Gender and sexuality are complex and honestly confuse the heck out of me so I just figure everyone is themselves and that's that. I know I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum, but I dunno where and don't really wanna stress about it. So long as everyone's happy, whether labeled or not, it doesn't really matter. This is coming from someone who legit struggles with happiness though, so I might have a skewed perspective.
forgive me for my short responses regarding bi/pan sexualities recently, I’m not an expert and I’m very tired
Being short can suck, especially as a guy. People are always saying tall guys are hot, that they’re somehow more desirable, and idealized male bodies are always tall. But being short is actually a huge advantage in a lot of sports – did you know that? Short guys make fantastic gymnasts, divers, wrestlers, weightlifters, long-distance runners, skiers/snowboarders, martial artists, skaters, rock climbers, soccer players, lacrosse players, cyclists, and jockeys. There are also certain sports that have positions favorable to shorter athletes, like rugby! Being short will make you a great hooker in rugby. You’d also have an advantage with bowling, skateboarding, BMX, and even dancing. All of these sports are excellent for short guys because your center of gravity is lower and you’re lighter. You’d be surprised how many sports require balance and flexibility rather than size. And in some other team sports, like basketball and football, short guys could play circles around taller guys, especially if they’re fast, making them a great addition to a team. There are world-class male athletes shorter than 5'6" out there making Olympic gold. So, sure, it sucks to be the short friend – heck, to not be able to reach some of your high kitchen shelves, but you’d make a great pole-vaulter. Short guys are badasses and I’m sick of the bullshit we get from people for not meeting idealized standards.
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HELLO MY GAY FOLLOWERS (gay meaning anyone who identifies with any sexuality other than straight) I AM MAKING A SHORT FILM AND I NEED YOUR HELP!
My short film is all about the comments/questions we (gay humans) get from other people (normally straight humans) that are sometimes offensive, intrusive, annoying, hurtful, ect. An example of this would be: when someone asks who is the “man” in a lesbian relationship.
All I need you to do is send me a short video less then 30 seconds long giving an example of an offensive, intrusive, annoying, hurtful, ect. comment/question you have gotten because of your sexuality. Simply record it on your computer, camera, or even your phone! just please make sure if you record it on your phone it is in landscape mode (horizontal)! Also try to record it in a semi-quiet location for better audio!
This is open to anyone, and it would honestly be really awesome to get people from all over the world to help!!! (even if you speak a different language!) PLEASE DON’T BE SHY!!!! HELP A FELLOW GAY OUT!!!!
IF YOU’RE INTERESTED SHOOT ME A MESSAGE AND ILL LET YOU KNOW HOW TO SEND ME THE VIDEO!!!
Some of you had questions about bi- or pansexuality, so here’s a quick FAQ!
“What’s the difference between bi and pan?”
Bi means “attracted to two or more genders”.
Pan means “attracted to all genders or regardless of gender”.
“Those definitions are a bit confusing to me!”
That’s okay, there’s nothing embarrassing about asking for clarification!
I’ll use some examples to explain them further:
Bianca is attracted to men and women. She identifies as bi.
Billy is attracted to men and nonbinary people. He identifies as bi, too.
Polly is attracted to people of any gender - except for men. She could identify as poly (attracted to multiple genders) or as bi (two or more genders!).
Penelope really doesn’t care about gender. She’s attracted to people, not specific genders - Penelope is pan.
Pete is attracted to girls. And boys. And agender people. And nonbinary people. And.. Oh, they are attracted to every gender. They are pan!
“Isn’t bi only for people who like girls and boys?”
Back when people weren’t really aware that nonbinary genders exist/that gender is a spectrum and not just two set categories, bisexuality was often defined as “attracted to girls and boys”. But nowadays we, as a community, are aware that gender and attraction is not as black and white as people used to believed and so the definition of bisexuality got broader to be more inclusive.
That’s why we now define bisexuality as “attracted to two or more genders”. Those genders can be binary or nonbinary!
Long story short, bi can mean “I like girls and boys” but that’s not the only possible meaning. Remember: Labels are made for people, not the other way around.
“I’m dating a nonbinary person, does that mean i have to identify as pan?”
No. People can date nonbinary people and identify with any label.
“Technically i fit the definition of pan but i feel more comfortable with the label bi. Is that okay?”
Yes! Your label is yours and only you can decide which label is the right one for you.
Many people feel this way because they used the label bi before they learned what pan means and now are already out as bi or already feel so comfortable with the label bi that they don’t feel the need to correct it. That’s fully okay!
Other people prefer bi because the term pan is less commonly known and they prefer to not have to explain their label over and over again. That’s okay, too!
“Can i be bi/pan and asexual at the same time?” and “I met someone who identifies as bi/pan and asexual! Is that even possible?”
Yes. Some people are romantically attracted to two, more or all genders but feel no sexual attraction. That’s not a contradiction!
A term to describe that is “biromantic asexual”/”panromantic asexual”. However, some people prefer to just say “bi asexual” or “pan asexual”.
Some people also experience fluidity in their level of attraction and might sometimes feel no sexual attraction and at other times feel attraction to two, more or all genders. That’s another possible explanation why someone might identify as bi/pan and asexual.
“Someone told me pan people are also attracted to animals and now i feel gross for using the term.”
That’s just something people say to insult lgbt+ people or to paint them as evil. Neither gay, bi nor pan people are attracted to animals.
“Attracted to all genders” (obviously) means “attracted to humans of all genders.”. Don’t let any lgbt+-phobes run a perfectly harmless label for you, my dear.
“I’m bi/pan and currently in a girl/boy relationship, am i still lgbt+?”
Yes! People who identify as bi or pan are part of the lgbt+ community, no matter who they date. You don’t need to be in a same-sex relationship to be allowed to identify as lgbt+.
You are not “betraying” or “invading” the lgbt+ community. I know you’ll sadly encounter people who say such mean things but they are wrong. Your idenity is valid regardless of your relationship status or dating history.
-Since Rich has a lisp, his coming out is literally the most awkward and un-smooth thing he’s ever done
-He decides that the first person to officially tell is Jake
-Because they’re friends and all
-So in between classes, he finds Jake and pulls him aside
- ‘Jake, can I talk to you for a moment?’
-Jake is… A little surprised
-He and Rich haven’t talked like at all since the fire and he’s not sure how to respond
-He decides to play it cool
‘Sure, man. What’s up?’
-Rich starts to fidget
-He goes to bite his nails, remembers his squip doesn’t let him, remembers he has no squip anymore, then bites them
-This is his big moment
‘Well, I’m… Actually… Bithe–
I’m fuking BI, okay’
-There’s a pause
-Rich can feel himself turn red with humiliation
-Jake just clears his throat
'So am I.’
-Jake worries he was unclear
-He clears his throat again and summons all the courage he has
-'I’m like you. I’m also bithexual.’
- 'wait shit’