences of others, however, when Ron isn’t self reflective it can make him very closed minded to the views and experiences of others. He judges with his own personal experience of Fi and uses his Te to shut down the perspectives of others.
Fi also gives Ron a sense of personal responsibility. When skipped over to Te the effect is quite different (and will be explored in the tertiary function section). Ron needs to realize that his fate is not in the hands of those around him, that he is personally responsible for his own happiness. This becomes most evident in The Deathly Hallows. Ron under the spell of the horcrux necklace was thrown into his worst Ne-Te loop and blamed others around him for all of his life problems and what was happening to his family. Once it was removed and he was on his own to self reflect, he takes personal responsibility for his life, his choices, and his happiness. Therefore, is brought back to the group to help them take down Voldemort.
Tertiary Function, Extroverted Thinking, Te: Extroverted Thinking is a hierarchical and rational function. In an ENFP it shows itself by having the ENFP set logical priorities for themselves, but more importantly to see the logic of the priorities of others and respect the priorities of others. This is actually very explicit in Ron at a very young age, where in The Philosopher’s Stone we have a very popular line, “She really needs to sort out her priorities.” He points out that Hermione caring more about being expelled than dying is in fact rather illogical. This is how Ron has his more rational moments.
However, his Te becomes much more prominent in his unhealthy behavior caused by his lack of using Fi and compensating with Te. He often uses Te as a defense when he feels people are judging his Ne behaviors. Hermione triggers this a lot in her judgement of his looser/casual Ne habits. Without his Fi reflection, Ron doesn’t take personal responsibility and seems very irresponsible to an ESTJ like Hermione. Without enough proper use of Fi, Ron starts to surf through life. Hermione is trying her best to help him out of this, but Ron without his Fi become extremely sensitive to outside criticisms. He sees her comments as negative and trying to control him.
He takes her comments very personally. His Te blames her and others outside of himself for problems he has with himself and his own happiness. His Te moves his eyes away from himself and becomes extremely critical of others. Hermione immediately triggered this from their first meeting on the train. Ron puts too much stock in the opinions of others, so her snarky comments highly offended him. (His stock in the opinion’s of others is also why we see Ron look the most angry whenever they deal with Draco). He then is quite harsh to Hermione, becoming critical of her and her choices. The more uncertain Ron is about himself and his own values the more critical he becomes of others.
This is super strong in his jealousy of Harry. Ron wants to be “The Champion,” but as Harry gets more and more attention and approval from others, Ron grows angry and uncertain. Especially, when his own family dotes on Harry more than they dote on him. Ron deals with this specific dilemma most in The Goblet of Fire in his fight with Harry. Ron appears very selfish because his Te convinces him that people should care about his personal priorities. The problem with this Ne-Te combo is he is investing too much of his personal identity, his sense of self, in the opinions of others. He is relying on Harry and Hermione to give him confidence and to form his identity. He is constantly comparing himself to them and how he is or isn’t like them. If he were to really utilize his Fi, really self reflect he would find himself outside the perspective of others, which brings us to his Si.
Inferior Function, Introverted Sensing, Si: Introverted Sensing as an inferior function pushes Ron to stabilize his life in some unconditional way. For Ron, with his Fi people focus, he is looking for people that will love him unconditionally, who he can always rely on. He wants people to be there for him no matter what happens. The more Hermione and Harry seem to criticize him, the more insecure he gets as he has placed them in this unhealthy position of needing to always positively support him. The more he feels they are criticizing him the more he suspects that they completely disapprove of him and are disappointed with him.
This inferior Si impulse of finding someone to stabilize him comes out most in his dating of Lavender Brown in The Half-Blood Prince. He clearly likes and wants Hermione, but Hermione questions his Ne way of life and drives him up a wall (which is kind of what he needs). The more he thinks she is pushing him away, the more Ron acts out with Ne-Te and pushes her even further away. Lavender Brown is a very clingy girlfriend who thinks the world of Ron. She feeds into his unhealthy need to have constant support. As Ron grows though, he realizes that this kind of support is artificial for him. He is still insecure, but he breaks up with Lavender.
