I feel dysphoric because I can't find men's clothing that fits me. I am a size small in women's clothing and it's really bothering me. I can't even find masculine clothing for cheap. It's all quite expensive. So are small shoes *size 5.5 in women's* Do you have an idea what I could do or where I could go?
Your new go-to shopping section is the boys department. J.Crew Boys and Brooks Brothers Boys are my two favorites. They both carry extensive online selections while the style and fit rarely change through the seasons. I suggest you order a single item in multiple sizes, like a sport jacket or dress shirt, and see whichever fits your body and aesthetic best. With free returns, there’s no risk and you’ll then know the sizing that works for ordering everything else on their sites. I shop at J.Crew boys all the time and nobody ever notices. Pricing on children’s clothing is always cheaper and the quality usually similar to their adult version.
“Helllloooo…how much do you love me and how willing are you
to drop all your plans to come help me out for a couple hours?” the text reads
“I mean Sherlock and John would probably be pretty upset
that I’m walking away from our marathon that we had planned but I MIGHT be able
to get out of it. What’d you have in mind drummer boy?” You respond as you
finish off the homemade pb&j you’d created for the first of many on the
couch meals for today.
At least twenty minutes pass before he responds, convincing
yourself that maybe he’d gotten distracted again and found something else to do
instead; but eventually his name pops up on your screen and says that he needs
help finding a gift for his sister who’ll be in town for her birthday this
“Yeah that sounds fine! What time were you thinking?” This
time there is no hesitation and he responds with “25 minutes?”
“Yes I think that’s fine. See you in a bit.” You launch
yourself off the couch and in to the bathroom to see if there is any miracle on
earth that can rescue your hair but decide there’s not enough time to go to the
store to refill your dry shampoo nor enough time to really shower and get
ready. A hat and ponytail will just have to do for now. His arrival is markedly
announced by 4 rapid honks from the horn of his car. As you fly out the door
and land in the passenger seats he pulls his shades down and gives you a big
smile. “Hey hey I missed you! Ready to roll?”
“Ready as I’ll ever be. Where are we going or what exactly
are we looking for?” you ask.
As he peels away from the curb and looks over his shoulder
he says “I have no idea where to start, I just figured if we go in to shops
that you like then we’ll eventually find something right?” You face-palm and
shake your head. “Yeah I suppose that would work. Do you want to try clothes or
“Definitely not clothes” he adds. “I have no idea what I’d
get her that she’d wear. Also what if I buy the wrong size and it’s too big and
she thinks I’m calling her fat or it’s too small and then she just feels fat.
YOU CAN’T WIN WITH WOMEN.”
“Take a breather there Ash, it’s going to be okay.” You add
as you try to stifle your laughter. “We’ll find something. I have an idea of
where to start.”
You make your way through the mall, passing stores or only
going in for moments at a time. Anxiety starts to build that he’s already
regretted trying to complete this mission and that you weren’t doing a good
enough job but he seems more frustrated at all the options and none of them
“How about Lush?” You suggest.
“Wow yes I wouldn’t have thought to go there if not for you.
I’ve never really been in one.”
Slowly you parade him around the bath bombs and the masks,
he takes giant sniffs of each one. Hopelessly trying to decide which one she
might like best. As the two of you continue to walk around one of the
attendant’s walks up to the both of you. “There are chairs over here for the
boyfriends and husbands, for moral support, if you need them.”
“Oh we’re no-“ You begin to argue but Ashton lets out a
laugh and says “I know! She’s always dragging me in to these places!” He grabs
your free hand and gives a tight squeeze. In a moment of confusion you look
down at your interlaced fingers and let out an awkward laugh. “Ha ha yep, that
sounds like me.” You peek over at Ashton and can see the dimpled grin that has
taken over the whole of his face. The lady nods her head and walks away,
continuing on whatever journey that made her path cross yours.
“You can let go now Ash, she’s not looking over here
anymore.” You add, a little disappointment hinting in your tone.
