Emily and I are having a conversation that started out about crushes on girls we had as children and just didn’t realize that’s what they were. Then i was wondering when exactly i knew non-straight people were a thing because maybe if I had had vivid memories of talking about it when I was younger the whole realization that I wasn’t straight would’ve been a bit easier. So I asked my mom about it. And she said that she had told me about her really close friend being gay and we had visited a lesbian couple my dad knew a lot. So I guess I knew but it never occurred to me that I could be in a relationship with a girl. Perhaps it wasn’t explained to me in a way that implied it was a possibility for me which I think should be involved in any talk parents give to their kids about all of this.