By the time Ron gets back to helping the gang in The Deathly Hallows and has reflected by himself, we get a very different Ron who returns. He takes responsibility for his actions and does the final act of destroying the horcux that brought out his worst Ne-Te looping self. From a functional perspective, he is symbolically self actualizing his Fi. His Fi then helps him see from Hermione’s and Harry’s personal experiences and point of view without brushing them aside as much as he used to.
The necklace showing his darkest suspicions brought all of his suppressed Fi thoughts to the surface and helped him deal in the realities of the present. It showed how absurd his Ne thoughts were becoming when he didn’t reflect on them or himself. With this new found confidence, Ron doesn’t rely as much on the opinions of others to define himself. He is then ready to be with Hermione, and in her and his friendship with Harry he really does find a healthy form of unconditional love.
Dominant Function, Extraverted iNtuition, Ne: Everyone uses Extraverted Intuition as a tool to get the gist of a whole situation from a few details, but ENPs, like Mulan, are most comfortable with this tool and it helps form who they are. Extraverted Intuition grasps the whole picture from very little information and fills in the blanks. It takes leaps that other types, non-Ne types, are unwilling to make. We can see this behaviorally in Mulan in a couple of different ways in the film.
From the start we see the negative aspects of this form of thinking in her preparation or lack of preparation for her meeting with the matchmaker. She assumes she grasps the idea of what she has to do, but the details of the Se and Si variety allude her. The meeting was set up for her to regurgitate information that she was supposed to memorize. She is uncomfortable with this form of learning and thinking. She is uncomfortable with dealing with Se physical details. Her Ne is so bored by such thought processes that she doesn’t prioritize studying for the matchmaking meeting. She finds such details and minutia of matchmaking dull and has quickly moved on to other thoughts and ideas.
Her inability to be knowledgeable in this specific form doesn’t make her unintelligent and this is shown and contrasted by the positive sides of her Ne in the very beginning when she is getting up the morning and ready for the day of her matchmaking. She may not be able to apply herself to that form of study, but we see her Ne innovation in the way she decides to more efficiently feed the chickens with the least amount of actual work on her end. Her Ne helps her see possibilities and potentials that others don’t see. She finds new inventive ways to go about day-to-day activities. We see her mind is wasted on the matchmaking stuff when she is able to innovate and invent. Her mind isn’t suited for the female societal role being pushed on her, especially since Fe is not dominant or auxiliary for her use, which would prioritize one’s role in a society. (Not a mindless drone, but more able to adapt in some way. At the very least want a place in the society/cultural. Be attracted to culture more than Mulan is.)
Her Ne talents that see potential cannot reach their full potential where she is in her life. Her mind doesn’t work in cultural frameworks that are imposed on her. She sees things differently from others and wants to see what else the world has to offer her. She looks externally with her intuition not internally which would be Ni (some mistype her as INFJ). She thirsts for new experiences, she doesn’t live in her own mental world like an Ni dominant. She thirsts to explore new ideas and potentials outside of herself, which leaving the home finally gives her.
In her new life as a warrior, pretending to be male, she gets to have new experiences implementing her Ne abilities. She is innovative in her fighting tactics. She doesn’t do what is expected and she doesn’t follow orders. Her Ne that sees the big picture from assessing the situation quickly and getting just a few details comes in handy and helps her become the warrior all the soldiers come to admire. When they were being attacked in the mountains she doesn’t fight in the usual way. She was able to assess the surroundings and the whole situation. She aimed the cannon not at Shan Yu but at the mountain. This helped take down most of the army…temporarily. Her outside of the box thinking is what helps her defeat Shan Yu at the very end and what makes her the hero we all love and know.
Auxiliary Function, Introverted Thinking, Ti: Mulan is not typically seen as an ENTP because many stereotype ENTPs based on being unhealthy and not fully utilizing their secondary function of Introverted Thinking. The ENTPs with a lack of self reflection are what people typically have in mind when they think ENTP. This stereotype is based on a truth, but not the whole truth of what makes an ENTP. Unlike these stereotypes we all have in mind of the ENTP who is bored, moves from thing to thing, leaving a trail of unfinished business, with no sense of personal responsibility, Mulan has a good head on her shoulders and really uses Ti in a helpful and constructive way.
