DO!!! You have anymore Sincerely Three headcanons??
SO MANY FUCK
-Okay first of all, sleepovers constantly at Evan’s house constantly?? It’s great?? Okay so like Evan would be in the middle of a Connor Jared sandwich while the two of them cUDDLED THE FUCK OUT OF HIM BC THEY LOVE HIM SO MUCH
-Just because they’re all together and love each other doesn’t mean that they’re mental health is 100% chill now. Connor’s still got a lot of depression and a lot of suicidal thoughts, Evan still has a lot of anxiety, and Jared is still deeply insecure and he still bottles it up. They just have each other to fall back on.
-They went bowling one time and Evan wasn’t really good so Connor was coaching him through it lovingly while Jared got the best score and was like “In!! Your!!! Faces!!!”
-Whenever Evan can’t go to school because of his anxiety, Connor and Jared trade off who gets to stay home with him and then the other will come back from school with a bunch of snacks, movies, games, and basically whatever to make it a bit easier.
-They all show love differently. Evan is super affectionate, Connor is somewhat distant but gets super fucking affectionate on special occasions or when he’s super tired, then Jared’s here like “You fucking homos I’m super gay for you both”
-They go on dates??? All????? The time????? Like what the fuck these dorkS. They probably get ice cream or go out for dinner or go to a fucking forest once a week i love them
-Evan only really swears when he’s super irritated or when he’s angry, and so when he does swear Connor looks at him like “Oh fuck who did what wrong” while Jared is like “OH MY GOD YOU CAN SWEAR also i’m probably why you’re swearing oops”
-Jared is so insecure and thinks he’s the cause of any of their problems please help this poor boy he’s constantly being like “Yeah that’s probably my fault sorry” and Connor and Evan are like “You haven’t done anything pls we love you”
-They all just really love each other and are just there for each other its like the ship where two people are kind of the garbage assholes (In this case, Connor and Jared) and one is an angel (So like, Evan) and they love each other and go together well it’s just generally good and pure I love my sons
I HAVE SO MANY THOUGHTS ABOUT THESE THREE SEND ME LIKE IDEAS OR SHIT AND I’LL RESPOND
- Page 127: “What’s up, Tommy?”, Newt exclaimed, his face filled with genuine happiness at the pleasant surprise that’d been sprung on him. Thomas couldn’t remember exactly how long it’d been since the last time he saw Newt. “You look bloody fantastic for three in the morning.”
- Page 159: you were saying again? Teresa asked. He felt every morsel of her evil glee. That’s a really nice dance you put on down there. Don’t worry, I have it recorded, ready to show Newt and everybody else next time we get together. “Not funny!”, he yelled out.
- Page 172: Thomas jumped at the sound [of Newt’s whisper], then stumbled. Newt tripped over him, and then they were both laughing, legs and arms tangled up in a pile on the ground.
- Page 248: He found himself thinking of Newt, maybe the one he liked most of them, not immune.
- Page 326: I’m coming for you, Newt”, Thomas whispered, so softly that no one could possibly hear him.
Hey I know you have like a lot of asks right now but your explanation of why antis consider like 18+ ppl to still be children was really well said and so I was wondering about your thoughts on some antis' tendency to start arguments but then completely stop being civil at some point and throw discussion out the window in favor of insults and witty tumblrisms a la "pee your pants". Like, I guess I'm just curious as to why they insist that some people aren't worthy of having opinions??? :/
I’m glad you felt I expressed myself well in that post. :) Thank you!
There’s kind of 2 different questions going on here.
question 1: what are [my] thoughts on some antis’ tendency to start arguments but then completely stop being civil at some point and throw discussion out the window in favor of insults […]
in my experience, this mostly happens when antis get frustrated with an exchange:
anger because the anti has exhausted their arguments but the person they’re arguing with hasn’t exhausted theirs
alternatively: they used an appeal to emotion as a trump card and the person they are arguing with isn’t cowed into silence
fear because the person they’re arguing with brings up - or potentially brings up - good points that requires the anti-shipper to examine their reasoning
hurt because the conversation brings up something that touches a nerve/personal hurt to a greater degree than expected
They want out of the debate immediately, but letting someone else have the last word can really feel like losing, so they close by either repeating their previous argument almost verbatim or by a volley of insults and personal attacks before blocking.
The longest exchange I’ve had with an anti-shipper before this breakdown happened is two responses. (I’ve also dropped arguments myself when an anti uses their personal experience as evidence against me because it would only bring us both unproductive pain to discuss it.)
I’m just curious as to why [antis] insist that some people aren’t worthy of having opinions??? :/
the long explanation: Because it’s not possible to have multiple valid opinions when your worldview is black & white. Antis are the only ones who are right. To prevent other opinions from being valid, their sources must be discredited.
for someone deep in anti-shipping subculture, only fellow antis are good people who truly understand the relationship between fiction, reality, and the moral underpinnings of society. Only anti-shippers respect how extremely dangerous unwholesome fiction really is, and everyone else, by not comprehending the extremity of this threat, is enabling or perpetuating harm. In this mindset, there aren’t really ‘opinions’ - just ‘people who are right (fellow antis)’ and ‘people who are wrong (everyone else)’. It’s not really about being ‘worthy’: it’s just that the opinion of outsiders, by virtue of being the opinion of an outsider, is automatically wrong, ignorant, and dangerous, and must be instantly discarded.