“No this is nice, I like this.” A small but fervent blush
creeps in to your cheeks as he winks and turns you towards the giant gift
selection to ask your advice. All the while still holding on just as tightly as
the first moment he grasped at your hand. Still confused but still enjoying
this new development you don’t try to fight him off.
At last you break contact as he goes up to the register to
pay for the items he selected and you suppose that’ll be the last of the
intimacy for you two. Walking beside you out of the store he shuffles the bags
around in his hands, ultimately freeing up the one closest to you. “How about
some pasta?” he asks, grabbing your hand once more.
“Pasta sounds good.” He gives you the dimpled grin and leads
you out of the mall and towards the restaurant where you’ll spend your evening
together. “You’ll have to let John and Sherlock know I’m sorry I stole you away
for the day.”
“You know,” you say “I can’t say that they minded all that
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a -age: 18 b - biggest fear: being left behind c - current time: 8:56 pm d - drink you last had: chocolate milk f - favorite song: way too many, but one ive adored my whole life is A Face Like That by Pet Shop Boys ;; g - ghosts, are they real: im too terrified of them to answer either way h - hometown: Venice Beach, LA!!!! i - in love with: my own gorgeous, hot AF self. j - jealous of: people with motivation, ambitions, and jobs k - killed someone: nope l - last time you cried: like half an hour ago (im watching my love story!! and holy fuck its so cute, but also one scene in ep 9 was s o s a d ;;w;; ) also last night, i layed in my bed and cried a bit cuz of loneliness and anxiety and it was pretty awful. but the bed was warm and the katawa shoujo soundtrack really helped <3 m - middle name: Papi n - number of siblings: 0 o - one wish: to kick my anxiety and depressions ass!!! i dont want to be controlled by them anymore, it hurts too much and it sucks and i hate it p - person you last called/texted: i messaged a couple wonderful friends on here… other than that, ive been completely alone all weekend again oops lol q - question(s) you’re always asked: usually people have always asked me why i’m so weird and not really in a nice way haha my dad always asks me why im so lazy and why i never do anything, why i never try, lots of awful stuff like that. i always ask myself why am i so dumb and naive and such. im not really sure if i ever get asked nice things on a regular basis, but maybe im just being forgetful again lol r - reasons to smile: Food, music, animation, friends, animals, the joy and mystery and wonder of the world we live in!! s - song last sang: I tried to sing along to the my love story!! theme haha ;; t - time you woke up: 12:40 pm (im a mess, im sorry) u - underwear color: dark blue v - vacation destination: i adore going to italy…anywhere with a beach as well w - worst habit: biting my nails, scratching and eating skin, talking too much, being too selfish, nosy, and petty, procrastinating, etc. x - x-rays you’ve had: just for teeth i believe y - your favorite food: SO MANY!! sushi, pasta, lasagna, tomatoes, blueberries, sweets, korean bbq, steak, etc, etc. z - zodiac sign: libra!!
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Just some tips I’ve learned over the years to help with my boyfriend’s dysphoria
•vertical stripes (makes you seem taller)
•uneven patterns such as polka dots (hides any chest bumps)
•jackets, sweaters, or vests (layers hide curves. But be sure they’re not too long. Oversized clothes make you seem smaller. Hem should be no more than 2 inches below waist)
•graphic T shirt (make sure design is higher up on the chest to hide any chest bumps)
•pants (straight fitted. Go up a size. Try to get little to no breaks.)
•round or pointed toed shoes (square toed shoes make you seem shorter)
•hats, glasses, necklaces, bow ties, skinny ties (any accessories should be kept to the upper half of their body to draw the eye up and make them seem taller)
•binders (best binder brands I know of are Underworks, and G2cb)
•shoelifts (amazon has really good cheap ones)
• shop online for smaller men’s clothes (rue21, Zara, American Eagle, Express Men, Asos, H&M)