Her Ne can lead her to situations that are unresolved, like that of Shan Yu still being alive. But her Ti makes her feel a personal responsibility to the situation that she has created, which is a way for Shan Yu and his army to sneak in and get close to the emperor. Although she has saved people, she still created the situation that unfolds at the end of the film. She isn’t okay with just telling others, but feels that personal responsibility to take care of it and to undo what she has unleashed on China.
Ti has other facets including what gives Mulan her strategic abilities to take action in a certain situation. Ti works when Mulan is taking action, nor sitting and day dreaming. When she is in the battlefield she uses it to implement her outside thinking and adjust in a given situation.
Ti also enables her to have inner control and give her that self-discipline. When she first arrives as Chang in the military she hasn’t really thought her whole plan through. She is sloppy, not just in play acting. She has the idea to take her father’s place, but what to do in the follow through/implementation of it was to be dealt with later. When she is actually in the situation of being Chang she uses Ti to adapt to it and to self reflect more.
Shang challenges her and makes her take her new role as Chang more seriously. She enacts the Ti form of self-discipline and becomes faster, stronger, and smarter than the other soldiers. Her Ne-Ti gives her a sense of competition, of challenge. We see a Mulan who is more comfortable in her own skin as she has the opportunity to implement her actual skills and abilities we saw in her feeding of the chickens at the beginning. She is no longer confined by her role as a woman, but can be who she really is without dealing with that female social/cultural expectation.
When she is allowed to be a woman and herself at the end of the film we see that she finally sees who she really is on the outside and inside. She no longer is being suffocated by a role being enforced on her. She isn’t a male warrior or wife. She has female clothes on by the end, but they aren’t as fanciful and she doesn’t have make-up on. We get the true, comfortable ENTP Mulan.
Tertiary Function, Extraverted Feeling, Fe: Tertiary Fe works in a very specific way for ENTPs. We see this most in the expectations others have on her. Her Ti makes her more independent and less reliant on a need for approval from others. Her Fe being lower in her stack makes her uncomfortable with such things as approval and expectations. She finds such things to be emotionally manipulative and trying to control her.
She left her home to be Chang in order to save her father from a tragic fate, but part of it was also a defiance of her father’s expectations of her and of what society dictates her place in society should be. She didn’t let her father’s or anyone else’s wishes dictate her actions. She doesn’t try to find a way within the system to change it, but she directly defies it. She becomes a warrior, she doesn’t fight like everyone else, and she refuses to be whatever definition of her you have.
Inferior Function, Introverted Sensing, Si: As an inferior function Mulan is uncomfortable with Si and hates it, but also doesn’t realize how much it dictates her actions, motivations, and goals in life. Si consults the past (not nostalgia or dealing with the past), it consults with past precedent to figure out what works. Mulan is uncomfortable with this as it challenges her dominant Ne that looks for the new, the untried, the unknown, the potentials in the world. She defies the proven, the way her father wanted to do things. She is defying tradition. That is how she fights it and is uncomfortable with it.
It also motivates and dictates her behaviors though, as mentioned. She looks for something to stabilize her, something unconditional in life. It is why she is so self-reflective in the song “Reflection.” She is striving, thirsting for something concrete in herself, something that defines who she is. She doesn’t want others (Fe) to tell her who she is, but she does want to find out who she is (Si) in a concrete way. She doesn’t enjoy the turmoil that her Ne causes in her; her conflict with how society functions and how she functions. She wants to find who she unconditionally is, outside of the world around her.
Voilà, je voulais faire un article sur la rhinoplastie, car j'ai eu beaucoup de mal à trouver des informations dessus et qu'un petit témoignage peut toujours aider.
Déjà il faut savoir que ça fait 9 ans que j'y pensé >.>
Ca ne s'est pas fait sur un coup de tête, ou pour ressembler à quelques meufs ou l'esthétique actuelle comme une personne anonyme m'a gentiment fait remarqué. J'ai beaucoup cherché d'informations durant ces années. C'était un complexe qui étaient très peu visible pour mes proches, mais qui me pourrissaient la vie, je ne supportais pas d'être photographié en soirée sous cet angle, j'avais comme réflexe de me cacher le nez si j'étais de profil. Je ne me reconnaissais pas quand je voyais ce profil sur des photos ou dans un miroir, c'était un choc vraiment x’D Ca peut paraître démesuré. Les complexes sont divers, et peuvent être pour certains invisibles mais insupportables pour la personne.
