so i went on the date with tinder boy and it honestly didn’t go as great as i’d hoped, but i thought i’d try hanging out with him again even tho i wasn’t really vibing with him since he seemed nervous the whole time. but then things just got really weird really fast.
i had mentioned in passing where i worked at my university during the date, and he shows up to my workplace unannounced, without my consent, when we barely know each other. it made me really uncomfortable and i told him afterward that i felt that we probably shouldn’t date. tell me why multiple ppl told me today that i should be flattered and “maybe he just wanted to see you” i’m just like ??? i get that i’m not conventionally attractive but that should have no bearing on what i consider advances that are uncomfortable and overstep my boundaries. i find it fucked up that people would insinuate that just bc i’m not pretty that i should take borderline stalkerish behavior as something desirable and flattering.