However, many anti-shippers don’t entirely perceive an insider/outsider dynamic at work. Like many cult-ish movements, anti-shippers justify this hostility towards outsiders/outsider opinions by perpetuating an
oppressed/oppressor narrative, wherein the divide between oppressor and oppressed lies on axes of marginalization and/or victim status*. Outsiders are all oppressors (non-marginalized/non-survivors)** ignorantly or purposely harming the oppressed (marginalized people/survivors). Anti-shippers are both oppressed themselves and the only defenders of oppressed people.
(*The insidious part is, of course, that social oppression does lie along these axes, but anti-shippers misappropriate the mechanisms of oppression heavily to victimize themselves here. (It makes them harder to argue with.) )
(**ignorant (and thus anti-sj), white (and thus racist), cis (and thus transphobic), straight (and thus anti-LGBT+/an invader of LGBT+ spaces), able-bodied (and thus hates disabled people), neurotypical (and thus afraid of/hates aneurotypical/mentally ill people), and not traumatized (and in fandom circles, a woman (and thus a fetishizer)). )
It upsets an anti-shipper’s worldview when someone arguing with them doesn’t fit this image: hence ‘if you disagree with me and say you’re [marginalized/a survivor], you’re lying’. Another variant on this is ‘you ship [bad ship], therefore your opinion is invalid.’ the implication is: if you ship something bad, you cannot possibly be marginalized/a survivor, and therefore you must be privileged, and therefore you are an ignorant asshole, and thus your opinion doesn’t count.
the short explanation: outside opinions are terrifying because anti culture social structures rely on everyone within having homogeneous thought patterns - that is, absolute agreement with one another on the rightness of The Cause and everything done in The Cause’s name. Giving outside opinions validity threatens that unwavering agreement and can lead down a slippery slope: losing dedication and loyalty and increasing the risk of falling out of step, losing favor, being abandoned by the anti-shipping social circle, and facing the possibility that things done in the name of The Cause weren’t actually as justifiable as once believed.
To be absolutely clear, the majority of anti-shippers don’t perceive the insider/outsider dynamic at all, but honestly believe they are protecting the oppressed masses (children, survivors, LGBT+ people, etc) from the ‘privileged’ people using ‘their’ stories for fictional enjoyment. It is equally self-delusion and an effort to deceive outsiders in order to maintain belief in their goodness/justice, and that’s why they must discredit or ignore anyone who doesn’t fit this narrative.
Aliens finally visit the death-world itself only to discover humans are about to encourage a Galaxy-wide tourist boom.
Earth was off-limits.
For all the many worlds and species found within and between them, this was a line held by all. Earth, and the humans that called it home, was just too dangerous and unpredictable.
It didn’t stop the humans from spreading though. They found their way onto ships and spaceports. Treaties, codes of conduct, and guidebooks followed in their wake to help the civilizations they encountered to cope with their presence. In time, most came to view their oddities an acceptable trade-off to their durability, flexibility, and overall tenaciousness. All races could agree that humans were an asset to their ships and crew.
But Earth itself was still off-limits.
Oh, it wasn’t for lack of trying on the humans’ part. They were perpetually inviting their ship-mates to come to their home-world. Most often to indulge in one of the numerous and varied ‘holidays’ that most non-terrains gave up on trying to make sense of long ago.
For most intelligent and civilized species, humans themselves were enough proof that no one should set foot, tentacle, or exoskeleton on the planet known as Earth. However, as with all reasonably agreed upon ideas, someone was bound to cross the line.
It started simply enough. A new ruler from the Tralnex nebula, seeking to solidify their own position, and gain some interstellar bragging points, requested a visit. The Tralnexian was welcomed with open arms and treated to the very best of all that Earth had to offer in lavish locations, cultural experiences, and exquisite cuisine. Holo-ads of the trip could soon be seen everywhere, all proudly sponsored by the Earth Visitation Bureau. It was the scandal of the century.
While normally such flamboyant occurrences tended to burn themselves out, there was soon a noticeable shift in inter-species relations. Humans were requesting in droves to serve on Tralnexian ships. Often declining more prestigious opportunities to wait for a position to become available on the most humble Tralnex freighter.
Finally a Scrayackien captain, desperate to sign at least one human onto his crew before traveling through a particularly precarious pirate-infested galaxy asked. “What is it with you humans and your sudden fascination with the Tralnexians?”
The human just shrugged, waving a newly sealed work contract towards their new Tralnex crewmates. “They just seem more, I dunno…” the human smiled with an amused glint in their eye, “…down to earth.”
The EVB was inundated with requests within the hour.
The main reasons I like to consider Ford aro:
1. ‘Romance was far more baffling to me than the greatest mysteries of the universe.’
2. Immediately laughs at the idea of meeting someone and starting a family
3. hE LITERALLY CALLS OUT ROMANCE AS MORE BAFFLING THAN P MUCH ANYTHING ELSE
4. I KNOW THERES THAT DELETED SHORT WITH THAT LADY ON THE BENCH OKAY
6. pLEAse just let me have this