Bref, je me suis lancée !
Déjà : une rhinoplastie ne vous coûtera pas 1000 balles, même pour enlever une bosse. Les prix peuvent aller jusqu'à 4000 ou 5000. Si ça vous rebute, ou qu'au final vous ne vous voyez pas économiser pendant des années pour ce petit détail, c'est que peut-etre le complexe peut être surpasser avec les années et l'acceptation de soi :’D De mon coté, j'ai presque économiser pendant 10 ans, j'ai eu le temps de réfléchir, et mon choix s'est fait.
Le choix du chirurgien est primordial, mais c'est le plus dur xD Le mien j'ai mis longtemps à le choisir, il est pas du tout relationnel, froid, et tu sens que tu fais juste partie de son gagne pain mais je ne lui demandais que de faire du bon taff, pas d'être sa pote et j'en suis vraiment contente. Il a su écouter la demande (malgrèsoncaractèredecochon).
Donc comment ça se passe : 2 ou 3 entretiens avec le chirurgien, prendre des photos, définir ce que l'on veut. Les séances de consultation sont chères aussi >< … mais essentielles.
Le jour de la chirurgie, pas prendre d'aspirine ou quoique ce soit dans le genre durant la semaine d'avant ! On entre le matin, opération, et suivi pendant la journée et la nuit à l'hopital. On ne mange pas et ne boit pas jusqu'à 22h (toute une journée c'est dur xD) mais “avantage” non négligeable : on a des mèches dans le nez, des sortes de gros tampons qui évitent que le sang coule et maintiennent le nez, donc on ne sent rien, donc plus de gout, donc pas des masses faim. MAIS on crève de soif, pensez à hydrater vos lèvres car vous ne pourrez respirer que par la bouche 8’D ! Les mèches sont enlevés soit 24 h après l'opération, soit avec le platre une semaine après, ça dépend du chirurgien.
La semaine qui suit, très dur, vous allez gonfler, passer par toutes les couleurs de bleus possible, sans respirer par le nez (j'vous jure que c'est chaud): les séries, les livres et mes amis m'ont sauvés ♥
Vous aurez des médicaments, arnica, des anti-douleurs mais l'opération est désagréable, fatigante, mais pas douloureuse. Mettre son petit égo de coté durant cette semaine et celle qui suit après la sortie du plâtre, car c'est pas joli joli à voir xD
Retrait des mèches une semaine plus tard pour moi : TRES désagreable, mais pas douloureux ! Ce sont des loooongs tampons en gros, et quelques croutes accrochées peuvent faire une toute toute pitite douleur, mais c'est surtout l'impression qu'on vous retire l'intestin par les trous de nez qui est pas cool. Mais ça dure 2 secondes pour chaque narine (pour facilité, mettez vous un jour avant régulièrement le sérum prescrit dans le nez ça décolle plus facilement :D)
ET VOUS RETROUVEZ L'ODORAT ET LE GOUT ALLELUIA. *sbim*
Pour peu de temps car les narines ont des croutes désagréables qu'il ne faut pas toucher, et donc l'impression d'avoir un gros rhume x10. Mais ça part petit à petit avec du sérum. Les bleus durent pendant 1 à 2 semaines supplémentaires (je ressemblais à un indien avec mes marques sous les yeux xD), arnica arnica arnica.
Le nez est gonflé donc c'est loin d'être le résultat définitif ! Patience surtout, ne pas se décourager ou déprimer en voyant le nez après le retrait du platre, faut laisser du temps au corps pour récupérer ! Ma peau était aussi plus grasse et boutonneuse à cause du platre sur la figure pendant une semaine x’D ! Mais prenez vous des soins, et ça fait du bien ♥
Le nez dégonfle lentement, résultats un peu visibles après un mois, et on peut vraiment voir à partir de 3 mois ! Au bout de 6 semaines, le nez est plus solide mais faire très attention avant. Et au bout d'un an (oui oui, faut de la patience), résultat définitif (et si problème c'est là qu'on peut faire les retouches).
