Introverts are notoriously small talk-phobic, as they find idle chatter to be a source of anxiety, or at least annoyance. For many quiet types, chitchat can feel disingenuous.
“Let’s clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people,” Laurie Helgoe writes in “Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength.” “We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.”
2. You go to parties -– but not to meet people.
If you’re an introvert, you may sometimes enjoy going to parties, but chances are, you’re not going because you’re excited to meet new people. At a party, most introverts would rather spend time with people they already know and feel comfortable around. If you happen to meet a new person that you connect with, great — but meeting people is rarely the goal.
Lightning Lass & Shrinking Violet, a commission! I had no idea they were a couple back before Crisis (1985), I’m glad the latest reboot gave them a chance to get back together (and me to discover some great 80s comics!).
“Dad thinks I’m too short. My Sensei thinks I’m too “girly”. But just like the principles of jujitsu— I use their expectations against them. That will be their weakness. Not mine. Let them all underestimate me. Let them think they have the upper hand over the little girl. Let them relax while the adrenaline leaks out of their systems. Let them believe they’re closing their grips on a shrinking violet. And when their guard is down and their pride is rising… let me kick their butts up around their ears.”— Barbara Gordon.
Domesticity Meme- Salu/Querl from the Legion of Superheroes
If you can think of a ship, I will answer these questions for them.
(Animated ‘verse does anyone mind post-S2? No? Okay.)
Who cooks normally?
Querl. He does a lot of traditionally-Coluan recipes, which are heavy on the seafood and fruit. Almost everything is stir-fried with a ridiculous amount of butter. Salu always makes sure there’s bread to go with it to provide variety and because she has a hard time stomaching large portions at once. Querl will stand there and eat the whole pan off the stovetop before it’s finished cooking.
How often do they fight?
Just about never. They have plenty of spirited debate, but Querl is really hesitant about doing anything that could result in yelling. It always makes him feel like the relationship has become endangered and he hates that. The two could actually stand for a bit more emotional venting.
What do they do when they’re away from each other?
It happens very rarely, but Salu is usually at church or doing combat training. Querl attempts literature and frustrates himself, then goes for a walk to calm down. Invariably, it ends up in food.
Nicknames for each other?
Querl calls her Sal sometimes when he’s feeling more emotional than usual, and Salu calls him Dox sometimes when they’re messing around in the lab or trying something new out around town.
Who is more likely to pay for dinner?
Querl always tries to pay for all of it, but Salu never lets him. Everyone pays for their own meals.
Who steals the covers at night?
They always huddle up in bed, so no one.
What would they get each other for gifts?
Neither of them have money troubles, but Querl has money. If Salu mentions she likes something, chances are he’ll buy it as soon as he can, no matter what the cost. Unprompted gifts are usually flowers left out around places in Headquarters that she usually goes and fancy jewelry. Salu knows there’s not really anything Querl really, really wants that either isn’t purchasable or hasn’t bought for himself already, so she enjoys buying outrageous gag gifts and little trinkets to see his reactions to them.
Who remembers things?
If it’s not something Querl is interested in or has a direct impact on his life, chances are he didn’t pay that much attention. He’ll remember if you give him a minute or two, but someone will have to prompt him first. Salu keeps a planning book for dates and events and is better at paying attention than Querl is. The one thing that Querl is guaranteed to never, ever forget is their anniversary.
Who cusses more?
Salu. She can really get going and Querl just sits there in admiration. It’s not a skill he has.
What would they do if the other was hurt?
Kick ass, and then fix it.
Who kissed who first?
Querl kissed Salu first because he thought that was what you had to do at the end of a date.
Who made the first move?
Querl again. It took a lot of moral support for him to work up the nerve to ask Salu on their first date. He tried to be casual about it and failed miserably.
Who started the relationship?
Salu, because she knew Querl was desperate to have one and make it work, but actually had no idea what he was doing. She just took over and slowly phased out of the control position as Querl learned how everything worked.
My young protagonist Therese may appear a shrinking violet in my book, but those were the days when gay bars were a dark door somewhere in Manhattan, where people wanting to go to a certain bar got off the subway a station before or after the convenient one, lest they be suspected of being homosexual. The appeal of The Price of Salt was that it had a happy ending for its two main characters, or at least they were going to try to have a future together. Prior to this book, homosexuals male and female in American novels had had to pay for their deviation by cutting their wrists, drowning themselves in a swimming pool, or by switching to heterosexuality (so it was stated), or by collapsing—alone and miserable and shunned—into a depression equal to hell. Many of the letters that came to me carried such messages as “Yours is the first book like this with a happy ending! We don’t all commit suicide and lots “of us are doing fine.” Others said, “Thank you for writing such a story. It is a little like my own story …” And, “I am eighteen and I live in a small town. I feel lonely because I can’t talk to anyone …” Sometimes I wrote a letter suggesting that the writer go to a larger town where there would be a chance to meet more people. As I remember, there were as many letters from men as from women, which I considered a good omen for my book. This turned out to be true. The letters trickled in for years, and even now a letter comes once or twice a year from a reader. I never wrote another book like this.
afterword for The Price of Salt, Patricia Highsmith
Okay this is really stupid but it’s confused me for a long time. Is Shrinking Violet supposed to be asian and gets whitewashed sometimes, or is she supposed to be white and accidentally looks asian sometimes?
Lightning Lass/Shrinking Violet Marriage Proposal Head Canon
Ayla asks Vi to meet her somewhere. Vi gets there, and Ayla gets kind of nervous and blushing in an adorably goofy way as she kind of just rambles on until finally blurting out “ViIloveyouwillyoudomethehonorofmarryingme?”
And then Ayla takes out the engagement ring she wants to give to Vi and it’s a diamond shaped like a little violet.
Vi just kind of stares at her blankly in shock, before slowly revealing the engagement ring SHE had with her the whole time that she was going to give to Ayla.