Voilà, j'espère vous avoir éclairé un peu :’D !
De mon coté ça fait un mois, donc ça va continuer à s'afiner, surtout au niveau de la bosse qui a encore un oedème. Mais j'en suis déjà contente et mes proches ne voient pas la différence de face, donc je suis contente vraiment \o/ !
Pour certains ça paraitra plus moche, pour d'autres c'est super, mais en fait, c'est pas grave, car je me sens enfin bien >w</ !
PAR CONTRE : Ces opérations esthétiques aident à corriger des gros complexes, mais jamais elles ne permettent de ne plus en avoir et d'être totalement à l'aise avec soi, un coup de bistouri aide à se sentir mieux, plus en phase avec soi, mais jamais à être heureux. Ca c'est dans la tête :‘3 Cette réflexion peut paraitre un peu stupide, mais elle est en fait extrêmement importante car pas forcément évidente pour les personnes obnubilés par leurs complexes, votre vie ne va pas changer parce que vous allez faire une chirurgie, c'est à vous de faire les changements et d'avancer dans votre vie.
Bon courage à ceux qui tenteront, mais murissez bien cette décision à ne pas prendre à la légère, c'est de beaucoup d'argent, beaucoup de patience, et définitif.
Dominant Function, Extraverted iNtuition, Ne: Those with dominant Ne are known for being great communicators able to sell themselves and their ideas.They can come off as charismatic and Jaime Lannister is definitely one of them. Jaime is rarely stuck in the moment but sees potentials and bigger pictures. He is able to see the whole picture and able to find better ways of doing things. He tries to avoid an all out physical fight with people whenever he can, despite being quite the swordsman. He is quite the conversationalist and is very convincing to people. He often works his way by talking himself out of situations, like when he mentions that Tarth is full of riches in order to get Brienne safe from sexual predators.
Unlike Sensing types, Jaime is not one for details. Once Jaime has gotten the gist of an idea or situation he puts the pieces together and moves on. We see this in almost any task he is given. He even gets bored of being captured. If there are no new options for Jaime to explore he can’t sit still. He needs to do something else, move on. A recent example is when he was fighting the Black Fish. He already had the whole battle thought up and played out in his mind that once he got there he wasn’t only appalled by the incompetence he was met with, but bored by such a mundane task. It wasn’t just easy because he had more people, but because of his Ne ability to not only figure out the best new tactic to use and in his mind he already did it. (Can he get back to Cersei now?) He is often the idea-man and Cersei follows through with the actual implementation. We see the devastating version of this in the latest season. We see Jaime has all the ideas of what they should do to get their family back in power and rid of the High Sparrow. But he isn’t the best at being the one to actually do anything about it. Cersei, the Sensor, is the one who deals with the details and gets things done. He doesn’t notice any of the nuances or details he has to deal with.
His Ne often gets him in trouble with his father (ESTJ) and Cersei (ESFJ). Cersei and Tywin hold grudges and stick to the old ways of doing things and enforcing things. But to Jaime that was yesterday, why care about what is done when there are new possibilities to explore. This is why he is the only member of the family to get along with Tyrion (ENTP). Both never had time for such rigid ways of thinking, but looked for future possibilities. In the big picture do these grudges mean anything? How much do we have to hate the Starks?
Because Jaime Lannister is an unhealthy ENFP he has often been mistyped as ESFP and sometimes even ESTP. But Jaime is an ENFP who was raised a Lannister, who was raised by Tywin and who is constantly manipulated in an incest love affair with a woman like Cersei. The idealistic and advocate side of him gets missed because of their warping, but that version is not his best self and so his Ne looks like Se, because what potential or idealism does he see or have? This is when his relationship with Brienne is so crucial–and we also need to keep in mind that Game of Thrones is the anti-fantasy. In another story Jaime would be an obvious ENFP who is the dashing knight, here to save the day. In this version Jaime is darker with skeletons in his closet. But we see the hopeful idealist, the ENFP, in Jaime in his friendship with Brienne.
All Jaime has wanted is to be a valiant knight, to uphold the right thing. He is quite a romantic in this way. He wants to be the honorable person, the ideal version of himself. He wants to reflect the hopes of the people in his role. But this kind of thinking hasn’t been made possible for him being a Lannister. He has had to be less than the knight he wants to be in order to appease his family. But he sees in Brienne the ideals his Ne-Fi wants to uphold. Jaime is a better person when he is away from his father and Cersei and when he is with Brienne. He gets closer to exposing his true Ne/ENFP self.
Ne needs to be in a position where the user can feel free. They need a job where they are motivated, but that is also flexible so they don’t get bored. This is the drive behind Jaime being part of the King’s Guard. If he went down his father’s path everything was written for him, nothing true really happening. Just the same politics every day. But being in the King’s Guard gives him meaning in what he does and the freedom that having to be in an arranged marriage as the head of the Lannister house wouldn’t have given him. Ignoring the fact that the marriage thing also means he can be with his sister and only his sister, we see how much the King’s Guard means to Jaime. It is everything to him. It inspires him, holds the romantic ideals of knighthood for him. He gets sent on new adventure after new adventure for the King.
Dominant Ne types also can form a bad habit of thinking being with a Judging partner can give them stability and routine, that being with them will ground them. Jaime is certainly this in his reliance on being with Cersei whether as a lover or a sister. However, such a pairing for this form of reliance limits an ENFP like Jaime, making him not fully realized and not using his functions to the best of his abilities. It is an element that makes his relationship with Cersei so toxic. Looking for stability that he feels he can’t supply himself, he wants someone else to enforce it on him. Unfortunately, this causes him to act out in others ways that will be addressed in his other functions.
Auxiliary Function, Introverted Feeling, Fi: Jaime’s judgment–when he uses it and doesn’t skip it over to his tertiary function–is his moral guide. Fi works in that inner conscience way that decides things without considering the social trend, but that inner compass. This was shown most in his act of becoming the Kingslayer. It went against his duty, his “honor” as society sees it, to do what he thought was the right thing. To save people. He kept true to himself and his Fi in that moment, but his unhealthy use of Fi has led to a hallowed out Jaime ever since the Kingslaying.
As an ENFP, his Fi makes him seek approval from others despite also advising him to have judgments to be separate from the social system’s approved morality. He doesn’t regret his decision, but it hits him harder than most types that so many in the world disapprove of him and see him as honor-less. He sees himself as someone who made the right decision, but it kills him a little bit every time he is reminded of his actions and has them thrown in his face like some sort of sin. Fi becomes a double edged sword for the unhealthy ENFP.
When healthy, Fi gives Jaime a sense of personal responsibility. His actions have consequences beyond the immediate and his responsibility can outweigh his need for options. Many times as an unhealthy ENFP he skates through life preferring options (Ne) to responsibility (Fi). In the King’s Guard he has options. He can be with Cersei, he can be a free man. But as head of the house Lannister, like his Father wanted, he wouldn’t have these options. However, thinking beyond those immediate desires, it would have been the responsible thing to do for the house (from one perspective).
Again, when Jaime is away from Cersei he realizes his Fi much more and slowly becomes healthier. He becomes less of the privileged white dude who can do whatever he wants cause his dad is rich and more the responsible, clever knight who can seriously kick ass and get stuff done. We see moments of a far more moral Jaime, a sweeter Jaime, when he isn’t around his sister. When he is with his sister he whines and complains, but on his own he uses his Fi and take responsibility. He takes charge and gets things done.
Tertiary Function, Extraverted Thinking, Te: Because Jaime throughout the show is more unhealthy than not, we see much more of his Te than we do of his Fi. It is what sets him down some not so savory roads, like the pilot where he pushes a child out a window. Instead of using his internal judging, he loops with Ne-Te, looking outside of himself. This is still motivated by an Fi need for approval. So his Te judges by who supports him and who doesn’t. He categorizes (Te) people in this way. He is most sensitive about his affair with Cersei. It is them against the world. Whoever stands in their way, in the way of their children, gets his anger. There is nothing else. Just them and everyone else who is against them.
This function is what makes him that cold, filled-with-rage Jaime we see. He wants to kill everyone in these moments when he skips his Fi, his emotions and opinions become extreme. His Te is indicating something very real about himself though; that he relies far too much on the approval of others. But his Te just tells him that everyone else is wrong and that he is the righteous one. It doesn’t get to the root of the problem nor does it ever make him happy when he relies on Te in such an unhealthy way. His priorities come first: his love, his family. Te typically helps ENFPs set logical priorities for themselves and helps them see the different priorities of others. But he is often to unhealthy to use his Te properly and is thereby egocentric.
If we look at the Black Fish battle again, we see that his Ne was bored, but we also see he didn’t care for anyone but Brienne the whole time (only life he cared about keeping alive.) This is revealed in his conversation with Tully. He didn’t care about the politics, the lives, the feelings of anyone there. He was cold because only his priority mattered: get back to Cersei.
Inferior Function, Introverted Sensing, Si: In all ENPs, the inferior Introverted Sensing leads them to desire them to stabilize their outer life in some unconditional way. In a way this balances out their comparatively unstable dominant Ne function. Specifically, for an ENFP like Jaime, this unconditional stabilizer is the approval of others. Jaime is led craving unconditional support from others which can be rather unhealthy when he doesn’t feel like he is getting it. He feels he has, overall, lost the support of others ever since he was crowned a Kingslayer. This causes him to lose faith in himself and stops him from exploring new possibilities. He isn’t living to his full potential when he feels like this.
Because he hasn’t properly dealt with who he is after he killed the Mad King (his need to take responsibility for what he did that day, fully, unashamedly) he is extremely unstable in his need for unconditional support. Anyone who questions his behaviors or motives are met with contempt because he feels like people are trying to control and manipulate him. This leads him in a typical unhealthy ENFP way to respond by pushing the envelope in order to push for an expression of unconditional love. This is what Jaime gets out of his creepy relationship with Cersei. She feeds into his unhealthy Si. Being with her gives him this feeling of unconditional love. As not only his lover, but his sister their love feels stable and eternal. This could explain his EXTREMELY unhealthy behavior when he raped Cersei in order to feel that expression of unconditional love. (Please notes this is an explanation, not an excuse.)
Dominant Function, Introverted Sensing, Si: Introverted Sensing is quite a personal and subjective function. What this means is Si takes in information in the form of facts and memories on topics that are of personal importance and interest to the dominant user of the function. This kind of honing in on a specific topic makes Sam have specialized knowledge on said topic, while not realizing how much he, in fact, knows about the topic.
For Sam this is all things Shire, but more specifically gardening and cooking. He takes a deep pride in his vast knowledge of gardening and cooking facts. We see this in small things like how he packs for his journey with Frodo. He packs things for cooking and brings herbs and spices from the Shire with him. Not only does he think they will need these items, but they are a form of self expression in what is important to him personally. In The Two Towers: Extended Edition, we see that Sam risks his life to save salt from the Shire. Although in the big scheme, such an item is not important, it is to him. This specific item has a great personal meaning for him.
Sam is also using Si being an expert on all things gardening. He even knows the specific plant Athelas, otherwise known as Kingsfoil. Something that only the Ranger, who has traveled far and wide, is aware of. The other Hobbits, despite their culture being into gardening, do not know of such a plant.
A common misconception of ISJs in general is that they take on social roles for the sake of society and their need to fit in it and get the job done. This way of thinking of ISJs is quite wrong and rings truer for EJs. Sam uses his Si for his interests and Fe to find the social role that best fits this interest. Hence, we have Sam the Gardner. He is so utterly proud of his position, not because of the way the position fits into the social system of the Shire (Fe), but because of his strong passion for gardening itself (Si). No where do we see this more evident than in the original texts by J.R.R. Tolkien, when he is the one who replants across middle earth. He regrows all of Middle Earth not because of some big picture, but simply and beautifully from his love of things that grow. He gets to actualize his gardening passion and he changed the whole of middle-earth for the better.
Si also gets a bad wrap for seeming old hat or conformist. However, neither of these are true statements about Si. ISJs like Sam are often quite whimsical and have a strong personal view of the world. The difference between an Si dominant and Fi/Ti/Ni dominants that associate that kind of uniqueness to themselves, is that SI dominants like Samwise don’t realize how individual their viewpoint is till they share it with others. This is evident when Gandalf the Grey passes away and they are in Lothlorien. Sam tries to recite a poem about Gandalf this great wizard who has been on many adventures, but what he remembers, what matters to him, are his fireworks. That memory held such a deep meaning to him. Gandalf is not a great and powerful wizard in Sam’s eyes, but the man who brought beautiful fireworks to his home.
Auxiliary Function, Extroverted Feeling, Fe: Extroverted Feeling is the part of Sam that many remember. It is the part of him that makes him people focused. However, unlike EFJs who are concerned with the whole of people, Sam is an ISFJ, which concerns itself with specific people who matter to him. We see this in his iconic relationship with Frodo.
Sam has a personal relationship with Frodo and that his where is caring and loyalty lies. He uses his Si to hone in on those he cares about and his Fe is what leads him to put his energy in outwardly caring for Frodo. His caring is shown through his actions and practical care, which comes from his Si. He makes sure that Frodo has his strength, that he is fed, that he isn’t carrying too much of the burden. He isn’t trying to understand Frodo with Ni on a psychological level, but making sure that all of Frodo’s needs are met.
The Si-Fe combo creates a fierce ally in Sam for Frodo. It is why ISFJs are referred to as ‘The Defender.’ Sam isn’t thinking of Middle-Earth or the Fellowship in a dominant Fe sense of keeping the social harmony. He is focused on helping Frodo specifically and defending Frodo from anyone who would do him wrong. He protects Frodo from others in the Fellowship. But we see it most in his disregard for everyone else other than Frodo when he swims out to the boat when Frodo leaves the Fellowship. He will always defend and help Frodo in any way he can. Even when Frodo leaves Sam behind, Sam follows Frodo to make sure he is safe.
Fe also means that Sam needs to feel needed. Hence why, despite still following Frodo after being left behind, we see such heart break when Frodo tells Sam to go home. “I don’t need you anymore,” Frodo says to him in The Return of the King. That is the line that cuts at Sam more than anything else.
Tertiary Function, Introverted Thinking, Ti: This function and Fi both help maintain unconditional human values despite a lack of immediate gratification in upholding and maintaining said values. In an introvert like Sam though, using this function too much and ignoring his Fe can create quite a problem for him. We see this most in his handling of Frodo and Gollum’s relationship. He isn’t using his Fe enough to read Frodo’s attachment to Golllum. He can’t get outside of his own head and even fathom why Frodo is bringing this creature along. So by skipping Fe, his Si is fed by his Ti.
Without seeing outside of himself, Sam is then convinced by his Ti that he is the only sane, logical, and rational person in the group. He must maintain the rationality and prove Gollum’s inevitable betrayal. However, this approach back fires in causing distrust between him and Frodo. He spent so much time trying to prove in a logical manner that Gollum was a sneak, that he missed the reasons why Frodo had Gollum around and was unable to convince Frodo of Gollum’s duplicity.
Inferior Function, Extroverted Intuition, Ne: Extroverted Intuition is in direct conflict with Sam’s Introverted Sensing. His Si derives consistent patterns of inner meaning from his immediate surface impressions, while Ne suggests that these impressions are part of an external meaning outside of himself that are ever changing. This is what makes Sam and other ISJs cautious of change that occurs outside of themselves. Without using Fe enough, Sam has a hard time consolidating his Si-Ne impressions and becomes extra weary and cautious.
We see this when they bring The Ring to Rivendell. He wants him and Frodo to go back to the Shire. They did what they set out to do, what more do these people and the world want from them? He feels that these changes, this bigger world and their new roles in it, are compromising his sense of self. He doesn’t have a certainty of who he is in this new world.
However, we do see Sam consolidate these opposing functions quite well when he is forced to use his Fe. Frodo signs up to be the ring bearer, and Sam’s Fe–his need to help Frodo–trumps his fear and caution of his inferior function. His place is to help and protect Frodo, and he can face whatever changes come his way. With Fe Sam isn’t afraid of his Ne and can embrace it and use it as a strength. He can explore the world, see the Oliphants, and appreciate the world outside of himself with his Fe guiding him.